FabSwingers.com forum: Single men

By *ex mad lad OP Man
over a year ago

Sussex

As a single man (seperated boo hoo) I think that we should have to pay for this site as we do to get in to swinging clubs....this way it would filter out alot of nutters and timewasters then couples and women could stop complaining about for at least five minutes

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP the "nutters and timewasters" have credit or debit cards too and if they get their amusement from being on here they will pay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we can put site supporters only filters on anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You having problem with single men waiting your time OP

Me too...all talk and no show lol part and parcel I’m afraid

MrsK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP the "nutters and timewasters" have credit or debit cards too and if they get their amusement from being on here they will pay!"

And if those people didn't pay I think the number of single men on this site would drop considerably. Depending on your perspective that might be a good thing, get rid of the ''competition'' so to speak, but I personally don't care. Some guys on here do well for themselves, so good on them.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"OP the "nutters and timewasters" have credit or debit cards too and if they get their amusement from being on here they will pay!"

yup enough do already

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Maybe they should just make it harder to have multiply accounts and a cool of period of say 1/2 weeks if you delete your account, Fab could also track IP address and limit the number of times you can create a account per year,

It wouldn't stop the nutters/time wasters and fakes but it might reduce them

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By *ex mad lad OP Man
over a year ago

Sussex

You having problem with single men waiting your time OP

Me too...all talk and no show lol part and parcel I’m afraid

MrsK "

Not really sure what waiting my time means

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Reading

"As a single man (seperated boo hoo) I think that we should have to pay for this site as we do to get in to swinging clubs....this way it would filter out alot of nutters and timewasters then couPlease stop lambasting single guys . It’s Malcolm talking here . I’ve been on Fab 5 years and the number of fake/ fantasist/ pic collecting/ loony couples single women and TVs are equally frequenting this site. 4 already so far this week . . You won’t change it you just have to learn to spot them. It’s not exclusive to single guys it across all relationships and genders ples and women could stop complaining about for at least five minutes "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they should just make it harder to have multiply accounts and a cool of period of say 1/2 weeks if you delete your account, Fab could also track IP address and limit the number of times you can create a account per year,

It wouldn't stop the nutters/time wasters and fakes but it might reduce them"

Tracking IP addresses won't solve anything. Most ISP don't give domestic users static IP addresses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think an extra charge would stop the nutters and fakes. I do agree though we do get tarred with the same brush a bit. I refuse to put genuine on my profile though

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By *ex mad lad OP Man
over a year ago

Sussex

Or maybe just ban them altogether...isn't swinging meant to be for couples anyway?

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

"Or maybe just ban them altogether...isn't swinging meant to be for couples anyway?"

Urnmm No!

I have posted my views on this subject a number of times, but after giving it a lot of thought the problem has always been there and it's the sites simplicity and ease of access that makes it work.

Before Fab I was on adult friend finder- a pay site and it was just as bad for fakes and fappers

Something needs to be done yes but I've no idea what that is, and as annoying as the fakes are they only make up a small number.

I've not seen a single person on this forum I wouldn't have a drink with and chat to- all these cool and genuine people on one site

Nothing is perfect, but then that might become boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realistically, nutters are nutters because they're too obsessive. They would DEFINITELY pay.

They're probably the people that actually pay for porn or cam chats in fairness.

Still odd to hear that single guys are the time wasters. What ever I'm doing wrong, I can't get a meet to waste!! (Boo boo, right?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the single male timewasters are on a 'couple' profile!

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By *ex mad lad OP Man
over a year ago

Sussex

"Or maybe just ban them altogether...isn't swinging meant to be for couples anyway?

Urnmm No!

I have posted my views on this subject a number of times, but after giving it a lot of thought the problem has always been there and it's the sites simplicity and ease of access that makes it work.

Before Fab I was on adult friend finder- a pay site and it was just as bad for fakes and fappers

Something needs to be done yes but I've no idea what that is, and as annoying as the fakes are they only make up a small number.

I've not seen a single person on this forum I wouldn't have a drink with and chat to- all these cool and genuine people on one site

Nothing is perfect, but then that might become boring"

Wouldn't be healthier for guys and women to find a relationship rather then looking for meaningless sex on the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or maybe just ban them altogether...isn't swinging meant to be for couples anyway?

Urnmm No!

I have posted my views on this subject a number of times, but after giving it a lot of thought the problem has always been there and it's the sites simplicity and ease of access that makes it work.

Before Fab I was on adult friend finder- a pay site and it was just as bad for fakes and fappers

Something needs to be done yes but I've no idea what that is, and as annoying as the fakes are they only make up a small number.

I've not seen a single person on this forum I wouldn't have a drink with and chat to- all these cool and genuine people on one site

Nothing is perfect, but then that might become boring

Wouldn't be healthier for guys and women to find a relationship rather then looking for meaningless sex on the internet "

You're on a website that's geared towards sex. Some people might not want a relationship. I'm on POF, but I'm only looking for friends and maybe go on a few dates, because I'm not over my ex and want her back.

I use POF and this site to pass the time, as much as I want her back, I'm not gonna stop living my life in the hopes she'll come back.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Or maybe just ban them altogether...isn't swinging meant to be for couples anyway?

Urnmm No!

I have posted my views on this subject a number of times, but after giving it a lot of thought the problem has always been there and it's the sites simplicity and ease of access that makes it work.

Before Fab I was on adult friend finder- a pay site and it was just as bad for fakes and fappers

Something needs to be done yes but I've no idea what that is, and as annoying as the fakes are they only make up a small number.

I've not seen a single person on this forum I wouldn't have a drink with and chat to- all these cool and genuine people on one site

Nothing is perfect, but then that might become boring

Wouldn't be healthier for guys and women to find a relationship rather then looking for meaningless sex on the internet "

Not everyone is in a position to be in a relationship even if they want to. As a full time live in carer for a disabled relative I just don't have time for a relationship. I'm not willing to be entirely celibate so nsa sex fits the bill perfectly. I love visiting swingers clubs and have met some fantastic people, some of whom I consider to be friends as well as people i fuck.

Yes, I could pleasure myself using toys and I often do - but nothing even comes close to actual, real sex

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By *ex mad lad OP Man
over a year ago

Sussex

I'm not trying to nose in on what people do....fuck all you want ...it's actually better for the population as it's having protected sex rather then settling down and having kids

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I haven't met any nutters yet Ms

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By *ex mad lad OP Man
over a year ago

Sussex

"I haven't met any nutters yet Ms"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We filter out non-site supporters, so I guess we are essentially using this site as a pay for site. That seems to work quite well for us.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just like de ja vu...

All over again....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can imagine that some men would take rejection a bit worse if they had to pay for joining the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more of a fan of technological solutions. The problem is the sheer volume of dudes, then the quality of dudes. Finding the diamond in the dung heap.

How about a tinder type solution where every guy who is interested in a woman sends her a message with a face pic. The woman, instead of having to trawl through all those messages, just gets presented with the face pics alone. She just swipes left or right. Swiping left deletes the message and automatically blocks the guy. Afterwards she can then read through the remaining messages from guys she likes the look of.

It's called product development guys

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I'm meet verified so I'm not a timewaster or weirdo but this would also get rid of me too.

I wouldn't pay while others were here free.

It's like turkeys voting for christmas this idea.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Is that sexist ??

What about the women or the guys that pretend to be women on here. Along with the couple profiles where the women are too busy walking the dog to answer messages...

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

You see being a site supporter doesn't prove anything. You can pay on your phone or PayPal. It's only a fiver

Raising the supporters fee would p155 a lot of people off as you don't get that much more benefit from it than using it for free (that reminds me I've not renewed this month)

I think if they changed it so only site supporters could message other users then maybe you'd see a small drop but they would have to improve the site before they could warrant increasing the supporters fee

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"OP the "nutters and timewasters" have credit or debit cards too and if they get their amusement from being on here they will pay!"

I disagree.

I think a LOT of the timewasters are on here behind wifey's back as she's watching The Durells. Make it paid subscription with the payment clearly labelled Fabswingers and watch them scuttle off elsewhere leaving mostly serious committed swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op it's not just single guys that are time wasters there's couples and single females on this site that are just as guilty of being time wasters and if u made this an exclusive only allowed if u have paid club you'll still find there's a large percentage of so called time wasters on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might actually filter out the men who aren't nutters who don't want to pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP the "nutters and timewasters" have credit or debit cards too and if they get their amusement from being on here they will pay!

I disagree.

They could pay with a pre-paid debit card.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It might actually filter out the men who aren't nutters who don't want to pay. "
damn I had my nutters licence revoked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It might actually filter out the men who aren't nutters who don't want to pay. damn I had my nutters licence revoked lol"

Appeal. I did

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By *elbyfuntimesMan
over a year ago

Selby

What about the gay single men or bi men who are just interested in meeting men should they pay more because a minority of single straight men are time wasters.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Total nonsense IMO.

If people want to time waste, lurk in forums or collect pics, they will, fee or no fee. Men shouldn’t be targeted over any other group & why shouldn’t singles be allowed to swing OP? And why should we confirm to a societal norm & have a monogamous relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more of a fan of technological solutions. The problem is the sheer volume of dudes, then the quality of dudes. Finding the diamond in the dung heap.

It's called product development guys

Its called superficial....

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I don’t think you have to be a single man to be a timewaster or nutter. In any case these people are everywhere not just here. If someone has been on here a short time or have no pics or veris then that makes me suspicious. I know a guy who creates and deletes a new profile every single day - there should be a way of dealing with that and also the multiple profiles, but until then you just have to rely on spotting these people or use filters to help them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Controversial... but I want the single men here! I'll work out for myself if they're real or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controversial... but I want the single men here! I'll work out for myself if they're real or not "

I'm real... Pick me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controversial... but I want the single men here! I'll work out for myself if they're real or not

I'm real... Pick me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single man (seperated boo hoo) I think that we should have to pay for this site as we do to get in to swinging clubs....this way it would filter out alot of nutters and timewasters then couples and women could stop complaining about for at least five minutes "
There are many that get off on messing people around regardless if it costs them. It's unavoidable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single man, I'm not a time waster, but have had plenty contact me that are, admittedly more on fabguys.

I have had a meet, but as neither of us are verified, we can't verify each other.

I know you can get verified by going on cam, but I'm on a mobile phone and being a tight arse don't want to pay to use that feature.

Like others have said, there is no real solution to stop time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree, I was on another site where it's free for women and men paid about £30 a month. There were loads of time wasters and tossers on there too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single genuine guy here, really struggling to meet up with ppl to get verified. Work long varied hours, so have persisted with this site, and chatted to a few couples..but a meet hasn’t materialised yet.

Will keep trying but not all single guys on here are nutters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You see being a site supporter doesn't prove anything. You can pay on your phone or PayPal. It's only a fiver

Raising the supporters fee would p155 a lot of people off as you don't get that much more benefit from it than using it for free (that reminds me I've not renewed this month)

That would only work for those who use the site for finding people to meet. We rarely use the site for that purpose, and more use the site for finding parties. The only messages we are interested usually interested in are from people attending the same part as us.

Mrs

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Idiots have money as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do pay for this site already and you can block people who haven't paid. Solved!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we should take it one step further and have a years moratorium on new single guys being allowed to join the site. Everyone knows they are all perves/timewasters and a bl**dy nuisance !!!!!!!

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over a year ago

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

What do you consider as time waster?

Look.Some female's or couples take advantage of single guys on fab due to the fact the number of single men surpass that of females .

There are alot of genuine guys here.

Majority of females and couples branded me as fake.Reason.Because I don't have validation on my profile.upon the fact I explained on my email prior to meet I don't do validation.

Don't judge a book by its cover. Yes some guys are fake. I knowledge that as well. But majority are real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you consider as time waster?

Look.Some female's or couples take advantage of single guys on fab due to the fact the number of single men surpass that of females .

There are alot of genuine guys here.

Majority of females and couples branded me as fake.Reason.Because I don't have validation on my profile.upon the fact I explained on my email prior to meet I don't do validation.

Don't judge a book by its cover. Yes some guys are fake. I knowledge that as well. But majority are real.

Well said !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you consider as time waster?

Look.Some female's or couples take advantage of single guys on fab due to the fact the number of single men surpass that of females .

There are alot of genuine guys here.

Majority of females and couples branded me as fake.Reason.Because I don't have validation on my profile.upon the fact I explained on my email prior to meet I don't do validation.

Don't judge a book by its cover. Yes some guys are fake. I knowledge that as well. But majority are real.

It’s true that not doing verifications doesn’t make someone a timewaster, and they have every right to not do verifications. But a lot of people will regard it as a bit riskier to meet someone who doesn’t have verifications, especially if they’ve been using Fab for a long time. There will be some timewasters who probably use that as an excuse, so it is often hard to know which non-verified guys are real, and which are genuine but just don’t like the verification system. Unfortunately, short of meeting everyone in person and judging at face value, one has to judge a book by its cover. But the more information on the cover of a book (including book reviews) will give a more accurate picture of what’s inside the book.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It might actually filter out the men who aren't nutters who don't want to pay. damn I had my nutters licence revoked lol

Appeal. I did

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but then I'd have to give back the restraints I stole lol

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