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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham

We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I'm not really worried about who they've met or 'types.' So long as they interest me I will meet them

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I find that most verifications say pretty much the same thing. I rarely read them.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Not in the slightest. Some may have left the site an no longer be available, others may be people they no longer want to be associated with or have blocked. Some people may not like to show play meets or prefer to show only play meets.

I don’t see someone else’s business as mine.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Also OP, only 16 of your 25 veris are published?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m nosey (or as I prefer to describe it inquisitive) so like to be able to read peoples verifications. I think sometimes they can tell you something about the person or who they meet. I’m pretty upfront so will sometimes ask someone why they hide their verifications, but largely because I’m genuinely interested to find out why people show or don’t show them. Have found that people often offer to display them temporarily for me to read, which is nice, but not necessary. I definitely wouldn’t avoid someone just because they didn’t display their verifications because there are many reasons people choose not to display them so of which I agree with even though I choose currently to display mine. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I try to let little on Fab bother me. People can do what they want if it doesn’t involve me....and most things on here don’t involve me.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

It doesn't bother me. People have their reasons for not displaying their verifications. If the profile appeals and ticks my boxes that's enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. You can avoid me all you like

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By *il.redCouple
over a year ago

ashford

5 out of my 7 verifications displayed are from me meeting these people at clubs, 2 are play dates and a few have deleted their profiles..

I don't think it's all that important, and don't feel they leave the most honest reviews either. So long as one veri says they are who they say they are thats fine for me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve got loads of verifications and I’ve hidden most of them. Why? Because the facility is there to do so, so I did. One person who is met several times also got hassle from local wannabes so to protect her I hid her veri. I usually only show the ‘Steve is a shit shag’ ones because that acts as a filter as well. I don’t want to meet people who lack a sense of humour.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

It's nice to nosy through veri's however there's more important things on a profile, like cute pics, I mean having the same interests

At least they are verified even if not showing the gory detail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many times do you want to read ‘treat this one with respect ‘ before you nod off ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen a lot of single guys that won’t put up veri’s of women/couples that actively look for bareback meets.

Guess they think people will be put off.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"How many times do you want to read ‘treat this one with respect ‘ before you nod off ?"
it’s a pity when I read that one as it spoils my thought of throwing manure in her face

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No it doesn't. If anyone avoids me because I hide any verifications I won't be losing any sleep over it and they wouldn't deserve to meet me anyway. My verifications my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a veri but this disappeared..I assume they left the site which means it disappears too?!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I had a veri but this disappeared..I assume they left the site which means it disappears too?! "

You still have the all important tick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I find the whole verification thing a bit weird. I don't really want everyone knowing my business.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

I think some people put too much emphasis on verifications I would never leave nor display one, I'll decide for myself if I want to meet, don't need someone else's opinion, and as said previously it's generally rubbish like don't pass this one bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive just braved publishing mine.

I am worried as i have a sociopath ex who should be going to prison for what he did to me! As a highly controlling person im scared he may come here looking for me and i dont want him to see who i have met.

As i have police alarms as im high risk, i have to be cautious.

Im sure there is always a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a veri but this disappeared..I assume they left the site which means it disappears too?!

You still have the all important tick."

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham


"Also OP, only 16 of your 25 veris are published?"

This is because some have left the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also OP, only 16 of your 25 veris are published?

This is because some have left the site. "

Could quite conceivably have happened to all a persons verifications?

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham


"I’m nosey (or as I prefer to describe it inquisitive) so like to be able to read peoples verifications. I think sometimes they can tell you something about the person or who they meet. I’m pretty upfront so will sometimes ask someone why they hide their verifications, but largely because I’m genuinely interested to find out why people show or don’t show them. Have found that people often offer to display them temporarily for me to read, which is nice, but not necessary. I definitely wouldn’t avoid someone just because they didn’t display their verifications because there are many reasons people choose not to display them so of which I agree with even though I choose currently to display mine. x"

This is more our way of thinking, I have asked to see verifications and they have been published temporarily. If they won't show then I wonder why. I also am upfront, too upfront at times!! And I do believe that you can tell a lot from past meets, not the write up, everyone writes the same... But who they have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I'm not really worried about who they've met or 'types.' So long as they interest me I will meet them "

Thid

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham


"Also OP, only 16 of your 25 veris are published?

This is because some have left the site.

Could quite conceivably have happened to all a persons verifications? "

Yes of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also OP, only 16 of your 25 veris are published?

This is because some have left the site.

Could quite conceivably have happened to all a persons verifications?

Yes of course."

Personally I tend to keep mine hidden unless someone asks to see them. Like said previously, not sure I've ever seen a bad one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t regard our swinging experiences as particularly private. In fact what we like about the swinging is the freedom to be totally open about sex. So for us, our sex life with others is no more private than any other aspect of ordinary life. Eg we wouldn’t keep it a secret where we go on holiday. It’s all just normal stuff for us. Our verifications tell a story and we enjoy reading other people’s stories. Would we meet someone who regards this sort of thing as private? We might do. Although we would be very aware that our approach to swinging is very different. With regards to single men for private meets, we absolutely need to know that they are experienced with playing with MF couples, and displayed verifications are the most reliable way of ascertaining that.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it doesn't. If anyone avoids me because I hide any verifications I won't be losing any sleep over it and they wouldn't deserve to meet me anyway. My verifications my business."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are largely meaningless. We make our own minds up about people.

Anyone who wants to avoid us because our veris are hidden, we're fine with that.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

We hide ours due to someone stalking the other people we meet!!

We always offer to show them to anyone interested in meeting us though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me. I've hidden all but two of my latest verifications. People can see Im not a man pretending to be a fat, middle aged woman, and I'm not a psycho. That's all a verification needs to say, to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m nosey (or as I prefer to describe it inquisitive) so like to be able to read peoples verifications. I think sometimes they can tell you something about the person or who they meet. I’m pretty upfront so will sometimes ask someone why they hide their verifications, but largely because I’m genuinely interested to find out why people show or don’t show them. Have found that people often offer to display them temporarily for me to read, which is nice, but not necessary. I definitely wouldn’t avoid someone just because they didn’t display their verifications because there are many reasons people choose not to display them so of which I agree with even though I choose currently to display mine. x

This is more our way of thinking, I have asked to see verifications and they have been published temporarily. If they won't show then I wonder why. I also am upfront, too upfront at times!! And I do believe that you can tell a lot from past meets, not the write up, everyone writes the same... But who they have met."

What is important to you about who someone has met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve also used friend’s verifications to help us with our searches and I know that people do that with our verification lists. I understand that most people would rather make up their own mind on someone, but we really don’t have time for that. We feel a certain comfort level in meeting people who know the same people as us. So we use verification lists as an example invaluable source of networking, and I suspect it’s one of the reasons we never get mixed up with timewasters. Not saying we wouldn’t meet people who hide their verifications. But we find it much easier with people who are transparent like us.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I wonder how people actually get a meet on here.

would NOT meet anyone that as not been verified.

Would NOT meet anyone that's hidden their verifications

What about a bit off spontaneity.chat and engage with someone.see if you have the same things in common and the same likes sex wise..look at their photo if you like the look of them, then sort out a meet.

How did we get our first verification by somebody meeting us..they took a chance on us.. do the same

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By *ussexsocialMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

Don’t think people would read all our veri’s it would take all day ....

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

No, because not all veris are available to view. If I leave then all veris I have left for other people will be removed from their profile.

So expecting people to show veris that may no longer exist is pretty pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m nosey (or as I prefer to describe it inquisitive) so like to be able to read peoples verifications. I think sometimes they can tell you something about the person or who they meet. I’m pretty upfront so will sometimes ask someone why they hide their verifications, but largely because I’m genuinely interested to find out why people show or don’t show them. Have found that people often offer to display them temporarily for me to read, which is nice, but not necessary. I definitely wouldn’t avoid someone just because they didn’t display their verifications because there are many reasons people choose not to display them so of which I agree with even though I choose currently to display mine. x

This is more our way of thinking, I have asked to see verifications and they have been published temporarily. If they won't show then I wonder why. I also am upfront, too upfront at times!! And I do believe that you can tell a lot from past meets, not the write up, everyone writes the same... But who they have met.

What is important to you about who someone has met?"

That is probably written badly, as I said partly just interested/ inquisitive but partly I guess if helps indicate certain things about how they play eg. whether they play B.B. or safe, safe being my choice (but totally get why some people prefer B.B. so not making a judgement that, just my personal preference and I think the reality is most people sit somewhere in the middle rather than always one or the other, I’m only explaining this because I don’t want my comment to sidetrack the thread onto the many times discussed issue of B.B. vs Condoms, each to there own in my opinion). But generally I’m just nosey/ interested. As I said whether someone hide or displays their verifications wont actually effect whether I decide to meet them. Plus for me now I have some verifications so people can see I’m who I say I am I’m not bothered if anyone else verified me or not.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I don’t show mine because I don’t want to

Once I have proved I was real by getting the tick then who I bump rudies with is no ones business. If you like me it’s because you like me not who I have been with and if you don’t like me then it’s nothing to do with where I have been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't the point of the varification system is to prove that the person I real? So what difference does it make if you can read that the person can suck a golfball through a hosepipe or that they just have 5 people varify them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely a photo veri from site admin is enough? We don't have any meet veris yet as we haven't found time to meet anyone up until now, but we have chatted to lots of other couples and swapped face pics who have been fine with us without any

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Some people who go to clubs, socials repeat meets and parties will have quite a few veris and choose to hide them as people are very judgemental on here. They don't take these type of meets into account and are too ignorant to read more than the verification summary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely a photo veri from site admin is enough? We don't have any meet veris yet as we haven't found time to meet anyone up until now, but we have chatted to lots of other couples and swapped face pics who have been fine with us without any "

Depends what your looking for. We find there is a lot of valuable hidden information within people verifications that indicate how they play. For example, we want single guys who enjoy playing with an MF couple and we prefer that they are experienced with that type of play. A lot of single guys will bullshit to get sex but have little interest in the couple dynamic. But if they have a number of verifications from couples then that is reasonable proof that couple play is something they do. Sure we could chat to people more to ascertain the same information, but we don’t want to.

Mrs

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, as long as they do have meet verifications(tends to mean they are genuine and more likely to turn up) as I like to make my own mind up about someone rather than take what I read as gosspel.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Stalkers are my issue I’m afraid so mine are hidden. I do give user names for cross reference if the green tick proves insufficient but what goes on is between me and him/them and nobody else’s business. Having said that, all veries are displayed on my couples profile as we only meet at clubs - completely different in my view

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

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The fact that you avoid us because we don’t show all our veris doesn’t bother us at all .

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chippenham


"Surely a photo veri from site admin is enough? We don't have any meet veris yet as we haven't found time to meet anyone up until now, but we have chatted to lots of other couples and swapped face pics who have been fine with us without any

Depends what your looking for. We find there is a lot of valuable hidden information within people verifications that indicate how they play. For example, we want single guys who enjoy playing with an MF couple and we prefer that they are experienced with that type of play. A lot of single guys will bullshit to get sex but have little interest in the couple dynamic. But if they have a number of verifications from couples then that is reasonable proof that couple play is something they do. Sure we could chat to people more to ascertain the same information, but we don’t want to.

Mrs"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I only keep recent veris on my profile, don't display the summary but happy to screenshot and send via direct photo if anyone asks. If they don't want to meet me after that, then their loss not mine lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide mine because I have previously had problems with meets messaging others and hassling them.x

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"I hide mine because I have previously had problems with meets messaging others and hassling them.x

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We have had this too - and people trying to get a meet with us by messaging past meets for info and introductions....soooo not cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show my recent veri(s) for a couple of month then hide them. I have been told by many that they don’t like to see 100s of veris on people’s profiles so I’ve have been trying this method and to be honest I’m getting more mail and responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

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No,it doesn't bother us that you avoid us.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

I didn't realise mine weren't published. I don't tend to bother with them, if I like a persons profile and they come across ok during the messaging stage- I make my decisions from there whether to meet them or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t be bothered hiding verifications, what’s showing is showing, if that bothers anyone, so be it

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We publish ours as we enjoy seeing who others meet, so feel we should be fair! As we only meet for the first time in a Club it doesn’t really bother us if others are not veri’d, however we tend to be slightly more trusting in sharing pic’s who have a bit of visible history on here.

A couple of times we have had un veri’d picture hunters who were good at messaging but didn’t have the nerve to actually turn up and meet at a Club - for us the veri’s and history just adds that little bit of confidence that people are what/who they say they are...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've read one, you've read them all I think.

We all have amazing oral skills, are huge gushers and can fuck for Scotland.....But please remember to treat us with respect....

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Not in the slightest. Some may have left the site an no longer be available, others may be people they no longer want to be associated with or have blocked. Some people may not like to show play meets or prefer to show only play meets.

I don’t see someone else’s business as mine. "

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"If you've read one, you've read them all I think.

We all have amazing oral skills, are huge gushers and can fuck for Scotland.....But please remember to treat us with respect...."

naw wrong!!! we can fuck for yorkshire not scotland they have their own fuckers lol

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We used to publish ours and stopped for a couple of reasons, some guys we’d met had messages off guys asking how to meet us and get tips, and we also had guys saying, “oh you’ve met them, so why won’t you meet me” etc so got a bit tedious so we hid them. The summary shows we meet and are genuine, I’d hope. We do tend to publish our most recent ones for a while still

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you've read one, you've read them all I think.

We all have amazing oral skills, are huge gushers and can fuck for Scotland.....But please remember to treat us with respect....

naw wrong!!! we can fuck for yorkshire not scotland they have their own fuckers lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I wonder how people actually get a meet on here.

would NOT meet anyone that as not been verified.

Would NOT meet anyone that's hidden their verifications

What about a bit off spontaneity.chat and engage with someone.see if you have the same things in common and the same likes sex wise..look at their photo if you like the look of them, then sort out a meet.

How did we get our first verification by somebody meeting us..they took a chance on us.. do the same "

Totally agree

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It's true that verifications have little weight in that we have never given or received a bad veri, if things have not gone well on a meet we just don't verify at the same time hidden verifications mig be for many reasons, we don't show some of our early ones just because they are old and similarly if we showed our summary it would give a false impression as a lot of the verifications were from socials and many have left the site.

We use verifications as a guide line that the couple are genuine and are meeting, it amazing how many couples wink us with their last verification being from 3 or 4 years ago

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

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Not really. I've had a meet who didn't have any verifications public and was one of the best meets i've had to date. On the other hand i've went to message someone who was sexy as anything but once i saw who and the types of people they had played with it put me off. If they hadn't been public i may have met up with her and had awesome sex. I think we can sometimes judge a bit too quick and unfairly. So what i'm trying to say is we here to have great sex and then to possibly make a connection with one or how many people but we can let verifications stop that from happening and maybe even missing out on that awesome sex

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"It's true that verifications have little weight in that we have never given or received a bad veri, if things have not gone well on a meet we just don't verify at the same time hidden verifications mig be for many reasons, we don't show some of our early ones just because they are old and similarly if we showed our summary it would give a false impression as a lot of the verifications were from socials and many have left the site.

We use verifications as a guide line that the couple are genuine and are meeting, it amazing how many couples wink us with their last verification being from 3 or 4 years ago"

Defo this.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"I find that most verifications say pretty much the same thing. I rarely read them. "

Fair point. It's astonishing how many 'incredible fucks' with 'fabulous cocks' there are and women 'who cum like trains'.

It's almost like the people giving the veris are trying to make themselves seem sexually hugely successful.

But I doubt that's the case

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

Not really. I've had a meet who didn't have any verifications public and was one of the best meets i've had to date. On the other hand i've went to message someone who was sexy as anything but once i saw who and the types of people they had played with it put me off. If they hadn't been public i may have met up with her and had awesome sex. I think we can sometimes judge a bit too quick and unfairly. So what i'm trying to say is we here to have great sex and then to possibly make a connection with one or how many people but we can let verifications stop that from happening and maybe even missing out on that awesome sex "

This for us also. The type of veris can sometimes be offputting for us.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"I hide mine because I have previously had problems with meets messaging others and hassling them.x

"

Exactly this. I’ve hidden most of mine now due to others contacting people I’ve met or people asking me about people I’ve met. Most of my veris are from social meets or parties I’ve held.

Recent experiences have made me more cautious about what I display.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

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I’ve hidden mine as there are people who stalk guys you’ve met and send them abuse or tell them all sorts of nasty things about you !

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

Sometimes your veris go unlos and they just don't show. We had three really nice ones left for us from meets last year that have left the site, they show on summary but that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

Doesn't bother us if we don't like a profile for whatever reason we simply move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

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Doesn't bother us if we don't like a profile for whatever reason we simply move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hiding my veris at the moment. It's partly because I have FWB relationships through fab and with FWB there can become a slight sense of ownership so I don't want any jealousy involved if I see one guy that week instead of the other.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We used to publish ours and stopped for a couple of reasons, some guys we’d met had messages off guys asking how to meet us and get tips, and we also had guys saying, “oh you’ve met them, so why won’t you meet me” etc so got a bit tedious so we hid them. The summary shows we meet and are genuine, I’d hope. We do tend to publish our most recent ones for a while still"

I've had exactly the same thing.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

Not really. I've had a meet who didn't have any verifications public and was one of the best meets i've had to date. On the other hand i've went to message someone who was sexy as anything but once i saw who and the types of people they had played with it put me off. If they hadn't been public i may have met up with her and had awesome sex. I think we can sometimes judge a bit too quick and unfairly. So what i'm trying to say is we here to have great sex and then to possibly make a connection with one or how many people but we can let verifications stop that from happening and maybe even missing out on that awesome sex

This for us also. The type of veris can sometimes be offputting for us."

Is that because who they've met or what the verification has said?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm hiding my veris at the moment. It's partly because I have FWB relationships through fab and with FWB there can become a slight sense of ownership so I don't want any jealousy involved if I see one guy that week instead of the other. "

This

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

We have hidden one because it gives the exact location we met for outdoor fun, can't have anyone and everyone knowing our play areas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is more our way of thinking, I have asked to see verifications and they have been published temporarily. If they won't show then I wonder why. I also am upfront, too upfront at times!! And I do believe that you can tell a lot from past meets, not the write up, everyone writes the same... But who they have met."

This ^

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide mine because I don't want people to know what I do and who I do it with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" ... can suck a golfball through a hosepipe "

I read this ten minutes ago and I’m still laughing!

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see why people may be intrigued as to who others have met previously but in all honesty each meet has it’s own experience and can never be the same

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I think some people put too much emphasis on verifications I would never leave nor display one, I'll decide for myself if I want to meet, don't need someone else's opinion, and as said previously it's generally rubbish like don't pass this one bye "

The problem (for blokes at least) is; a lot of people won’t meet others who haven’t had a meet veri from the past 6 months, so to be fair to someone you have met, verify them as ‘genuine’ , but just write a load of nonsense which they won’t display publicly (also explain in a private message what you are doing lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m torn ... at the start I thought they were important and loved receiving a good one ... I sometimes feel a bit awkward about them now and would make more of them private but I don’t want to offend the writers.

I admit Ive sometimes been a bit (a lot) over the top with mine and should probably climb off the ceiling well before I write them

Also someone on ours has changed his interests quite lot and so I wonder if others think that’s what I’m into too as I’ve said he was fabulous.

I like to read the first few of other peoples to see what kind of people they meet ... and yep because I’m nosey too

Kx

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I think some people put too much emphasis on verifications I would never leave nor display one, I'll decide for myself if I want to meet, don't need someone else's opinion, and as said previously it's generally rubbish like don't pass this one bye

The problem (for blokes at least) is; a lot of people won’t meet others who haven’t had a meet veri from the past 6 months, so to be fair to someone you have met, verify them as ‘genuine’ , but just write a load of nonsense which they won’t display publicly (also explain in a private message what you are doing lol) "

Same for women for me mate. No verification in that amount of time is a no no for me.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I find that most verifications say pretty much the same thing. I rarely read them.

Fair point. It's astonishing how many 'incredible fucks' with 'fabulous cocks' there are and women 'who cum like trains'."

I was chatting with a woman just recently, getting on great, so started planning a meet. She asked me for some pics of my cock, as she “doesn’t like to be disappointed”, so I obliged her. She then replied “Wow! Is that really your cock? There’s no mention of it in your veris?” I took that as a compliment

She’s now hidden her profile, and deleted my messages

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

If I write to someone it’s because I’ve seen something in their profile that I like .its never to do with verifications . If I don’t get a response I give it not one iota of thought or lose any sleep .

I once had a veri on here off a woman saying we had sex all night and into the morning . Funny but I don’t remember it like that . Is everyone a sexual athlete and machine on here ?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I am nosy so like to read them and look at who they have met.

However ,as with anything people will choose the ones they display to put them in the best light.

So they could have met alot more people then it says ,or met the opposite of what they claim they are looking for and you would never know.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tend to look at verifications. If I do it's only to make sure they actually meet and aren't all webcam verifications, which would suggest they don't actually meet.

I have been asked on occasion why some of my veris have been hidden. They haven't, it's just people who have left the site. So, not all hidden verifications are hidden.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think verifications are BS! So hidden ones does not bother me!

When I meet a person ,I can judge for myself .

Verification can be fake too!

Another sites do not have verifications and people still meeting !

I don't care with whom they been before ! Also people behave differently with different people . They compromise in order to enjoy the meeting .

I meet before people with no verifications and I had a great time !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think verifications are BS! So hidden ones does not bother me!

When I meet a person ,I can judge for myself .

Verification can be fake too!

Another sites do not have verifications and people still meeting !

I don't care with whom they been before ! Also people behave differently with different people . They compromise in order to enjoy the meeting .

I meet before people with no verifications and I had a great time ! "

Well said.

The only real point of the verification should be to confirm they are who they say they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show mine, its my business who I meet. My age filters are usually set at 98-99 so can't receive them anyway following a meet which is fine with me, I pay no attention to them, they mean nothing to me other than the person is who they claim to be on their profile.

Verified people have let me down and I've had some great meets with non verified users. I like to make my own mind up about a person, not go on what one complete stranger has said about another.

The trick on here is to run your profile as you see fit and find others who run theirs the same as you. If you don't like something about a profile then pass it by until you find one you like.

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

The people I've been verified by have left the site, so their posts have gone. Most unfortunate as it's not that easy for single lads on here to get meets, especially if they haven't already been verified. And so it goes on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't show mine, its my business who I meet. My age filters are usually set at 98-99 so can't receive them anyway following a meet which is fine with me, I pay no attention to them, they mean nothing to me other than the person is who they claim to be on their profile.

Verified people have let me down and I've had some great meets with non verified users. I like to make my own mind up about a person, not go on what one complete stranger has said about another.

The trick on here is to run your profile as you see fit and find others who run theirs the same as you. If you don't like something about a profile then pass it by until you find one you like. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think verifications are BS! So hidden ones does not bother me!

When I meet a person ,I can judge for myself .

Verification can be fake too!

Another sites do not have verifications and people still meeting !

I don't care with whom they been before ! Also people behave differently with different people . They compromise in order to enjoy the meeting .

I meet before people with no verifications and I had a great time ! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could be the same as reading reviews at a restraunt before visiting.or a hotel before a holiday

some liked it some didnt .

the big difference here is , nobody leaves a bad veri if they didnt like it .

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

I like to see veri's displayed especially if the person/people just have one or two so that we can see they are genuine, even if it's a veri that's says met in a club at least you know they are who they say they are. I don't understand hiding them really, may as well not bother having them but each to their own.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork


"Doesn't bother me. I've hidden all but two of my latest verifications. People can see Im not a man pretending to be a fat, middle aged woman, and I'm not a psycho. That's all a verification needs to say, to me."

This, we only use verifications to prove we are representative of what our profile says and a true reflection of our photos and that we turn up for meets.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

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No, as what a total stranger has to say about another total stranger has absolutely no bearing on who I take into my bed.

How they interact with me is all that matters.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Not in the slightest. Some may have left the site an no longer be available, others may be people they no longer want to be associated with or have blocked. Some people may not like to show play meets or prefer to show only play meets.

I don’t see someone else’s business as mine. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

No, as what a total stranger has to say about another total stranger has absolutely no bearing on who I take into my bed.

How they interact with me is all that matters. "

Exactly this for me also.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think some people put too much emphasis on verifications I would never leave nor display one, I'll decide for myself if I want to meet, don't need someone else's opinion, and as said previously it's generally rubbish like don't pass this one bye "

Over the years what I've also found alarming is how much emphasis people do put on verifications to the point of not using their own common sense.

Women have gone to hotel rooms to be met by several men who had paid for a gang bang arranged by a verified guy who had taken money from the men. A woman who had arranged to go to a club and spend the night for the man to leave her stranded at the station because he had a better offer...I could go on.

Use your own due diligence. Read and enjoy the verifications but take with a huge pinch of salt.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I think some people put too much emphasis on verifications I would never leave nor display one, I'll decide for myself if I want to meet, don't need someone else's opinion, and as said previously it's generally rubbish like don't pass this one bye

The problem (for blokes at least) is; a lot of people won’t meet others who haven’t had a meet veri from the past 6 months, so to be fair to someone you have met, verify them as ‘genuine’ , but just write a load of nonsense which they won’t display publicly (also explain in a private message what you are doing lol)

Same for women for me mate. No verification in that amount of time is a no no for me. "

Fair play to you mate, and it must be great to be able to have the opportunity to choose to do this

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Sometimes I wonder how people actually get a meet on here.

would NOT meet anyone that as not been verified.

Would NOT meet anyone that's hidden their verifications

What about a bit off spontaneity.chat and engage with someone.see if you have the same things in common and the same likes sex wise..look at their photo if you like the look of them, then sort out a meet.

How did we get our first verification by somebody meeting us..they took a chance on us.. do the same "

This!!!

Probably why some live on here unable to interact with others as they're not verified.

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish


"We like to look at verifications to see past meets and get an idea of what type of people guys/couples like. Some profiles have verifications hidden and just a summary, or just a tick. We tend to avoid these profiles. Does this bother anyone else?

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How strange, looks like we are the only ones agreeing with you..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think verifications are BS! So hidden ones does not bother me!

When I meet a person ,I can judge for myself .

Verification can be fake too!

Another sites do not have verifications and people still meeting !

I don't care with whom they been before ! Also people behave differently with different people . They compromise in order to enjoy the meeting .

I meet before people with no verifications and I had a great time ! "

Agree...last unverified man I met five years ago is still here!

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