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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

We would like to know that with the high demand of the single bi female to join a couple, how do you make your profile stand out from the masses of messages they receive daily ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile states that you are looking for couples. Single females aren't even mentioned

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want "

Exactly why I stopped meeting couples. Got fed up being a toy to fulfil their needs when they couldn't give a shit what the performing seal wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want

Exactly why I stopped meeting couples. Got fed up being a toy to fulfil their needs when they couldn't give a shit what the performing seal wanted. "

NOT every couple is like this! It’s a threesome with us, not have a play with the woman and then forget about her! We’d feel awful if she felt that way! It’s all about her desires too!

Geeky x

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By *pforfun1234562016Couple
over a year ago

leamington spa


"Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want

Exactly why I stopped meeting couples. Got fed up being a toy to fulfil their needs when they couldn't give a shit what the performing seal wanted. "
performing seal that made me chuckle

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Your pictures are really good and would grab my attention, but as you're only looking for ff that would be a straight delete I'm afraid.

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want

Exactly why I stopped meeting couples. Got fed up being a toy to fulfil their needs when they couldn't give a shit what the performing seal wanted.

NOT every couple is like this! It’s a threesome with us, not have a play with the woman and then forget about her! We’d feel awful if she felt that way! It’s all about her desires too!

Geeky x"

Exactly the same as us, if ever the senario happened with inviting a single female to play with us, we would never dream of expecting a "performing seal" or have them sitting there thumb twiddling. If anything we would both focus more on her and her pleasure, not all couples feel having a female join them is all about them and only their joy.

We would hate to have anyone feel that way, we understand that many feel that way due to past couple experiences but it's also unfair to tar all for the actions of some.

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want "

Our 'senario' doesn't state a single female at all, that is for a mfmf meeting.

As another poster said we've nothing on our profile regarding a single female and thats due to knowing how a lot feel about couple's, and probably why we've not added anything yet.

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By *arkhorse66Man
over a year ago

bristol

Interesting views and experiences, shows how we are all different. My fwb and I have sought a single lady before without success using a couple profile and for us it is taking pleasure from ensuring that lady has a fantastic time and only if that were achieved would we be enjoying the experience.

We still live in hope ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've played in various scenarios as the unicorn. Its actually a role I take really seriously to ensure the other woman has a great time and feels completely comfortable playing. With experienced couples it full swap filth but I've also played with less experienced ones and totally understand the soft swap element or what their requirements are.

I don't see it as any different to the requests couples put in for single makes and fulfilling different fantasy scenarios.. No different to dom, bull, cuck etc play xxx

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Soft play only is an instant no-no.

Frequently too many rules with couples, which I respect, it's just not my cup of Darjeeling.

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"We would like to know that with the high demand of the single bi female to join a couple, how do you make your profile stand out from the masses of messages they receive daily ?"

Not to offend but i think our original post may have been misread.

It was more a question from interest than a reflection on what we are currently looking for right now.

Yes a MFF meet would be something we'd like to experience in the future and of course we'd take note from replies for when we would like to, but our post was more a wondering of how a couple's profile would need to stand out from the tons of mail the Unicorn must recieve daily from other couples and the 1000's of Men messages.

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"Soft play only is an instant no-no.

Frequently too many rules with couples, which I respect, it's just not my cup of Darjeeling. "

The soft play is currently for a MFMF meet.

A MFF scenario would be totaly different. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where !!!!!

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"I've played in various scenarios as the unicorn. Its actually a role I take really seriously to ensure the other woman has a great time and feels completely comfortable playing. With experienced couples it full swap filth but I've also played with less experienced ones and totally understand the soft swap element or what their requirements are.

I don't see it as any different to the requests couples put in for single makes and fulfilling different fantasy scenarios.. No different to dom, bull, cuck etc play xxx"

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"I've played in various scenarios as the unicorn. Its actually a role I take really seriously to ensure the other woman has a great time and feels completely comfortable playing. With experienced couples it full swap filth but I've also played with less experienced ones and totally understand the soft swap element or what their requirements are.

I don't see it as any different to the requests couples put in for single makes and fulfilling different fantasy scenarios.. No different to dom, bull, cuck etc play xxx"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soft play only is an instant no-no.

Frequently too many rules with couples, which I respect, it's just not my cup of Darjeeling. "

Or early gray

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soft play only is an instant no-no.

Frequently too many rules with couples, which I respect, it's just not my cup of Darjeeling.

The soft play is currently for a MFMF meet.

A MFF scenario would be totaly different. Xx"

Then the first thing to do would be to change your profile to explain that, surely? As it stands at the moment it reads like a singe female wouldn't get any penetration if she joined you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find couples in general (not all!) have too many rules (some not even explained until they are broken).

After several attempts and coming away feeling like I was there for the amusement of others I’ve given up now.

Luckily I found one lovely couple who have turned into very good friends as well as playmates.

I’ve had some memorable (and not for good reasons) exchanges with the male half of many couples when I’ve tried to explain why I’m not intetested too. The ladies tend to be more understanding.

Apologies to the more understanding couples, but it’s just easier to say no

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want

Exactly why I stopped meeting couples. Got fed up being a toy to fulfil their needs when they couldn't give a shit what the performing seal wanted.

NOT every couple is like this! It’s a threesome with us, not have a play with the woman and then forget about her! We’d feel awful if she felt that way! It’s all about her desires too!

Geeky x

Exactly the same as us, if ever the senario happened with inviting a single female to play with us, we would never dream of expecting a "performing seal" or have them sitting there thumb twiddling. If anything we would both focus more on her and her pleasure, not all couples feel having a female join them is all about them and only their joy.

We would hate to have anyone feel that way, we understand that many feel that way due to past couple experiences but it's also unfair to tar all for the actions of some."

The same with us, too. For us the idea of a threesome with another woman is that of three equals playing together. Each may have their boundaries and expectations but the former should be respected and the latter fulfilled. One of the biggest turn ons is turning someone on, and that is what we hope we could do for anyone who joined us.

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would like to know that with the high demand of the single bi female to join a couple, how do you make your profile stand out from the masses of messages they receive daily ?"

I dont mention it and hope they can read minds

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"Then the first thing to do would be to change your profile to explain that, surely? As it stands at the moment it reads like a singe female wouldn't get any penetration if she joined you."

What i wrote in an earlier post explains why our profile does not state we are looking for a single female.

""Not to offend but i think our original post may have been misread.

It was more a question from interest than a reflection on what we are currently looking for right now.

Yes a MFF meet would be something we'd like to experience in the future and of course we'd take note from replies for when we would like to, but our post was more a wondering of how a couple's profile would need to stand out from the tons of mail the Unicorn must recieve daily from other couples and the 1000's of Men messages.""

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

I think I have just been lucky, it's always turned out well and LOTS of fun.

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want

Exactly why I stopped meeting couples. Got fed up being a toy to fulfil their needs when they couldn't give a shit what the performing seal wanted.

NOT every couple is like this! It’s a threesome with us, not have a play with the woman and then forget about her! We’d feel awful if she felt that way! It’s all about her desires too!

Geeky x

Exactly the same as us, if ever the senario happened with inviting a single female to play with us, we would never dream of expecting a "performing seal" or have them sitting there thumb twiddling. If anything we would both focus more on her and her pleasure, not all couples feel having a female join them is all about them and only their joy.

We would hate to have anyone feel that way, we understand that many feel that way due to past couple experiences but it's also unfair to tar all for the actions of some.

The same with us, too. For us the idea of a threesome with another woman is that of three equals playing together. Each may have their boundaries and expectations but the former should be respected and the latter fulfilled. One of the biggest turn ons is turning someone on, and that is what we hope we could do for anyone who joined us. "

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

It would be great if people would actually read a post properly rather than misinterpreting what's written. A few replies are more akin to a dig at our profile info rather than the actual question posted..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd want to see pics of the couple together in an ordinary environment.

I'd want to know exactly what they want from me and will give to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We actually have 2 single females we play with and one who mrs freckles even class as a girlfriend as they do everything together and all 3 of us play and have a super relationship and are completely open about everything. Our 2nd single female we don’t see as much of but omg they both so much fun and definitely no one sits around that’s for sure, pictures on our profile shows the girls. Single females are on here but they won’t come looking for you, you have to put in some work and be patient and polite. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then the first thing to do would be to change your profile to explain that, surely? As it stands at the moment it reads like a singe female wouldn't get any penetration if she joined you.

What i wrote in an earlier post explains why our profile does not state we are looking for a single female.

""Not to offend but i think our original post may have been misread.

It was more a question from interest than a reflection on what we are currently looking for right now.

Yes a MFF meet would be something we'd like to experience in the future and of course we'd take note from replies for when we would like to, but our post was more a wondering of how a couple's profile would need to stand out from the tons of mail the Unicorn must recieve daily from other couples and the 1000's of Men messages.""

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Fair enough. Every person would have different things they're looking for though, and different ways of playing. So I still say your profile should reflect how *you* would want a 3some to be. Are you looking for one offs/continued friendship? Homes/clubs? You're never going to appeal to everyone so it's best to just be honest about what you can offer and what you're looking for- no-one else can say that for you. I think your pictures are beautifully done and show a good mix of both partners, that's a definite plus for single women (well, for anyone really). Other people will have different views, but I personally don't like the "unicorn" phrase...I think that's often part of the feeling of being a performing seal. Just my opinion though.

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"Then the first thing to do would be to change your profile to explain that, surely? As it stands at the moment it reads like a singe female wouldn't get any penetration if she joined you.

What i wrote in an earlier post explains why our profile does not state we are looking for a single female.

""Not to offend but i think our original post may have been misread.

It was more a question from interest than a reflection on what we are currently looking for right now.

Yes a MFF meet would be something we'd like to experience in the future and of course we'd take note from replies for when we would like to, but our post was more a wondering of how a couple's profile would need to stand out from the tons of mail the Unicorn must recieve daily from other couples and the 1000's of Men messages.""

Fair enough. Every person would have different things they're looking for though, and different ways of playing. So I still say your profile should reflect how *you* would want a 3some to be. Are you looking for one offs/continued friendship? Homes/clubs? You're never going to appeal to everyone so it's best to just be honest about what you can offer and what you're looking for- no-one else can say that for you. I think your pictures are beautifully done and show a good mix of both partners, that's a definite plus for single women (well, for anyone really). Other people will have different views, but I personally don't like the "unicorn" phrase...I think that's often part of the feeling of being a performing seal. Just my opinion though."

Now this is where i agree with you lol, I (Ms) personally hate the unicorn word. It was only used for the post and think I'll avoid it in future.

Thank you for your advice though and will take note if we ever add details to our profile to meet a lovely single bi woman. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then the first thing to do would be to change your profile to explain that, surely? As it stands at the moment it reads like a singe female wouldn't get any penetration if she joined you.

What i wrote in an earlier post explains why our profile does not state we are looking for a single female.

""Not to offend but i think our original post may have been misread.

It was more a question from interest than a reflection on what we are currently looking for right now.

Yes a MFF meet would be something we'd like to experience in the future and of course we'd take note from replies for when we would like to, but our post was more a wondering of how a couple's profile would need to stand out from the tons of mail the Unicorn must recieve daily from other couples and the 1000's of Men messages.""

Fair enough. Every person would have different things they're looking for though, and different ways of playing. So I still say your profile should reflect how *you* would want a 3some to be. Are you looking for one offs/continued friendship? Homes/clubs? You're never going to appeal to everyone so it's best to just be honest about what you can offer and what you're looking for- no-one else can say that for you. I think your pictures are beautifully done and show a good mix of both partners, that's a definite plus for single women (well, for anyone really). Other people will have different views, but I personally don't like the "unicorn" phrase...I think that's often part of the feeling of being a performing seal. Just my opinion though."

Ah see this is where I’m not sure what to say! We have a friend who loves being a “unicorn” because she has that feeling of being desired but I do also understand why some women might find it exactly how you say feel like performing so for bow we’re sticking with the single bi gem

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By *kylar95jack83Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"Soft play only is an instant no-no.

Frequently too many rules with couples, which I respect, it's just not my cup of Darjeeling.

The soft play is currently for a MFMF meet.

A MFF scenario would be totaly different. Xx"

So your allowed to fuck the girls. But you don’t want her to fuck a guy ? Common theme with a lot of couples on this site. Back and eat it springs to mind

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"Soft play only is an instant no-no.

Frequently too many rules with couples, which I respect, it's just not my cup of Darjeeling.

The soft play is currently for a MFMF meet.

A MFF scenario would be totaly different. Xx

So your allowed to fuck the girls. But you don’t want her to fuck a guy ? Common theme with a lot of couples on this site. Back and eat it springs to mind "

No not at all!

It's actually me (ms) who has set the beginning playing boundaries. Not the Mr, it's never good to assume....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soft play only is an instant no-no.

Frequently too many rules with couples, which I respect, it's just not my cup of Darjeeling.

The soft play is currently for a MFMF meet.

A MFF scenario would be totaly different. Xx

So your allowed to fuck the girls. But you don’t want her to fuck a guy ? Common theme with a lot of couples on this site. Back and eat it springs to mind

No not at all!

It's actually me (ms) who has set the beginning playing boundaries. Not the Mr, it's never good to assume.... "

You play how you like.

I the male have absolutely no desire to fuck another woman but I love watching my wife enjoying herself.

That's the way we play and enjoy ourselves, others do it differently. X

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

There's nothing single female friendly on your profile. Most will look at it first. Also the phrase jumping though hoops springs to mind. Definitely no attraction there for me, sorry. Good luck though x

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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)


"There's nothing single female friendly on your profile. Most will look at it first. Also the phrase jumping though hoops springs to mind. Definitely no attraction there for me, sorry. Good luck though x"

This post was a few weeks back and have since changed our profile and removed the 'single female friendly' section. We know there's a slim to none chance of finding that here so didn't see the point having it.

Also your opinion on attraction is totaly fine as we are in mutual agreement, but the post as many have misinterpreted was a general question not a direct to any single female.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There's nothing single female friendly on your profile. Most will look at it first. Also the phrase jumping though hoops springs to mind. Definitely no attraction there for me, sorry. Good luck though x

This post was a few weeks back and have since changed our profile and removed the 'single female friendly' section. We know there's a slim to none chance of finding that here so didn't see the point having it.

Also your opinion on attraction is totaly fine as we are in mutual agreement, but the post as many have misinterpreted was a general question not a direct to any single female. "

Glad we are in agreement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just been to unicorn wasnt that hard to find nice fodder too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your ‘scenario’ would mean the female half of your couple playing with the single female & and then you (a couple) having sex while she sits there twiddling her thumbs - no single female is going to approach you when your profile doesn’t cater for her needs or desires. You need to think what you have to offer rather than state what you want

Exactly why I stopped meeting couples. Got fed up being a toy to fulfil their needs when they couldn't give a shit what the performing seal wanted.

NOT every couple is like this! It’s a threesome with us, not have a play with the woman and then forget about her! We’d feel awful if she felt that way! It’s all about her desires too!

Geeky x"

Totally this for us as a couple too xx

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

When we become lucky enough to meet a lady for a threesome everyone will be treated equally as we are all there to have together. For someone to be left twiddling their thumbs would be a disaster in our eyes.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"When we become lucky enough to meet a lady for a threesome everyone will be treated equally as we are all there to have together. For someone to be left twiddling their thumbs would be a disaster in our eyes. "

Great attitude. It's easy for couples to get so excited about finally finding a woman that they get carried away and absorbed in how great it is to share that experience. With each other.

Or you get the women who realise, part way through, it's not for them and she 'reclaims' him in a territorial way.

Not all couples of course - I've had some fantastic threesomes over the years. But always that risk - which is why I mostly play in clubs where everyone gets a better feel for each other beforehand. Before getting a feel of each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I'm so fearful of meeting a couple and I haven't yet. I'd love to play with a couple but I'd hate the feeling of being used to fulfil someone else's needs while no one cares about mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we become lucky enough to meet a lady for a threesome everyone will be treated equally as we are all there to have together. For someone to be left twiddling their thumbs would be a disaster in our eyes. "

Such a lovely attitude to have

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Simple answer is go to clubs, our problem is my Dom and L’s switch streak.

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