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Do you ever turn down meets because something doesn't feel quite right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just done this and although it was a shame I am someone who goes with.my instincts when something is niggling at the back of.my.mind.

Perhaps I'm ultra cautious but this man in question had no sex.verifications whatsoever and all his 12 verifications were chats with ladies at socials. There were a few other things didn't add up so I left it

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By *orksguy74Man
over a year ago

bradford

You have done the right thing it has to feel right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't. Mainly because, by the time I've gotten to the stage that I would like to meet someone, I already liked them. I meet for a social initially anyway, which is tame . If I got to the point that red flags were flailing though, I would back out. You have to go with your gut on these things

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Gut feeling always.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

If it doesn’t feel right I won’t meet - sometimes you get gut instinct that tells you it’s not all it seems .....

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I have yes. I've even walked out of a meet a couple of times as it just didn't feel right. Always follow your gut instinct

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By *irtycpl7980Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

We did a few months back, we had paid for the hotel, wife bought new outfit the whole works but without going into too much detail in case they read it here but somethings they were saying and almost insistent just felt wrong so we cancelled. First ever time we have done that so felt horrible but if we had gone through with we think we would have hated it.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Just done this and although it was a shame I am someone who goes with.my instincts when something is niggling at the back of.my.mind.

Perhaps I'm ultra cautious but this man in question had no sex.verifications whatsoever and all his 12 verifications were chats with ladies at socials. There were a few other things didn't add up so I left it"

We 100% believe in fate and have been stopped so many times from going to meets that we can't explain it.

It's served us well up until now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always used gut instinct, if something doesn't feel right then we very politely walk away.x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yes, I trust my instincts and gut feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Echo what people above have said, definitely follow your gut. If or doesn't feel right, don't go there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go with your gut instincts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on a couple of occasions....if it doesn't feel right....don't do it!! X

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Always go with your gut instincts x "

I'd say your vetting processes are working well OP. The whole point of having your own criteria to use as a selection method is to be happy with the choice that you've made.

The fact that you have got a fairly lengthy profile, suggests (to us at least) that you know where you want to be in terms of meeting people, with the view to having some sexy fun.

Again in our view, having a lot of info for potential suitors to latch onto, means you are able to establish if the person(s) which you choose to converse with, has what it is you are looking for.

As others say, trust your gut, you'll never miss what you've never had (if you let a good 'un go) but you'll always regret a bad time having gone against any initial concerns that you've had.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just done this and although it was a shame I am someone who goes with.my instincts when something is niggling at the back of.my.mind.

Perhaps I'm ultra cautious but this man in question had no sex.verifications whatsoever and all his 12 verifications were chats with ladies at socials. There were a few other things didn't add up so I left it"

Without doubt if you're unsure then back off but if someone has had socials and got veris from them then what more can they do to try and get a sex meet?

Bit of chicken and egg situation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes very much so

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"

Without doubt if you're unsure then back off but if someone has had socials and got veris from them then what more can they do to try and get a sex meet?

Bit of chicken and egg situation!

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But because somebody has veri's and possibly excellent one's, it doesn't follow that they are good for everyone.

As for what more can they do for sex meets, well that's for them to figure out.

Tracey (the OP) has things from a contact that is setting her doubt levels going, that's for her to decide, but her gut says no, it is by and large the best tool we have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turned down a couple recently after a social meet .

I liked her but not him . He did absolutely all of the talking and I felt she was only going along with it to please him and decided that it wasn’t for me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Without doubt if you're unsure then back off but if someone has had socials and got veris from them then what more can they do to try and get a sex meet?

Bit of chicken and egg situation!

But because somebody has veri's and possibly excellent one's, it doesn't follow that they are good for everyone.

As for what more can they do for sex meets, well that's for them to figure out.

Tracey (the OP) has things from a contact that is setting her doubt levels going, that's for her to decide, but her gut says no, it is by and large the best tool we have."

I do wholeheartedly agree.

I was just trying to point out that how do you get a sex meet if you can't because you haven't had a sex meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never meet unless I feel completely comfortable with someone. The slightest things stop me going ahead. I've never had a disastrous meet or a disappointment. Go figure.

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