FabSwingers.com forum: Question for the couples

By *ream3.14159 OP Man
over a year ago

Here & there

Hi fabbers, question for all couples.

What's your dynamic regarding looking for potential meets? I mean who does the looking/searching, going through the messages and offers? Do you both do at the same time or one does the hard work then suggest the potential ones to the other half? And do you sometimes compromise and go through it just to please the other half even if you're not so keen or has to be a mutual decision?

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

Generally Mr does the sifting through msgs etc, then will tell Mrs if there’s anyone after the same things.

We never take one for the team, we both have to be attracted to the people we are talking to otherwise it doesn’t go ahead.

Mrs C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs is not interested in the admin side of swinging, she's get better things to do she says lol ..she leaves it all to me and then we discuss any potentials

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

As above, I read the messages and draw Katie's attention to the 2% of messages I think might interest her.

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By *ongueNcheek33Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

We both do the looking and messages for meets etc and they only go ahead if we're both ok with it

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By *ream3.14159 OP Man
over a year ago

Here & there

Interesting, 3-0 for the ladies so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do the majority of the searching and the messaging, then my partner will take a look at the ones that I'm interested in. My partners main focus in swinging is that my happiness comes first and foremost above anything else, so it makes sense that I do the 'site admin' (awful phrase but you know what I mean).

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I answer most messages and no I won't take one for the team.

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By *uriousCouple999Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

I do the searching & admin, then show Mr the messages I think will interest us both, then we'll decide & I'll do the messaging, but Mr always reads them

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs b (me) does most of the looking and will say to hubby if someone catches her eye as I am all over the place with shifts and life in general so can do all the plans x if hubby don’t like it all stops she will respect that

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I Do the messages, boo makes a choice on pics and then we say our boundaries and what we are after, if its all happy then we sort it

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By *ream3.14159 OP Man
over a year ago

Here & there

"I answer most messages and no I won't take one for the team. "

Mr or Mrs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As above, I read the messages and draw Katie's attention to the 2% of messages I think might interest her. "

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I answer most messages and no I won't take one for the team.

Mr or Mrs?"

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs is not interested in the admin side of swinging, she's get better things to do she says lol ..she leaves it all to me and then we discuss any potentials "

Same mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should be asking who is the best at picking the meets, men or women! I think men by far.

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By *ream3.14159 OP Man
over a year ago

Here & there

"I think you should be asking who is the best at picking the meets, men or women! I think men by far."

I think we should start new thread for that.

But why do think that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally set a couple of hours aside and do it together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both do the looking and messages for meets etc, we also only continue if both are happy to meet and then organise it.

Would never take one for the team and meet someone one of us wasn't comfortable or happy meeting.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr does the reading/responding to messages and shows me what he thinks we'd both go for before going any further. Neither of us take one for the team. Mrs (me

) hangs out in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both of us read and respond to messages and we’ve had one social which we both agreed on and was a big success for us both.

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By *ream3.14159 OP Man
over a year ago

Here & there

"Mr does the reading/responding to messages and shows me what he thinks we'd both go for before going any further. Neither of us take one for the team. Mrs (me

) hangs out in the forums."

Yeah the forums are good place to be, I'm learning a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Dangerous) do all the donkey work! Beautiful calls the shots! She says "ask this", I ask. She says "send this", I send. She says "yay" I arrange. She says "nay" I get the abuse! And that's just the start!

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By *JcouplemidlandsCouple
over a year ago

Peak District

We both only go on here together, so both do the searching x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as I’m happy he really not bothered lol

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

We both look locally at profiles together but have pretty much abandoned looking for anything immediately local, Mr tends to do the initial viewing though.

If somebody locally wants to meet up for a social, they really do need to put in some work to garner an interest from us, but over here that's few and far between.

These days we prefer to leave the island for our fun. So now it's pretty much clubs, as we know once there we haven't got to deal with the B/S that some people have to offer, certainly not the cold feet thing. And of course, once in a club, we both get to speak as a couple and decide jointly where to take things. We can also from that position look at taking things into a more intimate place where we all know what we want and have more private liaisons.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

My wife has very little to do with fab , whether that be setting up meets or on the forums .

She never reads messages , rarely looks at pics ( until just before we meet the people we are meeting ) , and says this is the best way for her to enjoy it . She absolutely hates wasting time on here so it’s all down to me , and I get tired of arranging meets too sometimes , so we go dogging more often than not . So much easier and much less time wasted talking to people who are never gonna meet .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's mostly me Mrs N who reads messages and replies. If someone catches my eye I will mention it to Mr N. He looks at pictures more than I do though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both read messages. As for looking we only just stated doing this so not swung yet. I do like the forums (mr) but do show Mrs ones witch I think interest her.

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By *sian_coupleukCouple
over a year ago

manchester

This is pretty much like us too.

"Generally Mr does the sifting through msgs etc, then will tell Mrs if there’s anyone after the same things.

We never take one for the team, we both have to be attracted to the people we are talking to otherwise it doesn’t go ahead.

Mrs C x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Mrs) do most of the searching and chatting, Mr gets involved if things look like they're progressing well, and it looks likely that we're going to meet. Most of our meets are single guys, we find it nigh on impossible to find couples who we both like, and Mr isn't overly interested in meeting single women unless they really catch his eye. So it makes sense for me to get to know the guys, then involve him to make sure he's comfortable with them too, before we meet. Although I do most of the chatting to people, all of our communication is kept open, so we both know what's going on.

We never, ever compromise on who we meet; unless we're both happy, it doesn't happen.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi fabbers, question for all couples.

Me! It’s on my terms whom we

meet and who I talk to, accept when it’s a coupe that’s a joint decision

Mr has a single profile....I choose not to as i meet single guys alone anyway.

I love single guys as a solo meet or 3sum but I like MrP to know exactly what’s going on xx

MrsK xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi fabbers, question for all couples.

Very rarely Mr will go on n chat. I do Night shift so have more time to chat to people when it's quiet and am more chatty in general. He only really goes on after I have chatted for a good while to do the arranging. I'm good at taking shite but not so much at sealing the deal so to speak. If either of us don't like someone it's a no brainer that the conversation doesn't go any further

Someone said on a thread a few weeks ago that the guy was chatting to a male and he didn't feel right about him and didn't want to meet him but waited till his wife came home so they could discuss it before telling him no. Found that actually bizarre x

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Always the Mrs sifts through, answers messages etc.. in an MMF scenario it’s me (the Mrs) who your bonking! So we are the ones who have to gel!

If I’m happy, generally the hubby is happy so all is good!

We never go looking really, we reply to what we get x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curious to see folks answers, ideas and if experienced, the story and opinion.... answers welcomed from all.... what unique/unusual/outragous fantacies have you been lucky enough to fulfil and those still longing to try? Mainly looking for experiences from mf couples. Also interested to hear how couple to couple camming can be made interesting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both go on and read the messages and if we can clearly see that someone has not read our profile, we just delete the message right away, but if they have and they have written a good message, we reply. I do all the replying though(I’m the female) haha

H x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Joe is away a lot,so I tend to spend more time on the site.But we look together when he is home and I always tell him if I message anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although it's not a couples profile, I always seek his approval xxxx

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

My Mrs has very little interest in communicating on here and has never read the forum posts. She will occasionally scan some of the messages sent to us but the replies are usually from me.

For her its almost exclusively down to how she feels about someone when she meets face to face. Hence why our first time meets are in clubs and spas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to see folks answers, ideas and if experienced, the story and opinion.... answers welcomed from all.... what unique/unusual/outragous fantacies have you been lucky enough to fulfil and those still longing to try? Mainly looking for experiences from mf couples. Also interested to hear how couple to couple camming can be made interesting? "

One of our fantasies was for me to be blindfolded and tied to the bed and for a meet to show up. Mr chatted and I stayed off here so no idea who it was. Swear it was amazing. It was my birthday as well. Was just so exciting wanting to peek who it was

One of the things I haven't done yet is a role play mmf where I'm a home owner and Mr and another male are burglars. Bought the balclavas but that's it. Hope it does happen cos Mr plays a bastard down to a T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning! We are both equally active on here whether chatting to singles or couples but generally Fuzz chats to couples with input from me. It's a tricky one, getting all the dynamics right, but when it works and we all fancy each other it can be fabulous!

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning! We are both equally active on here whether chatting to singles or couples but generally Fuzz chats to couples with input from me. It's a tricky one, getting all the dynamics right, but when it works and we all fancy each other it can be fabulous!

Peach x"

I wouldn't say equally active as I deal with messages from couples and TV's and Peach deals with single guys and girls. So peach has more Fabmin from guys to deal with as they message more often.

Fuzz

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