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By *eraint33 OP   Man
over a year ago

uttoxeter

I'm just wondering why people do this. Deleted I get..not interested. Unread is exactly that. But what does read without a reply mean? Just curious to see if there's a consistent reason among forum users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you don't have time to give an immediate response. If one of us reads a message that interests us, we would want to show the other before answering

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Lots off reasons your not what they're looking for etc just move on xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thank you I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just wondering why people do this. Deleted I get..not interested. Unread is exactly that. But what does read without a reply mean? Just curious to see if there's a consistent reason among forum users."

Like on some social media sites - it annoys people, only reason i do it

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

We don't always delete. As a good rule of thumb, no reply within 24 hours means not interested.

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By *hyntravCouple
over a year ago

North Somerset

I have several I haven't answered yet, either cause I haven't had time or I really just don't know what to say lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they haven't replied, then it doesn't really matter does it? it's a good idea to delete your sent messages then you don't have to wonder about what's happened to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you rad and don’t reply because you don’t have time.. mean to reply later and then forget... or read not interested but just haven’t deleted!!

Whole list of reasons why unfortunately!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my case it usually means they will reply eventually..

But even so you arent entitled to a response anyway

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

For me it’s either not got time to reply or thinking about what to say - although I’ll usually mark as unread then.

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

We often don't reply. We only really reply when people respond to a meet we post . As our profile says we ain't looking unless a meet is posted but people still ask to meet . So not replying is the best way of answering the message

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Picture hunters or just on here to see how popular they think they are imo. Not interested should straight delete it’s not hard to do is it you just touch the delete button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Picture hunters or just on here to see how popular they think they are imo. Not interested should straight delete it’s not hard to do is it you just touch the delete button "

what does that have to do with the original question? completely different thing surely...

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

Why don’t you delete your sent messages straightaway and you won’t know whether they’ve don’t that? If you get a reply, then that’s a bonus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just messaged a “couple” that look at our profile everyday numerous times a day, they read and not replied so now they’ve been added to the block list lol

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By *d59michelleTV/TS
over a year ago

walsall

Read them then mark as unread they are none the wiser

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"Picture hunters or just on here to see how popular they think they are imo. Not interested should straight delete it’s not hard to do is it you just touch the delete button

what does that have to do with the original question? completely different thing surely..."

How can it be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if people dont reply to mine or not interested in meeting me then i just block them to save wasting there time again and bothering them

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"Read them then mark as unread they are none the wiser "

Why not just delete

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always imagine them to mean “Steve I want your body but I can’t today”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Picture hunters or just on here to see how popular they think they are imo. Not interested should straight delete it’s not hard to do is it you just touch the delete button

what does that have to do with the original question? completely different thing surely...

How can it be different "

the question was why do people leave messages read but not replied to...nothing to do with pic hunters at all..how is someone failing to reply to a message a pic hunter exactly? of course its different!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why look at sent messages?

If they reply great, if they don’t then move on. Don’t analyse why you aren’t getting a response...

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"Picture hunters or just on here to see how popular they think they are imo. Not interested should straight delete it’s not hard to do is it you just touch the delete button

what does that have to do with the original question? completely different thing surely...

How can it be different

the question was why do people leave messages read but not replied to...nothing to do with pic hunters at all..how is someone failing to reply to a message a pic hunter exactly? of course its different!"

Why not delete then. It’s not hard to do and it sends a clear no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Picture hunters or just on here to see how popular they think they are imo. Not interested should straight delete it’s not hard to do is it you just touch the delete button

what does that have to do with the original question? completely different thing surely...

How can it be different

the question was why do people leave messages read but not replied to...nothing to do with pic hunters at all..how is someone failing to reply to a message a pic hunter exactly? of course its different!

Why not delete then. It’s not hard to do and it sends a clear no. "

surely its up to them, not anyone else, when and why they delete or not....still has nothing to do with pic hunters and fantasits..no reply is a clear message too. If people choose to ignore that and prefer to worry pointlessly about something they cant control or predict that's their lookout.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"Picture hunters or just on here to see how popular they think they are imo. Not interested should straight delete it’s not hard to do is it you just touch the delete button

what does that have to do with the original question? completely different thing surely...

How can it be different

the question was why do people leave messages read but not replied to...nothing to do with pic hunters at all..how is someone failing to reply to a message a pic hunter exactly? of course its different!

Why not delete then. It’s not hard to do and it sends a clear no.

Why not delete it then lol. How hard is it really nope not interested but still going to keep your dm lol

surely its up to them, not anyone else, when and why they delete or not....still has nothing to do with pic hunters and fantasits..no reply is a clear message too. If people choose to ignore that and prefer to worry pointlessly about something they cant control or predict that's their lookout."

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By *4B SWING3RSCouple
over a year ago

Northants

For us, it means we are not looking atm but if we don't delete then we may be interested in the future....it saves getting into lengthy chat too early.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"For us, it means we are not looking atm but if we don't delete then we may be interested in the future....it saves getting into lengthy chat too early. "

That's how I regard my 'read but not deleted' sent messages - I hope that the recipient is keeping it with a view to getting in touch at a later date!

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mass delete when i can be bothered if i read a message im not interested in i move on to the next

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman
over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire

I might forget

I might be too busy at that moment to reply

But not deleted or blocked immediately is a positive lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just messaged a “couple” that look at our profile everyday numerous times a day, they read and not replied so now they’ve been added to the block list lol"

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier"

Why is it not respectable not to respond to a read message?

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We like to reply as a couple so I might read a message in the morning, show the mrs later on that night when we’ve sorted the little darlings out then decide if and what to reply. Sometimes it can wait until the next night because we have a life and it gets in the way a bit

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester


"I'm just wondering why people do this. Deleted I get..not interested. Unread is exactly that. But what does read without a reply mean? Just curious to see if there's a consistent reason among forum users."

You may just be a "pending". They've seen worse, but are hoping for something better to come along!

That's one part of FAB for you. Move on, nothing to see there.

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

Why is it not respectable not to respond to a read message?"

It doesn't take 2 mins to reply saying you're not interested. Common courtesy. But like I say, not every one is the same.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier"

We’ve had 90 messages in a day at times, some just saying can I shag your mrs. We choose if, who and when we reply but try to extend the courtesy of a reply to those we feel deserve one.

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

We’ve had 90 messages in a day at times, some just saying can I shag your mrs. We choose if, who and when we reply but try to extend the courtesy of a reply to those we feel deserve one."

That's definitely understandable. But if some have the time to read then surely enough time to reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

Why is it not respectable not to respond to a read message?

It doesn't take 2 mins to reply saying you're not interested. Common courtesy. But like I say, not every one is the same."

unfortunately men sometimes reply with abuse, so for many, its a lot easier to delete than open yourself up to that...and , as the site faqs say, this is not to be considered rude.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It means they have read it that is all you can tell. After that it is all speculation, could be they intend to reply later, show it to a partner or they are not interested but haven't yet got round to deleting it (we quite often bulk delete all read messages)

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Takes seconds to read. As you’re now aware there are numerous reasons why they don’t reply straight away. Why get wound up about something so insignificant.

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

Why is it not respectable not to respond to a read message?

It doesn't take 2 mins to reply saying you're not interested. Common courtesy. But like I say, not every one is the same.

unfortunately men sometimes reply with abuse, so for many, its a lot easier to delete than open yourself up to that...and , as the site faqs say, this is not to be considered rude."

The site may say it isn't considered rude. But the person may find it rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

We’ve had 90 messages in a day at times, some just saying can I shag your mrs. We choose if, who and when we reply but try to extend the courtesy of a reply to those we feel deserve one.

That's definitely understandable. But if some have the time to read then surely enough time to reply?"

Not at all. We read all messages, but if they’re rude, not relevant, boring, one word etc then we don’t bother to reply. Do you reply to every bit of junk mail that lands on your doormat? Same principle, unsolicited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

Why is it not respectable not to respond to a read message?

It doesn't take 2 mins to reply saying you're not interested. Common courtesy. But like I say, not every one is the same.

unfortunately men sometimes reply with abuse, so for many, its a lot easier to delete than open yourself up to that...and , as the site faqs say, this is not to be considered rude.

The site may say it isn't considered rude. But the person may find it rude. "

yes, they may....which is why i am pointing out what may be the reason.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

I have some of those. They're ones i fully intend to reply to, but often get lost in between lots of other messages.

To stumble upon them again several weeks later, when it's a little bit late for a reply so do get deleted in the end

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

I was on the chat forum earlier ( hubby here by the way ) and obviously people browsing can see I’m online now. I then got bombarded with messages from one bloke telling me what he wanted to do to me obviously thinking because of the profile picture that mrs was on line. When he didn’t get any instant reply to his messages his final rhetoric was why are you even on here if you’re not gonna share your pussy. I don’t think I will save that message thread for wifey to read tonight and we definitely won’t be replying.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I always try to reply, straight away if not interested but if unsure then think about it x

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By *ilkey69Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe there just keeping it as future reference on not what to send

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you."

If someone came up to me in the street and asked the question “can I lick your pussy” he would get a reply, just not a pleasant one!

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you."

Polite anywhere else, but here etiquette is slightly different. Not only are there sometimes too many messages to reply to. A polite no thanks is often an invite for insults, or "why?" or other unnecessary and fairly annoying come backs from people who don't seem to understand we can't shag every person who gets in touch x

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you.

If someone came up to me in the street and asked the question “can I lick your pussy” he would get a reply, just not a pleasant one!"

Think that's the stigma for this site. Well all know what happens on here. How many times have you been asked that question on the streets? How many times on this site?

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Ladies and couples on here can get bombarded with 100s of messages a day, so if they read a message, fine, if they reply, great - but if they don't, it's not out of rudeness or anything else...

...like most people, they have lives outside Fab. It's quick and easy to read messages, but time-consuming to reply - and for those who have single guys messaging them in their 100s, simply not practical.

If you send a message and get a reply, make the most of it. If you don't get a reply, get over it.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you.

If someone came up to me in the street and asked the question “can I lick your pussy” he would get a reply, just not a pleasant one!

Think that's the stigma for this site. Well all know what happens on here. How many times have you been asked that question on the streets? How many times on this site? "

This is exactly what i don't get though. How is it "normal" to spout out garbage like that, while they would never approach someone that way in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just wondering why people do this. Deleted I get..not interested. Unread is exactly that. But what does read without a reply mean? Just curious to see if there's a consistent reason among forum users."

Laziness, I never clean up my inbox. Sometimes if they’ve messaged before I just open to get rid of the yellow but don’t read (can’t atand having unread messages). Sometimes I open and it’s some copied and pasted shite so I just move on to the next message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier"

Respect and manners goes both ways have the respect to allow them to manage their profile as they wish and the manners not to moan about it.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Here’s another genuine one for you from me today. We received quite a pleasant message from a local male 2 weeks ago amongst a plethora of usual one liners and look at my cock pictures. We’re not looking for single males but because the message was polite and complimentary we didn’t delete it with the others. He was hoping for a social meet at least because he thought he was getting overlooked on here because he didn’t have any verifications. We were due to meet a couple tonight but they have called it off at the last minute, we have then since contacted the single male and asked him if he wanted a last minute meet with us tonight Just for a drink and chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I treat read with no reply as meaning "myeh maybe... but not right now... and maybe never". When they finally delete it without having replied that's a "no" and I block them to save me accidentally messaging them again

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

We’ve had 90 messages in a day at times, some just saying can I shag your mrs. We choose if, who and when we reply but try to extend the courtesy of a reply to those we feel deserve one.

That's definitely understandable. But if some have the time to read then surely enough time to reply?"

Why is a reply so important to you especially one which might contain a response you don't want to hear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

We’ve had 90 messages in a day at times, some just saying can I shag your mrs. We choose if, who and when we reply but try to extend the courtesy of a reply to those we feel deserve one.

That's definitely understandable. But if some have the time to read then surely enough time to reply?"

Really? So they’ve read 90 messages, that they never asked for so essentially junk mail, and then the have to spend at least 2 hours replying to those messages (assuming about 90 secs for each message!). Ridiculous to think people have nothing better to do with their time than to reply to unsolicited messages! Today I’ve had close to 300, I do have a job and a life, my priority is not to answer fab messages, especially when at least half have not given me any kind of respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

We’ve had 90 messages in a day at times, some just saying can I shag your mrs. We choose if, who and when we reply but try to extend the courtesy of a reply to those we feel deserve one.

That's definitely understandable. But if some have the time to read then surely enough time to reply?

Really? So they’ve read 90 messages, that they never asked for so essentially junk mail, and then the have to spend at least 2 hours replying to those messages (assuming about 90 secs for each message!). Ridiculous to think people have nothing better to do with their time than to reply to unsolicited messages! Today I’ve had close to 300, I do have a job and a life, my priority is not to answer fab messages, especially when at least half have not given me any kind of respect "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For all those insisting on a reply please also remember that once we have replied if we then chose to say, block all single guys, everyone we have replied to then can get through the filter. We could block every single guy who messages, but then you’d be moaning about a block for no reason, but who’s to say that circumstances or preferences won’t change further down the line?!

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"it's a good idea to delete your sent messages then you don't have to wonder about what's happened to them."

This...thats what we do as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also OP when I have replied saying thanks but no thanks etc then a lot of guys think it's an opening to start conversing with more messages or the other old chestnut is 'but why aren't you interested,what's wrong with me?'

As you can see there's lots of reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also OP when I have replied saying thanks but no thanks etc then a lot of guys think it's an opening to start conversing with more messages or the other old chestnut is 'but why aren't you interested,what's wrong with me?'

As you can see there's lots of reasons"

All the time!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also OP when I have replied saying thanks but no thanks etc then a lot of guys think it's an opening to start conversing with more messages or the other old chestnut is 'but why aren't you interested,what's wrong with me?'

As you can see there's lots of reasons

All the time!! "

Lol

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

If anyone else has put this forward, apologies.. I didn't have time to read all the replies..

The inbox only holds around 50 messages on display, anything beyond that sort of disappears into the fab etha...

Chances are it wasn't read as it wasn't seen, apparently some women get more than one message a day... Personally I don't believe them, I think they are exaggerating a bit...

But if they did get over 50 messages in a day and yours was at the bottom of the pile, chances are it will never be read...

Perhaps I will write a short story about it - The loneliness of the fab mail message..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyone else has put this forward, apologies.. I didn't have time to read all the replies..

The inbox only holds around 50 messages on display, anything beyond that sort of disappears into the fab etha...

Chances are it wasn't read as it wasn't seen, apparently some women get more than one message a day... Personally I don't believe them, I think they are exaggerating a bit...

But if they did get over 50 messages in a day and yours was at the bottom of the pile, chances are it will never be read...

Perhaps I will write a short story about it - The loneliness of the fab mail message.. "

It’s 80, I’ve counted , and yes they drop off the bottom so sometimes I deleted without reading based on the messengers location, whether there’s an attachment or the content of the message which I can see. However, I think the OP was asking why read and not delete when finished and not interested.

Another thing that happens to me a lot is getting a second message asking why I didn’t reply. Unfortunately I don’t memorise all messages, senders and content of the mail so if I’m bored and feel like telling them the reason, I need to go back and find the original message, I would not be able to do this if I deleted straight after reading.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"I'm just wondering why people do this. Deleted I get..not interested. Unread is exactly that. But what does read without a reply mean? Just curious to see if there's a consistent reason among forum users."

Or how about just get over it and move on

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

Why is it not respectable not to respond to a read message?

It doesn't take 2 mins to reply saying you're not interested. Common courtesy. But like I say, not every one is the same.

unfortunately men sometimes reply with abuse, so for many, its a lot easier to delete than open yourself up to that...and , as the site faqs say, this is not to be considered rude.

The site may say it isn't considered rude. But the person may find it rude. "

If you think it's rude, don't bother messaging in the first place. On this site you are more likely to get knock backs than someone being interested (and I mean that generally, not you personally).

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you."

It is not rude to ignore!

It is rude to expect a response when the site rules say a no response means no thank you!

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you.

If someone came up to me in the street and asked the question “can I lick your pussy” he would get a reply, just not a pleasant one!

Think that's the stigma for this site. Well all know what happens on here. How many times have you been asked that question on the streets? How many times on this site? "

I wouldn't respond if someone asked me that on the street, so why should I on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you.

If someone came up to me in the street and asked the question “can I lick your pussy” he would get a reply, just not a pleasant one!

Think that's the stigma for this site. Well all know what happens on here. How many times have you been asked that question on the streets? How many times on this site?

I wouldn't respond if someone asked me that on the street, so why should I on here?"

A message like that is literally like being heckled in the streets and if it happened in real life you’d put you head down and ignore or tell the to fuck off. I don’t think many, if any, women would turn round and say brilliant, thanks for that, here’s my number, why don’t you come and fuck me at mine right now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you.

If someone came up to me in the street and asked the question “can I lick your pussy” he would get a reply, just not a pleasant one!

Think that's the stigma for this site. Well all know what happens on here. How many times have you been asked that question on the streets? How many times on this site?

I wouldn't respond if someone asked me that on the street, so why should I on here?"
on the flip side, if a man said hi on the street you'd usually respond, yet on here that kind of message is also derided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is just polite to take the time for a reply, bearing in mind you have taken time to send a message , just a simple no thanks would be good.

It’s rude trust to ignore, you would thing someone very rude if you asked them a question and they ignored you.

If someone came up to me in the street and asked the question “can I lick your pussy” he would get a reply, just not a pleasant one!

Think that's the stigma for this site. Well all know what happens on here. How many times have you been asked that question on the streets? How many times on this site?

I wouldn't respond if someone asked me that on the street, so why should I on here? on the flip side, if a man said hi on the street you'd usually respond, yet on here that kind of message is also derided. "

Personally I wouldn’t, I’d think it kinda weird and probably just give them an awkward smile and get away as quickly as possible, unless they were really hot of course, but I’d respond to hi on here if they sent me a pic and I liked it.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

As a couples account, either one of us could read the message alone. If we don't reply it could be we want to show the other and discuss something. So reply at a later time.

Or we could put a "meet us now type of meet" we get so many replies priority is to make contact with the choosen ones and replies to others can get missed.

Not being rude, but just sorting playtime as it's limited time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frustrating enough as it is. Respectable manners are a must for me. But not everybody is like that. But to some it's easier

Why is it not respectable not to respond to a read message?

It doesn't take 2 mins to reply saying you're not interested. Common courtesy. But like I say, not every one is the same."

2 mins for every 50 no replies is 100 mins.. then theres the replies to the but why not replies to your sorry but no replies.. and on and on and on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get sometimes over 200 messages a day. In fact we have broke the fab message counter on the mobile app and had it go over a 1000 before, usualy when we upload a new pic that gets to the top spot.

Do you seriously think that every one of those messages is a decent, honest, well written message that even needs to be read, never mind to be replied?

There’s only so many times you can reply to “hi” or “great tits” you know!

C x

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

It could be that the sendee simply fell asleep as I have done...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It could be that the sendee simply fell asleep as I have done... "

Yes this too. Last night a good looking guy had messaged me and I was too tired to respond because that would obviously initiate conversation that I didn’t want to get into, so I put him on my hotlist and messaged this morning.

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