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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

C’mon ladies, who has faked it because it was easier to do that than tell the delusional bloke that trying to make you cum when they want you to just wont work?

Over my 40+ years of having sex, I have and often.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Nope never done that,if it's not happening it's not happening it's as simple as that. I do know I may be in the minority by saying I haven't faked it,I don't get why a woman would do it anyway.

If you carry on faking it the guy will think everything is all good and how daft is that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t fake. I physically can’t . Would have to agree. If you fake he will think he’s doing great.

If it’s not going well I take over an sort myself out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will admit to faking it, It was going on too long and I was just over it by that point but I really like the person so wanted to spare their feelings. Tbh tho thats the only time I ever have, either I just won't cum at all or take matters into my own hands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about guys who fake it....just putting it out there....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try telling the person, move to the left, up a bit. Just like the Golden Shot!

Mmmmm slow down thats too nice works

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow


"What about guys who fake it....just putting it out there.... "

But this is about women...and yes I have faked it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not know since it been that long ago since had any fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't fake it, if I'm doing something wrong then tell me. Bollocks to the guys who's egos would be damaged by that.

Mr B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats a shame"
it is a shame i can not do anything wright it seem lol

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't fake it, if I'm doing something wrong then tell me. Bollocks to the guys who's egos would be damaged by that.

Mr B"

I cannot and never have faked it with mr b but I will let him know what works and what isn’t. I’ve faked it with ex partners before though as I couldn’t be arsed for it to carry on, plus they never really took the time or attention to understand what works for me but mr b pays attention always

Ms B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

"

^^ this

Jem

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Don't fake it, if I'm doing something wrong then tell me. Bollocks to the guys who's egos would be damaged by that.

Mr B

I cannot and never have faked it with mr b but I will let him know what works and what isn’t. I’ve faked it with ex partners before though as I couldn’t be arsed for it to carry on, plus they never really took the time or attention to understand what works for me but mr b pays attention always

Ms B "

You found your lobster

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

"

What if guy's fake it with you how would that make you feel? I know I wouldn't like it,I'd just rather them say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always tell guys that I don't cum easily which is true. Not having an orgasm doesn't mean it was rubbish. I would want a guy to try to find things that work and if I faked it, he wouldn't! Also, when a guy does make me cum, he knows it's very special and that I'd want to please him even more in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did a few times with my ex. Other times he knew I don't cum but didn't care.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

What if guy's fake it with you how would that make you feel? I know I wouldn't like it,I'd just rather them say."

This topic of this thread is about ladies faking it.....not men...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

What if guy's fake it with you how would that make you feel? I know I wouldn't like it,I'd just rather them say.

This topic of this thread is about ladies faking it.....not men... "

I know that I just wondered why you found it funny to deceive men that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

What if guy's fake it with you how would that make you feel? I know I wouldn't like it,I'd just rather them say.

This topic of this thread is about ladies faking it.....not men...

I know that I just wondered why you found it funny to deceive men that's all."

It seems that doing so makes her feel better about herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always tell guys that I don't cum easily which is true. Not having an orgasm doesn't mean it was rubbish. I would want a guy to try to find things that work and if I faked it, he wouldn't! Also, when a guy does make me cum, he knows it's very special and that I'd want to please him even more in return "

This.I might sometimes exaggerate, but I don’t fake.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"It seems that doing so makes her feel better about herself "

And really the best part is that the guy still got his fun.

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Stay classy, Bhubaysi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course I have!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

"

Jokes on you if you need to fake it that much surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always fake it.

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

How many of the men who have commented here have the ‘ladies first’ rule?

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"How many of the men who have commented here have the ‘ladies first’ rule?"

That the lady should orgasm first? As many times as possible, hopefully.

Are there guys who don’t?

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"How many of the men who have commented here have the ‘ladies first’ rule?

That the lady should orgasm first? As many times as possible, hopefully.

Are there guys who don’t?"

I bloody hope so. The pressure on women to cum first is as bad as the pressure on men not to.

Some women won’t, can’t and find it difficult to cum. Some only cum once and don’t want to be touched again, some have never had an orgasm.

Hence the faking.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I don’t get the pressure thing. There’s no pressure. In my second serious relationship, the girl couldn’t orgasm from penetrative sex. So we just did her stuff first. In two other relationships I had, the lassies could only orgasm if they were on top, then closed their legs so their legs were on top of it between mine.

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In all cases, there was just honesty about what would or could make them orgasm, and what they would want to do afterwards (more, or definitely no more). Faking it just leads to having to endure more shit you don’t like. Pointless.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

"

Oh yes we can. We always know. We just don’t want you to know that we know.

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By *aughty2foryouCouple
over a year ago

Devon/Cornwall


"Nope never done that,if it's not happening it's not happening it's as simple as that. I do know I may be in the minority by saying I haven't faked it,I don't get why a woman would do it anyway.

If you carry on faking it the guy will think everything is all good and how daft is that!"

No I'm exactly the same...I always think if I fake it the guy is going to think it feels good and keep doing it! Which is bad for all parties in the longer run...completely understand why you would though OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't fake it, if I'm doing something wrong then tell me. Bollocks to the guys who's egos would be damaged by that.

Mr B

I cannot and never have faked it with mr b but I will let him know what works and what isn’t. I’ve faked it with ex partners before though as I couldn’t be arsed for it to carry on, plus they never really took the time or attention to understand what works for me but mr b pays attention always

Ms B

You found your lobster "

Well, I am wearing a red shirt

Mr B

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"What about guys who fake it....just putting it out there.... "

Lol.

It's not even that rare, it's one of those things spoken about amongst men in tongues about 'the repeat session'.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No. Ive never needed to fake it. Im intelligent and articulate enough to explain when things are not working

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

This reminds me of that old joke

"Why do women fake orgasms?

Because they think men care."

But seriously, it's entirely possible to not come even if you've had an amazing time.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Personally I'd prefer someone to tell me that whatever I'm doing isn't doing it for them - whilst I like to think I'm fairly attuned to people's reactions and change things accordingly, I'm also well aware that everyone is different and like things done differently so if I'm not doing it right for an individual I'd rather they told me or guided me so I get it right for them

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Personally I'd prefer someone to tell me that whatever I'm doing isn't doing it for them - whilst I like to think I'm fairly attuned to people's reactions and change things accordingly, I'm also well aware that everyone is different and like things done differently so if I'm not doing it right for an individual I'd rather they told me or guided me so I get it right for them "

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

"

I have to agree ooooops

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"I always tell guys that I don't cum easily which is true. Not having an orgasm doesn't mean it was rubbish. I would want a guy to try to find things that work and if I faked it, he wouldn't! Also, when a guy does make me cum, he knows it's very special and that I'd want to please him even more in return "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've faked it fairly regularly. In my first relationship he was abusive, I would have been beaten up for daring to criticise his sexual performance (even though he was shit). Second relationship, the guy took it personally if I didn't orgasm and therefore the pressure made it impossible for me to orgasm... so it just became a vicious cycle.

I no longer fake with regular partners, because now I only form relationships with men who are confident enough to listen to directions and emotionally mature enough to understand that sometimes I just can't orgasm and it usually has nothing to do with them.

But with casual meets... it's hit and miss. Sometimes I orgasm, sometimes I fake, sometimes I don't come and I'm just honest about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have in relationships. Needs must at the time.

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By *ilthyStrumpetCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

When I was younger, yes...now, no...tho I've no need

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have, many times, for most of the reasons listed here by others but most often because the guy puts so must pressure on me for it to happen and I just want it over. I don't orgasm easily through just physical touch, it takes getting inside my mind and being somewhat of a kinky nature and definitely isn't going to happen on casual meetings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to fake it all the time with my ex husband so that sex was over and finished with as quick as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've faked it

I dont/can't cum at all so it's just easier in the past to fake it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

"

I agree completely, I have to alot of men and they can't tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people put too much (onus?) on the orgasm. It's everything leading up to an orgasm that I enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god yeah..so easy to trick them haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s never occurred to me to fake it, because it never occurred to me that a man expected a woman to orgasm. I can only orgasm if I do it myself, and that’s all I’ve ever known. These days I sometimes take my Rabbit to a sex meet so I can finish myself off after he’s cum.

Mrs

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By *riendly and hornyMan
over a year ago

Crewe

I can tell when a womans faking it (or at least when it's obvious) and its tarnishes the sex. I'd rather they just said they haven't cum or even take control a bit and direct things if they are that bothered about orgasming.

Some women find it harder than others. I've had sex a few times and not cum myself (mainly under the influence) but still enjoyed it.

If a woman never orgasms with a particular guy but does so with others, surely it's time to move on?

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By *parkle......Woman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"C’mon ladies, who has faked it because it was easier to do that than tell the delusional bloke that trying to make you cum when they want you to just wont work?

Over my 40+ years of having sex, I have and often. "

Yes I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for other guys, but personally I can do without the sop to my ego. I'd rather know I'm doing something wrong and what I should be doing instead.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I have faked an orgasm, I don't always orgasm when I cum. Many men don't seem to know the difference, from my experience. To some I've met, I have explained the difference I feel between them, so they're aware.

I have been asked previously how many times I came, and that has to be one of the most stupid questions to ask... You think I count... I'll tell you I came, no idea how many times, but I didn't have an orgasm.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"C’mon ladies, who has faked it because it was easier to do that than tell the delusional bloke that trying to make you cum when they want you to just wont work?

Over my 40+ years of having sex, I have and often. "

Shame on you . How could you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve faked it LOTS!!!!

Men can’t tell and that is the funniest part of it....

"

This and I’m a bloody good performer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have faked it a few times after I couldn't be bothered to fuck her anymore.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No I never have

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