FabSwingers.com forum: No is no

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Amazed how many women have the line " don't get offended if I say no" Are men that thick that they believe they are attractive to evey woman on the planet.............! If they were that good looking, charming etc why are they on here!

Lord give me strength!

Same applies for us blokes if you don't fancy a lady you don't message here and if one that fancies you pops up and you think shes not your type you say no.

So men get a life be nice to the ladies. There must be 100 of each of us to one of them so be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they were that good looking, charming etc why are they on here!"

Maybe because they like the lifestyle? So if someone is good looking, charming etc, they souldn't be swinging.... and then you go on to tell men to be nice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"f they were that good looking, charming etc why are they on here!

er, i EXPECT the men i meet off here to be just that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well, Im good looking, charming and the rest, lol. There aint nowt better than pleasing a beautiful lady or ladies (if you get that lucky)

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

so we are all second raters on here then ?.....ouch that bullet went straight through your foot ...!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they were that good looking, charming etc why are they on here!"

Agree with my learned friend above, the implication is that anyone, male or female is not good looking charming etc, if they are on a swinging site, but you homed in on the woman...oh...there are some ladies on here later who will in a verbal way probably 'rip you a new arsehole'

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In answer to "are men thick" it seems like one or two are. especialy when it comes to writing a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Im left feeling like a right minger now who could'nt get a shag unless I blinfolded the guy! sob sob

But am I bothered?.....er Nope lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So anyone on here is a drop out who cant get anyone by any other means?

While you are doling out your sage advice why not get off your high horse and take your foot out of your mouth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all of us can be octanagarian marathon runners can we. It never ceases to amaze us the things some folk say but have to say if we reached that age and didnt have to have a nurse around we may try to demean others for our own failings too. Have to admit though marathons sound far less fun than hitting young people in quques at bus stops.

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By *inesawineWoman
over a year ago

fife

Oops...bit of an own goal there, seats80!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im left feeling like a right minger now who could'nt get a shag unless I blinfolded the guy! sob sob

But am I bothered?.....er Nope lol"

oh please you couldn't be a minger if you tried you silly (but gorgeous) arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" If they were that good looking, charming etc why are they on here!"

Still can't believe we read that.

But, being pedantic , got to point out it's a question & not an exclamation

Ooo get us

K&I x

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

yes I just read it again properly and think we have taken it out of context so apologies to the OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree, but still, it has been fun watching this develop

Never ket the truth get in the way of a good forum post lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has an exclamation mark and not a question mark though! lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well i think all the men on here are gorgeous, and charming whether i am attracted to them sexually or nto or vise versa just becaaause you dont wn t o have sex withsome doesnt mean there not lovely

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We were talking to a couple of friends in Chams last week, and were told by the woman that she'd once been approached in the orgy room by someone she didn't fancy, and had said no. The man had replied that if she was in that room he was entitled to have sex with her, so she couldn't say no. She walked out.

If there hadn't been others present in the room and she hadn't left, the result might have been rape. Sadly there are some evil men out there!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Yes but I just think it has been written in a way that is confusing so we've all read it wrong

Anyhoo when he comes back and has a look at whats been written im sure he will make it clear and put us right ...or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What context are you seeing?

After reading it a few times, it still seems to say the same thing, if men are good looking and charming they shouldn’t need to be on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What context are you seeing?

After reading it a few times, it still seems to say the same thing, if men are good looking and charming they shouldn’t need to be on here.

absolutely..hes basically saying "come on you set of unattractive old gets who cant get a shag anywhere else, be nice to the open-all-hours ladies or you wont get anywhere..."

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I read it from both views male and female but it was still confusing for mrs thicky here lol

Thats why im waiting to see the response from the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP has run away, never to be seen again, usually what happens when they get slaughtered like this, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP definetely thinks that the only guys who would use this site are mingers because if they wern't they would not need to use it.

I expect he thinks the same about the couples and females who use the site too since obviously in his mind anyone needing to use such a site would only do so because out in the "dating" world nobody would find them attractive.

It is his personal opinion and he has a total right to have it and say it that is what the forums are about.

I do find it strange however that his profile describes him as :

"Hi respectful male" calling everyone mingers is not very respectfull is it.

"I have few hang up save being tied up and humiliating people" calling people mingers is kinda like being rude and humiliating them methinks ?

"I can hold a conversation" yes, sure you can but I think speaking to people like this might not be the kind of conversation swingers want to hear.

However, before he is condemned to Swingers Hell (Heaven) lets remember that a great percentage of single guys think the way he does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put the OP's rant down to the effects of alcohol or such like.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we read it as "his own personal journey" and suspect that his lack of success here was also replicated in the real world hence his addiction to running to lift him out of the depths of depression (like charles dickens)! However we did take offence to the section that says all men on here are mingers - obviously not the case as most men on here that are charming, witty and bright have no difficulty pairing up with gorgous women and I would certainly say that I and jed are evidence of this - waiting for execution lol - please note didnt say attractive or well endowed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Methinks he is actually on about the men

lol

He could have phrased it better

But he was on about the men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What really grinds my gears though is the guys who slag off the other blokes.

Usually with some sanctimonious advice for them or "ooh how do they expect to play etc etc".

And then having absolved themselves of whatever behaviour they are slagging off they usually finish with "Er and if any couples or single ladies would like a quick bit of how's your father you know the guy to come to".

And then he has the brass neck to describe himself as respectful...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can speak for himself... Never had any issues here.. Advice not required Ta

Always charming, suave, sophisticated.. kind and so far fingers crossed meet lovely people... Well ok mostly then lol..

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Someone once said to me "If not for swinging you wouldn't get a shag - can't you go to the pub on the pull or something?"

My response: Too right! I can't be dealing with all that pretentious "Do you come here often" and "I'm only chatting to you to be nice, I don't want to get in your knickers" from guys vs the "You can tell a lot about a man from his shoes" from women (I hate shoes

and clothes

) and find it boring. Lol.

Swinging is much more fun - we all know why we';re here (for the most) so with that established, let the innocent flirting begin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amazed how many women have the line " don't get offended if I say no" .....men .... be nice to the ladies. There must be 100 of each of us to one of them so be nice."

In suppport of the OP, I think he may have a valid point to make, but just expressed himself badly (in the other bits of his post).

I can honestly say that all the men on here that I have MET are attractive and charming, and they are a delight to know. But I have received a lot of messages from men that I didn't think I would 'click' with, and some of these have evidently been offended when I replied with a polite 'thanks but no thanks'. It is only a minority of men who then re-message with something insulting (and of course the 'block' button is there when they do), but each time this happens, it 'chips away' at my confidence that I can achieve what I want to through this site.

So I am in support of anything that encourages good behaviour from guys (and girls and couples) - although if the OP had phrased his message more positively, I think he would have got a better response in this thread.

PS: If you read his post with the emphasis on the word 'that', it makes more sense i.e. "If they were THAT good looking, charming etc why are they on here". Because I haven't yet received a PM from George Clooney/Johnny Depp/Ronan Keating/*

*[insert the name of your own heart-throb here!]

Have fun, everyone, and play nice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As the original poster I clearly posted this when I was annoyed about something or another and should be censored as you guys have said.

I have though back over what I was trying to say and clearly I did get it wrong.

My point was everyone is not attractive to everyone and don't get abusive when someone says no. Simple mark it down to experience.

Reason for delayed reply is I didn't know how to find my forum posts.

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