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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you approach it?

Do you jump in hoping that everything goes alright or do you do lots of research? Do you find it better meeting someone on your level of experience or someone with less or more than you? Is it better with a stranger or someone you know?

The reason for lots of questions is the first peorson my wife spoke to was a guy who said something along the lines of ‘why would you do this? If you were my wife, I wouldn’t share you with anyone! ‘

How do you avoid that type of thing? But making sure your meeting up with someone that understand people’s kinks etc? Any tips advice?

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By *annydevonMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I would say the first step would be to block idiots like the guy you described.

I love meeting couples but always respect their relationship and boundaries

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By *kbloke_11Man
over a year ago

Hockley

In my humble opinion it's all about developing a small relationship to find out what all three of you want and take it from there.

I do believe people must remember that this is not a dating site, there is obviously a social side to it if you want to explore that, but primarily it is about SEX, there, I have said it!

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We don't "meet" as such, but play in clubs, most often with one or mor single guys. Most are strangers, although there are a few nice guys we play with regularly. The sex is always great and we never encounter the attitudes you mention. Try clubs!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We meet them socially first it's fairly easy to gauge their attitude. Of course some people can conceal it well but ultimately, does it really matter? Their opinion is theirs but doesn't mean it's correct and sometimes men say that sort of thing in a clumsy attempt to compliment the woman, quite unaware that they're insulting their partner and relationship.

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By *ilthyStrumpetCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

These kinds of twatwaffles usually out themselves in messages prior to meeting in my experience.

We stick with meeting at clubs these days, unless it's someone we already know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you approach it?

Do you jump in hoping that everything goes alright or do you do lots of research? Do you find it better meeting someone on your level of experience or someone with less or more than you? Is it better with a stranger or someone you know?

The reason for lots of questions is the first peorson my wife spoke to was a guy who said something along the lines of ‘why would you do this? If you were my wife, I wouldn’t share you with anyone! ‘

How do you avoid that type of thing? But making sure your meeting up with someone that understand people’s kinks etc? Any tips advice? "

I pick males purely by their chat. As long as they are straight...Will meet smokers and can accomodate I will have a chat with them

Don't have to message for days. Just chat enough for me to think yeah he's brand new. Looks aren't important as long as they are normal looking and look presentable.

I do very little research and very rarely do I ever read a profile or verifications

Just want a normal guy who's good company and on the same page x

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

This is how we chose our first meet and generally how we still do. Firstly we thought about the type of guy we wanted to meet, lookswise, did a search and read up on the verifications. The things we looked out for was, 'he understood the dynamics of a couple, grounded, down to earth' that sort of thing and did he have repeat meets with these people saying such. We also wanted to meet someone with experience and been on the scene for a while (25 plus veris and here three years), someone who was experienced with newbies. There were a few guys that stood out and one in particular so we sent a message to see how we got on personality wise and for the general vibe. We exchanged messages in the week which all went well and arranged to meet at his hotel at the weekend. The meet went perfectly, he made us feel welcome and quite the gentleman who we met many a time, he's still doing very well now.

Not sure how much this helps but we wanted to give you an insight of how we do things and the blueprint has worked well for us. It really is worth doing a bit of research but even then nothing's guaranteed but we've found in the long run it does. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never had a regimented approach to meeting anyone. We don't necessarily plan to meet a particular person or couple, we have a date in mind and we just talk to different people until a connection forms, then it just kind of evolves from there...lazy really

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is how we chose our first meet and generally how we still do. Firstly we thought about the type of guy we wanted to meet, lookswise, did a search and read up on the verifications. The things we looked out for was, 'he understood the dynamics of a couple, grounded, down to earth' that sort of thing and did he have repeat meets with these people saying such. We also wanted to meet someone with experience and been on the scene for a while (25 plus veris and here three years), someone who was experienced with newbies. There were a few guys that stood out and one in particular so we sent a message to see how we got on personality wise and for the general vibe. We exchanged messages in the week which all went well and arranged to meet at his hotel at the weekend. The meet went perfectly, he made us feel welcome and quite the gentleman who we met many a time, he's still doing very well now.

Not sure how much this helps but we wanted to give you an insight of how we do things and the blueprint has worked well for us. It really is worth doing a bit of research but even then nothing's guaranteed but we've found in the long run it does. Good luck. "

thanks for the insite, it gives a little understanding that’s needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you approach it?

Do you jump in hoping that everything goes alright or do you do lots of research? Do you find it better meeting someone on your level of experience or someone with less or more than you? Is it better with a stranger or someone you know?

The reason for lots of questions is the first peorson my wife spoke to was a guy who said something along the lines of ‘why would you do this? If you were my wife, I wouldn’t share you with anyone! ‘

How do you avoid that type of thing? But making sure your meeting up with someone that understand people’s kinks etc? Any tips advice? "

Maybe he thinks your wife is hot and if she were his wife he would want to keep her all to himself the greedy man xxx

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London


"How do you approach it?

Do you jump in hoping that everything goes alright or do you do lots of research? Do you find it better meeting someone on your level of experience or someone with less or more than you? Is it better with a stranger or someone you know?

The reason for lots of questions is the first peorson my wife spoke to was a guy who said something along the lines of ‘why would you do this? If you were my wife, I wouldn’t share you with anyone! ‘

How do you avoid that type of thing? But making sure your meeting up with someone that understand people’s kinks etc? Any tips advice? "

Exactly the kind of single guy I try to avoid. We're only interested in meeting couples and singles that get swinging. When someone says something like that my first thought is that they don't have any respect for my lady and that's a big no no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you approach it?

Do you jump in hoping that everything goes alright or do you do lots of research? Do you find it better meeting someone on your level of experience or someone with less or more than you? Is it better with a stranger or someone you know?

The reason for lots of questions is the first peorson my wife spoke to was a guy who said something along the lines of ‘why would you do this? If you were my wife, I wouldn’t share you with anyone! ‘

How do you avoid that type of thing? But making sure your meeting up with someone that understand people’s kinks etc? Any tips advice?

Exactly the kind of single guy I try to avoid. We're only interested in meeting couples and singles that get swinging. When someone says something like that my first thought is that they don't have any respect for my lady and that's a big no no."

That was kind of my first thought. And then, like my wife (and another couple in here has said) it’s a compliment in a way. If I did take it serious, like yourself, I’d think it as disrespectful to us both, and in the back of my mind I think, is he trying to steal my girl? And that’s a big no no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a guy twice who my OH had been talking to on here.

He seemed very genuine and was a perfect gentleman.

We met up with him twice.

Great verifications.

Until 2 week later my OH got a call from his wife who had given birth 6 week ago which he failed to mentioned.

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London


"How do you approach it?

Do you jump in hoping that everything goes alright or do you do lots of research? Do you find it better meeting someone on your level of experience or someone with less or more than you? Is it better with a stranger or someone you know?

The reason for lots of questions is the first peorson my wife spoke to was a guy who said something along the lines of ‘why would you do this? If you were my wife, I wouldn’t share you with anyone! ‘

How do you avoid that type of thing? But making sure your meeting up with someone that understand people’s kinks etc? Any tips advice?

Exactly the kind of single guy I try to avoid. We're only interested in meeting couples and singles that get swinging. When someone says something like that my first thought is that they don't have any respect for my lady and that's a big no no.

That was kind of my first thought. And then, like my wife (and another couple in here has said) it’s a compliment in a way. If I did take it serious, like yourself, I’d think it as disrespectful to us both, and in the back of my mind I think, is he trying to steal my girl? And that’s a big no no. "

Perception is reality so for me its always going to be a mood killer. If they were to say something along the lines of not being able to share because they wouldn't know how to bring the topic up with their partner because they were nervous etc, naturally I'd be far more understanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we get a nice message, we try and chat and get to what they want and go from there. But most guys now (in our experience) refuse to say what they are in to. We're so weary of cliches like 'happy to fit around you' or 'I go with the flow' or 'it's all about the ladies getting pleasured first'.

On the rare occasion someone eventually tells us what they like and we click, we arrange to meet. But we don't give out numbers anymore due to guys taking our address then going acting really weird.

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By *ikely ladMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

When I met my first couple I found it nerve-racking as much as exciting. We chatted which really broke the ice and in turn made the whole experience wonderful. The obvious thing is to iron out the duo's and don'ts before you get going.

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