FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting couple in a hotel

By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

Hello,

Is it normal for some couples to invite a single guy direct to their hotel room without meeting before? Is this a thing for some couples? I am just curious as I have been invited by a couple but unsure if genuine. Plus there's only one way in and one way out of a hotel room haha

so don't want to lad myself into a dodgy situation. Safety first and all that.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

I'd be cautious too if I were you

Why not ask to meet at the bar first for a drink and chat

It maybe someone setting you up for kicks.

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

Yes I suggested that and they have messaged me saying to ring them when I arrive at the hotel and they will tell me what hotel room to go to!!! !!

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By *alawCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

We have done this before and invited a single guy to join us in the room, but only after a series of good communication and or cam first. If the couple are on fabs you could always check their verifications if they are displayed and have a read. We don't have our verifications on display solely as privacy for others, but I would always be wary!!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I suggested that and they have messaged me saying to ring them when I arrive at the hotel and they will tell me what hotel room to go to!!! !!"

I would make sure you speak to them both (if you haven't already done so) to verify they are really a couple and in the same location.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Yes done it few times in the past no problem. And as I like to dress like I do, it wouldn’t have been easy to dress for a vanilla scenario to go to a bar. Eg different shoes, hide stockings or remove and blander make up. No, I can’t say I’d be happy with that, but then I’m quite happy to do meets without social first.

If you’re not sure OP, either come to an agreement with them or let them down nicely so they can try find someone who will meet in the same way they are looking for.

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

They have loads of verifications on S D C. I asked for a video cal but they have said they never do that. They aren't based in England (Supposedly spend a lot of time over here). They are flying in to London this week and staying three nights in a hotel.

If they can't meet in a bar before hand then I won't meet. To suspicious for my liking and too much risk.

Thanks for all your opinions. Better safe then sorry.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Stop being a pussy and go get your dick wet. Our attitude changes when we have a hotel room, hard to explain why exactly but it's a bit like that holiday feeling. Take a grape alarm if it makes you feel safer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello,

so don't want to lad myself into a dodgy situation. Safety first and all that."

i think your lucky... im looking for exactly this!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop being a pussy and go get your dick wet. Our attitude changes when we have a hotel room, hard to explain why exactly but it's a bit like that holiday feeling. Take a grape alarm if it makes you feel safer. "

Mmm - a hot couple who like to take charge

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you have doubts don't go.

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

Mmm - a hot couple who like to take charge

Who also want to make sure your grapes are safe

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

What are your fears OP. I’m intrigued as most hotels will have other guests and a reception desk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done this scenario several times.

Are you scared of mice and spiders as well ?

Aww.. Bless.

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

They do but only take a couple of seconds to knock somebody out.haha

I don’t think it is unreasonable to ask to meet somebody in a bar or to face time somebody you have never met before.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"They do but only take a couple of seconds to knock somebody out.haha

I don’t think it is unreasonable to ask to meet somebody in a bar or to face time somebody you have never met before.

I’m not saying there’s not a chance of that but then, that can happen to you anywhere. Work, home, walking down a street, shop, pub, gym. There’s feckin nutters everywhere.

But on a site like this, where people such as this couple are asking to meet for sex, you’re more fearful of being set upon with violence than hopeful that you could have a nice time.

So why would you think a couple asking to meet you for sex would want to knock you out ?

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By *exynurse111Couple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Mmm - a hot couple who like to take charge

Who also want to make sure your grapes are safe

Looool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A empty wallet and gapping arse hole when you finally wake up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A empty wallet and gapping arse hole when you finally wake up

One of those may be desired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met single guys in our hotel room,and visited single guys in their hotel room.Never a problem.

Little trick i use,when we visit a guy in his room,I ask for the room number then phone the hotel asking to be put through to his room.that way we know he is definitely there.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

So if you have a social and chat a bit more to someone, there’s no risk of any of the above posed situations. Who knew

Life is a risk. Taking a large cappuccino ahead of play will not make you invincible. Like it’s easy to spot criminals isn’t it

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

"A empty wallet and gapping arse hole when you finally wake up

One of those may be desired. "

It is defiantly not desired by me haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll happily go along with you so you have back up but please don’t despair if the lady chooses me over you

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

"We have met single guys in our hotel room,and visited single guys in their hotel room.Never a problem.

Little trick i use,when we visit a guy in his room,I ask for the room number then phone the hotel asking to be put through to his room.that way we know he is definitely there."

Thanks for the tip

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

Ladies and gents,

Thanks for taking the time to comment back. Happy Thursday y'all.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Ladies and gents,

Thanks for taking the time to comment back. Happy Thursday y'all."

Did you go or not?

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

I am bit of a newbie so I wasn't sure if the stranger thing was a 'thing' hence why I put the message to see if it was common scenario, Maybe they are genuine but I think it is best to be careful and not put oneself at risk needlessly but maybe I am paranoid

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

OP please let us know which hotel so we know where to send the search party

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

Apparently Dr Opiate was very well regarded and friendly lady in her community before they found out she’d killed off hundreds of her patients.

How can you tell if someone’s going to harm you from a face to face meeting

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.

Because it’s pretty hard work trying to find a decent guy that will meet on this site these days and most want to exchange endless flipping emails before they then confess they aren’t brave enough, when posed with a meet.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.

You should try being a guy on here then!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.

You should try being a guy on here then!

Lots more Male profiles yes.

Men that meet not so many.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.

You should try being a guy on here then!

Lots more Male profiles yes.

Men that meet not so many. "

Spoiling it for those that do then!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.

You should try being a guy on here then!

Lots more Male profiles yes.

Men that meet not so many.

Spoiling it for those that do then!

Ok I’m being harsh. If I post a meet the following will be guaranteed.

- several straight guys

- a guy from Scotland one from Wales and one from south London

- a guy that forgets he has a child at home he has to care for

- lots of bi guys with black heads and fill me in later profiles

And one local bi guy that we don’t fancy.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

And the guys I’ve friended and added to our hotlist and message regular will disappper only to return the following day to carry on with the pen pal duties.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think if a woman had posted this she would have been sympathetically advised to take every precaution. The couple would have been called unreasonable for asking her to meet without first verifying they are who they claim to be. It's no different for men is it?

I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

I have met people on here before and I am brave enough to meet.

It is hard for guys on here hahahahaha :P

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I think if a woman had posted this she would have been sympathetically advised to take every precaution. The couple would have been called unreasonable for asking her to meet without first verifying they are who they claim to be. It's no different for men is it?

I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.

The average male has 40% more upper body strength than the average woman. Women are sensible to be more cautious.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.

The average male has 40% more upper body strength than the average woman. Women are sensible to be more cautious. "

And less women would even enter into a discussion in the first place about meeting like that. That’s not comparable.

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.

Exactomondo Nicecouple561

Each to their own. Some people are wiling to take more risks then others.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.

Exactomondo Nicecouple561

Each to their own. Some people are wiling to take more risks then others."

You could have asked your mum to phone you 10 minutes after the meet had started, but call the police if you don't answer to confirm that everything is ok and you're balls deep

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.

Exactomondo Nicecouple561

Each to their own. Some people are wiling to take more risks then others."

So now you know your limits you can pop a note on your profile so people know not to bother you for sex, until you are well acquainted. Saves wasting peoples time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Op I'd suggest that you're not what this couple are after and vice versa. You might be better off on a club or meeting one of the many profiles that ask for a social first.

you're not wrong the couple aren't wrong it's a case of mismatched preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone suggesting this guy is a 'pussy' or scared of the spiders is being well over the top. Of course it's reasonable to want to speak beforehand or go for a drink, at the very least, some cam or phone action. If any couple demands that you meet blind and won't offer a shred of human interaction bar a few dodgy texts then you would have to question why..

My advice mate, you are better than that. Don't be desperate go find a couple who respects you

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Anyone suggesting this guy is a 'pussy' or scared of the spiders is being well over the top. Of course it's reasonable to want to speak beforehand or go for a drink, at the very least, some cam or phone action. If any couple demands that you meet blind and won't offer a shred of human interaction bar a few dodgy texts then you would have to question why..

My advice mate, you are better than that. Don't be desperate go find a couple who respects you"

People on the internet going over the top... never

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It doesn't matter what sex you are it should be safety first, always. I think it's pretty unreasonable of this couple not to meet for a drink in the bar first tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have met single guys in our hotel room,and visited single guys in their hotel room.Never a problem.

Little trick i use,when we visit a guy in his room,I ask for the room number then phone the hotel asking to be put through to his room.that way we know he is definitely there."
Can we borrow that from you guys to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.

You should try being a guy on here then!

Lots more Male profiles yes.

Men that meet not so many.

Spoiling it for those that do then!

Ok I’m being harsh. If I post a meet the following will be guaranteed.

- several straight guys

- a guy from Scotland one from Wales and one from south London

- a guy that forgets he has a child at home he has to care for

- lots of bi guys with black heads and fill me in later profiles

And one local bi guy that we don’t fancy. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also if tomorrow the op posted that he'd arrived at the hotel to find that the couple weren't there or it was only the guy in the room as his "wife" wasn't available he would have been told it was his own fault for not exercising due diligence.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Also if tomorrow the op posted that he'd arrived at the hotel to find that the couple weren't there or it was only the guy in the room as his "wife" wasn't available he would have been told it was his own fault for not exercising due diligence."

Yup, it's a cruel world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've definitely done this..sometimes your just in the mood for an extra cock

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Is someone hacking this account

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Is someone hacking this account

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Why do you say that?

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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

Well I'm still alive...because they didn't turn up,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I'm still alive...because they didn't turn up,"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I'm still alive...because they didn't turn up,

Glad you’re alive though!

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By *ilthy fun bareCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

This is our perfect meet.

Total stranger...

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By *ipi2001Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I did it three times - in the worse case the lady wasn't really 'as described' or even photographed. The drug paraphernalia lying around was also pretty scary.....As they say in the Red Tops 'I made my excuses and left.....' But then again that's the problem with Travel Lodges at 1AM I guess...stupid me!

The first time was pre-interweb - and I visited a house based off a phone chat line - hearing the voices was great but when I turned up and met the guy his anxiousness worried me - once through the front door though it was a amazing - I stayed for about 7 hours! We remained friends for years.

Second time was a hotel meet from Fabs, but in a smart hotel - and was a good night.

I'm now scarred by my last experience though, and would be unlikely to do it again....I also have more reasons to be careful these days (dependents) and to be honest it's potentially really risky...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Alarm bells are ringing with me OP. Meet them in public first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello,

so don't want to lad myself into a dodgy situation. Safety first and all that."
you're a guy what's the worst that can happen.......

You get tango'd

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.

Very good post.

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By *emptd2Man
over a year ago

City centre

Nothing to worry about OP. I get the hesitancy on your part but it just means they want to get down to the business straight away.

Savour and enjoy.

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By *urveLurverMan
over a year ago

Skyview

"Well I'm still alive...because they didn't turn up,"
Aw, mate. After all that... Glad you're alright, though.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hello,

so don't want to lad myself into a dodgy situation. Safety first and all that."

Grab a tray from the bar and a bag of crisps and pretend you're room service so you can check things out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always meet without a social..never had one problem in 20 years of swinging..we do not have free time for socialising first ..we just get on with it ..if we were not happy or felt it was not right we would just tell them and not go ahead..but this as never happened

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I think if a couple is well validated, and you've at least had a good phone call with them, there's little to loose in terms of meeting them at their hotel and seeing how it goes. IMHO that combination, perhaps somewhat oddly, is quite rare in real life though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always meet without a social..never had one problem in 20 years of swinging..we do not have free time for socialising first ..we just get on with it ..if we were not happy or felt it was not right we would just tell them and not go ahead..but this as never happened "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it. We did this once like this and he was a total moron. Very badly judged and we had a hassle telling him to sod off. Best is to meet in a bar first and see if you gel

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By *layfulcoupleCouple
over a year ago

a kinky mood

We have done it. In fact our first meet was one and a great experience was had by all. I do however appreciate your caution and only advice I can give is to ask to cam on kik or FaceTime and if they won't then politely decline

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