FabSwingers.com forum: Organised

By *onny Bones OP Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

How organised are you? I’ve just been asked to consider a meet in mid May. With it being 3 weeks away I sort of dismissed it straight away, then I thought that maybe I was being too quick to dismiss. Clearly some are able to organise themselves enough to be able to plan meets well in advance why can’t I?

Half of me doesn’t want to lose the spontaneity of a meet organised in the shorter term but what if this make me more complicated for others to arrange things with? Weirdly I’m able to look at a clubs events and thinking logically if I could consider the night so why do I find it so hard to fathom when considering meets?

.... This is where my mind is at on this beautiful sunny day. Hope you’re all enjoying!

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By *BCambsCouple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

We have a young family and only get about one night a month (Date Night!) to ourselves. This requires we plan in advance!

We tend to meet those that are the same and understand.

Are you free tonight messages tend to be ignored!

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

We have two diaries, we put all the vanilla stuff in one, and swinging stuff in the other, and cross-check them. Sometimes book hotels months in advance for organised socials etc, and often block out whole weekends for "fun times", so we can plan ahead, which is just as well as I'm hopelessly disorganised!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have two diaries, we put all the vanilla stuff in one, and swinging stuff in the other, and cross-check them. Sometimes book hotels months in advance for organised socials etc, and often block out whole weekends for "fun times", so we can plan ahead, which is just as well as I'm hopelessly disorganised!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a lot of difficulty in the early days of trying to find a guy to join us. If we were to go out we had arrange for my Mum to have the children. And if we left it too late she wouldn’t be free. So we would have to book out a grandchildren night with her well in advance. Trying to coordinate this with various single guys we were trying to get something going with proved an absolute nightmare. We would be told ‘I’ll get back to you ASAP’, or ‘let’s pencil that in and confirm nearer the time’. So we’d have to arrange our babysitting and hope for the best. These days we avoid single men who don’t know what a diary is. More recently we tend to get involved with guys who also have kids, therefore like us, need to plan their diary with military precision. We tend to plan about 4 weeks ahead.

Mrs

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

"How organised are you? I’ve just been asked to consider a meet in mid May. With it being 3 weeks away I sort of dismissed it straight away, then I thought that maybe I was being too quick to dismiss. Clearly some are able to organise themselves enough to be able to plan meets well in advance why can’t I?

.... This is where my mind is at on this beautiful sunny day. Hope you’re all enjoying!"

Not everybody can be as spontaneous as the other. You may have more commitment then the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was just thinking about this on another thread about spontaneous meets.

I'm a non planny person in general - even with friends - they hate it lol!

It doesn't have to be rushed but I like to decide on the day.

To see what mood I'm in etc..

I hate feeling obligated to do anything just because it was planned.

But I understand for some people family commitments mean they have to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to plan meets a little I’m advance, probably not more than a week though. I like to have something to look forward to.

I also like to make an effort to look nice for meets and quite enjoy the pampering process beforehand. If it’s arranged at short notice and I’m in a rush to get ready, I feel less prepared, less relaxed and I generally don’t enjoy it so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to have socials and meets planned in advance - weeks or months is good for me BUT I don't seem to find any people who are in the same boat. I'm further restricted by a joint custody arrangement and more than one job lol. Spontaneity is not great for me. And whenever I try to be spontaneous, no-one seems to be free. Hence why I tend to meet the same people all the time lol. They know and understand my situation and are flexible.

I'll just keep going and hopefully I'll have a list of spontaneous and planned friends at some point!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Very organised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is so busy for my partner and I with work, family commitments etc that we usually plan a few weeks ahead.

Our last meet with another couple however was planned within 2 days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first meet (which was nearly a year ago)with my now exclusive friend we waited 6 weeks

we both saw others in that time and met twice for a drink but we texted and sent a lot of pictures and videos inbetween. I was worried about losing interest but it was so woth it!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

My meets tend to be planned in advance, in fact have one in the not too distant future that was arranged back in January!! That said within reason I can do fairly spontaneous if circumstances allow

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