FabSwingers.com forum: Making love or sex

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fabsters

I got my inspiration for this from a comment left on another thread.

So I’ve been musing about it whilst driving to the hair salon.

My question is this:-

Do you prefer making love with a fellow Fabster or just having sex with them and for either option why? What, in your opinion, is the difference?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Sex

Making love is for when there are deeper feelings involved

But that's only imo others will disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above, making love involves emotion and deep feelings although I don't call it that as it sounds awful and a bit cliché.

Fab sex is fucking, albeit very very good fucking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex! Even with a long term partner I'm not really about the making love. I like to fuck

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

No we agree with you. Isn't swinging supposed to be about having Sex without any emotions ?

Making Love has lots of emotions and so it should

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Group sex is just fucking. One to one sex for me is fucking with a some emotion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only make love and save the best of us for one another. Anyone we meet from here is just to satisfy our shared sexual appetite for filthy fucking

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I have never ‘made love’ the words make me cringe

I have sex - with my husband, friends and randomers

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Reading

Hard dirty animalistic fucking for us

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

It's all sex to me till I get home to hubby, then it's making love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having sex, or fucking, is for me when I'm horny, making love is a different level completely where you have deep feelings for the lady, I don't think you could make love in a 3some, that for me is pure fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex with emotion. I wouldn't consider meeting for sex unless there were a connection first. Meaningless sex would leave me cold now. It was more fun 5 years ago. Now my feelings have changed. I don't like making love per say, but there needs to be a core emotional connection or it won't happen. I've chosen well with those I've played with. I know I'm no longer the swinger I once was, but I'm comfortable with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex with emotion. I wouldn't consider meeting for sex unless there were a connection first. Meaningless sex would leave me cold now. It was more fun 5 years ago. Now my feelings have changed. I don't like making love per say, but there needs to be a core emotional connection or it won't happen. I've chosen well with those I've played with. I know I'm no longer the swinger I once was, but I'm comfortable with that

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. It makes the sex better too ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all the same to me only difference is the conection with the other person if about lust its just fuckin

If u genuinly care for the person its love making wether rough or gentle but in the end its all just sex

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"As above, making love involves emotion and deep feelings although I don't call it that as it sounds awful and a bit cliché.

Fab sex is fucking, albeit very very good fucking

I agree!

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

Some days I want someone to make slow romantic love to and other times I just need a good hard fuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some days I want someone to make slow romantic love to and other times I just need a good hard fuck!"

I know that feeling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like erotic and passionate sex as well as a good fuck. I can get that with the same man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just sex.

I get my love making from the man I love.

Sex with others should just be hot, sweaty and animalistic as far as our needs go.

Then we go home and fuck, usually blending into love making.

Eve. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely just sex....

I ideally would like it to be as anonymous as possible...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me making love is when you do have a deep emotional connection with the other person and even with my ex (together 20+ years) we never made love or what I have experienced only once that I would class as making love.

But I think you can still have slow sensual sex which can be very intimate and passionate.

To not have sex without feelings is a strange theory.. is it not the feelings of being turned on... feeling horny or being aroused by the other person that leads to amazing sex!!?

I think people are too afraid of feelings sometimes!!?

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

When i met my man on a vanilla website we wanted to be fuck buddys and fucked a lot

then feelings crept in and we went from fucking to making love but we still sometimes fuck hehehe and always fuck with others, love making is something special between just the 2 of us xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me making love is when you do have a deep emotional connection with the other person and even with my ex (together 20+ years) we never made love or what I have experienced only once that I would class as making love.

But I think you can still have slow sensual sex which can be very intimate and passionate.

To not have sex without feelings is a strange theory.. is it not the feelings of being turned on... feeling horny or being aroused by the other person that leads to amazing sex!!?

I think people are too afraid of feelings sometimes!!? "

Feelings are the best bit

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

It’s just sex on here , sometimes the sex is great or even fantastic , but it’s still just sex .

My wife and I make love , aswell as have the best sex . If that wasn’t the case we wouldn’t swing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex! Even with a long term partner I'm not really about the making love. I like to fuck "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only make love to my bike, with others it's sex.

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill

It's just sex or fucking. Would struggle to claim I made love to several strangers on a plastic mattress!

Not exactly Mills and Boon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As most our meets are just to fuck and go its just sex 99% of them don't even see my face which i find a turn on as i could be standing next to a guy who has fucked me and neither of us know it.

Making love is for someone you love and care for clue is in the name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex for the start

Pleasantly surprised when it's making love

Some guys do want that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is an emotion I feel and doesnt change the way that I fuck, there is no difference for me between making love and fucking as its all just fucking, if I fuck someone I love they get fucked in the same way as I fuck a fuck buddy or a random fuck, sometimes its fast and hard or sometimes its slow and gentle but they are all just fucking, love doesnt change the way that I fuck someone but if I love you then afterwards instead of a high five id instead slap your ass and tell you I love you and have ourselves a little snuggle in the wet patch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At home.Both

Here.SEX

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"As most our meets are just to fuck and go its just sex 99% of them don't even see my face which i find a turn on as i could be standing next to a guy who has fucked me and neither of us know it.

Making love is for someone you love and care for clue is in the name

Do you wear a mask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some women I'd fuck and some others I'd make love to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some women I'd fuck and some others I'd make love to "

So could you make love to someone without being in love?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some women I'd fuck and some others I'd make love to

So could you make love to someone without being in love?

I'd be in love with her body for the night

and maybe the following day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the moment. Slow and sensual or sometimes animal lust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some women I'd fuck and some others I'd make love to

So could you make love to someone without being in love?

I'd be in love with her body for the night

and maybe the following day "

Good answer!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some women I'd fuck and some others I'd make love to

So could you make love to someone without being in love?

I'd be in love with her body for the night

and maybe the following day

Good answer!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have sex with folk from fab

I make love to my husband

There is and should be a difference .

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

fabbing fun is just a game of sex.no more no less.[for us]our time is our time.like now laying in bed dunking bicies in cup of tea.thats foreplay with intent eh

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"fabbing fun is just a game of sex.no more no less.[for us]our time is our time.like now laying in bed dunking bicies in cup of tea.thats foreplay with intent eh"

That could get messy though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making love is much better because you can let your emotions flow.

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

in relationship I use making love but on here with random people I said having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's just a physical release. I'm not looking for an emotional connection, it doesn't mean that it can't be intense or erotic, just when it's over, there is no lasting attachment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only make love with my Mr.

I'd be making nice horny memories with anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a mix between the two for me.

I’m a sensual person, so eye contact, kisses, touches, body contact is important to me. I love being deep inside someone, feeling every movement, so slow works but when the intensity increases I love fucking that orgasm out, so both would be perfect for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make love with eachother..sex on meets

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Make love with eachother..sex on meets

Same here - we make love as a couple (but sometimes just enjoy a good fuck), but when we swing I have pure sex with other other guys (and girls if I'm lucky, though that does tend to be more tender)

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Ok Fabsters thanks for all your honesty. Most say it’s ‘just sex’ but do you need to have a certain feeling for the partner you are having sex with, even if it’s just down to liking them? Would it bother you if they told you later they felt they were just being used by you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok Fabsters thanks for all your honesty. Most say it’s ‘just sex’ but do you need to have a certain feeling for the partner you are having sex with, even if it’s just down to liking them? Would it bother you if they told you later they felt they were just being used by you?

Even though I said it's just fucking there still has to be a connection. Can't do it for the sake of it, doesn't do anything for me.

If they told me they felt like I had used them then I'd be a little disappointed as that's not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really into the mechanics of sex, so some form of affection is desirable

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We play almost entirely in clubs, and no, I don't have to have any feelings for the people I fuck there, it's just fantasy fulfilling sex. In fact once when I was giving my partner a blow job a guy took me from behind. I never even saw his face but I had a fantastic orgasm. On the other hand there are one or two guys and couples we meet occasionally in the clubs because we do like each other, but it is still pure unadulterated sex. No one has ever said they have felt used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had meets where it’s literally just been sex, and that’s fine, but for me it’s liking someone as a person that makes me want to go back! Those kind of repeat meets are my favourite, as I trust the person without any more complicated feelings involved. Would definitely then bother me if they didn’t feel the same!

Titch

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Fabsters

I got my inspiration for this from a comment left on another thread.

So I’ve been musing about it whilst driving to the hair salon.

My question is this:-

Do you prefer making love with a fellow Fabster or just having sex with them and for either option why? What, in your opinion, is the difference?

Making love is between us two as a couple, as it's an emotional thing.

Swinging is sex as a hobby with people we like.

Nita

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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago

London

Sometimes people confuse passionate sex for love making, which even if it feels simmilar, it is not. So probably OP your question should of be hard sex or passioned?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

In all honesty if people we met felt they had been used , we could just as easily say the same back to them . No one is more up front than us , and if anyone meeting us expects more than nsa sex they clearly haven’t thought it through .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the difference between making love and sex there only words surely the action is the same?

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By *eldomVanillaMan
over a year ago

London

Needs to be passionate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the difference between making love and sex there only words surely the action is the same?"

There is a difference regardless of actions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always fucking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the difference between making love and sex there only words surely the action is the same?

There is a difference regardless of actions

But what's the difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never know as it hard to find it

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