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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so how many times have we heard single guys whingeing about how they can't get women to meet them? I've asked several single guys to come to a club with me tomorrow night and no takers and yet I get pestered to death most of the time!

Don't anyone dare whinge to me ever again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to ask a guy to accompany me to a social I'm attending on Friday but thought better of it and I'm taking a girly pal instead ...... bound to be a great laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe that's it, maybe I should invite a woman instead... teehee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi ....... so is my friend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gangbang/bukkake party organised. 23 guys messaged to say they were coming. 4 messaged to bottle out or say couldn't make it(fair play) 19 DIDN'T show. Not 1!!! Like you say, stop whining guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i hope u weren't planning on doing owt 2nite scj - coz now you've posted that, expect the mithering to commence

you'll be like the pied piper of bleedin hamelin walkin in that club 2morra !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"gangbang/bukkake party organised. 23 guys messaged to say they were coming. 4 messaged to bottle out or say couldn't make it(fair play) 19 DIDN'T show. Not 1!!! Like you say, stop whining guys. "

Hahahaha! Point proven, all mouth no trousers and just love attention seeking and having their egos massaged

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

We have the same thing, loads of single guys wanting to meet, tell them to come to our local swingers club ( as we dont want to waste a night on no shows ), they say deffinatly be there, go on and on about how they cant wait to shag me, and guess what ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, yehhh thats right, most dont show.

try arrange a fantasy of mine, fare few messages, pic some guys out, to meet at a secluded spot, details all on forum, and guess what.................... Loads of last min excuses etc etc.

I agree Stop bloody whining, and put your words into action.

Now only do a first meet with a single guy at our local Club, this way we dont waste our night, as always a good night there, xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

REVERSAL:

couples single girls whinging about time wasters n no shows...then think..."oh im /we are leaving the site"

selection process as i state well enough, ur selection process is shit.

on the other hand i get a mail a wee while ago saying I play too much but would have met me otherwise......

or I get shite saying,they never know if im free.. Make the fucking date/time dont start WHINGING that I try my best to plan ahead.More ofetn than not I take an offer as its give to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"REVERSAL:

couples single girls whinging about time wasters n no shows...then think..."oh im /we are leaving the site"

selection process as i state well enough, ur selection process is shit.

on the other hand i get a mail a wee while ago saying I play too much but would have met me otherwise......

or I get shite saying,they never know if im free.. Make the fucking date/time dont start WHINGING that I try my best to plan ahead.More ofetn than not I take an offer as its give to me.

"

ignore my fucking keyboard, its doing my head in for spelling!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so how many times have we heard single guys whingeing about how they can't get women to meet them? I've asked several single guys to come to a club with me tomorrow night and no takers and yet I get pestered to death most of the time!

Don't anyone dare whinge to me ever again "

I don't go to clubs. Not my thing!

Have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well Sweet they must need there head examining! You never pass up on an offer like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't know what the problem is with single guys these days !!!!

I never ever let anyone down when I was on here as a single guy,

and any invites from single ladies like the op although few and far between where always taken up lol.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Maybe they are working the next day...

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By *DSRMan
over a year ago

leicester


"Ok so how many times have we heard single guys whingeing about how they can't get women to meet them? I've asked several single guys to come to a club with me tomorrow night and no takers and yet I get pestered to death most of the time!

Don't anyone dare whinge to me ever again "

LOL is it that common? i've actually just started to do that - is it a phase we all go through? like a right of passage? I guess i always knew it to be a bad idea! yet i did it anyway!!! Might need to get back my mojo and shake it all about :D

x

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By *DSRMan
over a year ago

leicester


"Ok so how many times have we heard single guys whingeing about how they can't get women to meet them? I've asked several single guys to come to a club with me tomorrow night and no takers and yet I get pestered to death most of the time!

Don't anyone dare whinge to me ever again "

LOL is it that common? i've actually just started to do that - is it a phase we all go through? like a right of passage? I guess i always knew it to be a bad idea! yet i did it anyway!!! Might need to get back my mojo and shake it all about :D

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some female friends and I invited guys we'd been chatting to along to a party as women were outnumbering the men. Guess what! Not one taker and I was even told rather sniffily by one guy who had been pestering to meet me that there was no way he'd have sex in front of other people or want to watch.others having sex! ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was even told rather sniffily by one guy who had been pestering to meet me that there was no way he'd have sex in front of other people or want to watch.others having sex! ms"

Live action porn is so enjoyable too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so how many times have we heard single guys whingeing about how they can't get women to meet them? I've asked several single guys to come to a club with me tomorrow night and no takers and yet I get pestered to death most of the time!

Don't anyone dare whinge to me ever again

I will come with you to a club hun! tomoz is a no no as im in work but hey im free at the weekend or some other time if you give me notice? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a swinging site where people meet for sex. Unfortunately a lot of single men ( not saying only single men mind you ) seem to think upon registering here they should be swamped by choice and get their pick as and when they want. Unfortunately for those who think this way its much the same as anything else in life... Be paitient and take the opportunities when they arise, quit whinning that you never seem to meet anyone here and you've only been signed up a week!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a swinging site where people meet for sex. Unfortunately a lot of single men ( not saying only single men mind you ) seem to think upon registering here they should be swamped by choice and get their pick as and when they want. Unfortunately for those who think this way its much the same as anything else in life... Be paitient and take the opportunities when they arise, quit whinning that you never seem to meet anyone here and you've only been signed up a week!!!

Good point lol or just read profiles properly and show them respect when sending msg and if you are genuine and can be trusted you will be meeting in a week of signing up lol I WAS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"gangbang/bukkake party organised. 23 guys messaged to say they were coming. 4 messaged to bottle out or say couldn't make it(fair play) 19 DIDN'T show. Not 1!!! Like you say, stop whining guys. "

OMG can't believe NO ONE showed! sits open mouthed

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By *uffdiver946Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I would be more than happy to go with you coffee but you have banned single guys from messaging you and I'm out of your ageist range lol!!!!! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"gangbang/bukkake party organised. 23 guys messaged to say they were coming. 4 messaged to bottle out or say couldn't make it(fair play) 19 DIDN'T show. Not 1!!! Like you say, stop whining guys.

OMG can't believe NO ONE showed! sits open mouthed"

It's not unusual. I've heard similar things from friends on here who have tried to organise gang bangs. Fair enough if it's not your cup of tea and say so upfront but it's annoying when people say they'll definitely be there then don't show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was even told rather sniffily by one guy who had been pestering to meet me that there was no way he'd have sex in front of other people or want to watch.others having sex! ms

Live action porn is so enjoyable too. "

Couldn't agree more!! the thing that made me smile was that this guy had "I'm up for anything" on his profile!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think that lots of people like the thought singles, girls, couples, wank about it, talk whilst having sex but when it comes to it just can't go through with it.

We only meet at clubs now to stop our time being wasted.

We have invited loads of single guys, mostly those that have messaged us first, so we assume they like the profile / pictures. Not one will go.

Also we go to good quality clubs where they let single guys in, the max is never filled.

and as for single bi girls, they are everywhere, they are not illusive at all......

XXXXXXXXXXX

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By *iddytoxcplCouple
over a year ago

Stoke/Uttoxeter


" Couldn't agree more!! the thing that made me smile was that this guy had "I'm up for anything" on his profile!!!"

As long as it is in the dark, and a with a safe "no other person" radius of 30 mile. lol.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Ok so how many times have we heard single guys whingeing about how they can't get women to meet them? I've asked several single guys to come to a club with me tomorrow night and no takers and yet I get pestered to death most of the time!

Don't anyone dare whinge to me ever again "

This is a surprise another whinging thread!

Hmmmm profile clearly states you've blocked single guys and you'll decide when you want one!

So how exactly do you get bombarded?

We can't contact you so sounds like you're miffed at being rejected when they havent jumped at your command.Welcome to the real world!

Perhaps your method of selection needs a little work....

Timewasters aren't confined to just men but perhaps to you it feels that way as there's a very good chance they out number couples and single fems so they will be turned down more and complain more and of course a lot of guys perhaps don't understand how swinging works and not to expect that every one will want them.

So you've been rejected chalk it up and move on.

Also don't forget it costs guys on average £30 entrance fee after £50-£60 or more for membership and as we know you can no longer differentiate cost between the sexes. same fees for all for the same service.

So if they are already a member perhaps they don't think you're worth the entrance fee or perhaps that as they know you're a member they're hoping you won't mind going in as a couple and splitting the cost....but as we know that may well be an additional expense for you as you may get in for a fiver or even free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"gangbang/bukkake party organised. 23 guys messaged to say they were coming. 4 messaged to bottle out or say couldn't make it(fair play) 19 DIDN'T show. Not 1!!! Like you say, stop whining guys.

Hahahaha! Point proven, all mouth no trousers and just love attention seeking and having their egos massaged "

Must admit most guys are great talkers but there are so great groups about that deliver the goods

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Did I say at any point that anyone had wasted my time? No, I didn't. I do speak to quite a lot of single guys on here who I have CHOSEN to speak to and I actually think my selection process must be pretty good as all the guys I've been lucky enough to meet on here are really decent.

The people I invited are guys I'm already quite friendly with and had invited them to be my guest for the night. FYI I do live in the real world and I don't think I'm so special that anyone would pay for a single guy's membership on top of an entrance fee for me, nor would I even ask them to!

At no point was I complaining or having a go at anyone, I just thought it was funny and thought that other people might share my sense of humour. Some people obviously do, I'm not going to apologise to those who don't!

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"gangbang/bukkake party organised. 23 guys messaged to say they were coming. 4 messaged to bottle out or say couldn't make it(fair play) 19 DIDN'T show. Not 1!!! Like you say, stop whining guys.

Hahahaha! Point proven, all mouth no trousers and just love attention seeking and having their egos massaged "
totaly agree most guys like the though but when along cums a woman that knows what she wants, bottle goes, happened to use several times truin to arrang a gangbang, now when i get guys sayin how they would love to join i just reply arrange it and i'll join, lol not 1 so far

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah but it's not like I was wanting a whole crowd, I only wanted one lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some guys dont like clubs simple as, also some guys dont like group either ,

fair enough theres plenty of timewasters , same with single fems and couples plenty of that going on ask the guys.

agree that there are a lot of fantasists on here but that covers the whole spectrum .more single guy bashing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd relax lol

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"Ok so how many times have we heard single guys whingeing about how they can't get women to meet them? I've asked several single guys to come to a club with me tomorrow night and no takers and yet I get pestered to death most of the time!

Don't anyone dare whinge to me ever again

This is a surprise another whinging thread!

Hmmmm profile clearly states you've blocked single guys and you'll decide when you want one!

So how exactly do you get bombarded?

We can't contact you so sounds like you're miffed at being rejected when they havent jumped at your command.Welcome to the real world!

Perhaps your method of selection needs a little work....

Timewasters aren't confined to just men but perhaps to you it feels that way as there's a very good chance they out number couples and single fems so they will be turned down more and complain more and of course a lot of guys perhaps don't understand how swinging works and not to expect that every one will want them.

So you've been rejected chalk it up and move on.

Also don't forget it costs guys on average £30 entrance fee after £50-£60 or more for membership and as we know you can no longer differentiate cost between the sexes. same fees for all for the same service.

So if they are already a member perhaps they don't think you're worth the entrance fee or perhaps that as they know you're a member they're hoping you won't mind going in as a couple and splitting the cost....but as we know that may well be an additional expense for you as you may get in for a fiver or even free.

"

LOL

how did i know it would sound like that

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Guys dont always cost that silly amount membership our local club is a fiver a year. Guys are 30 quid enterance. Now lets tackle the issue of group sex etc etc. Just cause you are in a club dont men you have to have group sex, or even to be watched they do have private rooms. Guys offer to pay for hotel at how much a night, but they wont meet in a club in a private room for less than a price of a hotel room. Well you know what we now say, Sod ya, we have eachother and have single guys already there. so its either meets us there, or dont, simples lol. Its not about us wanting ppl to pander to what we want, its about not wasteing our time waiting for no shows. We have taken a fare few and they love it and now are addicts, a lot dont realise its not like what they expect once inside the Club. Not sure why the post a few above, tryed to make it sound like women want there own way etc etc. Ahh well First meets at a club work very well indeed for us and makes the most of our free time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"gangbang/bukkake party organised. 23 guys messaged to say they were coming. 4 messaged to bottle out or say couldn't make it(fair play) 19 DIDN'T show. Not 1!!! Like you say, stop whining guys. "

some girls are the same ... friend of ours advertised in meets for a girl only night .... none turned up to that either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got to keep in mind it is pretty expensive for a single man to go in a club, and this without taking in account the fact they can be rejected at the entrance.

Now, about the other problem (timewasters) : maybe you didn't talk to the right guys. I would always meet or be honest enough to say before "no, I can't", or "I'm not interested, sorry"... Unfortunately, not many offered me that kind of meets so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok ok ill be quiet !!!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"We have the same thing, loads of single guys wanting to meet, tell them to come to our local swingers club ( as we dont want to waste a night on no shows ), they say deffinatly be there, go on and on about how they cant wait to shag me, and guess what ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, yehhh thats right, most dont show.

try arrange a fantasy of mine, fare few messages, pic some guys out, to meet at a secluded spot, details all on forum, and guess what.................... Loads of last min excuses etc etc.

I agree Stop bloody whining, and put your words into action.

Now only do a first meet with a single guy at our local Club, this way we dont waste our night, as always a good night there, xxx"

They dont want to pay club fees thats why. they want sex but not have it cost them anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They dont want to pay club fees thats why. they want sex but not have it cost them anything "

No, it's not only sex that we (When did I become the voice of the single men??) are looking for but also some good times with people...

And, yeah, spending £90 for a night in club that can be boring is a risk that not many men would take.

(rant is over)

Actually, i consider a first meet in a bar as the best meet possible : it's more exciting to tease someone in a place normally not done for that...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If the OP invited a guy to go with her (thats what I read anyway) I strongly suspect the intention was to go as a couple, not for her to swan in for free and leave him to pick up a single guy tab.

I'm afraid though this behaviour is common. I have quite a few single guys on my friends list who seem to never be free, and have put on my status several times when I am free and not got a single reply. Yet they are always bugging me to meet.

I have also tried to arrange a gangbang and got few replies. In the end I cancelled and met someone I could rely on to turn up.

However there are loads of reliable, horny, available single men on here who are more than willing to meet me, so thats who I meet. More power to them!

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"They dont want to pay club fees thats why. they want sex but not have it cost them anything

No, it's not only sex that we (When did I become the voice of the single men??) are looking for but also some good times with people...

And, yeah, spending £90 for a night in club that can be boring is a risk that not many men would take.

(rant is over)

Actually, i consider a first meet in a bar as the best meet possible : it's more exciting to tease someone in a place normally not done for that...

"

Where do you get £90 from, Our local swingers club is £35.oo for single guys, and you wont get rejected at the door, as you have to call before hand to book in. What you spend on drinks after is upto you, but that would only be what a night out anywhere would cost. So wish you would all stop ranting on about the cost to single guys NOT all the Clubs are expensive for Single guys, sheeshhh

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"They dont want to pay club fees thats why. they want sex but not have it cost them anything

No, it's not only sex that we (When did I become the voice of the single men??) are looking for but also some good times with people...

And, yeah, spending £90 for a night in club that can be boring is a risk that not many men would take.

(rant is over)

Actually, i consider a first meet in a bar as the best meet possible : it's more exciting to tease someone in a place normally not done for that... "

Opss forgot to say about the boaring bit, its as boaring as you make it, and as for playing, that is also upto how much effort you put in to chat to ppl. So single guys please stop useing the SAme OLD EXCUSES lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£35 plus the membership plus the travel there... I was saying 90 to make a big impact, but I'm not so far from the truth!

And what I meant by boring is that, sometimes, you don't find the right people get along with (just like anywhere really). You may have the night of your life or stay alone in the bar no matter how much effort you make.

You might think I'm a hippie or somewhat but sex and good times shouldn't be that expensive....

And I'm not using the "same old excuse" : I always meet someone if I say so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i used to go to chams i used to put it on my status and i had messages upon messages asking me to be escorted there, which made me laugh as im confident and dont need my hand holding to walk in there lol

the messages was all the same why oh why etc. i explained that i would meet you there and sign u in on the guest list which is £35 and all of them said no, why as they wanted a couples account so they could keep the card

so now if i go i go alone or with my bint xxxx

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"£35 plus the membership plus the travel there... I was saying 90 to make a big impact, but I'm not so far from the truth!

And what I meant by boring is that, sometimes, you don't find the right people get along with (just like anywhere really). You may have the night of your life or stay alone in the bar no matter how much effort you make.

You might think I'm a hippie or somewhat but sex and good times shouldn't be that expensive....

And I'm not using the "same old excuse" : I always meet someone if I say so..."

The membership is a fiver for a year, and as for the petrol, would you not spend petrol money to get to a meet anyhow. Im just trying to point out, that it REALLY is not that much more expensive than a meet in a Bar, say half way between yourself and whoever you are meeting. Never Boaring at a club if your outgoing and put effort in.

Im not trying to say your one who wont show up, but personally our time is valuble as we only play say one weekend a month, and rather not leave it to chance, that whoever we meet be it a couple or a single, dont show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The membership is a fiver for a year, and as for the petrol, would you not spend petrol money to get to a meet anyhow. Im just trying to point out, that it REALLY is not that much more expensive than a meet in a Bar, say half way between yourself and whoever you are meeting. Never Boaring at a club if your outgoing and put effort in.

Im not trying to say your one who wont show up, but personally our time is valuble as we only play say one weekend a month, and rather not leave it to chance, that whoever we meet be it a couple or a single, dont show. "

Depends on the club really : I had a look at the prices in the clubs around manchester and it seemed a bit more expensive than that. And very far from mine....

But I completely understand your time is precious : I was trying to defend my point of _iew, but like everyone here, I hate these timewasters! I mean, if everybody was respecting the rules, it would be easier for genuine single men in here

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think most clubs are a bargain compared to the price of a decent hotel room. Also, I am much more likely to get nookie at a club as there is a high chance of me cooling my heels in the hotel bar while the guy has cold feet and isn't coming.

I agree, sex should be free. So should chocolate, red wine, and ferarris, but it aint. Even if I do get into a club free I have to pay to get there, pay for a bottle of wine, pay for any soft drinks, and so on.

But if I did go with a guy to a club at MY invitation, it would be as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends of mine run a swingers club, they are thinking of renaming 'greedy girls night' because they just cant get the fellas to attend!!!

Now hows that for the guys being all mouth and no trousers!!

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