FabSwingers.com forum: our own age group

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi all xx we are finding men in our own age group very clingy/emotional/want more than sex even tho im happy married is this the norm ? on here not all as i dont want to tar all with the same brush but the % is high.

we've been swinging for years 20 + but its only in the last couple of years we've really notice the increase is it only us?? ... as we've moved more into the cuckold side of things is it related to the cuckold side of things ? im looking for a lover or 2 yes but from a sexual point of view not looking for someone for full time relationship if i were id be getting divorced and no way thats going to happen lol way to happy ... anyone else have a view on this ?? thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we must be going wrong somewhere. I know J is extremely selective and why not. But we’d love to find the right guy long term and he could cling on as much as he likes. Trouble is we can’t find him. Any advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you're looking for is unusual (not on Fab but irl). Not many guys are honestly going to get it. I do. But I suspect I'm a bit unusual too

I'm not surprised most guys are getting mixed up. Just because there's a website you can join to meet like minds doesn't mean there really are many like minds out there. I guess just be patient... or play further afield with people who really get you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well we must be going wrong somewhere. I know J is extremely selective and why not. But we’d love to find the right guy long term and he could cling on as much as he likes. Trouble is we can’t find him. Any advice. "

fully understand what your wanting and think thats great but i have guys telling me to leave him for them ?? thats not normal im in this with him for us as we both enjoy.... not sure you want guys to try and split your relationship ?? do you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find men/boys my age really immature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are totally right. If that occurred he would be history. It’s just the thought of finding the right guy and the right balance to join us. I’m not looking to replace my husband but to add to him if you see what we mean. It’s intended to be a longstanding no strings fun relationship nothing else. Sorry if misled you. My husband is and always would come first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are totally right. If that occurred he would be history. It’s just the thought of finding the right guy and the right balance to join us. I’m not looking to replace my husband but to add to him if you see what we mean. It’s intended to be a longstanding no strings fun relationship nothing else. Sorry if misled you. My husband is and always would come first. "

now thats how i see it

100% agree with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came in here as woman are usually clingy, but sometimes it’s just human nature. Not what I’m looking for though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit to being surprised by your post.

Similar age group to yourself with similar 20 years experience, I've had several long term relationships with couples, the longest being 8 years and a few of two years. It simply wouldn't occur to me to become involved as you have said. I always regarded myself as an extension to their SEX life, nothing more. That's not to say I haven't socialised or met family.

I doubt whether it is age related, I remember similar posts from single guys, but wanting to become involved with the wife and asleep for advice.

I have always thought that perhaps they were new to the lifestyle or simply didn't really 'get it'.

Are the guys you have met experienced or fairly new to the scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must admit to being surprised by your post.

I doubt whether it is age related, I remember similar posts from single guys, but wanting to become involved with the wife and asleep for advice.

I have always thought that perhaps they were new to the lifestyle or simply didn't really 'get it'.

Are the guys you have met experienced or fairly new to the scene?"

* Asking! Although they may have been asleep.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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Some guys only ^think^ they are bulls.

We are not looking for this scenario but a lot of single guys are as you describe. Luckily we've met a lot who understand perfectly what we are looking for and don't try to be a pseudobull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to steer clear of men my age because they have gotten too involved too quickly, or bore me rigid.

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By *eil189Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

If guys my age are acting like that they must be mad. Over the years I have had a number of long term friendships with couples in both normal and cuck scenarios and always I just consider myself to be a party to help them have fun (and me of course). I am not there to cause splits or stress within the relationship. It’s a shame you are not closer as would love to help but as said above only as an extension to your fun and nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

has the term swinging become more mixed when we first started back in ''97'' swinging was just that swinging but now (and no not knocking it)theres much more going on the amount of people on here asking for relationships and more than sex even to the point of women and couples asking for gifts and money,

..is all this clouding the swinging terminology therefore alot of people are getting confused ? just a thought and just to say we've never seen oursleves as true swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"has the term swinging become more mixed when we first started back in ''97'' swinging was just that swinging but now (and no not knocking it)theres much more going on the amount of people on here asking for relationships and more than sex even to the point of women and couples asking for gifts and money,

..is all this clouding the swinging terminology therefore alot of people are getting confused ? just a thought and just to say we've never seen oursleves as true swingers "

I wouldn't disagree with you. I have seen many profiles asking for gifts or to be wined and dined. This for me isn't swinging. I'm not saying about meeting for a social before things progress just think many are using it for dating. Or perhaps as you say it's becoming hybridised. Too many singles are only wanting to meet other singles, especially those who aren't prepared to meet couples. Which to me has always been the attraction.

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