FabSwingers.com forum: Blocked

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Twice i have been blocked on here today as a result of sending or showing my face. Makes me wonder if im either ugly or the recipient has no manners to say sorry im not interested. Wasted time messaging back and forwards to be blocked after i show my face. My face pic is not being shown to anyone for a while now. Anyone else experianced this

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's a good idea to exchange face pics pretty early on I find, then it doesn't seem too bad if that happens as you haven't been wasting much time messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice i have been blocked on here today as a result of sending or showing my face. Makes me wonder if im either ugly or the recipient has no manners to say sorry im not interested. Wasted time messaging back and forwards to be blocked after i show my face. My face pic is not being shown to anyone for a while now. Anyone else experianced this"

Would " I dont find you attractive" have been better?

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"It's a good idea to exchange face pics pretty early on I find, then it doesn't seem too bad if that happens as you haven't been wasting much time messaging."

I agree with this

Some people just are rude and/or don't wanna waste there time if they aren't interested anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just bad manners. Doesn't take 1 minute to just reply "Not for me" it's rude! try not to take it personally...

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I can see where your coming from, but when I was young and naïve I used to speak forever and couldn't wait to meet that person, then I saw a face pic and my legs couldn't cross any tighter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would " I dont find you attractive" have been better?"

Yes then block me by all means. Maybe its me that finds it just plain rude

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I always say v early on " can i see a face pic" if i dont find any attraction i say " not for me, enjoy fab! Ive once had abuse for replying this way! Obv assuming id drop my knickers, as an adult its how i reply if no attraction is there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always say v early on " can i see a face pic" if i dont find any attraction i say " not for me, enjoy fab! Ive once had abuse for replying this way! Obv assuming id drop my knickers, as an adult its how i reply if no attraction is there "

Ive been raised to be respectful and remember my manners and always be polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they recognised you and instead of accidentally exposing the connection further by replying/leaving pics exposed, they simply blocked?

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Ive been raised to be respectful and remember my manners and always be polite.

I’ve seen some of the messages women get for being polite. Or the guys who just won’t let it go. I understand why they might just not let that happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been raised to be respectful and remember my manners and always be polite.

as have most of us...however some women get fed up with abuse in response to a polite 'no thank you', and decide it's easier to just block when they aren't interested. The site FAQs address this very clearly.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Yeah v true manners cost nothing!

Ive been raised to be respectful and remember my manners and always be polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were they local people? Is ot possible they knew you? But i agree its very rude, we always thank people for there pics even if its a no thank you as there is nothing worse.

Try not to let it knock you x

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

If you can’t shrug off the rejections or the lack of interest you’re going to have a tough time on Fab. You’ll also end up getting your hopes up and wasting time and energy with increasingly positive messages until you reveal your mug pic and.... they don’t like the look of you. It wastes everyone’s time. Always send a real and recent face pic with your first message if you don’t want to have a public pic, it’s the essential first step in getting acquainted. Top tip chap, use a picture that someone else has taken of you looking relaxed, smiling, natural - crappy selfies rarely do anybody any favours.... now wait for all the ladies wanting to meet you. Just leave some for the rest of us....

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Ive been raised to be respectful and remember my manners and always be polite.

If I've got to the stage of asking for a face pic if I'm not feeling it I'll always say 'thanks for sending but I'm not interested'.

But I don't ask for many so it's not a massive issue for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can handle rejection its just the lack of manners i cant understand.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I can see where your coming from, but when I was young and naïve I used to speak forever and couldn't wait to meet that person, then I saw a face pic and my legs couldn't cross any tighter

Meant to say, I've never just blocked though, as the conversation was good, but I have never said that I want to meet, just kept it neutral until I have to say sorry not for me, but it is a difficult situation after the chat has been going on for some time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it can be a bit soul destroying, but you just have to think “right, I’m not for them”, and move on. I think it’s pretty rude to block, but then a lot of people struggle with saying they’re not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know it can be a bit soul destroying, but you just have to think “right, I’m not for them”, and move on. I think it’s pretty rude to block, but then a lot of people struggle with saying they’re not interested. "

I posted in the forum in haste and out of being annoyed. But yes you are right blue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv experience both ways feels shit when blocked fells shit with a message but it is what it is what doest kill you makes you

Stranger muhahahaha creme egg creme eggs

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I can handle rejection its just the lack of manners i cant understand."

6 months in....you should be used to that by now!!!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

No, however just think of the time saved not having to chat to non-compatible people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can handle rejection its just the lack of manners i cant understand.

6 months in....you should be used to that by now!!!

I am so to speak

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Jeeeez

Don’t be so sensitive...

Who cares this isn’t the real world!!

It’s just fun

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Maybe they recognised you and instead of accidentally exposing the connection further by replying/leaving pics exposed, they simply blocked?"

True. If blocked a colleague and my son's friend for exactly this reason. And i kniw someone has done the same with me and I havnt mentioned that id already seen his profile x

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Who cares this isn’t the real world!!

It’s just fun "

Note to self; these are not real people judging me on my looks. And rejection is fun.

Awesome.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Maybe didn't know how to say "ur not my type"

Don't be put off

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

"Who cares this isn’t the real world!!

It’s just fun

Note to self; these are not real people judging me on my looks. And rejection is fun.

Awesome."

You’re rejected probably because there’s too many guys so average ladies get to choose for once ..

In the real world where it’s even odds the balls back in your court..

This is really just a bit of fun

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

Unfortunately, this is the nature of fab. Although it can be for a number of reasons for being blocked, other than just being shallow.

I wouldn’t agree that it’s wasting time with the messaging. The whole point of messaging and photo swapping is to find a suitable playmate and no one is obliged to meet people. However, I agree that if you develop a rapport over several messages, it is rude not to reply with a ‘no thanks’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Been there.

We can't all be everyone's cup of tea. And to be fair, you haven't lost anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not prepared to tell someone they aren’t for me. I’m too chicken for that. And I wouldn’t want someone to say that to us either. We would avoid letting it get to that stage though.

Mrs

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"You’re rejected probably because there’s too many guys so average ladies get to choose for once ..

In the real world where it’s even odds the balls back in your court..

This is really just a bit of fun "

I’m doing fine, thanks. I’m just pointing out that everything’s relative. I’m having fun. I’m sure you’re having fun. But there are thousands of guys out there for whom there is literally nothing fun about Fab.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Even quasimodo got laid... seriously move on

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By *r_Darcy40Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

Probably a fake profile and may be a dude pretending to be a woman especially if they have no pics on their profiles and being a member for year or more. I been on for many years its all gone fucked up with fake profiles on here just be careful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try Snapchat filters...

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By *eirdre40Couple
over a year ago

Dublin South

Some guys on here think they are God's gift to women and when you reply in a very polite way they go mad and seem to think they are everyone's type, unfortunately then some decent guys suffer like you did.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

All I can say is I'm glad I must appear more attractive in the real world! I must be more like something off "The Hills Have Eyes" on here

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