FabSwingers.com forum: Wife was asked number by other male half, is that rude?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We meet socially first, especially in a safe car park.If we like that cpl then we exchange seats with each others partners for some light fun. The other guy was pestering May to give her mobile number to arrange private meets.

His words " Oh you meet single men anyway so whats the harm in meeting me alone?"

When May told me, i messaged the guy showing my displeasure and blocked their id.

Still furious about it.

Your thoughts on this.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I'd be furious too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Total disrespect, that can't be tolerated.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

That is not acceptable.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Not acceptable at all. A total disrespect for you. You've done the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd back your decision 100%.

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By *exysurferMan
over a year ago

Bromley

Pure rudeness and disrespect

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By *az1Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Completely inappropriate and bet the guy does these things behind his wife’s back so feel sorry for her too. You did the right thing x

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

You should tell his partner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys for positive support. I was furious too. Mentioned their id on my profile.

Just thought to warn others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Completely inappropriate and bet the guy does these things behind his wife’s back so feel sorry for her too. You did the right thing x"

I believe she was his fuckbuddy and not wife.

And yes, he did asked my wife not to talk about it in front of her.

Creeps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely out of order - what a fool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple of guys try to arrange a private meet behind their partner's backs on here. Even ones I've played with! I always tell the female and then block them.

I'm here for fun WITHOUT the drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We meet socially first, especially in a safe car park.If we like that cpl then we exchange seats with each others partners for some light fun. The other guy was pestering May to give her mobile number to arrange private meets.

His words " Oh you meet single men anyway so whats the harm in meeting me alone?"

When May told me, i messaged the guy showing my displeasure and blocked their id.

Still furious about it.

Your thoughts on this."

He broke the golden rule on so many levels! What a total arse! You did the right thing in a calmer way than I would have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you were absolutely right to block,but,

why didn't your wife say no and block him,why did she leave it to you?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Thanks guys for positive support. I was furious too. Mentioned their id on my profile.

Just thought to warn others.

It happened move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agreeing basically .

Would you like to swop numbers ??

no thanks

that should be it

but to be honest a geezer should respect the other fella and the fact its his wife and not even ask

bottom line , yeah , its a fookin cheek

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I've had a couple of guys try to arrange a private meet behind their partner's backs on here. Even ones I've played with! I always tell the female and then block them.

I'm here for fun WITHOUT the drama

I've also had this recently. One had a single guy profile he was contacting me on that Mrs didn't know about as well. You did the right thing OP he was out of order.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks guys for positive support. I was furious too. Mentioned their id on my profile.

Just thought to warn others.

It happened move on. "

We did...now.more careful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"agreeing basically .

Would you like to swop numbers ??

no thanks

that should be it

but to be honest a geezer should respect the other fella and the fact its his wife and not even ask

bottom line , yeah , its a fookin cheek"

Swapping numbers is diff thing but asking wifes number on my back is pushy and creepy.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Bit blooming cheeky eh,but I suppose if you don't ask and all that.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Thanks guys for positive support. I was furious too. Mentioned their id on my profile.

Just thought to warn others.

It happened move on.

We did...now.more careful "

Your profile suggests otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is rude but it's par for the course on a site like this. You have blocked. I think possibly your advertising the fact you have named the offending couple on your profile thus encouraging others to look and see who it was, could be considered naming and shaming. Personally I think you're making a bit of a meal of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks guys for positive support. I was furious too. Mentioned their id on my profile.

Just thought to warn others.

It happened move on.

We did...now.more careful

Your profile suggests otherwise "

Seems you didnt get the topic fully. Swapping number for initial contact is different and asking number to others half to meet alone is ridiculous.

Its like, one single male using a fuckbuddy to find another single woman. Swinging doesnt mean that women are available and horny 24 hours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it is rude but it's par for the course on a site like this. You have blocked. I think possibly your advertising the fact you have named the offending couple on your profile thus encouraging others to look and see who it was, could be considered naming and shaming. Personally I think you're making a bit of a meal of it."

You been warned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You been warned."

Warned about what?

Name and shame is against site rules. You'll be reported for it.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Thanks guys for positive support. I was furious too. Mentioned their id on my profile.

Just thought to warn others.

It happened move on.

We did...now.more careful

Your profile suggests otherwise

Seems you didnt get the topic fully. Swapping number for initial contact is different and asking number to others half to meet alone is ridiculous.

Its like, one single male using a fuckbuddy to find another single woman. Swinging doesnt mean that women are available and horny 24 hours.

None of my comments indicated how I perceived or understood your post.

And thank you for your advice, but I’ve been on the scene as a woman in a couple around 15 years, and seen / heard a lot of variables, this included.

Ignore my comments. You portray yourselves as you wish

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Outrageous behaviour. Snidey and sly. I, hubby, would have set up a meeting and greeted this slimeball in person.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Actually I’d like to ask about your OP. Because I’ve not been in a position where any bloke from another couple has “pestered” me.

Now reading the op again, it sounds like you allow your lady to go to a strangers car and vice Versa?

If that is the case, I’d say a bit of pestering is the least of your worries. Not something I’d do, and I’m certainly no wall flower. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Outrageous behaviour. Snidey and sly. I, hubby, would have set up a meeting and greeted this slimeball in person."

Our thoughts exactly

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

You don’t the right thing. Block and move on. Totally wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Actually I’d like to ask about your OP. Because I’ve not been in a position where any bloke from another couple has “pestered” me.

Now reading the op again, it sounds like you allow your lady to go to a strangers car and vice Versa?

If that is the case, I’d say a bit of pestering is the least of your worries. Not something I’d do, and I’m certainly no wall flower. ..."

Agreed what you say but "taken from granted" is the problem.

Its clearly mentioned in the profile that, we chose single guys and we defo dont want to single them out from cpls.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Outrageous behaviour. Snidey and sly. I, hubby, would have set up a meeting and greeted this slimeball in person."

Same feeling but then thought its not worth it.

Blocked and moved on but thought to put here to discuss about issues cpls can face.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

His words " Oh you meet single men anyway so whats the harm in meeting me alone?"

When May told me, i messaged the guy showing my displeasure and blocked their id.

Still furious about it.

Your thoughts on this."
. The guy was out of order total disrespect to both of you.I have met couples and generally will spend more time chatting to the male so that I didn’t come across as rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You been warned.

Warned about what?

Name and shame is against site rules. You'll be reported for it. "

I got the point so removed it from my profile.

But still think that someone shud make this site safe.

Craiglist is down just because of such complaints. Next would be Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very Bad Form In My Opinion

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Actually I’d like to ask about your OP. Because I’ve not been in a position where any bloke from another couple has “pestered” me.

Now reading the op again, it sounds like you allow your lady to go to a strangers car and vice Versa?

If that is the case, I’d say a bit of pestering is the least of your worries. Not something I’d do, and I’m certainly no wall flower. ...

Agreed what you say but "taken from granted" is the problem.

Its clearly mentioned in the profile that, we chose single guys and we defo dont want to single them out from cpls.

That’s swinging for you, other people, men, women, couples can be bloody cheeky. But don’t compromise your own safety.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Actually I’d like to ask about your OP. Because I’ve not been in a position where any bloke from another couple has “pestered” me.

Now reading the op again, it sounds like you allow your lady to go to a strangers car and vice Versa?

If that is the case, I’d say a bit of pestering is the least of your worries. Not something I’d do, and I’m certainly no wall flower. ..."

I understood,but that worry can happen in any place and we do take that risk at times unless its a club meet.

And i never said, i am worried. I am pointing out something which i felt wasnt right and thats why i put it out here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your right! Dont have none of it

Proper rude

Especially when you's were there having fun at the time

Greedy bloke and yeah someone mentioned he probably wernt her bf more like fb

As soon as you feel something ain't right

Go with your gut

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Actually I’d like to ask about your OP. Because I’ve not been in a position where any bloke from another couple has “pestered” me.

Now reading the op again, it sounds like you allow your lady to go to a strangers car and vice Versa?

If that is the case, I’d say a bit of pestering is the least of your worries. Not something I’d do, and I’m certainly no wall flower. ...

Agreed what you say but "taken from granted" is the problem.

Its clearly mentioned in the profile that, we chose single guys and we defo dont want to single them out from cpls.

That’s swinging for you, other people, men, women, couples can be bloody cheeky. But don’t compromise your own safety."

Thanks.

Safety wasnt the issue,we always chat, go thru the veris, and then chose a neutral venue, a pub.

We dont like clubs mainly because too many nude bodies will put us off sex completely.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Actually I’d like to ask about your OP. Because I’ve not been in a position where any bloke from another couple has “pestered” me.

Now reading the op again, it sounds like you allow your lady to go to a strangers car and vice Versa?

If that is the case, I’d say a bit of pestering is the least of your worries. Not something I’d do, and I’m certainly no wall flower. ...

Agreed what you say but "taken from granted" is the problem.

Its clearly mentioned in the profile that, we chose single guys and we defo dont want to single them out from cpls.

That’s swinging for you, other people, men, women, couples can be bloody cheeky. But don’t compromise your own safety.

Thanks.

Safety wasnt the issue,we always chat, go thru the veris, and then chose a neutral venue, a pub.

We dont like clubs mainly because too many nude bodies will put us off sex completely. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You been warned.

Warned about what?

Name and shame is against site rules. You'll be reported for it.

I got the point so removed it from my profile.

But still think that someone shud make this site safe.

Craiglist is down just because of such complaints. Next would be Fab"

It's not the site's responsibility to baby sit people. You met a couple, it's up to you to sort out your own safety.

I think he sounds very disrespectful. I would have been annoyed too but it's not the site's fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens all the time, often before we've met and have set up a group chat on Kik. And it's not just the male half of couples that do it. I've had couples try to get me to meet them on my own which is so disrespectful to my partner. We just block them and move on.

Jxx

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

His words " Oh you meet single men anyway so whats the harm in meeting me alone?"

When May told me, i messaged the guy showing my displeasure and blocked their id.

Still furious about it.

Your thoughts on this."
so wrong, that shows total disrespect for you

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