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I wouldn't let my wife do this. No way!

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By *iveshowcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

So how many couples have been contacted by single guys who come away with a variation of this comment?

It makes us laugh encountering these sorts of attitudes on a swinger site but I guess we are not surprised.

As for me I am not only happy to let her but I actually get a huge thrill watching her enjoy opening her legs for another guy or kissing another woman

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I've seen people say this too,whilst happily meeting couples .

We love watching each other play and I really like when jack has a meet ans takes pics for me.

Not sure why this attitude is still here on fab.

Miss

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Lots of single people men and women, openly admit they wouldn't swing if they were in a relationship. People seem more concerned by the men that think it though. I don't care what they think but I'd sooner not meet them because I get the feeling that they think I'm somehow less than they are.

If I (f) was in a new relationship (god forbid) I probably wouldn't bother. By the time we'd established the bond necessary to swing successfully I reckon I'd be too old to bother.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We've had similar messages and I usually reply with something along the lines of...That's why we're swingers, meeting people of the same mindset, having lots of sexy fun and you're not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,d like to swing if I get into a relationship XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it! Can't stand seeing my sexy lady riding a hot, strapping guy with a nice big cock! Hate it I say!! And I detest every second of dpv that I feel pressured to perform with them both!!

Nope, it's not for me

Mr D

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"I've seen people say this too,whilst happily meeting couples .

We love watching each other play and I really like when jack has a meet ans takes pics for me.

Not sure why this attitude is still here on fab.

Miss"

Because people confuse Fab with PoF

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

It can't be long before a confused poster who thinks this is a dating sites comes on the forum to accuse the proper swingers of being dirty perverts for all that 'sex swopping' and group sex nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They shouldn't have to let their wives do anything just because they have fucked someone else's wife. This isn't tit for tat sex; people do what they choose to do, and that should always be respected.

There are some swinging couples who only soft swap. Should they be made to fuck people they don't want to fuck?

There are also couples where the man isn't allowed to fuck other women, but the woman can fuck men and women.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"They shouldn't have to let their wives do anything just because they have fucked someone else's wife. This isn't tit for tat sex; people do what they choose to do, and that should always be respected.

There are some swinging couples who only soft swap. Should they be made to fuck people they don't want to fuck?

There are also couples where the man isn't allowed to fuck other women, but the woman can fuck men and women.

"

I'm not sure anybody mentioned anything about tit for tat sex or making people do things they don't want to do. We want to meet folks who are of a similar mindset to us and all the examples you've listed are people who fall outside of that mindset and as a result we'd have no inclination to meet them. Likewise I know lots of people won't want to meet us for a wide variety of reasons but we don't care because there's always lots of people that do want to meet us for the very same reasons. Each to their own and vive la difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They shouldn't have to let their wives do anything just because they have fucked someone else's wife. This isn't tit for tat sex; people do what they choose to do, and that should always be respected.

There are some swinging couples who only soft swap. Should they be made to fuck people they don't want to fuck?

There are also couples where the man isn't allowed to fuck other women, but the woman can fuck men and women.

I'm not sure anybody mentioned anything about tit for tat sex or making people do things they don't want to do. We want to meet folks who are of a similar mindset to us and all the examples you've listed are people who fall outside of that mindset and as a result we'd have no inclination to meet them. Likewise I know lots of people won't want to meet us for a wide variety of reasons but we don't care because there's always lots of people that do want to meet us for the very same reasons. Each to their own and vive la difference."

Because I've read where people have said if he wants my wife/partner he must be willing to share his.

I do see your point about the mindset, if he thinks it's wrong to allow your wife to fuck other men. I would have a problem with the word allow, as it would be my decision not my partners.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

I think it's just insecurities and male ego: the other guy might be bigger or better or she might like him more.

Maybe I'm wrong- when I'm in a relationship I actually find it a huge turn on to see my partner/girlfriend enjoying other men, but I'm not the possessive or jealous type

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}"

Are milkmen still a thing?

I though they disappeared around the time VHS arrived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}"

Not all wives have to fuck more than one man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}

Are milkmen still a thing?

I though they disappeared around the time VHS arrived."

Yes, but their milk floats are quite bare now.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}"

I've often told vanilla people point blank that the difference between me and you is that i know who else my wife fucks.

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By *tuartsCelloCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

My wife fucks loads of men and we love every minute of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys...with wives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really had a problem with it and more often get massively turned on by it especially if it's another woman and sometimes when it's another couple and yeah single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never heard this before....

When I’m in a relationship I’m the one pushing swinging and it’s the girls telling me no...

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"They shouldn't have to let their wives do anything just because they have fucked someone else's wife. This isn't tit for tat sex; people do what they choose to do, and that should always be respected.

"

Nope, don't respect them one bit. They are just parasites on the lifestyle. My wife is not a free prostitute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}

Are milkmen still a thing?

I though they disappeared around the time VHS arrived."

Not UHT?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never heard this before....

When I’m in a relationship I’m the one pushing swinging and it’s the girls telling me no..."

Look for women instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never heard this before....

When I’m in a relationship I’m the one pushing swinging and it’s the girls telling me no...

Look for women instead "

Trust me I’ve tried.... the farthest I’ve gotten is bringing a girl to a swing club.... we stayed for 1 drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how many couples have been contacted by single guys who come away with a variation of this comment?

It makes us laugh encountering these sorts of attitudes on a swinger site but I guess we are not surprised.

As for me I am not only happy to let her but I actually get a huge thrill watching her enjoy opening her legs for another guy or kissing another woman

"

Some people use it as a swingers site and some as a sex site in between relationships.

I for one as a single male have no issue with having sex with someone's wife with the husbands blessing and have never judged a couple for being swingers. They get to live the swinger lifestyle and I get to have sex...Happy days.

That said, I don't class myself as a true swinger and just don't have the mindset to let my future or past girlfriends have sex with other men.

I don't really get what the OP is getting at here. Are you suggesting that single men, when eventually married should be happy to swing with their wives?

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By *ifeTimeCouple
over a year ago

Grays

Wife had fun with a guy alone. First time she’d played alone.. dropped her off at his flat and picked her up. It was a long held fantasy that really worked for us (she phoned me in the middle and left the phone in the side). We were quite keen to have it as a semi regular thing but then noticed an exchange he’d had on twitter about how he could never let his wife or girlfriend do the same. We never met him again because of the double standard but you live and learn.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Wife had fun with a guy alone. First time she’d played alone.. dropped her off at his flat and picked her up. It was a long held fantasy that really worked for us (she phoned me in the middle and left the phone in the side). We were quite keen to have it as a semi regular thing but then noticed an exchange he’d had on twitter about how he could never let his wife or girlfriend do the same. We never met him again because of the double standard but you live and learn. "

Another friendship killed by social media

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wife had fun with a guy alone. First time she’d played alone.. dropped her off at his flat and picked her up. It was a long held fantasy that really worked for us (she phoned me in the middle and left the phone in the side). We were quite keen to have it as a semi regular thing but then noticed an exchange he’d had on twitter about how he could never let his wife or girlfriend do the same. We never met him again because of the double standard but you live and learn. "

Not double standards, you're swingers and he's not, he's purely in it for the sex. Nothing more, nothing less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how many couples have been contacted by single guys who come away with a variation of this comment?

It makes us laugh encountering these sorts of attitudes on a swinger site but I guess we are not surprised.

As for me I am not only happy to let her but I actually get a huge thrill watching her enjoy opening her legs for another guy or kissing another woman

Some people use it as a swingers site and some as a sex site in between relationships.

I for one as a single male have no issue with having sex with someone's wife with the husbands blessing and have never judged a couple for being swingers. They get to live the swinger lifestyle and I get to have sex...Happy days.

That said, I don't class myself as a true swinger and just don't have the mindset to let my future or past girlfriends have sex with other men.

I don't really get what the OP is getting at here. Are you suggesting that single men, when eventually married should be happy to swing with their wives?

"

I dont get why you used the word 'let'

Guess we're all different, huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife fucks loads of men and we love every minute of it x "
. Good on you you guys, if you’re both happy then why not !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wife had fun with a guy alone. First time she’d played alone.. dropped her off at his flat and picked her up. It was a long held fantasy that really worked for us (she phoned me in the middle and left the phone in the side). We were quite keen to have it as a semi regular thing but then noticed an exchange he’d had on twitter about how he could never let his wife or girlfriend do the same. We never met him again because of the double standard but you live and learn.

Not double standards, you're swingers and he's not, he's purely in it for the sex. Nothing more, nothing less."

It may be a case that as swingers, they feel more comfortable playing with men who are also swingers. That how we feel. We find we deviate towards the men who’ve chosen swinging as a lifestyle choice, and avoid those who are in a stop gap between relationships. I mean we’re just not going to be on the same wavelength with the latter.

Mrs

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}

Are milkmen still a thing?

I though they disappeared around the time VHS arrived."

Yep I'm a taxi driver and the milkman is always blocking top of my road when im trying to get home at 4ish in rhe morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how many couples have been contacted by single guys who come away with a variation of this comment?

It makes us laugh encountering these sorts of attitudes on a swinger site but I guess we are not surprised.

As for me I am not only happy to let her but I actually get a huge thrill watching her enjoy opening her legs for another guy or kissing another woman

Some people use it as a swingers site and some as a sex site in between relationships.

I for one as a single male have no issue with having sex with someone's wife with the husbands blessing and have never judged a couple for being swingers. They get to live the swinger lifestyle and I get to have sex...Happy days.

That said, I don't class myself as a true swinger and just don't have the mindset to let my future or past girlfriends have sex with other men.

I don't really get what the OP is getting at here. Are you suggesting that single men, when eventually married should be happy to swing with their wives?

I dont get why you used the word 'let'

Guess we're all different, huh?"

Because that's what the op used as the title!

Let's stop splitting hairs and say condone then shall we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife fucks loads of men and we love every minute of it x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how many couples have been contacted by single guys who come away with a variation of this comment?

It makes us laugh encountering these sorts of attitudes on a swinger site but I guess we are not surprised.

As for me I am not only happy to let her but I actually get a huge thrill watching her enjoy opening her legs for another guy or kissing another woman

Some people use it as a swingers site and some as a sex site in between relationships.

I for one as a single male have no issue with having sex with someone's wife with the husbands blessing and have never judged a couple for being swingers. They get to live the swinger lifestyle and I get to have sex...Happy days.

That said, I don't class myself as a true swinger and just don't have the mindset to let my future or past girlfriends have sex with other men.

I don't really get what the OP is getting at here. Are you suggesting that single men, when eventually married should be happy to swing with their wives?

I dont get why you used the word 'let'

Guess we're all different, huh?

Because that's what the op used as the title!

Let's stop splitting hairs and say condone then shall we?"

Yeah

Lets agree to differ

We're all different

Luckily

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Been asked the same many times some cant accept its fun for all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was in a swinging reationship, I'd be encouraging my OH to meet new people all the time! Would be a massive turn on.

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By *iveshowcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

To make it clear I find 2 things objectionable about receiving this kind of comment.

Firstly the assumption that my wife is some kind of property. That I decide to let other guys fuck her and swinging is entirely the decision of the man.

Second the guy making this sort of comment is saying he has no respect for me as he would never allow another bloke near his wife. A territorial kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would depend on the person's tone, either man or woman. If they said it like it was a bad thing to have sex with other people, while you're in a relationship, I wouldn't want them near me, or my partner.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}

Not all wives have to fuck more than one man. "

Just pointing out an obvious possible irony to the OP.

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By *iveshowcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"{Meanwhile wife of bloke who wouldn't let his wife do that is shagging window cleaner/milkman/work colleague behind his back!}

Not all wives have to fuck more than one man.

Just pointing out an obvious possible irony to the OP."

Thanks for that. I always appreciate help pointing out irony.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised to have not read anything on here so far that matches my own personal outlook and I believe that of my wives.

We are in this as a couple, as we are here as much for the social side of things as the sexual.

We've met with couples/group and are both very comfortable with eachother playing.

A part of this really is the social side of things, the getting to know folk, the drinks and chat before and after etc.

To us and probably more myself I just perceive the whole concept of inviting a single bloke round to have sex with the missus awkward.

Yes the sexual part of it would be fun, as it is when we meet in a club or with a couple, but the before and after just wouldn't be fun in our belief.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Ha ha there are plenty of single guys who don't understand or would never be keen to let their GF or Wife fuck other men. Many or even most would of course be very happy if their future GF or Wife suggested bringing another girl in for some FFM fun.

This is basically all about male insecurity.

Clearly swinging as a couple is not for everyone (nor should it be). However, the hypocrisy is rife and as a poster says above, we need to remember many men on here (probably women too) use sites like this for casual adventurous sex between relationships but would consider doing it as a couple. They are clearly not swingers!

It takes a LOT of self confidence and belief/trust in the strength of your relationship to do swinging. It can greatly enhance but is also dangerous (which is part of the thrill).

As a couple we have really pushed boundaries to find out where our limits are. Everything we have done is through mutual agreeement even down to a handful of adventures she had alone inc overnight (and found her limit!)

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By *tuartsCelloCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"My wife fucks loads of men and we love every minute of it x . Good on you you guys, if you’re both happy then why not !"

And we don't care what anyone thinks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha ha there are plenty of single guys who don't understand or would never be keen to let their GF or Wife fuck other men. Many or even most would of course be very happy if their future GF or Wife suggested bringing another girl in for some FFM fun.

This is basically all about male insecurity.

Clearly swinging as a couple is not for everyone (nor should it be). However, the hypocrisy is rife and as a poster says above, we need to remember many men on here (probably women too) use sites like this for casual adventurous sex between relationships but would consider doing it as a couple. They are clearly not swingers!

It takes a LOT of self confidence and belief/trust in the strength of your relationship to do swinging. It can greatly enhance but is also dangerous (which is part of the thrill).

As a couple we have really pushed boundaries to find out where our limits are. Everything we have done is through mutual agreeement even down to a handful of adventures she had alone inc overnight (and found her limit!)"

Do you do things overnight with women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how many couples have been contacted by single guys who come away with a variation of this comment?

It makes us laugh encountering these sorts of attitudes on a swinger site but I guess we are not surprised.

"

tbh, I’m surprised by many of the comments, ranting ‘rules’, etc. on people’s profiles (we all have preferences, likes, dislikes and boundaries, of course).

I assumed this site would be very Bohemian and hedonistic, embracing each other’s similarities and differences - but that was clearly pretty naive of me.

Really sorry to hear people have received such negative comments from others - we all have our reasons for being here: "You can't understand someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes."

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I understand what the op is saying. However sometimes you have to bite your tongue. Especially if you want to meet guys of differing ethnic backgrounds.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I understand what the op is saying. However sometimes you have to bite your tongue. Especially if you want to meet guys of differing ethnic backgrounds."

why?

i think it is a mindset thing in that you either "get it" or you don't....

I wouldn't compromise myself and my standard to play with someone who i thought didn't "get it"....

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"I understand what the op is saying. However sometimes you have to bite your tongue. Especially if you want to meet guys of differing ethnic backgrounds.

why?

i think it is a mindset thing in that you either "get it" or you don't....

I wouldn't compromise myself and my standard to play with someone who i thought didn't "get it"....

"

Totally agree

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Ha ha there are plenty of single guys who don't understand or would never be keen to let their GF or Wife fuck other men. Many or even most would of course be very happy if their future GF or Wife suggested bringing another girl in for some FFM fun.

This is basically all about male insecurity.

Clearly swinging as a couple is not for everyone (nor should it be). However, the hypocrisy is rife and as a poster says above, we need to remember many men on here (probably women too) use sites like this for casual adventurous sex between relationships but would consider doing it as a couple. They are clearly not swingers!

It takes a LOT of self confidence and belief/trust in the strength of your relationship to do swinging. It can greatly enhance but is also dangerous (which is part of the thrill).

As a couple we have really pushed boundaries to find out where our limits are. Everything we have done is through mutual agreeement even down to a handful of adventures she had alone inc overnight (and found her limit!)

Do you do things overnight with women?"

We haven't but that is because I (Mr) am not interested in trying that. You have to both want to try something or share a fantasy for it to work or be exciting.

And anyway, if we are playing with another woman I prefer to be greedy and have them both there

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I would always leave that decision to her as long as she honest with me she is welcome to have a female lover or more male experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's a bad thing. The way I approach things as a single person is different to how I would be in a relationship.

I don't see why it's a problem to enjoy joining couples as a third but not want that for yourself, the role you are playing in each scenario is different, one appeals, one doesn't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't think it's a bad thing. The way I approach things as a single person is different to how I would be in a relationship.

I don't see why it's a problem to enjoy joining couples as a third but not want that for yourself, the role you are playing in each scenario is different, one appeals, one doesn't. "

I think it depends how it's expressed. Its frequently implied that the couple who swing are in some way less than the single person who wouldn't swing. Either the man isn't enough for the woman or the woman is promiscuous in a bad way. Thats when I have a problem. If on the other hand they clearly just don't understand the difference between love, sex and ownership and therefore can't envisage ever being part of a swinging couple or it's just not what they want for themselves, it's fine by me.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I don't think it's a bad thing. The way I approach things as a single person is different to how I would be in a relationship.

I don't see why it's a problem to enjoy joining couples as a third but not want that for yourself, the role you are playing in each scenario is different, one appeals, one doesn't.

I think it depends how it's expressed. Its frequently implied that the couple who swing are in some way less than the single person who wouldn't swing. Either the man isn't enough for the woman or the woman is promiscuous in a bad way. Thats when I have a problem. If on the other hand they clearly just don't understand the difference between love, sex and ownership and therefore can't envisage ever being part of a swinging couple or it's just not what they want for themselves, it's fine by me. "

Exactly, it's not the theory that's the problem, it's the practice.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I understand what the op is saying. However sometimes you have to bite your tongue. Especially if you want to meet guys of differing ethnic backgrounds.

why?

i think it is a mindset thing in that you either "get it" or you don't....

I wouldn't compromise myself and my standard to play with someone who i thought didn't "get it"....

"

I think its cultural. Especially with ethnic guys. I don't think they want to see white men in their wives.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I understand what the op is saying. However sometimes you have to bite your tongue. Especially if you want to meet guys of differing ethnic backgrounds.

why?

i think it is a mindset thing in that you either "get it" or you don't....

I wouldn't compromise myself and my standard to play with someone who i thought didn't "get it"....

I think its cultural. Especially with ethnic guys. I don't think they want to see white men in their wives. "

By ethnic, you mean black don't you?

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I think its cultural. Especially with ethnic guys. I don't think they want to see white men in their wives. "

Well we're delighted to explode that particular generalisation!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I think its cultural. Especially with ethnic guys. I don't think they want to see white men in their wives.

Well we're delighted to explode that particular generalisation!"

Now that's interesting as well. I've met a few couples with black guys and white ladies who love to swing with all! But only one black couple so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make it clear I find 2 things objectionable about receiving this kind of comment.

Firstly the assumption that my wife is some kind of property. That I decide to let other guys fuck her and swinging is entirely the decision of the man.

Second the guy making this sort of comment is saying he has no respect for me as he would never allow another bloke near his wife. A territorial kind of thing."

The very fact that he says it to you is incredibly disrespectful.

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