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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Why do people post then when you send them a message they ignore you thought this was a fun site

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By *parkle7Woman
over a year ago

....

It’s a laugh a minute

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Why do people post then when you send them a message they ignore you thought this was a fun site "

Not for men it ain't

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

What post something on the forum's then you private them and they ignore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would I answer to a person without a photo or with 2 lines of description?

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Depends on the message.

We had one the other day that said "Nurse."

Why would we bother replying to that.

Also a lot of people won't reply if it's clear the sender hasn't read their profile...

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"Why do people post then when you send them a message they ignore you thought this was a fun site "

Posting on the forum (if that’s what you mean), is not an open invitation to receive or reply to any private messages. Members are not obliged to reply to all messages received.

Do you reply to all the junk mail received through your door or junk emails?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Some people don't reply to messages from silhouettes without a profile pic.

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just because people don't have a lot to say on there profile that doesn't make them not warrant a message back it could be there not used to it or just a bit shy we all love fun like the rest of you some women on here are just attention seekers

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

What happens on the forums stays on the forums

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I agree just saying what do some women want on this site I'm confused 2 years I've been on here not had one meet yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because people don't have a lot to say on there profile that doesn't make them not warrant a message back it could be there not used to it or just a bit shy we all love fun like the rest of you some women on here are just attention seekers "

Are you saying you’re entitled to a message back?

You have the right to run your profile as you wish, and others have the right not to respond, (wherher they have looked at it or not) .

No response is a no. See Fab rules.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Yeah them women causing trouble again. Happens all the time. Every day.

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Of course not i don't expect a message back I'm just saying some women I don't get what there looking for on here that's all they have everything I'm looking for and same interest's it's a tricky place for man to meet a women that's for sure

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Just because people don't have a lot to say on there profile that doesn't make them not warrant a message back it could be there not used to it or just a bit shy we all love fun like the rest of you some women on here are just attention seekers

Are you saying you’re entitled to a message back?

You have the right to run your profile as you wish, and others have the right not to respond, (wherher they have looked at it or not) .

No response is a no. See Fab rules. "

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Just because people don't have a lot to say on there profile that doesn't make them not warrant a message back it could be there not used to it or just a bit shy we all love fun like the rest of you some women on here are just attention seekers

Are you saying you’re entitled to a message back?

You have the right to run your profile as you wish, and others have the right not to respond, (wherher they have looked at it or not) .

No response is a no. See Fab rules. "

Not at all every one has the right to message who they want

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I do shift work and it's amazing when I tell guys, how many say give me your address and I will go round and give Frisky a seeing to.

I ask, why would I give a total stranger my address when they know that Frisky and my children there without me....

They have never thought that far...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here are not free tarts or a free chat service either. If men wish to receive replies and meets then they need to put effort in. Being shy or new doesn't cut it I,m afraid. X

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I do get the safety side to it aswell just saying there's loads of stunning women out there just gutted none want to meet me yet ????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because people don't have a lot to say on there profile that doesn't make them not warrant a message back it could be there not used to it or just a bit shy we all love fun like the rest of you some women on here are just attention seekers

Are you saying you’re entitled to a message back?

You have the right to run your profile as you wish, and others have the right not to respond, (wherher they have looked at it or not) .

No response is a no. See Fab rules.

Not at all every one has the right to message who they want "

Profiles do help. If I receive a message I always check and not having a lot on a profile would be a delete. I know nothing about the person.

But then again I could be just ‘attention seeking’

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Women on here are not free tarts or a free chat service either. If men wish to receive replies and meets then they need to put effort in. Being shy or new doesn't cut it I,m afraid. X"

Of course not I have tried trust me just think some women want to much tbh it's meant to be fun site no strings what I'm a missing here

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Just because people don't have a lot to say on there profile that doesn't make them not warrant a message back it could be there not used to it or just a bit shy we all love fun like the rest of you some women on here are just attention seekers

Are you saying you’re entitled to a message back?

You have the right to run your profile as you wish, and others have the right not to respond, (wherher they have looked at it or not) .

No response is a no. See Fab rules.

Not at all every one has the right to message who they want

Profiles do help. If I receive a message I always check and not having a lot on a profile would be a delete. I know nothing about the person.

But then again I could be just ‘attention seeking’ "

Haha thanks for the advice I did say some women hun not all women

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Women on here are not free tarts or a free chat service either. If men wish to receive replies and meets then they need to put effort in. Being shy or new doesn't cut it I,m afraid. X

Of course not I have tried trust me just think some women want to much tbh it's meant to be fun site no strings what I'm a missing here"

What do you mean by too much ?

OP a couple of things. You get out what you put in. If you want to attract attention you need to have a profile with something on it. Secondly don’t be deceived into thinking other people, women and couples find it easy to get meets either, because it’s not.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"I agree just saying what do some women want on this site I'm confused 2 years I've been on here not had one meet yet "
you’ve got a meet verification op

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

By to much I mean I think they won't message unless it' Brad Pitt or somecunt like that it's a sex site to meet when horny is it not se women put it on a plate then they delete you for no reason I just don't get it no all women of course there a few good ones out there

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

???what hun

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By *oloandsaabWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Women on here are not free tarts or a free chat service either. If men wish to receive replies and meets then they need to put effort in. Being shy or new doesn't cut it I,m afraid. X

Of course not I have tried trust me just think some women want to much tbh it's meant to be fun site no strings what I'm a missing here"

So you think it's like the Argos catalogue you see something you like and you can just have it? You need to put in a bit more effort than that, the girls on here are not free hookers

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"By to much I mean I think they won't message unless it' Brad Pitt or somecunt like that it's a sex site to meet when horny is it not se women put it on a plate then they delete you for no reason I just don't get it no all women of course there a few good ones out there "

The point is, that maybe you are Brad Pitt but no one can tell from your profile.

Look at your profile right now and ask yourself, does this person interest me or make me feel horny enough to message?

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Women on here are not free tarts or a free chat service either. If men wish to receive replies and meets then they need to put effort in. Being shy or new doesn't cut it I,m afraid. X

Of course not I have tried trust me just think some women want to much tbh it's meant to be fun site no strings what I'm a missing here

So you think it's like the Argos catalogue you see something you like and you can just have it? You need to put in a bit more effort than that, the girls on here are not free hookers"

I never said that gorgeous I just mean some women put it on a plate then when it comes down to it they delete your message that's what I don't get

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"By to much I mean I think they won't message unless it' Brad Pitt or somecunt like that it's a sex site to meet when horny is it not se women put it on a plate then they delete you for no reason I just don't get it no all women of course there a few good ones out there "
it’s not a sex site op! It’s very obvious your attitude is incorrect and that is possibly why you’re not having much luck

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"By to much I mean I think they won't message unless it' Brad Pitt or somecunt like that it's a sex site to meet when horny is it not se women put it on a plate then they delete you for no reason I just don't get it no all women of course there a few good ones out there

The point is, that maybe you are Brad Pitt but no one can tell from your profile.

Look at your profile right now and ask yourself, does this person interest me or make me feel horny enough to message?"

I will update and add more to that

And see if that works very much doubt it tho thanks for the advice

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"Of course not i don't expect a message back I'm just saying some women I don't get what there looking for on here that's all they have everything I'm looking for and same interest's it's a tricky place for man to meet a women that's for sure "

They may have everything you're looking for, but if the feeling isn't mutual nothing's going to happen, just because people want no strings doesn't mean they don't want choice.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"By to much I mean I think they won't message unless it' Brad Pitt or somecunt like that it's a sex site to meet when horny is it not se women put it on a plate then they delete you for no reason I just don't get it no all women of course there a few good ones out there "

I'm gonna take a stab in the dark that you pretty much just come online when you're horny then. Are you a "meet now?" message sender? *shudder*

Thing is, for a lot of people, there's more to compatibility than just interests and body parts.

If I do wanna meet Brad Pitt then that's up to me, I'd much rather hold out for Brad Pitt than fuck an Alfred Hitchcock silhouette for the sake of it oh, and if Brad Pitt was a total fuckwit who had a sense of entitlement and lack of understanding I'd still rather go without.

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"By to much I mean I think they won't message unless it' Brad Pitt or somecunt like that it's a sex site to meet when horny is it not se women put it on a plate then they delete you for no reason I just don't get it no all women of course there a few good ones out there

I'm gonna take a stab in the dark that you pretty much just come online when you're horny then. Are you a "meet now?" message sender? *shudder*

Thing is, for a lot of people, there's more to compatibility than just interests and body parts.

If I do wanna meet Brad Pitt then that's up to me, I'd much rather hold out for Brad Pitt than fuck an Alfred Hitchcock silhouette for the sake of it oh, and if Brad Pitt was a total fuckwit who had a sense of entitlement and lack of understanding I'd still rather go without."

I get what your saying I do I'm on most night tbh not just when I'm horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would I answer to a person without a photo or with 2 lines of description? "

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By *rian79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why would I answer to a person without a photo or with 2 lines of description?

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I get what your saying huni I will sort it out thanks for the infoxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me, the sheer lack of anything interesting on a profile is enough for me to hit snooze..

when the content of the profile - and the message - is lacking, it isn’t really conducive of the start of something beautiful..

you have a verification already so you’ve obviously found that some people will entertain you but in my own little opinion, a silhouette profile, no pictures, no meet verifications and a two line profile that is quite generic wouldn’t stand out to me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would I answer to a person without a photo or with 2 lines of description? "

This is probably the reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree just saying what do some women want on this site I'm confused 2 years I've been on here not had one meet yet you’ve got a meet verification op "

Two meet verifications even...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree just saying what do some women want on this site I'm confused 2 years I've been on here not had one meet yet you’ve got a meet verification op

Two meet verifications even... "

Whoops!!

A few porkies have been brought to light.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, men who have met other men and are verified by them yet whose profile says straight, is off putting for some..

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By *heRainManMan
over a year ago

Warrington & Glasgow


"I agree just saying what do some women want on this site I'm confused 2 years I've been on here not had one meet yet "
Now I'm confused! You say you've had no meets, but you have 3 veris! The webcam one is from a couple, so you've had meet veris from one bloke and one lass! Are you saying that they're fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people post then when you send them a message they ignore you thought this was a fun site "

Back to you question OP... simple because they think you’re not what they are looking for. They want fun too; it’s not just about your fun.

Remember we can only go on your profile, message and ... uhm... forum posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course not i don't expect a message back I'm just saying some women I don't get what there looking for on here that's all they have everything I'm looking for and same interest's it's a tricky place for man to meet a women that's for sure

They may have everything you're looking for, but if the feeling isn't mutual nothing's going to happen, just because people want no strings doesn't mean they don't want choice. "

In fairness how would they know you have what they're looking for. There's no info about you on your profile.

As a couple we check the profile of any message and if has no details then why would we be interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about what inspires you to contact a person and ponder if you’re currently offering up similar levels of inspiration. If you’re confident that you’re doing your best, then stick with it. If you think that you’re not achieving your objective, consider altering your approach.

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By *RG10Man
over a year ago

langstone

It is tough being a single male on here but there does seem to be a feeling of entitlement here from the OP. It's not necessarily a criticism, I think it's quite common here. We have access to thousands of people expressing their sexual desires and experiences with multiple partners and people end up thinking it just becomes a case of taking a ticket and waiting your turn.

It took me a while to get a meet initially as I never post face pictures publicly. I found that by reading profiles properly and only messaging people you think you would click with is a far better approach than playing the numbers game and firing a million messages out there.

Nothing would be worse than getting that elusive meet and then realising you dont find the other person attractive at all and are looking for completely different experiences in the bedroom too.

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