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By *ad Behaviour OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry

So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with this thread. Have a look at others relating to the queen of spades tattoos.

Many people see this as racist.

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really "

I think it’s the ‘spades’ thing.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really "

Yes of course !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really "

It's the term that is racist, it's basically the white female declaring herself as using black men as sex slaves. The term queen of spades is derogatory towards black men. It is like saying the female is better than the black Man. ..she is a Queen but he is just a spade (shovel) for shovelling Shit. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely for women into the swinging lifestyle it would be more relevant to have a club on your bum or wherever it's going, then you'd be the queen of clubs.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"Good luck with this thread. Have a look at others relating to the queen of spades tattoos.

Many people see this as racist. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really

It's the term that is racist, it's basically the white female declaring herself as using black men as sex slaves. The term queen of spades is derogatory towards black men. It is like saying the female is better than the black Man. ..she is a Queen but he us just a spade (shovel) for shovelling Shit. X "

Couldn't have said it better myself this is why I'm not a fan of the Queen of Spades Tattoo. Also the thought of being fetishized is a bit off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really "

Because someone likes black men makes them instantly not racist???

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really

It's the term that is racist, it's basically the white female declaring herself as using black men as sex slaves. The term queen of spades is derogatory towards black men. It is like saying the female is better than the black Man. ..she is a Queen but he us just a spade (shovel) for shovelling Shit. X

Couldn't have said it better myself this is why I'm not a fan of the Queen of Spades Tattoo. Also the thought of being fetishized is a bit off putting."

I find a lot of interracial porn difficult to watch because of the fetishizing of the male stars. I find they don't help any social integration cause when they keep referring to themselves as 'big n***** dick' etc. Which just reinforces certain stereotypes.

Even though I do like to hear people enjoying themselves I have to hit the mute button as I find it really cringeworthy.

Sorry if that's a bit off topic..

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Certain types of people use them to attract certain types. Other types of people use them as a filter to avoid the afore mentioned.

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By *ampolCouple
over a year ago

Stevenage

As a black guy, I don’t find this racist at all, and have never heard of this until now.. just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really

Because someone likes black men makes them instantly not racist???"

Exactly. Slave masters loved black slaves, especially strong ‘specimens’, and women to do domestics and for non consensual sex.

Queen= self explanatory really.

Spades, (black men) = even worse.

Yep. I’d call that racist.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"So even a white gal who like putting out for black guys can be called a racist .... really

Because someone likes black men makes them instantly not racist???

Exactly. Slave masters loved black slaves, especially strong ‘specimens’, and women to do domestics and for non consensual sex.

Queen= self explanatory really.

Spades, (black men) = even worse.

Yep. I’d call that racist. "

In America they used to have slave breeding programs. They bred for bigger stronger workers in the fields as well as raping the pretty females to get lighter skinned house slaves.

Bad times..

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman
over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire


"So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together"

Question is, are you still getting one after being informed of the origin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together

Question is, are you still getting one after being informed of the origin?"

Good question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck with this thread. Have a look at others relating to the queen of spades tattoos.

Many people see this as racist. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading this thread i might get the white cliffs of Dover tattooed on my forehead

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together

Question is, are you still getting one after being informed of the origin?

Good question "

To be fair the OPs question wasn’t about her tattoo, rather what her husband can get to symbolise the same. I’m sure someone must have some ideas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together

Question is, are you still getting one after being informed of the origin?

Good question

To be fair the OPs question wasn’t about her tattoo, rather what her husband can get to symbolise the same. I’m sure someone must have some ideas "

KKK..... I’m thinking.... er..... nothings springing to mind.

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester


"So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together

Question is, are you still getting one after being informed of the origin?

Good question

To be fair the OPs question wasn’t about her tattoo, rather what her husband can get to symbolise the same. I’m sure someone must have some ideas "

Maybe the Jack? I’m sure most women and couples who use this haven’t the least notion that it might be offensive to some- just trying to show what they appreciate! And the ones I’ve seen are far from intending any suggestion that they might be superior in some way to black guys - if anything , the reverse.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together

Question is, are you still getting one after being informed of the origin?

Good question

To be fair the OPs question wasn’t about her tattoo, rather what her husband can get to symbolise the same. I’m sure someone must have some ideas

Maybe the Jack? I’m sure most women and couples who use this haven’t the least notion that it might be offensive to some- just trying to show what they appreciate! And the ones I’ve seen are far from intending any suggestion that they might be superior in some way to black guys - if anything , the reverse. "

Well I suppose if we’re sticking with the playing card theme, then joker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner is black. I'm not going to lie it does make me uncomfortable that people are OK with this. At best it's naive stupidity.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"My partner is black. I'm not going to lie it does make me uncomfortable that people are OK with this. At best it's naive stupidity. "

Fetishism brings acceptability to some. I personally work on the theory that if it has potential to offend, don’t use it. Unless of course that person owns the name themselves of course. There are plenty who use and accept for themselves other things like ni88er or BBC. I have the same theory for that too - another helpful filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get the battle of Stalingrad across your back

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester


"To be fair the OPs question wasn’t about her tattoo, rather what her husband can get to symbolise the same. I’m sure someone must have some ideas "

Maybe a Swastika with the Jamaican flag colours and Spade logo in the centre!

All joking aside, the QoS logo does unfortunately come with negative baggage relating to racism. However, it's history and as I discovered, is a little perplex.

Personally, I find it distasteful but we're fortunate enough to live in a country that allows for freedom of speech and expression and so long as you believe the tattoo is right for you then go ahead. Just be willing to stand by your guns when required do so.

Do What Thou Wilt - Aleister Crowley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet for next year's subtle hint they will be walking around with a hugggeeeeeee billboard saying.I LIKE BLACK MEN

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester


"I bet for next year's subtle hint they will be walking around with a hugggeeeeeee billboard saying.I LIKE BLACK MEN "

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By *kylar95jack83Couple
over a year ago

coventry

To me it’s based on a fetish no different to BBW. milfs. Blondes. Big boobs Asian girls. As long as people aren’t degraded then it’s harmless fun.

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By *uckoldDesiresMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together"

Always thought the Jack of Spades to be the male equivalent for a tattoo

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"To me it’s based on a fetish no different to BBW. milfs. Blondes. Big boobs Asian girls. As long as people aren’t degraded then it’s harmless fun. "

BBC is a fetish term. Spade is not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me it’s based on a fetish no different to BBW. milfs. Blondes. Big boobs Asian girls. As long as people aren’t degraded then it’s harmless fun.

BBC is a fetish term. Spade is not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugely derogatory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if someone puts there preference on a profile as they prefer white it's classed as racist

But if someone has a ace of spades tattoo on there skin it's totally fine.

All these pc world double standards really confuse me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe, just maybe the OP didnt know the significance of the QoS tattoo. After all she said "This lifestyle" not I like fucking black guys. Just a thought!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if someone puts there preference on a profile as they prefer white it's classed as racist

But if someone has a ace of spades tattoo on there skin it's totally fine.

All these pc world double standards really confuse me "

It's not double standards to expect someone not to use derogatory terms. It's fine to state a preference for white or black. It is not cool to use racist words in doing so. I am with a black guy and I would never use the word spade in reference to him or his colour.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"So if someone puts there preference on a profile as they prefer white it's classed as racist

But if someone has a ace of spades tattoo on there skin it's totally fine.

All these pc world double standards really confuse me

It's not double standards to expect someone not to use derogatory terms. It's fine to state a preference for white or black. It is not cool to use racist words in doing so. I am with a black guy and I would never use the word spade in reference to him or his colour. "

Sometimes it seems so hard to explain. But actually I think you just hit the nail on the head

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Hm...

The Urban Dictionary has two definitions of this term. One is "a woman who dates only black men".

I know of (quite thoughtful and intelligent) black men who have as their Fab names "Ace of Spades" and "Jack of Spades".

The main origin of the term is in card games. Poker players often use these symbols.

Finally, just two bonus names: Pushkin and Tchaikovsky.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I never understand why these 'Queen of Spades' are always married to white guts.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"I never understand why these 'Queen of Spades' are always married to white guts. "

According to the Urban Dictionary, they are sometimes not married to anyone, although we are all aware that dating often results in marriage.

But then you are probably right that it is usually the ones married to white guys that actually get the tattoo.

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By *iGuy4U10Man
over a year ago

plymouth devon


"So I'm off to get a little queen of spades tattoo, thing is what tattoo does my husband (male version) get to show we are both into this life style together"
he should get the jack of spades to show he is submissive to black guys and girls I’m also into this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Racist...utter rubbish,

Only the white snowflakes think it is ...oooh could snowflakes be racist lol

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By *iGuy4U10Man
over a year ago

plymouth devon


"Racist...utter rubbish,

Only the white snowflakes think it is ...oooh could snowflakes be racist lol"

Agree totally I have black friends I play with regular as their jack of spades and there is nothing racist in it at all just friends having fun

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"Good luck with this thread. Have a look at others relating to the queen of spades tattoos.

Many people see this as racist. "
definitely

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