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"Yep but all they want is a hook up, had guys who are on fab message me on there asking for a fab type meet, yes I may be both but I use a dating site for dating believe it or not then I get the sarky reply well your on fab " Yup, had this recently. We had started chatting on Pof and then I joined back up on here and he found me. When I said I didn’t want to meet he got all shitty. | |||
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"Never heard of bumble " "What makes Bumble different from other dating apps like Tinder and OKCupid, though, is its focus on giving women all the power. Men using Bumble can swipe through the app and to find matches, but they can't initiate conversations." I have male and female friends using it, both haven't had much luck | |||
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"Yep but all they want is a hook up, had guys who are on fab message me on there asking for a fab type meet, yes I may be both but I use a dating site for dating believe it or not then I get the sarky reply well your on fab " I get exactly the same. My response is "I didn't want to meet you on fab why would I want to meet you here?" | |||
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"Yep but all they want is a hook up, had guys who are on fab message me on there asking for a fab type meet, yes I may be both but I use a dating site for dating believe it or not then I get the sarky reply well your on fab I get exactly the same. My response is "I didn't want to meet you on fab why would I want to meet you here?" " I reply with if you would like a fab meet contact me on there, when they do I politely decline | |||
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"Yep but all they want is a hook up, had guys who are on fab message me on there asking for a fab type meet, yes I may be both but I use a dating site for dating believe it or not then I get the sarky reply well your on fab I get exactly the same. My response is "I didn't want to meet you on fab why would I want to meet you here?" I reply with if you would like a fab meet contact me on there, when they do I politely decline " Oooh I'll try that lol | |||
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"I’ve been successful on most sites .. Pof and Tinder definitely the easiest... Bumble is ok Here is ok but obviously you can’t see what someone looks like so most messages are a waste of time .." Thats why you send 4 face pics with your initial message | |||
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"I joined a dating app recently as I'm definitely looking to connect with women who may end up being life partners. I'll be approaching it entirely differently, however, starting with purely platonic friendship, then seeing if romance and sex follow. Here people quickly dismiss you if you don't come in from the sex angle. Don't get me wrong, sex is important, it was a definite factor in the breakup of my previous relationship. But unlike most on here it soooo doesn't define me. I am a constellation of intriguing ingredients. In finding a life partner it's much more sensible to seek someone who gels with my goals, dreams, soul, humour, spirituality, etc. Sex will be an essential part of that compatibility. But it's not what I would lead with. Having said that, although I'd be surprised to meet my soul mate on here, and if I did I would have gone about meeting her completely back to front for my liking, I'm not closed to the idea. I don't need to distance the women I meet on here from me. Not unless they want me to distance them " If only you lived 150 miles closer and was 10 years older. What if/if only. Story of my life | |||
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"I joined a dating app recently as I'm definitely looking to connect with women who may end up being life partners. I'll be approaching it entirely differently, however, starting with purely platonic friendship, then seeing if romance and sex follow. Here people quickly dismiss you if you don't come in from the sex angle. Don't get me wrong, sex is important, it was a definite factor in the breakup of my previous relationship. But unlike most on here it soooo doesn't define me. I am a constellation of intriguing ingredients. In finding a life partner it's much more sensible to seek someone who gels with my goals, dreams, soul, humour, spirituality, etc. Sex will be an essential part of that compatibility. But it's not what I would lead with. Having said that, although I'd be surprised to meet my soul mate on here, and if I did I would have gone about meeting her completely back to front for my liking, I'm not closed to the idea. I don't need to distance the women I meet on here from me. Not unless they want me to distance them " I’m like this also. It’s such a catch 22 situation as I don’t want a relationship with a ‘vanilla’ guy, I want to meet someone that’s on the same wavelength as me sexually. I’m very sexually adventurous but I just don’t enjoy casual sex with random people unless it’s with a partner in tow. | |||
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"I kid you not... Every vanilla dating site I’ve Signed up to I get one night stands only. Every fetish / sex site I’ve signed up to I get vanilla dates and long term relationships.... This internet is a odd place" Totally agree with you on that one x | |||
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"I don’t get matches but do on here... think it’s a face thing! I’m off to buy myself a ‘walton-sized’ basket of cats instead " Would you paint my kitchen, I'll keep you supplied in tea and biscuits? | |||
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"I don’t get matches but do on here... think it’s a face thing! I’m off to buy myself a ‘walton-sized’ basket of cats instead Would you paint my kitchen, I'll keep you supplied in tea and biscuits? " Can’t you handle a brush? | |||
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"I joined a dating app recently as I'm definitely looking to connect with women who may end up being life partners. I'll be approaching it entirely differently, however, starting with purely platonic friendship, then seeing if romance and sex follow. Here people quickly dismiss you if you don't come in from the sex angle. Don't get me wrong, sex is important, it was a definite factor in the breakup of my previous relationship. But unlike most on here it soooo doesn't define me. I am a constellation of intriguing ingredients. In finding a life partner it's much more sensible to seek someone who gels with my goals, dreams, soul, humour, spirituality, etc. Sex will be an essential part of that compatibility. But it's not what I would lead with. Having said that, although I'd be surprised to meet my soul mate on here, and if I did I would have gone about meeting her completely back to front for my liking, I'm not closed to the idea. I don't need to distance the women I meet on here from me. Not unless they want me to distance them " Well put . Sums it up for me too | |||
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"Are the men any more sane on the dating sites ? ??" Honestly it’s the same people on every dating site... unless you move or change your age. You will constantly get the matched with the same people..... A funny tidbit about dating sites... you can have the same pictures and profile text... but someone will ignore you on Fab but chat to you on Pof. | |||
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"I kid you not... Every vanilla dating site I’ve Signed up to I get one night stands only. Every fetish / sex site I’ve signed up to I get vanilla dates and long term relationships.... This internet is a odd place" I was on a couple dating apps, found the men gave it all the chat but on meeting was obvious all they wanted was a one off shag. On here, I've developed real friendships, met some amazing people, found a group of crazies I can truly call my best friends, and yes I've had some bloody amazing sex too, with regular partners looking for more than just a fuck n go. It is indeed an odd world we live on. | |||
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"I’m experiencing the mystery of “matching but no replies..” over 6 months now, I match with men, say (all different versions of hello how are you) and no reply back... Can someone explain it? Yes yes I know, not everyone has to reply, it could have have even been a mistaken right swipe..but ongoing,really? Pictures will never do my amazing personality justice!!! Lol Big sigh." On a lot of apps unless they are paid up members they can’t message back, even if you message first And a gentleman told me yesterday that these sites have a lot of female “bots” so a lot of the time they don’t get genuine mail, which makes it harder for is when we do send genuine mail. | |||
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"I’m experiencing the mystery of “matching but no replies..” over 6 months now, I match with men, say (all different versions of hello how are you) and no reply back... Can someone explain it? Yes yes I know, not everyone has to reply, it could have have even been a mistaken right swipe..but ongoing,really? Pictures will never do my amazing personality justice!!! Lol Big sigh." Same for me, it becomes soul destroying after a while | |||
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" Here people quickly dismiss you if you don't come in from the sex angle. " On a Swingers' web site? Whatever next! | |||
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"Yep but all they want is a hook up, had guys who are on fab message me on there asking for a fab type meet, yes I may be both but I use a dating site for dating believe it or not then I get the sarky reply well your on fab " I've had exactly the same thing. They are just on dating sites in the hope of a quick shag. | |||
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" Here people quickly dismiss you if you don't come in from the sex angle. On a Swingers' web site? Whatever next!" | |||
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"I thought it was rubbish. In fact i think they’re all bloody rubbish. Next time i might join a pay site and look there." Why do you find them rubbish? | |||
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"I thought it was rubbish. In fact i think they’re all bloody rubbish. Next time i might join a pay site and look there. Why do you find them rubbish? " Because they are full of attached people or people from here trying to cover all bases to get a shag. | |||
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"I thought it was rubbish. In fact i think they’re all bloody rubbish. Next time i might join a pay site and look there. Why do you find them rubbish? Because they are full of attached people or people from here trying to cover all bases to get a shag. " I use POF as a way to build my confidence up. I'm not ready to get into a relationship again, it wouldn't be fair on the other person because I'm still in love with my ex. So for me it's about going on dates, trying to rebuild myself up again. I don't wanna hurt anyone in the process, but POF is really about me doing what I have to do to fix my broken heart. I've only really spoken to two people but I was honest with them about what I wanted. One of them said that was fine, the other blanked me after that. I'd never intentionally lead someone on. Tinder is for a quick hookup and Fab is to meet new friends for something more casual, a FWB type of situation. | |||
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"I thought it was rubbish. In fact i think they’re all bloody rubbish. Next time i might join a pay site and look there. Why do you find them rubbish? " When I last properly delved in online dating folk used to message folk they were interested in, there was none of the swipe right/left and wink stuff that you get on apps. It was like here, you saw a profile and said hello and took it from there. And most of the men (not all) seem to use the apps as a hook up accessory. I can get that here. And i’m either a right howler or they don’t want to upgrade the account they have to allow them to message back, instead their profile fluff alludes to off-site ways of contacting them. I appreciate i’m Old fashioned in my dating ways. And of course I dare say others like how instant it is, but for me it was disappointing. | |||
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"Yep but all they want is a hook up, had guys who are on fab message me on there asking for a fab type meet, yes I may be both but I use a dating site for dating believe it or not then I get the sarky reply well your on fab I get exactly the same. My response is "I didn't want to meet you on fab why would I want to meet you here?" " I like it, I like it alot | |||
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"Yep but all they want is a hook up, had guys who are on fab message me on there asking for a fab type meet, yes I may be both but I use a dating site for dating believe it or not then I get the sarky reply well your on fab " I had mostly an opposite experience - most are looking for a friendship and possibly a relationship as a minimum, and the same desperados whose message is are "sex" or "fun" on here do the same there but are easily blocked. | |||
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"Never heard of bumble Me neither lol" Women message first on bumble | |||
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"I use bumble as a proper dating app. There are some who still want casual but more seem to be wanting to "date" on there... Unlike tinder " Hm... I get even more serious ones on Tinder. | |||
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