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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Posted this in the Ireland forums but honestly very interested to hear as many peoples opinions as possible from all walks of life so I'll post here awsell

Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person as a mere object of sexual desire. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity."

Objectification is rampant in our daily lives people are objectified sexually as a marketing tool.

My question is" Is it possible to live in a world free of objectification, and what are peoples opinions on the subject"

Personally I feel objectification in society means people have to live up to a certain standard, have to look a certain way etc.. It's not healthy and I'm assuming can lead to massive confidence and mental health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like my lover to want *me* inside them, not my cock. Similarly I most definitely want to be inside a beautiful attractive soul, not just her pussy. That, for me, is the dividing line between my outlook and the more objectifying outlook that's somewhat prevalent on Fab. Don't know if that adds to the conversation at all haha but I thought I'd just throw it out there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would like my lover to want *me* inside them, not my cock. Similarly I most definitely want to be inside a beautiful attractive soul, not just her pussy. That, for me, is the dividing line between my outlook and the more objectifying outlook that's somewhat prevalent on Fab. Don't know if that adds to the conversation at all haha but I thought I'd just throw it out there "

Appreciated, it's nice to see genuine opinions

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

That's the attitude you find a lot. Guys on here to see what slags are up for it, but I'm sure lots of females wanting cock as well.

I prefer the personal touch and would never ever see my date as an object x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's the attitude you find a lot. Guys on here to see what slags are up for it, but I'm sure lots of females wanting cock as well.

I prefer the personal touch and would never ever see my date as an object x"

I feel it doesn't just extend soley to males but definitely is quite common on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like my lover to want *me* inside them, not my cock. Similarly I most definitely want to be inside a beautiful attractive soul, not just her pussy. That, for me, is the dividing line between my outlook and the more objectifying outlook that's somewhat prevalent on Fab. Don't know if that adds to the conversation at all haha but I thought I'd just throw it out there "

When I first joined fab it became clear that some people wanted any body rather than my body. If u let that get into ur head it can do real damage

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Posted this in the Ireland forums but honestly very interested to hear as many peoples opinions as possible from all walks of life so I'll post here awsell

Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person as a mere object of sexual desire. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity."

Objectification is rampant in our daily lives people are objectified sexually as a marketing tool.

My question is" Is it possible to live in a world free of objectification, and what are peoples opinions on the subject"

Personally I feel objectification in society means people have to live up to a certain standard, have to look a certain way etc.. It's not healthy and I'm assuming can lead to massive confidence and mental health"

I think people in society as a whole are treated as commodities and it starts at the top. We're no more than statistics.

On fab, some people treat others as objects and some don't but the ones who do are quite easy to spot.

I don't think objectification in society means we all have to look a certain way etc I think that people put those standards on themselves.

I don't think it's possible to live in a society without objectification.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"That's the attitude you find a lot. Guys on here to see what slags are up for it, but I'm sure lots of females wanting cock as well.

I prefer the personal touch and would never ever see my date as an object x

I feel it doesn't just extend soley to males but definitely is quite common on here "

It's definitely not just the males, that's what I said in my comment as well x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's the attitude you find a lot. Guys on here to see what slags are up for it, but I'm sure lots of females wanting cock as well.

I prefer the personal touch and would never ever see my date as an object x

I feel it doesn't just extend soley to males but definitely is quite common on here

It's definitely not just the males, that's what I said in my comment as well x"

I completely didn't see that sorry

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"That's the attitude you find a lot. Guys on here to see what slags are up for it, but I'm sure lots of females wanting cock as well.

I prefer the personal touch and would never ever see my date as an object x

I feel it doesn't just extend soley to males but definitely is quite common on here

It's definitely not just the males, that's what I said in my comment as well x

I completely didn't see that sorry "

You got as far as "another one having a go at single males" and stopped reading?

If it wasn't for single guys I wouldn't be on this site x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but the ones who do are quite easy to spot."

I disagree. Men will say anything to get a fuck.

For me, I want to be the woman they want, not one of many. Otherwise it's objectification.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's the attitude you find a lot. Guys on here to see what slags are up for it, but I'm sure lots of females wanting cock as well.

I prefer the personal touch and would never ever see my date as an object x

I feel it doesn't just extend soley to males but definitely is quite common on here

It's definitely not just the males, that's what I said in my comment as well x

I completely didn't see that sorry

You got as far as "another one having a go at single males" and stopped reading?

If it wasn't for single guys I wouldn't be on this site x"

No a genuine mistake

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

The term 'human resources' is to blame, objectified the whole lot of us with a single stroke of the pen.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"but the ones who do are quite easy to spot.

I disagree. Men will say anything to get a fuck.

For me, I want to be the woman they want, not one of many. Otherwise it's objectification."

I don’t agree. It’s not a case of me just wanting the woman - she obviously wants me, and it doesn’t matter to either of us how many people we’ve had sex with. That’s not objectifying - it’s mutual attraction.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The term 'human resources' is to blame, objectified the whole lot of us with a single stroke of the pen."

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but the ones who do are quite easy to spot.

I disagree. Men will say anything to get a fuck.

For me, I want to be the woman they want, not one of many. Otherwise it's objectification.

I don’t agree. It’s not a case of me just wanting the woman - she obviously wants me, and it doesn’t matter to either of us how many people we’ve had sex with. That’s not objectifying - it’s mutual attraction. "

You've misunderstood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same answer I have written on your other thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab I accept it’s simply a sexual desire that will attract someone to my profile and lead to a meet, it is after all a sex site, so not sure we can complain if it’s only sex the person is after. I know for me it’s a sexual attraction first and then I want to be able to have a giggle with them, so if after a few messages I can’t feel that vibe, the chatting ends and the sexual attraction disappears.

I don’t think any of us can say the first thing that attracts us is something within another person... we go on visuals first, as that is in most cases the first contact we have with another person... we see them, we find them attractive and then we chat.

There are some on here that are simply a fancy, fuck and go, but I don’t see that as being wrong or that they are guilty of objectification, they are simply doing what this site is set up for. Connecting people for sex. It’s not a traditional dating site, which tbh I’m sure also has a certain degree of just sexual attraction before anything else.

Objectification couldn’t be eradicated, because it’s simply personal preference. Those who only find slim light haired people attractive or those who find dark well built people attractive are still objectifying, they are pushing their interpretations of perfection onto that particular type, by believing they are more attractive than any other type of person.

Just my view

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"but the ones who do are quite easy to spot.

I disagree. Men will say anything to get a fuck.

For me, I want to be the woman they want, not one of many. Otherwise it's objectification.

I don’t agree. It’s not a case of me just wanting the woman - she obviously wants me, and it doesn’t matter to either of us how many people we’ve had sex with. That’s not objectifying - it’s mutual attraction.

You've misunderstood "

Wouldn’t the first time

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I find the intimacy of knowing and feeling someone's personality a major erotic experience, magnifying the physical aspects of being together.

As some say, there's a large number here who need to be inside a hole or to use someone as a sex Droid, who fulfills their instructions. You're the physical form of someone in porn they'd have wanked to - but you give them the physical sensations, so don't need to exert their hands.

Being connected with a person, someone who shares their soul, is enriching and very sexually satisfying and opening yourself to them a great adventure. We may just have a few hours together but it may also be a repeated encounter, getting to know each other more deeply. It's no strings. But no strings doesn't have to be like 2 droids interacting, no more connected than robots at a car manufacturers.

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By *ingdong11Man
over a year ago

emsworth


"but the ones who do are quite easy to spot.

I disagree. Men will say anything to get a fuck.

For me, I want to be the woman they want, not one of many. Otherwise it's objectification."

Not true and pretty offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but the ones who do are quite easy to spot.

I disagree. Men will say anything to get a fuck.

For me, I want to be the woman they want, not one of many. Otherwise it's objectification.

Not true and pretty offensive."

I'm offended by you taking offense at my experience. You have no idea what's true for me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"On fab I accept it’s simply a sexual desire that will attract someone to my profile and lead to a meet, it is after all a sex site, so not sure we can complain if it’s only sex the person is after. I know for me it’s a sexual attraction first and then I want to be able to have a giggle with them, so if after a few messages I can’t feel that vibe, the chatting ends and the sexual attraction disappears.

I don’t think any of us can say the first thing that attracts us is something within another person... we go on visuals first, as that is in most cases the first contact we have with another person... we see them, we find them attractive and then we chat.

There are some on here that are simply a fancy, fuck and go, but I don’t see that as being wrong or that they are guilty of objectification, they are simply doing what this site is set up for. Connecting people for sex. It’s not a traditional dating site, which tbh I’m sure also has a certain degree of just sexual attraction before anything else.

Objectification couldn’t be eradicated, because it’s simply personal preference. Those who only find slim light haired people attractive or those who find dark well built people attractive are still objectifying, they are pushing their interpretations of perfection onto that particular type, by believing they are more attractive than any other type of person.

Just my view "

And mine!

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By *aggie and DanCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Objectification is the norm. We literally perceive the world around us as filled with objects. Sometimes this may leave us feeling a Truman Show type of paranoia that everyone else are soulless automata.

The challenge is not to curb objectification but to promote empathy. How does that gorgeous woman with the great tits feel when all anyone wants to approach her for is her tits... when in fact she's been a pioneer in scientific research? How does that feel to have everything you think is interesting about yourself overlooked due to the shape of some part of your anatomy? It's questions like this which are the antidote to objectification. And they apply to all people whose bodies are unusual in any way, be it attractive or not.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

My view is that as a species we have not yet transcended evolution and therefore our because of our basic animal instincts we look at potential partners in a sexual way, and correspondingly want to be seen as sexually attractive, either consciously or subconsciously, by them.

Personally, I have all the emotional connection I need with my partner. Swinging for me is purely a sexual thing. I am therefore more than happy to be objectified (providing I pass the objectification, of course). We swing mainly in clubs and there I am delighted to be wanted sexually by men and/or women. As long as I find them attractive too no other connection is needed for me to fuck them. In vanilla life, on the other hand, I certainly don't want to be either objectified or subjected to unwanted attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The very nature of this site is objectification, ‘no strings attached’. I just don’t want to be objectified by my partner so need to keep it real and see it for what is.

My view anyway,

C

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


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Personally, I have all the emotional connection I need with my partner. Swinging for me is purely a sexual thing. I am therefore more than happy to be objectified (providing I pass the objectification, of course). We swing mainly in clubs and there I am delighted to be wanted sexually by men and/or women. As long as I find them attractive too no other connection is needed for me to fuck them. In vanilla life, on the other hand, I certainly don't want to be either objectified or subjected to unwanted attention."

Exactly.

In addition to the objectification involved in playing with others, we find it possible to have different flavours of sex between just us - and one of those involves objectification eg light bondage where you enjoy seeing your partner helpless, or dressing up is another example. So yes it also has its place in a loving partnership

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some great points

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I can’t see the problem with objectification on a site like this .

Some call it a preference , others objectifying , but we all do it . Some more than others , but each of us who has a preference is objectifying by nature of the preference they have .

And there’s nothing wrong with that .

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