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By *empting Travels OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Is it all in my head and circumstantial or are bi and bi-curious men less likely to be aggressively predatory towards women at swinging events. What have your encounters been like? Your thoughts please.

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

Bump

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think bisexuality comes into it to be honest, there are "some" men who are predatory and pushy regardless of their preferences - I've been to both bi and straight club nights and witnessed predatory behaviour at both.

In fact the closest I came to losing it with someone at a club was on a Bi Night at VA when a guy was attempting to cop a feel of any women in the hot tub (my partner included) by "accidentally" stumbling as he moved through it (and it was so obvious it was anything but accidental).

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By *enshermanMan
over a year ago

Durham


"Is it all in my head and circumstantial or are bi and bi-curious men less likely to be aggressively predatory towards women at swinging events. What have your encounters been like? Your thoughts please."

No I seen many Asian men show a total disregard to women in clubs. Thinking if a women goes to a swingers club she easy meat.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don’t think it’s a guy’s sexuality that determines how he treats a woman, but his upbringing & attitude.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"I don’t think it’s a guy’s sexuality that determines how he treats a woman, but his upbringing & attitude."

Spot on.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of men have no idea how to treat women anyway, whether thats in a club scenario or even online.

The way some of them respond to people on here shows they have 0 respect for anyone

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I run a party for pan/bisexual people and I'd say that the men tend to be a lot more respectful.

Though possibly because they know I'd slap them oops up side the head if they weren't

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By *enshermanMan
over a year ago

Durham


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully"

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s a guy’s sexuality that determines how he treats a woman, but his upbringing & attitude."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really don’t like it if guys think it’s their right to touch you just because you are at an event. Respect goes a long way for me

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens."

what the whole race? jeez what a thing to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

what the whole race? jeez what a thing to say "

Don't even try to debate woth ppl like that... It is a total waste of time...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Is it all in my head and circumstantial or are bi and bi-curious men less likely to be aggressively predatory towards women at swinging events. What have your encounters been like? Your thoughts please.

No I seen many Asian men show a total disregard to women in clubs. Thinking if a women goes to a swingers club she easy meat."

Obviously, but what's that got to do with bi men?

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens."

You are SO so wrong.

Some CULTURES view women as second class citizens, but it's got fuck all to do with genetics.

Jeez, you read some bullshit on this forum.

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By *alentino7Man
over a year ago

London


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully"

Exactly, I agree with this. I believe it'd be wrong to stereotype on a specific race/sexuality. From my limited experience, I noticed the London area seems to be much worse though.

I personally hate the idea of being labelled like a predator or to come across annoying as a wasp. Hence, my attitude is completely opposite to that. V

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By *alentino7Man
over a year ago

London

It's all about education and respect.

V

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Exactly, I agree with this. I believe it'd be wrong to stereotype on a specific race/sexuality. From my limited experience, I noticed the London area seems to be much worse though.

I personally hate the idea of being labelled like a predator or to come across annoying as a wasp. Hence, my attitude is completely opposite to that. V"

ah ok it's not race or culture? it's post code

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By *enshermanMan
over a year ago

Durham


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

You are SO so wrong.

Some CULTURES view women as second class citizens, but it's got fuck all to do with genetics.

Jeez, you read some bullshit on this forum."

Really you need to get out more.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

You are SO so wrong.

Some CULTURES view women as second class citizens, but it's got fuck all to do with genetics.

Jeez, you read some bullshit on this forum.

Really you need to get out more."

And you need to generalise and make sweeping and inaccurate statements less!!

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By *enshermanMan
over a year ago

Durham


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

You are SO so wrong.

Some CULTURES view women as second class citizens, but it's got fuck all to do with genetics.

Jeez, you read some bullshit on this forum.

Really you need to get out more.

And you need to generalise and make sweeping and inaccurate statements less!!"

Hows it inaccurate do tell.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

You are SO so wrong.

Some CULTURES view women as second class citizens, but it's got fuck all to do with genetics.

Jeez, you read some bullshit on this forum.

Really you need to get out more.

And you need to generalise and make sweeping and inaccurate statements less!!

Hows it inaccurate do tell."

You really don't need me to tell you that - besides it's totally irrelevant to this thread anyway, as is any discussion about cultural differences.

The plain and simple fact is that "some" men of varying sexuality, creed, colour or culture behave distespectfully towards others, not only in clubs but life in general but it's not defined by their sexuality or race in any way.

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By *enshermanMan
over a year ago

Durham


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

You are SO so wrong.

Some CULTURES view women as second class citizens, but it's got fuck all to do with genetics.

Jeez, you read some bullshit on this forum.

Really you need to get out more.

And you need to generalise and make sweeping and inaccurate statements less!!

Hows it inaccurate do tell.

You really don't need me to tell you that - besides it's totally irrelevant to this thread anyway, as is any discussion about cultural differences.

The plain and simple fact is that "some" men of varying sexuality, creed, colour or culture behave distespectfully towards others, not only in clubs but life in general but it's not defined by their sexuality or race in any way."

The plain fact is some varying sexuality, creed, colour or culture behave disrespectfully. Your words, then you say it nothing to do with sexually or race ???

Did you read your own statements before posting ??

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Can’t believe this thread has nudged up to 50.

Can’t believe either than any guy would keep his socks on. It’s one of the first lessons we learn - socks off before dropping your trousers.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Can’t believe this thread has nudged up to 50.

Can’t believe either than any guy would keep his socks on. It’s one of the first lessons we learn - socks off before dropping your trousers.

"

I’m a silly arse. Commented on the wrong thread. Sorry everybody

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Can’t believe this thread has nudged up to 50.

Can’t believe either than any guy would keep his socks on. It’s one of the first lessons we learn - socks off before dropping your trousers.

I’m a silly arse. Commented on the wrong thread. Sorry everybody "

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Is it all in my head and circumstantial or are bi and bi-curious men less likely to be aggressively predatory towards women at swinging events. What have your encounters been like? Your thoughts please."

Oh stop it! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

You are SO so wrong.

Some CULTURES view women as second class citizens, but it's got fuck all to do with genetics.

Jeez, you read some bullshit on this forum."

That is pretty much most cultures to be honest. It's down to values you hold. The culture from my roots say that women are there to serve men (Hispanic). However my family broke the culture with their values. The women in the family is the head of the house and the women in my family are stronger than the men.

This transferred to my sexual preferences. I want a woman to be comfortable and the centre of attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s a guy’s sexuality that determines how he treats a woman, but his upbringing & attitude.

Spot on."

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By *alentino7Man
over a year ago

London


"ah ok it's not race or culture? it's post code "

Hahaha, I did say it was only my opinion from my own experience Haven't tried a club in Scotland yet. V

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens.

You are SO so wrong.

Some CULTURES view women as second class citizens, but it's got fuck all to do with genetics.

Jeez, you read some bullshit on this forum.

Really you need to get out more.

And you need to generalise and make sweeping and inaccurate statements less!!

Hows it inaccurate do tell.

You really don't need me to tell you that - besides it's totally irrelevant to this thread anyway, as is any discussion about cultural differences.

The plain and simple fact is that "some" men of varying sexuality, creed, colour or culture behave distespectfully towards others, not only in clubs but life in general but it's not defined by their sexuality or race in any way.

The plain fact is some varying sexuality, creed, colour or culture behave disrespectfully. Your words, then you say it nothing to do with sexually or race ???

Did you read your own statements before posting ??"

Yes I do, and have just done so again and it's perfectly clear what I was saying - if it's not clear enough for you, that's not my issue, but I stand by every word I said.

Hint: You may have missed the word "men" that I used right in between "some" and "of"

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area


"I don’t think it’s a guy’s sexuality that determines how he treats a woman, but his upbringing & attitude.

Spot on."

This. I don't need to be bi or gay to know how to treat a woman.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We went to a club. A bi guy smacked my ass I walked by him sat at the bar. I told him NO! He said, sorry won't do again. 2nd time my partner had a word. 3rd time - heated words were had (from him) . We found out at this stage he was high on , and a few itger ladies had had problems with him. He was evicted from the club.

We find Tv's / CD's the mist respectful.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"We went to a club. A bi guy smacked my ass I walked by him sat at the bar. I told him NO! He said, sorry won't do again. 2nd time my partner had a word. 3rd time - heated words were had (from him) . We found out at this stage he was high on , and a few itger ladies had had problems with him. He was evicted from the club.

We find Tv's / CD's the mist respectful. "

That's so weird! I've seen a straight guy do the same!

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By *empting Travels OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don't think bisexuality comes into it to be honest, there are "some" men who are predatory and pushy regardless of their preferences - I've been to both bi and straight club nights and witnessed predatory behaviour at both.

In fact the closest I came to losing it with someone at a club was on a Bi Night at VA when a guy was attempting to cop a feel of any women in the hot tub (my partner included) by "accidentally" stumbling as he moved through it (and it was so obvious it was anything but accidental)."

Interesting, All my experiences at VA Bi night both before and after meeting my girlfriend have been positive.

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Exactly, I agree with this. I believe it'd be wrong to stereotype on a specific race/sexuality. From my limited experience, I noticed the London area seems to be much worse though.

I personally hate the idea of being labelled like a predator or to come across annoying as a wasp. Hence, my attitude is completely opposite to that. V"

That has always been my mindset when approaching women at clubs and that approach was often rewarded. Not always on the night but slow and steady often reaps rewards.

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By *empting Travels OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Is it all in my head and circumstantial or are bi and bi-curious men less likely to be aggressively predatory towards women at swinging events. What have your encounters been like? Your thoughts please.

Oh stop it! X "

What??

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Respect should be a given and Morticia nailed it lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I don't think bisexuality comes into it to be honest, there are "some" men who are predatory and pushy regardless of their preferences - I've been to both bi and straight club nights and witnessed predatory behaviour at both.

In fact the closest I came to losing it with someone at a club was on a Bi Night at VA when a guy was attempting to cop a feel of any women in the hot tub (my partner included) by "accidentally" stumbling as he moved through it (and it was so obvious it was anything but accidental).

Interesting, All my experiences at VA Bi night both before and after meeting my girlfriend have been positive."

Oh don't get me wrong the incident I described above isn't the norm by any means, in fact VA Bi Night is probably my favourite club night - just used that to illustrate how predatory and presumptuous behaviour from "some" guys is not defined by sexuality

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"race or sexuality has nothing to do with this, some men treat women disrespectfully

Race does because some races view women a second class citizens."

But lumping all Asians together is bad. It's the person and the upbringing, not the race or religion.

There are Asians who would be extremely respectful of women.

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