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By *iss-lou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Im pretty easy going... will.chat to married guys. Meeting ? Less keen.

But yeah..married bloke chases and chases and marriage is over. Etc.blah blah.. wont meet anywhere public.. "would rather takeaway coffee in my car" (40 miles from home)

Yet when I say "if you need to do that you need to take a look at why thats the case"

Im paranoid...

Methinks no..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you aren’t paranoid

Or are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No you aren’t paranoid

Or are you? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might not be because they are married, maybe they are just embarrassed to be seen in public with you ?

Do they ask to see you after it's dark ?

I'm not helping with your paranoia am i ?

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By *iss-lou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Def not me with the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would definitely be a red flag for me too. If someone needs to travel that far out of their locality with you, just for a coffee, there's definitely something up. I'm sure he calls his wife paranoid too, when she questions him about being late home sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are basically three main types of married men on Fab. There's the ones for whom it's all fantasy and chat. The ones who are genuinely not getting sex at home. Then the ones who are serial cheaters and do it for the thrill. It sounds like the person you have chatted to is the first kind.

The thing with most married men is they can't host, so will want to come to you or poke you in a car.

Both my long-term FWB s have been married, the first got a divorce and the second is clinging onto his dead marriage. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does he travel 40 miles every time for a meet and a cuppa or slowly getting closer or further Away. ( maybe he likes the coffee or gets it free )Tbh I think that is going a bit extreme.

But it is his life after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he lives 40miles away from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married,in a sexless marriage. My wife knows I'm on here & is ok about it. I can accommodate as my wife is often away. The only thing she insists on is that I don't spend the whole night with any one else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're married and hubby can meet single ladies, Just like I've met single guys. We can accommodate. He does find it hard because ladies often see "married" and run away lol.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm guessing it isn't as over as he makes out op.

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london

Fabs is chocker with creeps.

I simply err on the side of caution, the very slighest sniff of BS, whether they've admitted they're married or not, and boom, bagged and binned.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

When I first came on to fab

I met a seperated guy ...we saw quite a lot of each other. .his ex worked away ...all was well ... we texted each other regularly ... then one weekend I had a phone call from his "wife" ...and a begging message from him asking me not to contact him ...

I was very nice

..I didnt tell her he was on fab .

Hes still on here ....lol

So OP the choice is yours, i wont meet any attached guys now ... they bore me with the bla bla bla.

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By *rumph650Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Take away coffee in a car?

Classy.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people. "

I've also found a lot of married and cheating are also on pof tinder etc as well as on here, the same ones.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"There are basically three main types of married men on Fab. There's the ones for whom it's all fantasy and chat. The ones who are genuinely not getting sex at home. Then the ones who are serial cheaters and do it for the thrill. "

There's also the ones that don't cheat.

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By *rumph650Man
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

I've also found a lot of married and cheating are also on pof tinder etc as well as on here, the same ones. "

That's a different kettle of fish altogether, if the people they are meeting are under the impression that they are getting into a relationship then that's deceitful. I'd consider that cheating because it's not an even playing field. If I met a married lady on here I wouldn't assume that they were planning on leaving their husband for me. people on here meet up for sex in this world, then go back to their own world, the 2 are very seperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people. "

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people. "

I’ve heard it all now, are you for real?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

I’ve heard it all now, are you for real? "

My thoughts too

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By *rumph650Man
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then "

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB."

Should the married persons partner have the choice as to whether they want to be married to someone who has sex with other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB."

I think the other partner that doesn’t know about their fab life would see it very differently if they were to find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB."

Nobody is saying that is making her less loving. It's not judgemental to say a person is cheating, if they have sex behind their partners back (regardless of strings or not). It's a statement of fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB.

Nobody is saying that is making her less loving. It's not judgemental to say a person is cheating, if they have sex behind their partners back (regardless of strings or not). It's a statement of fact. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people. "

I get what you're saying here. This is kind of me right now.

HOWEVER it's not cheating as we are both swingers, and she knows about it. If she didn't know about it, then it's cheating. There's a line between them.

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By *rumph650Man
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB.

Nobody is saying that is making her less loving. It's not judgemental to say a person is cheating, if they have sex behind their partners back (regardless of strings or not). It's a statement of fact. "

I hear what you're saying, but to me they are meeting for sex that's not getting into another relationship surely it's up to the individual and how they perceive what they are doing. I'm single by choice and maybe I look at it from a different perspective. I like to think I'm open minded and non judgmental, I'm respectful of people's choices.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB.

Nobody is saying that is making her less loving. It's not judgemental to say a person is cheating, if they have sex behind their partners back (regardless of strings or not). It's a statement of fact.

I hear what you're saying, but to me they are meeting for sex that's not getting into another relationship surely it's up to the individual and how they perceive what they are doing. I'm single by choice and maybe I look at it from a different perspective. I like to think I'm open minded and non judgmental, I'm respectful of people's choices. "

What about the right of the partner to have the choice to stay with someone having sex with others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB.

Nobody is saying that is making her less loving. It's not judgemental to say a person is cheating, if they have sex behind their partners back (regardless of strings or not). It's a statement of fact.

I hear what you're saying, but to me they are meeting for sex that's not getting into another relationship surely it's up to the individual and how they perceive what they are doing. I'm single by choice and maybe I look at it from a different perspective. I like to think I'm open minded and non judgmental, I'm respectful of people's choices. "

So if it’s just sex and no emotional attachments etc, why can’t they tell their partner that’s all it is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB.

Nobody is saying that is making her less loving. It's not judgemental to say a person is cheating, if they have sex behind their partners back (regardless of strings or not). It's a statement of fact.

I hear what you're saying, but to me they are meeting for sex that's not getting into another relationship surely it's up to the individual and how they perceive what they are doing. I'm single by choice and maybe I look at it from a different perspective. I like to think I'm open minded and non judgmental, I'm respectful of people's choices. "

Getting into a relationship with a married person would be considered an affair. But the sexual act would still be considered cheating, even if it was a one off. Do you think that if the other partner found out, they'd be thinking " oh it's fine. She had sex with 5 different men, but there was no feelings involved, so she wasn't cheating"? You seem to think by saying the word cheat, that makes you judgemental. It really doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess asking the other half’s lawyer that question regarding did you commit adultery is easy.

Did you have sex with another person outside of your marriage YES or NO.

Well it was like this we just fucked it wasn’t loving in any way.

YES or NO did you have sex outside or marriage. Mmmmmhhhh

Get the cheque book out not a leg to stand on .........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are basically three main types of married men on Fab. There's the ones for whom it's all fantasy and chat. The ones who are genuinely not getting sex at home. Then the ones who are serial cheaters and do it for the thrill. It sounds like the person you have chatted to is the first kind.

The thing with most married men is they can't host, so will want to come to you or poke you in a car.

Both my long-term FWB s have been married, the first got a divorce and the second is clinging onto his dead marriage. XXX"

What about the ones that are just happy with their wives and are doing none of the above?

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By *rumph650Man
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It's not a dating site and everybody has their own reasons for being on here. I don't judge married people for coming on here to meet likeminded people for sex. Even if you meet somebody regularly I wouldn't consider that as cheating, it's not as if they're falling in love, it's no strings attached, it's only cheating when it becomes more than that. They may have a very loving and committed relationship at home but just enjoy having sex with other people.

You think somebody is only cheating on their partner when there are feelings involved? Okay then

Each to their own. Like I said people have their own reasons for going on a sex site, that's their business and I'm not here to be judgemental of them. If a married woman has sex with other people that's her choice, does that make her any less loving in her home life? The FAB world is totally seperate to our vanilla world that's why we have discretion, married or single most of us would like to keep what happens in FAB on FAB.

Nobody is saying that is making her less loving. It's not judgemental to say a person is cheating, if they have sex behind their partners back (regardless of strings or not). It's a statement of fact.

I hear what you're saying, but to me they are meeting for sex that's not getting into another relationship surely it's up to the individual and how they perceive what they are doing. I'm single by choice and maybe I look at it from a different perspective. I like to think I'm open minded and non judgmental, I'm respectful of people's choices.

Getting into a relationship with a married person would be considered an affair. But the sexual act would still be considered cheating, even if it was a one off. Do you think that if the other partner found out, they'd be thinking " oh it's fine. She had sex with 5 different men, but there was no feelings involved, so she wasn't cheating"? You seem to think by saying the word cheat, that makes you judgemental. It really doesn't.

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We seem to be getting away from the point a little bit. This started out berating married people who use FAB who's partners don't know they're on here. All I'm saying is it's up to the individual what they do and if you don't want to meet with them that's fine. There's no need to brand them as some sort of social pariah for having sex behind their spouses back. Their spouse may feel cheated or might even feel relieved that it was NSA sex but again that's their business and theirs alone. Me personally I'm happy to meet someone who was married I wouldn't dream of prying into their circumstances and I certainly wouldn't judge them. Everyone would get and deserve the same level of discretion married or single. How you define married people on here is up to you and I respect your views, I was only sharing my opinion.

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By *erkshire7274Couple
over a year ago

Bracknell

And what about men who have wives blessing as it her turn on??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And what about men who have wives blessing as it her turn on?????? "

That’s not being deceitful as they know what they are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess asking the other half’s lawyer that question regarding did you commit adultery is easy.

Did you have sex with another person outside of your marriage YES or NO.

Well it was like this we just fucked it wasn’t loving in any way.

YES or NO did you have sex outside or marriage. Mmmmmhhhh

Get the cheque book out not a leg to stand on .........

"

The grounds for divorce is not taken into account when looking at any settlement involved. So the chequebook isn’t affected in that way

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