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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you." Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things | |||
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"If it's only a social and a veri that you're after right now, why not men as well? I'm sure some local chap would happily meet for a pint and a mutual veri. " This. Or ask someone to Video call you quickly so that they can see you're real. | |||
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"If it's only a social and a veri that you're after right now, why not men as well? I'm sure some local chap would happily meet for a pint and a mutual veri. " Great idea on any other site but this  I'd be rendered Fab-straight in a jiffy  | |||
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"If it's only a social and a veri that you're after right now, why not men as well? I'm sure some local chap would happily meet for a pint and a mutual veri. This. Or ask someone to Video call you quickly so that they can see you're real. " Unfortunately Swingfields need it to be a meet in person veri. | |||
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"If it's only a social and a veri that you're after right now, why not men as well? I'm sure some local chap would happily meet for a pint and a mutual veri. Great idea on any other site but this I'd be rendered Fab-straight in a jiffy "Why? It's just meeting for a pint with a potential wing man. Write a veri that states this. I'd gladly go for a beer with some of the guys on here and I'm as straight as they come. It's not all about the sex. You could make a drinking buddy. | |||
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"If it's only a social and a veri that you're after right now, why not men as well? I'm sure some local chap would happily meet for a pint and a mutual veri. Great idea on any other site but this I'd be rendered Fab-straight in a jiffy "Looks like you're stuck with a sleazy dive then Best of British etc  | |||
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I'll even buy the coffees!
"They may say that I'm a dreamer. But I'm not the only one" | |||
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"Call me an insane pie in the sky fantasist but I'm still holding out for the Holy Grail of a 10 minute coffee with a woman or couple
I'll even buy the coffees!
"They may say that I'm a dreamer. But I'm not the only one" "Well. Good luck. | |||
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"If it's only a social and a veri that you're after right now, why not men as well? I'm sure some local chap would happily meet for a pint and a mutual veri. Great idea on any other site but this I'd be rendered Fab-straight in a jiffy
Why? It's just meeting for a pint with a potential wing man. Write a veri that states this.
I'd gladly go for a beer with some of the guys on here and I'm as straight as they come.
It's not all about the sex. You could make a drinking buddy. "I completely agree. In an ideal world us guys would have each other's backs like this and we'd all be off to flying starts, verified to the hilt. But woe behold the man who has anything in the slightest bit off-putting on his profile on here. On here it's best foot forward or no foot forward | |||
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"Call me an insane pie in the sky fantasist but I'm still holding out for the Holy Grail of a 10 minute coffee with a woman or couple
I'll even buy the coffees!
"They may say that I'm a dreamer. But I'm not the only one"
Well. Good luck. "Oh dear!  Is it that lost a cause? Haha | |||
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"Call me an insane pie in the sky fantasist but I'm still holding out for the Holy Grail of a 10 minute coffee with a woman or couple
I'll even buy the coffees!
"They may say that I'm a dreamer. But I'm not the only one"
Well. Good luck.
Oh dear! Is it that lost a cause? Haha "I don't know. But if I wanted a veri that badly I'd be open to all avenues. The rest will come. | |||
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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you. Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things " What if your not on a swinging site and want to go though ? | |||
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"I'd be interested to hear some female/couples input on this. Are they all really so hidebound and judgemental? And if they are do you really want to meet them? I shall gracefully back out here in case I contaminate anyone's fab cred through conversation "If a man has social verifications from other men we think he's been for a drink with a man, nothing more, nothing less. Some people might think there's more to it I suppose but I'm not sure why. We've been to several organised socials where the men verify other men. | |||
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"I'd be interested to hear some female/couples input on this. Are they all really so hidebound and judgemental? And if they are do you really want to meet them? I shall gracefully back out here in case I contaminate anyone's fab cred through conversation "Lots of women and couples would see a man veri and jump straight to the conclusion that he was gayer than a gay thing and secretly fucking men every minute of the day. Ridiculous ... but they admit it every day on the forums. It makes a mockery of the verification system really. Shame because men having a social would probably be a great idea. Nice to have a beer and chat.
I would've met you for a coffee OP but too far sorry. | |||
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"I'd be interested to hear some female/couples input on this. Are they all really so hidebound and judgemental? And if they are do you really want to meet them? I shall gracefully back out here in case I contaminate anyone's fab cred through conversation
Lots of women and couples would see a man veri and jump straight to the conclusion that he was gayer than a gay thing and secretly fucking men every minute of the day. Ridiculous ... but they admit it every day on the forums.
It makes a mockery of the verification system really.
Shame because men having a social would probably be a great idea. Nice to have a beer and chat.
I would've met you for a coffee OP but too far sorry."It's also a shame because I bet nobody, or very few at at least, would think the same of two women verifying each other socially. | |||
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"I'd be interested to hear some female/couples input on this. Are they all really so hidebound and judgemental? And if they are do you really want to meet them? I shall gracefully back out here in case I contaminate anyone's fab cred through conversation
Lots of women and couples would see a man veri and jump straight to the conclusion that he was gayer than a gay thing and secretly fucking men every minute of the day. Ridiculous ... but they admit it every day on the forums.
It makes a mockery of the verification system really.
Shame because men having a social would probably be a great idea. Nice to have a beer and chat.
I would've met you for a coffee OP but too far sorry.
It's also a shame because I bet nobody, or very few at at least, would think the same of two women verifying each other socially. "Bi women are hot. Bi men are disgusting. So some think.... x | |||
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"I'd be interested to hear some female/couples input on this. Are they all really so hidebound and judgemental? And if they are do you really want to meet them? I shall gracefully back out here in case I contaminate anyone's fab cred through conversation
Lots of women and couples would see a man veri and jump straight to the conclusion that he was gayer than a gay thing and secretly fucking men every minute of the day. Ridiculous ... but they admit it every day on the forums.
It makes a mockery of the verification system really.
Shame because men having a social would probably be a great idea. Nice to have a beer and chat.
I would've met you for a coffee OP but too far sorry.
It's also a shame because I bet nobody, or very few at at least, would think the same of two women verifying each other socially.
Bi women are hot. Bi men are disgusting.
So some think.... x"I'd be happy to meet two bi women having coffee if that helps | |||
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"I'd be interested to hear some female/couples input on this. Are they all really so hidebound and judgemental? And if they are do you really want to meet them? I shall gracefully back out here in case I contaminate anyone's fab cred through conversation
Lots of women and couples would see a man veri and jump straight to the conclusion that he was gayer than a gay thing and secretly fucking men every minute of the day. Ridiculous ... but they admit it every day on the forums.
It makes a mockery of the verification system really.
Shame because men having a social would probably be a great idea. Nice to have a beer and chat.
I would've met you for a coffee OP but too far sorry.
It's also a shame because I bet nobody, or very few at at least, would think the same of two women verifying each other socially.
Bi women are hot. Bi men are disgusting.
So some think.... x
I'd be happy to meet two bi women having coffee if that helps "Heck! I'd be happy to watch two bi women have coffee... that's what it's come to  | |||
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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you. Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things " You don't need verifications to get into a club. Lots of people in clubs aren't on swinging sites. We've never been asked what site we're on or whether we've been verified. Fair enough though, clubs aren't for everyone | |||
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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you. Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things You don't need verifications to get into a club. Lots of people in clubs aren't on swinging sites. We've never been asked what site we're on or whether we've been verified. Fair enough though, clubs aren't for everyone" We thought the same thing TBH. OP, just get yourself to a club, far easier than begging for a “social” meet | |||
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"Any women or couples local to me willing to meet up for a coffee or drink sometime to prod me and chuckle "hey you're that wally who posts on the forum" just so I can increase my veri quota to a modestly respectable 2? Anyone else looking for the same feel free to post your request here " Most confusing. You don't come across as someone who "needs" a verification...  | |||
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"If it's only a social and a veri that you're after right now, why not men as well? I'm sure some local chap would happily meet for a pint and a mutual veri. Great idea on any other site but this I'd be rendered Fab-straight in a jiffy "Agree to an extent with this, if someone just looks at the veri summary and there is veris by men they might jump to the conclusion you are bi etc. However if they cant be bothered to read your profile then maybe they arent worth meeting anyway. We would gladly meet people for a social and feel it is a big part of the lifestyle getting to know people. As a couple it is easier as people wouldnt normally be put off by veris from either men/women or couples. | |||
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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you. Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things You don't need verifications to get into a club. Lots of people in clubs aren't on swinging sites. We've never been asked what site we're on or whether we've been verified. Fair enough though, clubs aren't for everyone" This is exactly the point that I was going to make. Ive never been asked for verification references for going to a club, some club nights might require them for single guys but not actual clubs themselves. Get yourself to a club on a normal night and get chatting OP or look up socials and go to one or two of those | |||
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"Any women or couples local to me willing to meet up for a coffee or drink sometime to prod me and chuckle "hey you're that wally who posts on the forum" just so I can increase my veri quota to a modestly respectable 2? Anyone else looking for the same feel free to post your request here Most confusing. You don't come across as someone who "needs" a verification... "I know dude. I've been having too much fun on the dating apps and let my Fab garden grow tall with s. Just taking time out from dating and figured it was about time, especially at the 3 month mark, to make the effort to get myself over the 2 veri hurdle. Would've been fun to go to Swingfields too... but the hope of that is slowly fading. I think I'm going to seek out a group social in driving distance | |||
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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you. Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things You don't need verifications to get into a club. Lots of people in clubs aren't on swinging sites. We've never been asked what site we're on or whether we've been verified. Fair enough though, clubs aren't for everyone This is exactly the point that I was going to make. Ive never been asked for verification references for going to a club, some club nights might require them for single guys but not actual clubs themselves. Get yourself to a club on a normal night and get chatting OP or look up socials and go to one or two of those" Unfortunately my local seems to require this. Fair enough. Try and keep the plonkers out. I'm all for that
As I said, I'm going to keep my nose down for a nearby group social. I think they used to hold one in Southampton. Did the thread on a whim really. Don't ask don't get. I'm sure I'll figure something out | |||
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"Errrrrr didn’t you just cancel a meet ?? A date "Ah ha ... | |||
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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you. Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things " I *KNOW* I'm tired I read local social as "church social" and thought WTF, but now I'm thinking WTF was I thinking | |||
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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you. Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things I *KNOW* I'm tired I read local social as "church social" and thought WTF, but now I'm thinking WTF was I thinking "Hmm I heard the churches in Cambridgeshire had vestiges of paganism still in them. But had no idea it was that extreme  | |||
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"Good news! The lovely Claire at Decs (one of my favourite clubs) is happy for me to pop down there some time. It helps that I've met her before, albeit a few years back. So I may still be able to get that second veri in time for the ball (i.e Swingfields ) Wish me luck "Or...couldn't she just verify you anyway seeing as she's met you before? I probably come over as being difficult but it seems like your tactics are a little off. I feel like you make the same mistakes that other guys make and put too much brain power into getting verified. Yes it can be useful. No it isn't difficult. There is no catch 22. Basically do some research on clubs to see which ones you fit the criteria to attend. Some you don't even need to be a member to get in. You may have to travel a bit but I'd call that part of the investment in your future "swinging career". Then simply rock on up and put on your most friendly face. It's ok to HAVE a big tool, just don't be one! Then after you've got a few folks details, verify THEM. You don't even need to ask for one if you make a good impression. NOTE: You are NOT even required to play with anyone to get a verification. If you do get to play, fantastic but remember that the aim is to get a verification and playing may or may not affect the outcome of this goal. Good luck and hope this helps! | |||
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"Good news! The lovely Claire at Decs (one of my favourite clubs) is happy for me to pop down there some time. It helps that I've met her before, albeit a few years back. So I may still be able to get that second veri in time for the ball (i.e Swingfields ) Wish me luck
Or...couldn't she just verify you anyway seeing as she's met you before?
I probably come over as being difficult but it seems like your tactics are a little off. I feel like you make the same mistakes that other guys make and put too much brain power into getting verified.
Yes it can be useful. No it isn't difficult. There is no catch 22. Basically do some research on clubs to see which ones you fit the criteria to attend. Some you don't even need to be a member to get in. You may have to travel a bit but I'd call that part of the investment in your future "swinging career". Then simply rock on up and put on your most friendly face. It's ok to HAVE a big tool, just don't be one!
Then after you've got a few folks details, verify THEM. You don't even need to ask for one if you make a good impression. NOTE: You are NOT even required to play with anyone to get a verification. If you do get to play, fantastic but remember that the aim is to get a verification and playing may or may not affect the outcome of this goal.
Good luck and hope this helps! "Thanks for this dude But no need to worry. I've been on Fab off and on for a few years now, so could've dished out the same advice myself. In fact if you were once milk tray I think we were once forum pals in a loose kinda way
I've been super chilled this time around. Had a few lovely meets but didn't feel I wanted to press for veris from them and then they left. I tried fishing for veris from prior acquaintances but I had a break of a few years so it's a bit unfair to ask them, Claire included. Then I got side tracked by dating (women throwing themselves at me haha). I just decided it was time to brush up my Fab profile a bit and, being a guy who isn't really into the sleazy side of things, wanted if I could procure another social to help advance my cause. As you say... totally backwards... but it was kinda on a whim seeing as I've been waffling on here for a while. Was curious to see if I'd softened up anyone local to me to be open to meet...
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"Why don't you go to the club is easier more people lovely atmosphere... be nice chatty and I'm sure people would verify you. Unfortunately it's a bit of a catch 22 at the mo as 1 veri doesn't get me into anything but the sleaziest dive... which isn't really me. I was hoping to go to Swingfields. But they need a minimum of 2 too. It seems to be the magic number. I would like to go to a local social but have no idea if there even are such things I *KNOW* I'm tired I read local social as "church social" and thought WTF, but now I'm thinking WTF was I thinking
Hmm I heard the churches in Cambridgeshire had vestiges of paganism still in them. But had no idea it was that extreme "The last time I went in a church was for a funeral. The epitaph read "I told you I was tired" | |||
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"I personally don't think it's at all gay, to see men, (or any other same gender people), having verified each other socially. Just putting this in the thread for the record." Did you you read the other thread circling today where a guy got turned down because of what someone he'd been verified by once did The responses were amusing too. He had a hidden veri from a TS which people felt was off putting too, even though he'd hidden it because they'd only said hi to each other at a club.
I'd love not to be neurotic about my veris. But I've been on Fab long enough to know that a single male has got to tread carefully through this landscape or else he's buggered. And in some cases I mean that quite literally haha
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"Mr Kinky. I think (in the nicest possible way) that you think too much about things thereby making them far more difficult than they need to be." Yes you're quite right. It's something I realise about myself often | |||
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"I personally don't think it's at all gay, to see men, (or any other same gender people), having verified each other socially. Just putting this in the thread for the record. Did you you read the other thread circling today where a guy got turned down because of what someone he'd been verified by once did The responses were amusing too. He had a hidden veri from a TS which people felt was off putting too, even though he'd hidden it because they'd only said hi to each other at a club.
I'd love not to be neurotic about my veris. But I've been on Fab long enough to know that a single male has got to tread carefully through this landscape or else he's buggered. And in some cases I mean that quite literally haha
Thanks though Glitter xxxx "The thing is other people might want to meet him even more because he's been verified by somebody of a particular gender. It's impossible to do right by everyone so I just believe we should be right by ourselves with respect to others. | |||
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"Mr Kinky. I think (in the nicest possible way) that you think too much about things thereby making them far more difficult than they need to be. Yes you're quite right. It's something I realise about myself often "It's not very often someone tells me I'm right. A moment to savour | |||
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"Mr Kinky. I think (in the nicest possible way) that you think too much about things thereby making them far more difficult than they need to be. Yes you're quite right. It's something I realise about myself often
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