FabSwingers.com forum: Sexually turned on

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am newish to this side of things so some may think this is a silly question but here goes. If you are engaging in sexual activity (from giving or receiving of oral to full blown sex)does it only work for you if both parties are sexually turned on?

The few times I have tried this it has not necessarily sexually turned me on but I got my pleasure from other means - by pleasing the other person and bringing them pleasure. The look on their face and the sounds they make can mean a lot more to me than whether or not my thing is sticking up.

Would this put people off?

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have any sex life at all i.e do you wank? Or are you quite an asexual person?

If it's the former why do you think being with another person doesn't turn you on the same? If it's the latter why are you engaging in sexual activity when it's not really your thing?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you have any sex life at all i.e do you wank? Or are you quite an asexual person?

If it's the former why do you think being with another person doesn't turn you on the same? If it's the latter why are you engaging in sexual activity when it's not really your thing? "

Did not say it was not my thing - just that it was not always a sexual turn on for me. In the right circumstances it may be but does not stop me exploring and want to please others