FabSwingers.com forum: Engineering a situation to temp wife.

By *antasyxx OP Couple
over a year ago

bridgend

Is it deemed ok to secretly engineer a situation that creates an opportunity for a bi mmf meet. My wife and I love the idea but it’s usually left as just a fantasy, although we have Indulged once which was before last Christmas. I’m thinking that I should try and set something up. Not sure what or how and if it would be an acceptable thing to do. Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't trust anyone but myself to pick a potential sex meet. You ever picked a dress or pair of shoes for your wife to wear? How can you be sure she'll be attracted to the guy that you choose? Also stuff like this always seems like it's the guys idea and the wife has no clue what's going on and possibly wouldn't be up for this sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like this but I would always have the final word on if I want to meet a guy. Would never leave it up to Clift!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be a bit awkward if your wife doesn't fancy the man you choose once you all meet up. I would suggest you look at suitable profiles & choose together. While your at it do take a look at me,as I'm looking for bi mmf meets & can accomodate if you fancy a trip over the bridge sometime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a fantasy is just a fantasy, it’s safe in the head and it’s perfect. Pushing to make it reality may ruin it. I’d be very careful around doing this sort of thing, especially as it should be her say who she has sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get this wrong and you could indeed end up with a temp(orary) wife!

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Engineer?

Manipulate you mean?

Classy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Is it deemed ok to secretly engineer a situation that creates an opportunity for a bi mmf meet. My wife and I love the idea but it’s usually left as just a fantasy, although we have Indulged once which was before last Christmas. I’m thinking that I should try and set something up. Not sure what or how and if it would be an acceptable thing to do. Thoughts?"

Why do you think you need to set something up? Just ask your wife.

Setting someone up is another way of saying trick them. Do you want to do that to someone who trusts you?

So no it's never deemed acceptable in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm; no it’s not. Would you feel comfortable being ‘engineered’ into something that wasn’t your first choice?

Judging by your veris you’ve managed to jointly achieve it twice before.

If she is comfortable with the scenario, why don’t you let her do the choosing without any input from you and trust her judgement and let her do things at her own pace?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my LTP set up a bi mmf with us and another hot man like him I'd be ecstatically happy.

If it was with someone I didn't find attractive I'd sit back and watch only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a good idea.

This happened to me one time. Was messaged by a guy wanting me to come round to their place and join in with the fun they were going to be having.

So I drove round there, the front door was unlocked as he said it would be. My instructions were to go upstairs and join them in bed.

Well I got in the front door and that was as far as it went. His gf was making a cup of tea in the kitchen and thought I was a burglar. She went fucking mental.

After he calmed her down he told her of his plan, she apologised to me for her bf wasting my time and told him to fuck off.

The only upside was she was topless.

Drove home and knocked one out on the strength of that though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't trust anyone but myself to pick a potential sex meet. You ever picked a dress or pair of shoes for your wife to wear? How can you be sure she'll be attracted to the guy that you choose? Also stuff like this always seems like it's the guys idea and the wife has no clue what's going on and possibly wouldn't be up for this sort of thing. "

I hate surprises and I would never trust my partner again if he did this. I'd be really pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate surprises and I would never trust my partner again if he did this. I'd be really pissed off.

Yup and yup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that's a 'no' then ...

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

This just has dangerous written all over it.

Where's the trust.

Where's the communication.

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By *antasyxx OP Couple
over a year ago

bridgend

Well that’s for your input everyone. To clarify I was thinking of looking together and getting feedback on who was nice etc. Then maybe have him meet us in a pub that we were going to. That would be the extent of the engineering. I agree that anything further would be unacceptable.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Well that’s for your input everyone. To clarify I was thinking of looking together and getting feedback on who was nice etc. Then maybe have him meet us in a pub that we were going to. That would be the extent of the engineering. I agree that anything further would be unacceptable."

So when you said "secretly engineer" what did you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get this wrong and you could indeed end up with a temp(orary) wife!

Best of luck."

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By *antasyxx OP Couple
over a year ago

bridgend

She wouldn’t know that I had asked him to be at the pub - at least in the scenario I gave above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think it’s the worse thing you could do. Be open and frank but just accept if she says no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a recipe for carnage.

Do not do it, she won't appreciate it, will more than likely hate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She wouldn’t know that I had asked him to be at the pub - at least in the scenario I gave above. "

What about the poor guy you asked to meet at the pub? What if she goes mad? You're potentially wasting his time. That's not fair on him.

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By *empting TravelsMan
over a year ago

London

I think ultimately it really depends on what your wife is like and what would work for her.

Speaking from a guys point of view. Back when I was single if I was chatting with a couple and the male half did all the driving. If I wasn't able to chat with the lady at least once I considered it a waste of my time. For me it was always important to know that the lady was fully on board too.

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