FabSwingers.com forum: Are straight couples scared of male profiles that say bi-curious?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wanted to get an opinion of couples profiles when they say looking for single men.

I would not class myself as bi but i am curious and would love to meet a couple to play with just as a straight threesome but because i have put im curious does that put people off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it puts some people off. For many reasons.

Some will love bi men though.

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By *WKinkMan
over a year ago

Bury

It’s been said before but there should be a ‘Fab Straight’ option for those who aren’t squeamish about getting up close and personal but are not interested in doing things with men. For example DP

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By *iveshowcoupleCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Scared is the wrong way to describe it I believe.

You are after all on fab to fulfil your fantasies.

So is everyone. It's just that for many couples the fantasy doesn't actually involve bi guys. Since there are multitudes of totally straight guys to choose from why would they need to compromise their fantasy.

I know my wife doesn't get remotely turned on by the thought of being shared with a bi guy.

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By *urreycpl69Couple
over a year ago

Louth

Whenever we see a profile which says bi curious it scares us shitless. We have to run away and hide and question why these weirdos would join a swingers site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We avoid bi curious guys in case they get carried away in the moment. It's our preference but we've been given a hard time for it by a couple. It's disappointing as we're not judging the individuals preferences it's just not for us, why should we be judged for our preferences?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Just imagine if there were bi guys on here that didn’t say so on their profiles.

Just imagine if they barebacked.

Just imagine if these guys had medical issues.

Meanwhile back in the fluffy wuffy world of fab utopia.

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By *iveshowcoupleCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"We avoid bi curious guys in case they get carried away in the moment. It's our preference but we've been given a hard time for it by a couple. It's disappointing as we're not judging the individuals preferences it's just not for us, why should we be judged for our preferences?"

That has actually happened to us.

In the middle of a threesome with a "straight" guy he suddenly leaned over and without warning wrapped his mouth around my cock. My wife thought the look of utter astonishment on my face was hilarious and burst out laughing. My erection instantly vanished and the guy stormed out in a huff.

And that was the evening finished.

In retrospect I can appreciate why my wife found it so funny but for sure it's an experience neither of us wish to repeat.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Carried away in the moment?

Perhaps you should be more careful in selecting people, who are able to understand limits and have self control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it. If they get offended they aren't for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carried away in the moment?

Perhaps you should be more careful in selecting people, who are able to understand limits and have self control. "

So you're saying that if someone is assaulted it's their own fault? Brilliant!!

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Gomez & I have played with a couple of different bi guys, although he is straight.

Bi guys are more than capable of playing straight, so as long as boundaries are understood beforehand, it’s not a problem.

Everyone will have personal preferences. Some will rule out bi guys, some won’t mind.

Good luck OP - hope you find what you’re looking for! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes, cause bi guys can’t control themselves?!

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I was commenting on the fact that the post I replied to seemed to think that bi guys don't respect limits or understand consent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe i didnt explain myself very well on the original post and i dont want people to fall out or argue.

All i wanted to ask was i am a bi curious man very inexperienced but open to suggestion, by not putting bi curious on my profile i feel it would be deceptive and dishonest.

However because i have put that does it put women and couples off even though im only curious.

Sorry for any confussion

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I was commenting on the fact that the post I replied to seemed to think that bi guys don't respect limits or understand consent.

It’s like going back 50 years when if a gay guy came out / was outed, other guys would assume he’d be after them. Generalisation much!!

No people that assault other people shouldn’t be stereotyped by their sexual preferences. It is possible to be non straight and stay within the confines of the law.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Maybe i didnt explain myself very well on the original post and i dont want people to fall out or argue.

All i wanted to ask was i am a bi curious man very inexperienced but open to suggestion, by not putting bi curious on my profile i feel it would be deceptive and dishonest.

However because i have put that does it put women and couples off even though im only curious.

Sorry for any confussion"

It will put some people off and will actually attract others, the balance is about equal and the guys that hide their sexuality are actually deluding themselves if they think that by doing so it will open more doors - while it may mean some people would now consider meeting them - there's just as many that wouldn't meet them because they're looking for bi guys.

Be true to yourself and what you are looking for OP - if someone doesn't want to meet you because you are bi/bi curious then they weren't the right person for you anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe i didnt explain myself very well on the original post and i dont want people to fall out or argue.

All i wanted to ask was i am a bi curious man very inexperienced but open to suggestion, by not putting bi curious on my profile i feel it would be deceptive and dishonest.

However because i have put that does it put women and couples off even though im only curious.

Sorry for any confussion

Be true to yourself and what you are looking for OP - if someone doesn't want to meet you because you are bi/bi curious then they weren't the right person for you anyway

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

As a bi guy I have never once jumped on a guy in the moment , rules and preferences are generally agreed before hand just like any other meet.

We don’t have any problems with people that don’t meet bi guys or bi females. We are honest about who we are somtheres never any problems

Beards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldnt chat

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s choices and preferences. I prefer to know that people don’t want bi guys so I can avoid contacting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It bothers us not! We know what and who we are. There are plenty of '100% straight, like a ruler' guys who appear almost bi-phobic. Their eagerness to proclaim their anxiety is most amusing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to get an opinion of couples profiles when they say looking for single men.

I would not class myself as bi but i am curious and would love to meet a couple to play with just as a straight threesome but because i have put im curious does that put people off?"

It certainly puts us off. We wont play at all with bi or bi-curious men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s some narrow minded people on here for a swingers site.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just wanted to get an opinion of couples profiles when they say looking for single men.

I would not class myself as bi but i am curious and would love to meet a couple to play with just as a straight threesome but because i have put im curious does that put people off?

It certainly puts us off. We wont play at all with bi or bi-curious men."

Amusingly though, as intimated in various forum threads - a lot of bi men don’t say they are - they label themselves as straight, so you may already have had sex with a bisexual man and not know about it. When a man is bicurious, it means they are straight and yet to have (if ever) a man to man sex session.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"There’s some narrow minded people on here for a swingers site. "
which is interesting considering how thick some of them are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a discussion on this topic just the the other night. We are both bi, but we play straight too. It’s stated on our profile too.

The way we see it is, if you are interested in us then you would of read our profile fully. We have been on the scene for about 5 years now and have loads of straight and bi friends. MrJ has never accidentally jumped on anyone either lol. You also have to ask yourself why it’s more “socially acceptable” for ladies to be bi than guys?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Fully accept (and respect) people's preferences when it comes to not meeting bi guys, so long as those preferences are not based on bigotry of any kind.

I do find it odd when fear of the male being pounced on is held up as a reason though - not saying it doesn't happen, any more than unsavoury actions some straight men take happen, but would think the majority of bi men are respectful of boundaries just as the majority of straight men are. I certainly would never dream of overstepping a boundary regardless of whether that were part of straight or bi play.

Bi male play does seem to be the last great taboo in clubs etc with it being frowned on at most clubs unless on a specified Bi Night, whereas bi female play is almost expected on any given night. How that changes I don't know, comes down to acceptance and tolerance on the part of the straight community I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to get an opinion of couples profiles when they say looking for single men.

I would not class myself as bi but i am curious and would love to meet a couple to play with just as a straight threesome but because i have put im curious does that put people off?"

Doesn’t put us off, we would want to chat first with the Male though to see what they were after, if it wasn’t for us nothing lost!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just imagine if there were bi guys on here that didn’t say so on their profiles.

Just imagine if they barebacked.

Just imagine if these guys had medical issues.

Meanwhile back in the fluffy wuffy world of fab utopia."

This made me laugh cos this is exactly how we think . Hubby is totally straight but very comfortable with his sexuality so therefore happy and comfortable around guys . We don't have an issue meeting bi guys although it's not something we would look for but as long as they know the boundaries and don't get carried away ....just as I wouldn't meeting a straight lady....it's all about respect .

We know for a fact that alot are on fab as straight and have other profiles on fab guys lol . Xx

Mrs xx

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Just imagine if there were bi guys on here that didn’t say so on their profiles.

Just imagine if they barebacked.

Just imagine if these guys had medical issues.

Meanwhile back in the fluffy wuffy world of fab utopia.

We know for a fact that alot are on fab as straight and have other profiles on fab guys lol . Xx

Mrs xx "

I was intrigued how people who bareback run a mile from a bicurious profile. I would suggest to anyone so anti bi men, to change your profile sexuality to both being bi and see how many straight guys approach you for bi Male oral, wanking, fucking etc. Minds will be blown

I have no qualms with anyone not wishing to meet us for whatever reason, though some people’s wording and tone do leave me wondering what century we are in

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

Not afraid at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you are straight swingers couple or woman who have had quite a few meets then the chances are you have been with a bi guy ..simple as same with those that say the wont fuck married men yet go to clubs to have fun lol been swinging 20 plus years and have never heard anyone ask a man if hes str8 or married...never ... same with dogging and general meets

oh excuse me but before we go in to the room for fun are you married or bi ..the bi married guy said no of course not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turning this completely on it's head, there are many "straight" men from couples profiles who contact me for discreet sex as they don't want their other halves knowing they are Bi. I don't have an issue with this and happy to help out. Just putting a bit of context on it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bi guy in a bi couple I can honestly say that I have never been into "conversion jobs."

I can think of nothing less appealing that trying to play bi with a straight guy. Much rather we both focus our attention on Blondie.

The joke is that in the nearly 4 years we've been in the scene we have only had 4 or 5 meets that we about bimale play. The vast majority of our meets are with straight couples and our bisexuality doesn't even factor.

In fact we only have it in our profile because we want to be 100 % honest with any potential meets and because of our party hosting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet bi guys. No way they would be able to resist Mr's wee perfect ass x

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

We like to look at verifications that people who don’t meet bi guys (because they may catch something or get carried away ) have and then wait to see which of those verifications then message us asking for a threesome . Then we snigger to ourselves .

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By *eeroybrownMan
over a year ago

aldershot

Isn't the idea of being bi-curious just that (that you're interested in 'engaging' with the same sex).

My profile is bi-curious as I have a genuine interest (although my bottom is WAY to small to take more than a finger #pegging

As a bi-curious bloke though, I couldn't 'engage' with another guy without the heterosexual element of a lady being involved somewhere.

And I certainly have more than enough self control and respect to not grab/suck/waggle whatever comes to hand - be that a willy, clit, tongue or scrotum. Isn't that euphemism for the R or A word?

As for the bareback thing. Yikes! Have you not seen the late night adverts targeted at teens?!

(none of that is meant to cause offence so sorry if it has)

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By *i4bicplsMan
over a year ago

Darwen

I find it ironic that couples with a bi female object to meeting bi guys. And assuming that bi guys are automatically unsafe is just plain prejudice.

I always play safe, whether that's in a bi or straight scenario. And I assume most others do to, so as to avoid anything nasty.

But hey, each to their own.. Just have fun without trying to insult, offend or hurt anyone.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Whenever we see a profile which says bi curious it scares us shitless. We have to run away and hide and question why these weirdos would join a swingers site..."

So they can spread their diseases to everyone probably

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"We like to look at verifications that people who don’t meet bi guys (because they may catch something or get carried away ) have and then wait to see which of those verifications then message us asking for a threesome . Then we snigger to ourselves .

Anyone who seriously wants to avoid those walking bags of aids should setup a fake profile and set the male half to bi and then message prospective meets from that profile. Their poor little world would come crashing down.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Not scared just not for us. Don't bother about people not interested... very negative!!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

There will always be judgemental folk (as clearly demonstrated on this and numerous threads regarding bi guys).

People prefer honesty and do you really want to play with ignorant people?

Just do you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the problem is some people don’t believe that men can be bi....

But women can be bi without question....

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By *awkins214Man
over a year ago

bexleyheath

What happens in the heat of the moment doesn't really matter I'M HOME.

Ive had my dick sucked my a tv and loved it, it was the vibe over the lines we've been taught.

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

Yes

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By *cot611Man
over a year ago

carterton

"What happens in the heat of the moment doesn't really matter I'M HOME.

Ive had my dick sucked my a tv and loved it, it was the vibe over the lines we've been taught.

exactly that!! be open minded and enjoy what feels right at the time.

you really dont know if you like something until youve tried it.

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By *ykmwyldTV/TS
over a year ago

Belpre

The facts are, a vast majority of the men that list themselves as straight on their profiles are bi, and a vast majority of the men left are bi curious.

There are Very Very few truly straight men, straight women, whether they are married or not, or couples, for that matter. Opportunity breeds experimentation, that is a fact ! Just have fun and don't worry about the hidden desires that others have, or the ones that you have yourself, it could be Very enlightening for you, lol.

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

What a load of poppy cock. Hasn’t anybody heard of the term boundaries, surely they are discussed during your chat? We lay out boundaries and ask if there are any boundaries we have to adhere to. Know wonder people get caught off guard.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve met straight couples before and they both knew I was bi and guess what? Absolutely no man to man sex took place. I’m quite capable of keeping myself to myself. It’s a bit of a laugh if a straight guy was worried I’d touch him - 9/10, I’d say they were delusional that they thought their body was attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought ‘Fab straight’ was guys who claim to be straight but fuck TV/TS and let guys suck there cock?

"It’s been said before but there should be a ‘Fab Straight’ option for those who aren’t squeamish about getting up close and personal but are not interested in doing things with men. For example DP"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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we do the exact same thing,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just make it clear before we meet that the Mr is straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It puts us off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It bothers us not! We know what and who we are. There are plenty of '100% straight, like a ruler' guys who appear almost bi-phobic. Their eagerness to proclaim their anxiety is most amusing!

We agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since coming on this site I allowed a couple of guys that played with us to suck my cock so I put down I was happy and curious but after declaring she loved watching my cock being sucked by another guy and suggested I try it too and so I did. As I like to reciprocate this now I then changed it to being bi. That doesn't mean I am going to jump on every guy we play with. Am not interested in just letting a guy fuck my beautiful wife without me being involved so it's bi singles and bi couples only for us from now on. Are we on the right site now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It very much puts us off.

On the one hand it is not for us and on the other hand there is the increased chance of STD's.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It very much puts us off.

On the one hand it is not for us and on the other hand there is the increased chance of STD's."

Not being for you is fair enough, although as others have said us bi men are able to recognise boundaries and respect them you know

However how do you get there's an increased chance of STI's? There's no statistical evidence to suggest that bi men are any more likely to have an STI than a straight guy.

In fact how do you even know the "straight" guy you agree to meet isn't actually "Fab straight" and plays with guys but isn't open about it?

I'm openly bisexual, get tested regularly and make sure I'm as informed as I can be about STI risks and like to take my time getting to know people and be reasonably comfortable they have the same attitudes towards responsible sexual health before I play with them. Am also comfortable and happy playing straight if that is what boundaries require.

All other things being equal would you rather meet me or a "straight" guy who may not get tested and may be hiding his actual sexuality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since coming on this site I allowed a couple of guys that played with us to suck my cock so I put down I was happy and curious but after declaring she loved watching my cock being sucked by another guy and suggested I try it too and so I did. As I like to reciprocate this now I then changed it to being bi. That doesn't mean I am going to jump on every guy we play with. Am not interested in just letting a guy fuck my beautiful wife without me being involved so it's bi singles and bi couples only for us from now on. Are we on the right site now.

Of course you are. It's down to personal preference. Not everyone is to others taste regardless of sexuality.

We're the same, only meet bi men and if we ever find them gbe elusive bi couple that matches what we want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think so there should be so much fuss about it. I feel there is a difference for being bi curious and bi sexual.

What if someone is just orally bi?

And morever, people who practice safe sex shouldnt be worried about catching something. Infact the vagina is more sort of den of nasty bacteria than the penis.

What is the guarantee that bi fem wont get infection from another bi fem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel funny that some use bisexual for woman with pride but think otherwise for a bi man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a discussion on this topic just the the other night. We are both bi, but we play straight too. It’s stated on our profile too.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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that sounds perfect

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I dont think so there should be so much fuss about it. I feel there is a difference for being bi curious and bi sexual.

What if someone is just orally bi?

And morever, people who practice safe sex shouldnt be worried about catching something. Infact the vagina is more sort of den of nasty bacteria than the penis.

What is the guarantee that bi fem wont get infection from another bi fem?

I think that would make a good thread title. The Vagina - a den of nastiness.

It makes me want to go wash mine out with bleach

But I can’t because then I’ll get B.V and then I’ll have a fishy fanny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I don’t get is some people won’t meet a couple with a bi male but will with a bi female but hypocritical really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you put them straight about what you are, and they respect that....that's fine in a couple to couple situation. Most are respectful of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as you put them straight about what you are, and they respect that....that's fine in a couple to couple situation. Most are respectful of you."

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"It very much puts us off.

On the one hand it is not for us and on the other hand there is the increased chance of STD's.

Not being for you is fair enough, although as others have said us bi men are able to recognise boundaries and respect them you know

However how do you get there's an increased chance of STI's? There's no statistical evidence to suggest that bi men are any more likely to have an STI than a straight guy.

In fact how do you even know the "straight" guy you agree to meet isn't actually "Fab straight" and plays with guys but isn't open about it?

All other things being equal would you rather meet me or a "straight" guy who may not get tested and may be hiding his actual sexuality?"

Sorry but that's just not true. HIV/ AIDs is more common in men who bum with other men. Therefore, if one could filter bum bandits from their swinging experiences then one would reduce ones risk, statistically speaking. At the individal level there are many safe and clean bi and gay men, many riddled straight men, but we're talking averages here.

The problem with saying "no bi guys" is that you tend to filter in favour of the deceptive 'fab straight' guys who are actually higher risk than the responsible bi ones who are perfectly able to respect boundaries and not cock a holics.

But that's their choice. Let's just be honest about the facts. The main reason people don't want to play with bi guys is the increased statistical risk, even though few admit it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nicely "put"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as you put them straight about what you are, and they respect that....that's fine in a couple to couple situation. Most are respectful of you.

Best to just go with people who are honest about themselves on there profile and you can't go wrong although too many people think they will miss out if they are honest. You don't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think so there should be so much fuss about it. I feel there is a difference for being bi curious and bi sexual.

What if someone is just orally bi?

And morever, people who practice safe sex shouldnt be worried about catching something. Infact the vagina is more sort of den of nasty bacteria than the penis.

What is the guarantee that bi fem wont get infection from another bi fem?

I think that would make a good thread title. The Vagina - a den of nastiness.

It makes me want to go wash mine out with bleach

But I can’t because then I’ll get B.V and then I’ll have a fishy fanny

You can start.

My fair point was if we practice safe sex, something catching up from bi men, doing straight sex shouldnt be a problem.

Like more bacteria reside in human mouth, its same for vagina. Thats simple anatomy for you. Nothing hideous about it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It very much puts us off.

On the one hand it is not for us and on the other hand there is the increased chance of STD's.

Not being for you is fair enough, although as others have said us bi men are able to recognise boundaries and respect them you know

However how do you get there's an increased chance of STI's? There's no statistical evidence to suggest that bi men are any more likely to have an STI than a straight guy.

In fact how do you even know the "straight" guy you agree to meet isn't actually "Fab straight" and plays with guys but isn't open about it?

All other things being equal would you rather meet me or a "straight" guy who may not get tested and may be hiding his actual sexuality?

But that's their choice. Let's just be honest about the facts. The main reason people don't want to play with bi guys is the increased statistical risk, even though few admit it. "

I'm sorry, but you lost any credibility with the somewhat juvenile and insulting term "bum bandits"!!

Whilst it's true that men who have sex with men are one of the higher risk groups for HIV, so are those that have promiscuously unprotected sex, and drug users, and when you consider people who swing have nothing other than their play partners word that they don't do any of those, it actually makes no difference whether they play with openly bi males or not - the ONLY way of mitigating/minimising the risk is practicing safe sex and regular testing - filtering out openly bi men won't, and is a rather naive view in my opinion.

Of course people are entitled to make their choice and I personally won't hold it against them or try and persuade them otherwise but will try and balance their view if it is somewhat naive in my opinion.

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over a year ago

To whom it was that said how do we know Bi Men are more likely to have an STI.

My Wife had unprotected Sex with a buddy and developed a rash that required a medical opinion.

The medical profession said; Was the Chap Bi or Gay? Was he from an African/Asian Country? To which my Wife replied No!

They then said, well it is highly unlikely that you have anything to worry about. They were correct as it turns out.

Given that the medical profession must see literally thousands and thousands of patients, who am I to query them! Their knowledge and expertise is probably greater than mine.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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"To whom it was that said how do we know Bi Men are more likely to have an STI.

My Wife had unprotected Sex with a buddy and developed a rash that required a medical opinion.

The medical profession said; Was the Chap Bi or Gay? Was he from an African/Asian Country? To which my Wife replied No!

They then said, well it is highly unlikely that you have anything to worry about. They were correct as it turns out.

Given that the medical profession must see literally thousands and thousands of patients, who am I to query them! Their knowledge and expertise is probably greater than mine.

Sorry but that's either lost something in translation or the health worker concerned was being incredibly irresponsible - there are no end of STIs (including HIV) that she "could" have caught irrespective of the sexuality or nationality of the person she had unprotected sex with, so to state it as "highly unlikely" in those terms is not correct at all - but great news for your wife, and indeed your friend, that it proved to be nothing.

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over a year ago

Oh if I had a pound for every straight guy that I have met/been messaged by I would be a wealthy boy!

STI's are not the exclusive domain of the Bi/gay guy you may be shocked to know!!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Oh if I had a pound for every straight guy that I have met/been messaged by I would be a wealthy boy!

STI's are not the exclusive domain of the Bi/gay guy you may be shocked to know!!"

You’re in a high risk group. And so am I for playing with bi guys. That said, there are other high risk groups that don’t get the same bad press.

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over a year ago

We are a Bi couple, it is on our profile and we also address the situation of straight/bi play on our profile.. I find it humorous.

There will be many people who won't meet us as Adam being Bi will disgust them or scare them. That's totally fine with us!

I find it rather funny as in a club, they wouldn't know we were bi?

We prefer people who are either Bi or straight but open minded in that they respect our sexual orientation and we respect their boundaries. We are more than happy to play straight and do so 80% of the time anyway.

Eve. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Higher risk group yes, but not exclusively so.

Agree with the "bad press" thing too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Eve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a Bi couple, it is on our profile and we also address the situation of straight/bi play on our profile.. I find it humorous.

There will be many people who won't meet us as Adam being Bi will disgust them or scare them. That's totally fine with us!

I find it rather funny as in a club, they wouldn't know we were bi?

Eve. x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why can't people just be open and honest about their sexualities - especially here - why would anyone who is bi WANT to claim to be straight and vice versa? Surely when you forst meet new partners you have discussed how you want to play - boundaries / safe words etc haven't You? If not - why not? I despair on here

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over a year ago

"We are a Bi couple, it is on our profile and we also address the situation of straight/bi play on our profile.. I find it humorous.

There will be many people who won't meet us as Adam being Bi will disgust them or scare them. That's totally fine with us!

I find it rather funny as in a club, they wouldn't know we were bi?

And what a gorgeous sexy bi couple you are - wish there were more like you

Eve. x"

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Why can't people just be open and honest about their sexualities - especially here - why would anyone who is bi WANT to claim to be straight and vice versa? Surely when you forst meet new partners you have discussed how you want to play - boundaries / safe words etc haven't You? If not - why not? I despair on here

The main (bit not only) reason that bi men on here claim to be straight is because they think it will increase their chances of meeting those who say they won't meet bi men - what they don't realise is that by doing so, not only are they being deceptive and if found out likely to have even less chance of meeting - but rather comically they are ruling themselves out of any meets with the roughly equal number of people that actively search for bi men!!

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over a year ago

"We are a Bi couple, it is on our profile and we also address the situation of straight/bi play on our profile.. I find it humorous.

There will be many people who won't meet us as Adam being Bi will disgust them or scare them. That's totally fine with us!

I find it rather funny as in a club, they wouldn't know we were bi?

And what a gorgeous sexy bi couple you are - wish there were more like you

Eve. x"
And what a gorgeous sexy bi couple you are - wish there were more like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always been open about it on here and actually don't bother with people who are clearly not bi guy friendly - why should I pander to their prejudice?

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over a year ago

"Whenever we see a profile which says bi curious it scares us shitless. We have to run away and hide and question why these weirdos would join a swingers site..."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always been open about it on here and actually don't bother with people who are clearly not bi guy friendly - why should I pander to their prejudice?

Please don’t confuse prejudice with personal choices....

If they denied you housing or employment because you’re bi ... that’s prejudice...

If they don’t want to have sex with you that’s making a personal choice of who someone gives their body too...

I’m not having a dig at you. But people tend to use the word prejudice in the wrong context far to often nowadays..

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

Bi and proud!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I have always been open about it on here and actually don't bother with people who are clearly not bi guy friendly - why should I pander to their prejudice?

I don't let other people's preferences bother me either, any more than those that prefer guys under a certain age, guys who are gym fit etc etc - and whilst "some" that won't meet bi guys clearly have a prejudice against them, it's not the case for all by any means.

Either way I'd rather focus on those whose preferences I do meet rather than worry about those whose I don't

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By *antasticMrFucksMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Not scared off I'm straight it says clearly on profile and if meeting to play straight then no problem in my eyes

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Not scared off I'm straight it says clearly on profile and if meeting to play straight then no problem in my eyes

We received a messsge this afternoon from a straight guys profile. He was enquiring about the possibility of having Sir fuck his ass.

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over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Whenever we see a profile which says bi curious it scares us shitless. We have to run away and hide and question why these weirdos would join a swingers site...

This

Lol

Pray tell, when you visit clubs how would you decipher the straight guys from the bi guys

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Whenever we see a profile which says bi curious it scares us shitless. We have to run away and hide and question why these weirdos would join a swingers site...

This

Lol

Pray tell, when you visit clubs how would you decipher the straight guys from the bi guys

Look for the limp wrists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever we see a profile which says bi curious it scares us shitless. We have to run away and hide and question why these weirdos would join a swingers site...

This

Lol

Pray tell, when you visit clubs how would you decipher the straight guys from the bi guys

Look for the limp wrists"

Had to check your profile to see that your tongue was firmly in your cheek when you posted that

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Whenever we see a profile which says bi curious it scares us shitless. We have to run away and hide and question why these weirdos would join a swingers site...

This

Lol

Pray tell, when you visit clubs how would you decipher the straight guys from the bi guys

Look for the limp wrists"

Nah, the bi guys are on the velvet couches sat amongst the plump velour cushions

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over a year ago

"Whenever we see a profile which says bi curious it scares us shitless. We have to run away and hide and question why these weirdos would join a swingers site...

This

Lol

Pray tell, when you visit clubs how would you decipher the straight guys from the bi guys

Look for the limp wrists

Nah, the bi guys are on the velvet couches sat amongst the plump velour cushions

And much better dressed

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Interesting fact, 90% of the guys who contact me are straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not scared at all just not for us ,Lincs has no problem being close to another guy for my pleasure at all,but not comfortable with other guys getting kicks or ideas on him

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Not scared at all just not for us ,Lincs has no problem being close to another guy for my pleasure at all,but not comfortable with other guys getting kicks or ideas on him "

Ditto here too.

We even go to a club on Bi night sometimes as we enjoy the more relaxed vibe and if the right ladies are there Mrs M may get to play.

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over a year ago

"It bothers us not! We know what and who we are. There are plenty of '100% straight, like a ruler' guys who appear almost bi-phobic. Their eagerness to proclaim their anxiety is most amusing!

Yes I agree. Have seen men described as 110% straight lol. Their fears leak out all over the profile. In the main we look for relaxed couples who are comfortable in their own skins and happy to share relaxed sexy meets.

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