FabSwingers.com forum: Single guys

By *illylee OP Couple
over a year ago

all over uk

Hi guys just a comment. Why are the single guys putting in so little effort. We are looking for a hot guy to fuck Lilly but the quality of messages and pics are just shocking. Really wish guys would take the time to actually try

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

You may find it easier to do your own searching in that case, instead of waiting for them to find you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say its better to be proactive and try to find someone you want rather than hoping they seek you out, I always try to come across well and be nice and all that but I've heard from a few friends that most single guys don't

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Plus you could probably add what you can offer a single guy. Then you may get a better quality than just the lazy ones

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?

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By *amyam5627Man
over a year ago

Swadlincote

I try to put the effort in on my first message and then just end up with timewasters 95% of the time. I had a social organised with a couple, who then decided they were going to cancel as they aren’t playing anymore (regardless of the messages I’ve had from them on kik.)

Guess I’m on an unlucky streak.

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By *elbyfuntimesMan
over a year ago

Selby

It's possibly also a lot of guys give up trying because they put a lot of effort in to messages in the past for some if not most just getting deleted so a lot of guys have lost heart in it.

As said previously on thread best you go searching and contact those of interest to you as it's more likely you will get a response as we don't get flooded out with messages like couples n single women do.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?"

Harsh. And you think you are because...?

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Well, your headline makes it sound like you're not looking for single guys, and it's only once you get into the text in the profile that you state you're now interested in a hotwife scenario.

It might be that the kind of guys you're looking for don't even bother to check you out because they respect people's preferences, leaving the guys who message all and sundry as the ones who are getting in contact?

Perhaps tweak the title a bit?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I disagree. Plenty of hot single guys on Fab with clever pics and profiles.

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

We meet mainly single guys but have them blocked .It's easier for us to look when we want and approach them

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"You may find it easier to do your own searching in that case, instead of waiting for them to find you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys just a comment. Why are the single guys putting in so little effort. We are looking for a hot guy to fuck Lilly but the quality of messages and pics are just shocking. Really wish guys would take the time to actually try"
What's the point they just go unread. Just as you don't have time to read them we don't have time to write them. I have the ones I want so rarely message now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always someone else’s fault?!

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By *hocolate_HeavenMan
over a year ago

Birmingham and Dubai

"Plus you could probably add what you can offer a single guy. Then you may get a better quality than just the lazy ones "

This is so true... if I read something that appeals them I will take the time to message and get to know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has been said, I meet your criteria and write detailed messages but would’ve skimmed passed you due to your profile title. Add to that you want face pics straight away and I’m out. I’ll send a face l pics once there’s an joint initial interest not before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As has been said, I meet your criteria and write detailed messages but would’ve skimmed passed you due to your profile title. Add to that you want face pics straight away and I’m out. I’ll send a face l pics once there’s an joint initial interest not before."

Gotta love a "MUST SEND FACE PIC" on a profile.... with no face pic! Kind of starts the whole thing off on an uneven keel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have to admit I am 1 of those often because time consuming it takes very long time I am so frustrated because of this.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"It's possibly also a lot of guys give up trying because they put a lot of effort in to messages in the past for some if not most just getting deleted so a lot of guys have lost heart in it.

This ^^^^^^^^. Think people know how fab works,for example single guys..loads on here and most of their messages don't even get read,never mind read. But then expect them to put the same amount of effort into every message. Life doesn't work like that and most applied just a smidge of common bloody sense,this place would be a lot better.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Plus you could probably add what you can offer a single guy. Then you may get a better quality than just the lazy ones

This is so true... if I read something that appeals them I will take the time to message and get to know them"

Why put effort into something that seems half hearted and has little appeal. If you have to ask a couple what they can offer then that's half killed the initial vibe already ha.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?

Harsh. And you think you are because...?"

where in my statement did I say that I thought of myself as hot? Just because a couple or a female are on here does not automatically make them "hot" themselves. It may be harsh in your opinion but I see it as being truthful.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Always someone else’s fault?!

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LOL I love your reply but I love it as a football fan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are looking for 'hot' guys and so are all the other couples and single females!

Personally I would bypass your profile for two reasons, mainly because I wouldn't class myself and know I'm not 'hot'! The second is because people who are only looking for 'hot' guys, in my opinion have a high regard of themselves which to me is unappealing anyway.

Although being 'hot', luckily for me means different things to different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys send a lot of messages with absolutely no response, I have very hot buddies on here that have the same problem. I tend to send firstly a simple message and then if I get a positive response then I will send a more detailed reply. Too many women and couples expect chapter and verse from the first message.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"Really wish guys would take the time to actually try"

Maybe 'you' should make the effort and try searching; rather than wait for your hot guy to come to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

us guys do not want to over do it by sounding desperate so take time for the right ones who would be the best time every

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish single guys didn’t get such a hard time on here, totally fed up with the constant man-bashing.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

As above the asking for ‘hot’ and ‘exceptional’ guys will put an awful lot off, and unfortunately the ones it won’t put off are probably not the ones you’re after

If you genuinely are looking for the ‘exceptional’, which by definition 99% of the guys on here aren’t, then it’s going to be a lot of leg work for you or just hoping you get lucky and one messages

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?"

Did that need to be said ?

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I've put so much effort into the hundreds of un-read, deleted messages that I've sent over the years; now, I'm just burnt out, I'll send a wink or a polite hello and, only if I feel a very strong attraction to someone do I bother to do the whole chapter and verse as is expected.

Conversely, 99% of messages recieved from couples and single females are either an emo or "Hi"

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?

Did that need to be said ? "

Might not have been needed but it was warranted,I don't do the white knightisms on here,if I have an opinion I will express it.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?

Did that need to be said ?

Might not have been needed but it was warranted,I don't do the white knightisms on here,if I have an opinion I will express it."

Well done you

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?

Did that need to be said ?

Might not have been needed but it was warranted,I don't do the white knightisms on here,if I have an opinion I will express it."

Not blunt but there maybe something in that statement. As in advertising (not that I'm an expert) you need to identify your chosen demographic and run a campaign that appeals to them. The OPs profile is fine but it obviously isn't working for them - hence this thread.

Or, it could be that the type of guy that the OP wants feels that being 'hot' is enough, no need for wordy messages; they are so amazing that they had you at "hello"... and a picture of their abs/cock/tatts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ask for exceptional guys...a lot of us wouldn’t describe ourselves as that .

Maybe look for yourselves instead of starting this thread that just makes you appear entitled and lazy

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?

Did that need to be said ?

Might not have been needed but it was warranted,I don't do the white knightisms on here,if I have an opinion I will express it.

Well done you "

You must be waiting patiently for the OP to choose you for riding to their rescue. Bualadh bos for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since when couldnt someone put a add up and just get normal responses. Rather than getting crap. If a sex site not a anyine wants to fuck anyone site.? If your struggling to get laid...go to bank pay a prozzy rather that given people comments for some that they want...3rd time on this site....men never change. Still at home behind there computers snagging of people cause they think cause there on this site there entitled to have anyone...rant over.....looking forwars to the replys actually

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?

Did that need to be said ?

Might not have been needed but it was warranted,I don't do the white knightisms on here,if I have an opinion I will express it.

Well done you

You must be waiting patiently for the OP to choose you for riding to their rescue. Bualadh bos for you. "

Don’t think too hard you’ll hurt yourself

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"Since when couldnt someone put a add up and just get normal responses. Rather than getting crap. If a sex site not a anyine wants to fuck anyone site.? If your struggling to get laid...go to bank pay a prozzy rather that given people comments for some that they want...3rd time on this site....men never change. Still at home behind there computers snagging of people cause they think cause there on this site there entitled to have anyone...rant over.....looking forwars to the replys actually

Well said far too many gobshites want to use the anonymity this kind of medium affords them , just to be obnoxious and cutting .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's possibly also a lot of guys give up trying because they put a lot of effort in to messages in the past for some if not most just getting deleted so a lot of guys have lost heart in it.

Couldn’t agree more

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"you're looking for a "hot guy" maybe the guys don't see the prize on offer being that tempting?

Did that need to be said ?

Might not have been needed but it was warranted,I don't do the white knightisms on here,if I have an opinion I will express it.

Well done you

You must be waiting patiently for the OP to choose you for riding to their rescue. Bualadh bos for you.

Don’t think too hard you’ll hurt yourself

I think it may be lost on you that you are the one thinking about my opinion and trying to find some imaginary moral high ground on a swingers site. do yourself a favour just message the OP directly and self flagellate yourself to the beat of their drum. toodles kiddo x x x

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By *edonistic Bi.Man
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"You may find it easier to do your own searching in that case, instead of waiting for them to find you. "

Exactly this..

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Just out of curiosity OP - I messaged you; would you say that message was of low effort/quality?

I have a thick skin and a very laid-back outlook, so feel free to speak your mind - if it was just plain boring, my pics are no good or I'm just not your type then please say...I'm just trying to establish what constitutes 'low effort'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in all fairness op your verifications are 2 years old , 2 from a club on the same day , 1 from a webcam .

only one male on your friends list .

maybe the guys arent taking the meet as a serious post so just drop a quick just incase line instead of a long detailed message

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Just to balance this out,some couples are just as bad ...

I'm guessing some ladies too,but we don't meet them.

Some just want quick fun,no effort .

Miss

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By *ongstripeMan
over a year ago

Swadlincote

Popcorn time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m starting to see a trend on the forums....

Single men are the cause and reason for everything bad on this site.....

So all of the couples and single women bashing the men constantly on these forums please BLOCK single men from messaging you. If you’re not meeting hide your profile.

Then let’s see if you make the hot pics.

Then let’s see if you have 600 messages you’re to busy to reply to all and now you have to mass delete.

No you wouldn’t do that because then you would have to go hunting guys and they might say no...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m starting to see a trend on the forums....

Single men are the cause and reason for everything bad on this site.....

So all of the couples and single women bashing the men constantly on these forums please BLOCK single men from messaging you. If you’re not meeting hide your profile.

Then let’s see if you make the hot pics.

Then let’s see if you have 600 messages you’re to busy to reply to all and now you have to mass delete.

No you wouldn’t do that because then you would have to go hunting guys and they might say no...

Excellent

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By *imjayneCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

The amount of messages we get that just say 'hi are you free this afternoon' is ridiculous and when we just delete them you get pissy messages and we end up just blocking them.

All we keep saying is please read our profile !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm new to the swingers scene so don't really know how to sell myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm trying !

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Reading

"I wish single guys didn’t get such a hard time on here, totally fed up with the constant man-bashing.

100% agree. Plenty fake timewasting couples and women on here as well

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By *annysupMan
over a year ago

Yarmouth

It's so hard to start a conversation some times. Taking so much time in for no reply. I like to start slow and get to know each other like you do in a pub. Some people on here are waiting for the prefect message from someone they don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish single guys didn’t get such a hard time on here, totally fed up with the constant man-bashing.

100% agree. Plenty fake timewasting couples and women on here as well "

PLENTY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m starting to see a trend on the forums....

Single men are the cause and reason for everything bad on this site.....

So all of the couples and single women bashing the men constantly on these forums please BLOCK single men from messaging you. If you’re not meeting hide your profile.

Then let’s see if you make the hot pics.

Then let’s see if you have 600 messages you’re to busy to reply to all and now you have to mass delete.

No you wouldn’t do that because then you would have to go hunting guys and they might say no...

ABSOLUTELY THIS

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