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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had been chatting to a couple on here for a couple of weeks , and on msn .

sent pics to each other , talked about what we would do etc and eventually arranged to meet up tonight for a drink.

Sent message to confirm this morning and message left unread and blocked me!

not really sure what im asking but i do get so fed up with arrogant couples letting me down so much .

doesnt happen so much with single females.

any comments on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all bad but sadly you do get dreams x keep your chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dreamers sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks , they seemed so genuine and i can normally spot the timewasters .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got let down tonight too

...you should've posted earlier lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

be round in five ! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i think us guys get treated quite badly on here, i know couples have a lot to choose from but no need to be rude.

manners cost nothing!

rant over lol

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By *WLondonMixMan
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

As above proves mate it isn't just us single males that get let down like that, its just a risk of the swinging scene, yet it just makes those who are genuine that much more special.I know it isn't much of a consolation but from personal experience I have found the meets that have gone through to make up for a 100fold for the times I have been let down. So lick your wounds, forget that couple, get back on the prowl and enjoy being part of the scene

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Whenever the question is asked 'and what exactly will we do when we meet'......

alarm bells.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had been chatting to a couple on here for a couple of weeks , and on msn .

sent pics to each other , talked about what we would do etc and eventually arranged to meet up tonight for a drink.

Sent message to confirm this morning and message left unread and blocked me!

not really sure what im asking but i do get so fed up with arrogant couples letting me down so much .

doesnt happen so much with single females.

any comments on this? "

Not sure how they are arrogant it just looks like they changed their mind for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you speak to both of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever the question is asked 'and what exactly will we do when we meet'......

alarm bells."

Agree...just seeking titilation.

Hmmm...you're looking very handsome young man...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Whenever the question is asked 'and what exactly will we do when we meet'......

alarm bells.

Agree...just seeking titilation.

Hmmm...you're looking very handsome young man...

thank you Miss...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

you definatley have a point there and i have had some wonderful meets as both a single and as a couple with my ex. so seen it from both sides.

just think its not necessary to be rude .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you definatley have a point there and i have had some wonderful meets as both a single and as a couple with my ex. so seen it from both sides.

just think its not necessary to be rude ."

Dude not reading and blocking might be due to something you have done. There is a fine line between what some call choice and others call rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

if they change their mind they can just say so , no need to be rude .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if they read this i don't think they will now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So glad I posted this , got a message from a couple in a hotel five mins round corner from my house saying they had been let down and could I come to the hotel and get straight into bed with them !

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"So glad I posted this , got a message from a couple in a hotel five mins round corner from my house saying they had been let down and could I come to the hotel and get straight into bed with them ! "
so what are you still doing here then!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you definatley have a point there and i have had some wonderful meets as both a single and as a couple with my ex. so seen it from both sides.

just think its not necessary to be rude .

Dude not reading and blocking might be due to something you have done. There is a fine line between what some call choice and others call rude.

we arranged it two days ago and not spoken since except to confirm arrangements , which they ignored.

i never did that when i was part of a couple and just dont see the need to be rude thats all .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just got in from meeting a couple at a gatwick hotel , they said that after at the start of the week receiving 100 replies from guys showing interest then etting 5 definates on the short list by weds and then one by one the 5 dropped ot at the last minute , swings and roundabouts as it does happen to couples aswell . and as for the ones who bottled it , you missed a top top night , thanks for not showing .

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"I had been chatting to a couple on here for a couple of weeks , and on msn .

sent pics to each other , talked about what we would do etc and eventually arranged to meet up tonight for a drink.

Sent message to confirm this morning and message left unread and blocked me!

not really sure what im asking but i do get so fed up with arrogant couples letting me down so much .

doesnt happen so much with single females.

any comments on this? "

if they want to meet they meet they dont chat...its a lesson we all need to learn amd a mistake we all make.not that there is anything wrong with making friends ,but if you start on cyber on line,thats as much as you will ever get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever the question is asked 'and what exactly will we do when we meet'......

alarm bells."

Agree. Requests for graphic detail about what will happen on the meet are normally just wank fodder for the person requesting it and has me reaching for the block button. Sorry to hear you got messed about and it's not confined to single guys. Hope your spur of the moment meet went well!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that sounds pretty pathetic. dw about it dude.

giv them a call n tell them what tossers they are

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

"just got in from meeting a couple at a gatwick hotel , they said that after at the start of the week receiving 100 replies from guys showing interest then etting 5 definates on the short list by weds and then one by one the 5 dropped ot at the last minute , swings and roundabouts as it does happen to couples aswell . and as for the ones who bottled it , you missed a top top night , thanks for not showing .

Same happened to us the other week for a fantasy meet of mine. One reason we now say sorry single guys but first meets at our local swingers club. Even been let down by that, but at least at the club a night not waisted as other people there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Whenever the question is asked 'and what exactly will we do when we meet'......

alarm bells.

It wasnt really graphic detail , more how the evening would go , drinks then back to theirs , hubby to watch and film etc . Not graphic cyber sex. Point taken though .

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

life as a single guy....

treating me well thank you very much!!!

but then again I do so much due diligence and talking to them that I don't tend to encounter people I don't like...

I can count the amount of timewasters I have had on one hand in the 6-7 years I have been in the scene....

if something appears to good to be true it normally is...

if in any way I am not 110% sure about someone or meeting them... I keep talking until I am... if not I don't meet!

like I say to people, I don't think it all a one way problem.. I think that some people are so desperate to get meets or there foot in the door that they don't do the research.... they don't help themselves at the best of times......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick in there, you did all the right things and those you meet will appreciate the courtesy shown x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks hanky , the genuine ones I have met in the past have appreciated it .

I can normally spot timewasters but got caught out properly this time ! Lol

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By *iles3659Man
over a year ago

Stafford

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By *iles3659Man
over a year ago

Stafford

Here's a suggestion - You can't Block someone without choosing an option.

The options are:

We're sorry but you don't meet our requirements and we're blocking you to avoid future misunderstandings. Have fun and good Luck.

We're blocking you because you've been abusive (automatically copied to admin)

We're blocking because you clearly haven't read our profile

There may be other options - and the first one might be a blatant lie - but at least the poor old honest person at the other end gets let down gently!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds like a very civilized way of doing things to me .

I have no problem being rejected but I have a bit of a thing about manners , maybe I'm too old fashioned !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's a suggestion - You can't Block someone without choosing an option.

The options are:

We're sorry but you don't meet our requirements and we're blocking you to avoid future misunderstandings. Have fun and good Luck.

We're blocking you because you've been abusive (automatically copied to admin)

We're blocking because you clearly haven't read our profile

There may be other options - and the first one might be a blatant lie - but at least the poor old honest person at the other end gets let down gently!

But at the end of the day they'd still be let down. So pretty pointless.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to b let down gently then just being rude !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add our two penneth on this topic.

We like to meet Single guys, infact we love to meet single guys! Our verifs are testimony to this.

However, In our opinion 90% of the single guys onhere are 'Lap Top Wankers' even if they have some verifs.

OR! they are married or cheating in some way. Sorry if this offends..and at this point can we make clear(we dont care if you are cheating) just be honest with us!

We have advertised the last two times we have looked for a meet for Single Guys...what a waste of time. When it comes to the crunch 90% ARE BULL SHITTERS AND DREAMERS. Not the guys we have met obviously!

Both times we have offered to accom or split hotel costs, and P is pretty Fit and Fuckable so whats not to like???

Both times, let down and end up clubbing...Thank God for LC!

Loosing faith in the site and most of the guys on here. And it is NOT a minority! We feel the genuine guys are in the minority...

Rant over....and after 2 or 3 years of this, we feel in a position to comment!

And reeeeelax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's a suggestion - You can't Block someone without choosing an option.

The options are:

We're sorry but you don't meet our requirements and we're blocking you to avoid future misunderstandings. Have fun and good Luck.

We're blocking you because you've been abusive (automatically copied to admin)

We're blocking because you clearly haven't read our profile

There may be other options - and the first one might be a blatant lie - but at least the poor old honest person at the other end gets let down gently!

But at the end of the day they'd still be let down. So pretty pointless.

I totally agree, people who let you down really couldn't careless otherwise they wouldn't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, it is just the 'nature of the beast' I think. Like yourself, I've had plenty of Very good meets with couples, singles & have always taken the time, to try & get to know them (as much as you can, in a virtual way) as chemistry with someone, is all important to me but, regardless of how good I think my 'timewaster radar' has got, it still manages to let me down sometimes! I always think to myself, it's a lucky escape really, if that's how someone wants to behave, they certainly aren't for me!

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