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Making love not being in love

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was wondering if this threatens couples when swopping as both of us like to build relationships and make love to those new found friends. Do most just want sex and go or to build long lasting friendships with love making. What's your view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering if this threatens couples when swopping as both of us like to build relationships and make love to those new found friends. Do most just want sex and go or to build long lasting friendships with love making. What's your view. "

Sex without emotional connection (even if it is only “lust”) is not nearly as much fun. Getting to know a sexual partner just makes things better. I’ve found that it is possible to “love” more than one person at a time (and for different reasons). It is also possible to do that without jealousy, etc.

NSA love is possible, bizarre as that might sound - where together, your time is very special, when apart you are thinking about each other and yet recognising each other’s space and privacy. It has worked for me.

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By *erryc20Couple
over a year ago

Mendip Area

Prefer to build a relationship with our friends and if intimacy follows would like to feel that it could be described as lovemaking. Our own relationship still comes first though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Prefer to build a relationship with our friends and if intimacy follows would like to feel that it could be described as lovemaking. Our own relationship still comes first though"

Indeed that's our view on it and we are strong enough and open enough to make it work for us.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I only ever "make love" to my partner. For me sex without a connection is the biggest turn on and I thoroughly enjoy it - it's the sex with total strangers fantasy. In fact my favourite fantasy is to be blindfolded in a club and have a string of guys fuck me without ever knowing which guys I'd had. I guess you can't get much further from making love than that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only ever "make love" to my partner. For me sex without a connection is the biggest turn on and I thoroughly enjoy it - it's the sex with total strangers fantasy. In fact my favourite fantasy is to be blindfolded in a club and have a string of guys fuck me without ever knowing which guys I'd had. I guess you can't get much further from making love than that."

Indeed that's def the other end of the spectrum lol

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By *iveshowcoupleCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We love each other but thoroughly enjoy sex with others. We might like them personally but there is no greater emtional involvement than that.

Even when fucking others in a way we are making love to each other. She will do something particularly kinky with someone else but will be looking into my eyes as she does it. Knowing how much i enjoy the sight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only make love to hubby, anyone else is just sex. If a connection happens then ok but I can do without!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer "make love with" over "make love to".

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

We make love,meets are making lust there's a big difference.

If I ever thought either of us made love to someone else we would stop swinging instantly.

Once there is a deeper emotional connection to be able to make love then in my opinion this is very rocky ground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would prefer to develop a more relationship based freindship rather than be total strangers and not have a connection.

We personally feel that if we don't have that connection then it's just meaningless sex.

However we have both been talking about our experiences and feelings and feel that we are both possibly Ployamouros in nature. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lusty Sex can be great fun and with a connection that’s electric its almost addictive (sometimes is)

I dont make love unless im in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The love making thread on fab

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's all about the levels of intimacy and emotional connection - even with one person this varies over time. So it's possible to have various qualities and strengths of connection with multiple people - and if you're all together at the same time, then there's bleeding between the boundaries, so I get a heightening of emotional connection and intensity that's opened up to others. It doesn't mean that I'm fully connected to more temporary partners with the same deep seated bond, just that there's been an opening to the intensity (if that makes any sense).

We'll all use words differently anyway, depending on what they mean and our inner experiences that we each use those labels for. I don't get too caught up on words and wouldn't entertain a relationship where a partner did either.

I like the range, from fairly anonymous animal lust to very connected sweet and lustful sex with people - the variety keeps my mind well balanced. It's sometimes surprising who you make unexpected types of connections with - they may not be your longer term partner but it's still a remarkable experience that you've had.

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Its definitely lust and not love when we swing. The whole thing from initial contact to first meet and then the cloths off moment builds up the lust levels to maximum. Normally by the time the sex starts it’s a bit fast and furious. We always have to like the people we play with and have become good friends with many of them, but love has never come into it.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"I only ever "make love" to my partner. For me sex without a connection is the biggest turn on and I thoroughly enjoy it - it's the sex with total strangers fantasy. In fact my favourite fantasy is to be blindfolded in a club and have a string of guys fuck me without ever knowing which guys I'd had. I guess you can't get much further from making love than that."

This is very much for us. No relationships at all with other people.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I miss making love with that special person .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We love each other but thoroughly enjoy sex with others. We might like them personally but there is no greater emtional involvement than that.

Even when fucking others in a way we are making love to each other. She will do something particularly kinky with someone else but will be looking into my eyes as she does it. Knowing how much i enjoy the sight."

Interesting way of connecting through others nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer "make love with" over "make love to". "

Exactly just what I was putting across but more succinctly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We would prefer to develop a more relationship based freindship rather than be total strangers and not have a connection.

We personally feel that if we don't have that connection then it's just meaningless sex.

However we have both been talking about our experiences and feelings and feel that we are both possibly Ployamouros in nature. Xx"

Yes I can see the connection your saying and would understand that point. Being Polyamourous is a nice way to explore the difference I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Indeed not every encounter is at the same level and possibly couldn't be but each has its own merit

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I was wondering if this threatens couples when swopping as both of us like to build relationships and make love to those new found friends. Do most just want sex and go or to build long lasting friendships with love making. What's your view.

Sex without emotional connection (even if it is only “lust”) is not nearly as much fun. Getting to know a sexual partner just makes things better. I’ve found that it is possible to “love” more than one person at a time (and for different reasons). It is also possible to do that without jealousy, etc.

NSA love is possible, bizarre as that might sound - where together, your time is very special, when apart you are thinking about each other and yet recognising each other’s space and privacy. It has worked for me."
yep works well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I miss making love with that special person . "

It is a special bond and we put a lot of effort into the people we connect to. For us wham bams have no real benefit longer deeper connections are better. Hope you find that special someone soon xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love falling in love with women and more than happy to do this with a woman in a couple too if that's their kick (although more than happy not to if it isn't). Passionate hot sex needs that kind of desire underpinning it imo. That's just what great sex is and that's all I'm interested in having or offering.

My ideal would be a steaming hot affair with a married woman. Drenched in desire. But with no impulse to split her from her partner. Very erotic. But also mature and ethical about it

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