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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

This is a question for people who live an ethically non-monogamous lifestyle. The reasons will become obvious, i realise the forums are about 50% non-swingers but you can't really help here and this is a sort of cry for help!

Have you ever taken a necessary break from the lifestyle and if so, did you find it hard?

We are doing so and whilst i (Mr) totally agree with our reasons, the practical side of it is driving me insane. I find myself obsessing about sex way more than i should. The last time i felt like this was towards the end of a monogamous relationship that convinced me i could never have a monogamous relationship again!

I have actually played with a long term couple during our break (with my wifes permission before anyone asks). It was good but it's not the same without her there. We're more of a hotwife couple and i really crave that side of things. Maybe i need to buy a train set or do a huge jigsaw???

Ps: not looking to discuss why we're on a break. You can assume we have a flesh eating STD and are waiting for it to clear up.

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By *icepair64Man
over a year ago

Norwich

We are currently on a break from swinging and it’s something we seem to have just fallen into. There’s been a few things over the past months ie work and various family issues along with other things but no specific reason as to why. I the male find it hard and although my partner has said it’s ok for me to arrange any of my own fun it’s something I’m reluctant to do.

Like the op I guess were a type of hot wife couple as I get immense pleasure watching her have fun with cples, girls and sometimes guys without me always wanting to join in and no I’m not cuckold at all.

We often talk about meets etc when we are having fun on our own and more often than not it’s her who will want to talk about fun we’ve had although im not adverse to raising past experiences we’ve had either.I’m hoping with time we’ll get back to having some fun with people as I do miss the scene

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"We are currently on a break from swinging and it’s something we seem to have just fallen into. There’s been a few things over the past months ie work and various family issues along with other things but no specific reason as to why. I the male find it hard and although my partner has said it’s ok for me to arrange any of my own fun it’s something I’m reluctant to do.

Like the op I guess were a type of hot wife couple as I get immense pleasure watching her have fun with cples, girls and sometimes guys without me always wanting to join in and no I’m not cuckold at all.

We often talk about meets etc when we are having fun on our own and more often than not it’s her who will want to talk about fun we’ve had although im not adverse to raising past experiences we’ve had either.I’m hoping with time we’ll get back to having some fun with people as I do miss the scene "

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's nice to know I'm not the only one. I find my fantasies going into overdrive at the moment as i have no outlet for them. We don't even meet that often when we aren't on a break but knowing we won't meet for the rest of the year is a timeframe that my mind can't really process very well.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

Interesting post

My last girlfriend had no interest in swinging so I gave it up and didn't miss it. But as the OP and second poster pointed out when you are part of a swinging coue it does become normal- and yes you do miss it when you take a break It was a worry for us

Even when we met swinging friends for dinner or a drink we still felt something was missing because we didn't finish with a night of fun, even though we'd still had a great night out.

That aside we still had great sex and nothing ever felt lacking in that department. Yes we both missed it.

Food for thought. Looking forward to reading other posts as you've really made me stop and think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are currently on a break from swinging and it’s something we seem to have just fallen into. There’s been a few things over the past months ie work and various family issues along with other things but no specific reason as to why. I the male find it hard and although my partner has said it’s ok for me to arrange any of my own fun it’s something I’m reluctant to do.

Like the op I guess were a type of hot wife couple as I get immense pleasure watching her have fun with cples, girls and sometimes guys without me always wanting to join in and no I’m not cuckold at all.

We often talk about meets etc when we are having fun on our own and more often than not it’s her who will want to talk about fun we’ve had although im not adverse to raising past experiences we’ve had either.I’m hoping with time we’ll get back to having some fun with people as I do miss the scene

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's nice to know I'm not the only one. I find my fantasies going into overdrive at the moment as i have no outlet for them. We don't even meet that often when we aren't on a break but knowing we won't meet for the rest of the year is a timeframe that my mind can't really process very well. "

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Interesting post

My last girlfriend had no interest in swinging so I gave it up and didn't miss it. But as the OP and second poster pointed out when you are part of a swinging coue it does become normal- and yes you do miss it when you take a break It was a worry for us

Even when we met swinging friends for dinner or a drink we still felt something was missing because we didn't finish with a night of fun, even though we'd still had a great night out.

That aside we still had great sex and nothing ever felt lacking in that department. Yes we both missed it.

Food for thought. Looking forward to reading other posts as you've really made me stop and think"

You'd think that something we were only doing ~6 times a year wouldn't be so hard to drop, but it's an outlet for a lot of fantasies that currently have no where to go. It's not so much about what did or didn't happen at AbFabs, but more the uncertainty that anything might happen.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

This is a very interesting topic and not sure we can add anything to the discussion. We have never really taken a time out from swinging since we started but at the same time we don't play that often either due to many things but mainly other hobbies. We feel that having and doing something other than swinging as a couple means that we don't miss it when we are not meeting others for long periods.

It is interesting though that having just talked about this we both are not sure how we would feel if the breaks were enforced, even though we might only play four/five times a year the possibility/anticipation that we might play is just as thrilling.

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"This is a very interesting topic and not sure we can add anything to the discussion. We have never really taken a time out from swinging since we started but at the same time we don't play that often either due to many things but mainly other hobbies. We feel that having and doing something other than swinging as a couple means that we don't miss it when we are not meeting others for long periods.

It is interesting though that having just talked about this we both are not sure how we would feel if the breaks were enforced, even though we might only play four/five times a year the possibility/anticipation that we might play is just as thrilling. "

The last sentence is spot on

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Rather than trainsets, I've taken up writing erotic stories which are really 50% true. Can't promise they are any good, but if people are interested and will provide genuine detailed feedback, then PM me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are currently on a sort of break and like others ours just seemed to happen due to having too many other things going on.

We don't miss it, again due to having far to many things going on that we enjoy doing together.

We'll fall back into it when the time is right by visiting a club or attending a party.

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"We are currently on a sort of break and like others ours just seemed to happen due to having too many other things going on.

We don't miss it, again due to having far to many things going on that we enjoy doing together.

We'll fall back into it when the time is right by visiting a club or attending a party."

I get what you are saying, but it's a little different. Even when we are open to meets, we won't actually be available 3/4 weekends a month but the possibility creates a baseline level of excitement when gazing into the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have taken a couple of breaks from swinging and Fab in general. When I think a relationship is going to really take off it doesn't bother me to leave this behind.

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I have taken a couple of breaks from swinging and Fab in general. When I think a relationship is going to really take off it doesn't bother me to leave this behind."

I refer the honourable gentleman to line one of the original post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks is about the longest we’ve taken out in the past 4 years, we have too much fun, if you are relunctantly in an enforced break if it’s not due to illness, you need to ask why you are on the break?

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