FabSwingers.com forum: Is it ok to swing if trying for a baby?

By *ebothlovetofuck OP Couple
over a year ago

wirral

He says yes, with protection (obviously). She wants to but scared just in case. She said she would worry throughout pregnancy just in case? Your views please ...

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By *ddmanMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I'm no medic but the NHS Choices page on this (https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/sex-in-pregnancy/) seems to think it's fine with some specific medical caveats - it even specifically calls out having sex with people not your partner!

However, while enjoying a pregnant couple would be a delicious taboo ultimately it's her body and she should play only if comfortable and confident.

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill

"He says yes, with protection (obviously). She wants to but scared just in case. She said she would worry throughout pregnancy just in case? Your views please ..."

I assume the protection is a condom for anyone who she doesn't want to be the father.

Sounds reasonable but condoms do break or come off. Perhaps it would be wise as a couple to accept that occasionally they will need to get hold of emergency contraception.

Other than that enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately it's up to you.

Personally I wouldn't. Condoms aren't 100% protection from sti's.

Contracting herpes during pregnancy is extremely dangerous to an unborn baby.

Get yourself informed and make your own mind up.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No! Not in a million year's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ultimately it's up to you.

Personally I wouldn't. Condoms aren't 100% protection from sti's.

Contracting herpes during pregnancy is extremely dangerous to an unborn baby.

Get yourself informed and make your own mind up. "

Agree 100% with this, the health of mother and baby would be my priority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a risk someone else might father your child and your wife could contract an sti.

Do you want to take those risks for the sake of extra marital sex?

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

From the thread title I am getting the lady is not yet pregnant, but is hoping to become so with the assurance that her own man is the father.

There is only one way to be certain, right?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Trying for a baby is a very intimate and personal thing. Condoms are not 100% reliable. Take time out, share this between the two of you. Hopefully it will be a matter of a couple of months, that's not long in tne grand scheme of things. Don't have casual sex with virtual stangers at such a time in your relationship, you have the rest of your lives to do that.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

Are the risks from condoms breaking still the same for all of you not trying for a baby?

When I'm in a relationship I don't use a condom but always for swinging it just makes sense and yes they do break but I've always been able to tell when they do as you can feel it happen (ok not always if you're really going at it like a fiddlers elbow). But if you say to guy " I want you to cum over my tits" then he will. That has to reduce some of the risk.

Like many have said already it's what you are comfortable with. Never do anything you don't want to do

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Are the risks from condoms breaking still the same for all of you not trying for a baby?

Like many have said already it's what you are comfortable with. Never do anything you don't want to do"

No the risks for people trying for a baby that they want to be sure is genetically theirs are higher. I conceived (with my partner) at the age of 46 while using condoms. We never had an obvious split or breakage during that time although a small leak must have occured. I wouldn't recommend condoms alone as a form of contraception to anybody.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

"Are the risks from condoms breaking still the same for all of you not trying for a baby?

Like many have said already it's what you are comfortable with. Never do anything you don't want to do

Fair point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No! Not in a million year's. "

i agree, planning for baby is a special special time and a precious thing to do.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

If she is not sure then there is your answer.

Worried sex is not sexy sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yeh imagine the fun trying to work out who is daddy?

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By *hyntravCouple
over a year ago

North Somerset

Obviously it's something you both have to be comfortable with but especially Mrs.

We were swinging before we started trying for a baby and for both of us being with another man was an absolute no as soon as we agreed to start trying. If we had found the elusive single woman that wanted us we may have carried on with that lol but that obviously didn't happen. We did stay on here and keep chatting in case we felt it would work once we were pregnant but even that was not for us. The youngest is 15 months and we've only just decided that we are ready to bring this back into our lives (if we ever get time lol).

It's a short time to stop and for peace of mind and just to share what was a very private and intimate time it was worth it.

Good luck with whatever decision you make x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I would say no,just in case there's an incident

You don't want to have to go to jez fot a dna test.

Miss

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

It's a decision you have to make as a couple, but I certainly wouldn't be swinging whilst trying for a baby, you would never be 100% sure who the father was and it should be a precious time of your life, making and planning for your baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not. For the peace of mind and for the sake of the potential child if nothing else.

You might want to consider non penetrative sex as an option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always just fuck guys like me who has vasectomy 30 years ago lolz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it is possible, condoms. But you've already said Mrs would worry and wonder.

Therefore I would suggest you wait until pregnant or after the birth.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would rather be 100% in my own mind knowing who the father was rather than have any niggling doubt.

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By *s1981Couple
over a year ago

halifax

Simple solution really, if you want to swing then but nervous then just don't have intercourse. Everything else goes

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