FabSwingers.com forum: No apologies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I?

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Reading

Come down here. We will give you a good hard dirty fucking no drama no questions asked .

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No you're not asking too much. Sadly some people can get jealous, any sign of it and I'd give them a wide berth

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Come down here. We will give you a good hard dirty fucking no drama no questions asked . "

Head up north

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Come down here. We will give you a good hard dirty fucking no drama no questions asked . "

So the lady is expected to go to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens..

Try and steer clear..

If not just block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Come down here. We will give you a good hard dirty fucking no drama no questions asked .

Head up north

Drop in here on the way too! You look lovely

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think some people tend to think they have a claim on you if you meet.

I've read about people getting jealous when someone displays a new verie etc.Ive never been like that,but seen people say it in forum .

Also seen people expect exclusivity, but still want to meet others themselves.

Funny creatures people.

Just keep enjoying yourself and sod anyone trying to tell you who and what to do.

Miss

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I? "

No you’re not asking too much at all . What you seek is exactly what one would expect from a swingers site .

Unfortunately it seems at least half the site membership has no idea what swinging is , and when pulled up on it say ‘ I can do as I please , who can say what swinging is ? It’s different things to different people ‘ , which is now so boring and such a cliche .

Swinging is nsa sex with multiple people , no jealousy , no possession and certainly not one person having a relationship with another exclusively .

Now watch as I get slated for suggesting what swinging is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I? "

Its their problem not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't be ... but jealousy can be a human weakness ... and Fab is full of humans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a bit of that issue myself, over the years. You get on well then they want you all to themselves.

Some have tried to tell me how many regular partners I should have and want control.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I?

Its their problem not yours. "

I agree to an extent, but then I sometimes meet someone who I really enjoy, and want to meet again and again, but then won't because I meet others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I?

Its their problem not yours.

I agree to an extent, but then I sometimes meet someone who I really enjoy, and want to meet again and again, but then won't because I meet others. "

This is swinging not dating

Sure if they want to meet you again great but not with the ultimatum

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I?

Its their problem not yours.

I agree to an extent, but then I sometimes meet someone who I really enjoy, and want to meet again and again, but then won't because I meet others. "
That just tells you that as much as you enjoyed them they are not for you. We would never think anyone is exclusive, as others have said this is a swinging site not a dating site. So strange when we hear that folk wont meet other folk as they are seeing others. We have heard how hard it is for single girls getting slated for meeting multiple people. Learn to be thick skinned as we all have to in one way or another due to the rejection part of being in this scene. Stick to what makes you happy. Keep the nice people close and the rest pass you by.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Make it clear from the start your not going to be exclusive. If they want more block them and move on. Some people attract drama

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Embrace your strumpetry... Slutty and proud

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yeah people come on with all sort of emotional needs, the honest truth is some people don't do well with multiple partners. In my opinion, I derive a lot of fun from the process of exploring and meeting new ladies, thats the fun for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make it clear from the start your not going to be exclusive. If they want more block them and move on. Some people attract drama"

Fully agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone gets jealous I block them. I’m a self confessed slut and very open about it. I have no shame because I like to fuck different people.

One guy got mad with me for getting a verification off someone. So he got blocked. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I? "

If you haven’t mentioned exclusivity on your profile and they haven’t mentioned it on theirs or on messages then they’ve got no right to get arsey. Sack them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do jealousy or control issues. Any sniff of that and I'm gone. Surprisingly, that can sometimes rear its head in early messages. People wanting you to be speaking only to them and commenting on why you've advertised for a meet... etc.

Besides that, however, I may be a bit unpopular for saying this but I have absolutely no problem with using this site for serial monogamous sex i.e focusing on one lover at a time. It's just another way of exploring sex with others. But there would need to be the mutual understanding that it was just a bit of fun, even if it was exclusive fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your comments, made me feel better.

Keep calm and carry on fucking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the guys just get penis envy

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Thanks for all your comments, made me feel better.

Keep calm and carry on fucking

Hell yea. Fuck em all.... That's the not so nice people not everyone on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all your comments, made me feel better.

Keep calm and carry on fucking

Absolutely!!

I've had ladies and couples demanding exclusivity...no chance, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are finding the people are getting the wrong idea, I would make it clear on your profile that any regular friendship you develop will not be exclusive and that you enjoy having multiple partners. Those who can’t handle that can either not pursue you, or they only have themselves to blame if they crack on regardless.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I? "

Of course not but I know how you feel. I hate it when people try to make me feel bad for meeting others or having too many meets. My skin is growing ever thicker thank goodness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just like that, it does not matter if male or female.

I would say you are doing what you should. If you enjoy fun with others and they can’t understand or don’t want to understand then you need to cut ties with them.

If you met through here then they should understand, unless you are some sort true Venus and make any man fall in love with you. Hahaha.

Go and have fun and your right don’t apologise for doing so.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"No, this isn't an attention seeking thread, or a big headed thread.....

But I'm struggling a little.....

I'm a single fem here to swing. I'm bisexual so enjoy meeting both men and women. However, I have met people from here who don't seem to want to share me.

Now have I got this wrong, but this is a swinging site, yes? That means to me that sex is with more than one person.

I find myself not meeting people because they want me to themselves.

I've been told I'm a slut because I want more.

I make no apologies for how I am and what I want,but people try to make me feel guilty.

Surely I'm not asking for too much on here, am I? "

The problem is that you don't actually meet swingers. At least half of fab are not actually into ethical non-monogamy. Check before you buy and then you won't have this problem.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I have had this- and now tell them before we meet for the first time that I am meeting others. if that's a problem then I don't even meet them. I want to enjoy myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy is part of human nature, especially when it comes to sex. They just want the fun to be kept for themselves. Its silly thinking that the other person is here to enjoy and have a choice to choose ppl.

Some ppl are here to extend their harem. Sad but true.

We totally understand your point OP. We all r free birds and can decide for ourselves.

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