FabSwingers.com forum: Why do so many men get cold feet

By *harliebluestockings OP Couple
over a year ago

london

Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had quite a few men get cold feet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even well verified members.

Yeah it's same shit different day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.

It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With me it's bad circulation!

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

I’m sure they are proper reasons though like we all have real life’s that come first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you listen to others on here you'll find that women and couples get cold feet too.

It happens and we have to accept it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We been let down so many times,all say the same bull I wouldn’t let you blah Dee blah lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never not turned up for a meet, I think some guys though enjoy the thrill of the chase, but cant back up the chat with actions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

need to get some thicker socks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think many of them get cold feet i think they have no intentions of meeting at all and its all down to the power trip of the pull for some and then they are off for a wank ..all while the wife is doing something else ...

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By *igh Tower69Man
over a year ago

Luton

I would never not show up to am agreed meet. Cant really speak for others. They are probably fakes. Its definetly losers like that who make single guys on here look bad to ladies and couples. Shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?

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By *harliebluestockings OP Couple
over a year ago

london

We know there are good reasons and we know it's just not single men that suddenly something comes up ( or not!!!). Just having a much needed vent and thanks for listening.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug

We've all been there at some point. One chance only is now my rule , regardless of what story they tell. Might be a bit harsh but that's life sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We been let down so many times,all say the same bull I wouldn’t let you blah Dee blah lol "

Are you wearing waders?

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By *harliebluestockings OP Couple
over a year ago

london

"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug

We've all been there at some point. One chance only is now my rule , regardless of what story they tell. Might be a bit harsh but that's life sometimes

Have to agree.

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By *icndaveCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys, to avoid cold feet, keep your socks on during sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?

She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.

Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Even well verified members.

Yeah it's same shit different day

You lot are clearly not doing something right. Why's it always the guys fault. Maybe you did,said or they saw something they didn't like?

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug

This is another reason women act the way they do on accessions. We as men need to stop being so forgiven and sorry mate. There will be,but not many women who will give a guy 3 chances in whole time being in fab,let alone 3 chances in a week. What were you thinking. She is now forever going to think she's something she's not and most likely go in to take the piss with other men

. Lord give me strength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plot twist: She's just left my place after a night of utter filth haha

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By *mokey_KinksMan
over a year ago

Essex

some single men do not give the good ones a good name and just makes it worse for the rest of us, I work long hours and have to do callouts but have never let anyone down, but still find it hard to get meets

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By *esjMan
over a year ago

salford

Itsthe fake profiles that never intend tomeet and it’s putting offwomen and couples from meeting genuine lads who want to play

I’ve only had one meet and turned up

But most don’t reply because they think we aren’t gonna show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think men genuinely get cold sometime because in their chat they have given it the big build up but know they can never live up to the chat. So they make an excuse and drop out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had been chatting to a single guy who!! talked the talked but when we met he couldn’t get it on and ran away

We both just burst out laughing x

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs

Based on your photos and profile, I can’t believe it’s cold feet. Surely the excitement of meeting would overcome that. Perhaps they were never in a position to meet?

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Woman and Cpls are just as bad

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

"Woman and Cpls are just as bad

In another forum post. Yes couples are as bad. Let down by same couple over in a period of couple years. Had spoken on phone to both. I reported after third time. Their profile disappeared from site a few days later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to meet someone an I am honest if I say I will be there I will be there

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By *kbloke_11Man
over a year ago

Hockley

I agree and it works both ways, on several occasions I have arranged meets with couples, going through a period of intense teasing etc only for them to cancel, often at the very last minute, again, for them, it's probably the thrill of hooking up but with no intention of going through with it, i guess it's all part of the game

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Our theory (from years of experience) is that a sizeable chunk of the "single" guys that lurk in and around the swinger world, and we don't just mean this site, are married guys.

They will make plans to meet, go to a club, or whatever, on the basis that they can think up a good enough excuse to sneak away from the Mrs for a few hours.

When they can't think of one, or the one they do try gets a knock back from the Mrs, then they either cancel at the last minute or just don't turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our theory (from years of experience) is that a sizeable chunk of the "single" guys that lurk in and around the swinger world, and we don't just mean this site, are married guys.

They will make plans to meet, go to a club, or whatever, on the basis that they can think up a good enough excuse to sneak away from the Mrs for a few hours.

When they can't think of one, or the one they do try gets a knock back from the Mrs, then they either cancel at the last minute or just don't turn up."

That's the conclusion we have come to after being stood up a number of times. We've also been let down by couples too, but we figured a number of those were guys posting as a couple, the number of women in a couple that have a last minute engagement is incredible, the guys are always free

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"I agree and it works both ways, on several occasions I have arranged meets with couples, going through a period of intense teasing etc only for them to cancel, often at the very last minute, again, for them, it's probably the thrill of hooking up but with no intention of going through with it, i guess it's all part of the game "

Period of intense teasing probably = wank chat so that's the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never stood anyone up. I've been stood up by a couple of women on here, however.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men get cold feet because women always pinch the duvet.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Our theory (from years of experience) is that a sizeable chunk of the "single" guys that lurk in and around the swinger world, and we don't just mean this site, are married guys.

They will make plans to meet, go to a club, or whatever, on the basis that they can think up a good enough excuse to sneak away from the Mrs for a few hours.

When they can't think of one, or the one they do try gets a knock back from the Mrs, then they either cancel at the last minute or just don't turn up.

LOL.

We've had that one in the past.

"The Mrs isn't feeling well, but I can come on my own if you like"

It is one of the reasons we now only meet in clubs.

If it is a no show then we still have a good night.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Simple answer is guys get horny and make arrangements..

They probably wank and the horniness subsides and in the cold light of day they realised they’ve arranged to meet someone below there usually standards because sex was on offer ..

Same definitely applies for the ladies too im sure x

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"i dont think many of them get cold feet i think they have no intentions of meeting at all and its all down to the power trip of the pull for some and then they are off for a wank ..all while the wife is doing something else ..."

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Simple answer is guys get horny and make arrangements..

They probably wank and the horniness subsides and in the cold light of day they realised they’ve arranged to meet someone below there usually standards because sex was on offer ..

Same definitely applies for the ladies too im sure x"

not so sure about your statement "below usual standards" lol

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

"Simple answer is guys get horny and make arrangements..

They probably wank and the horniness subsides and in the cold light of day they realised they’ve arranged to meet someone below there usually standards because sex was on offer ..

Same definitely applies for the ladies too im sure x

not so sure about your statement "below usual standards" lol

Below there usual standards there’s a difference..

Some are popular on here because they enjoy good sex ..

These arnt necessarily the first to be chatted up in a bar in the real world..

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By *irimusMan
over a year ago

Burnley

Meanwhile us genuine folk can't even get a look in.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

"Meanwhile us genuine folk can't even get a look in.

I don’t believe that ..

Not hard to meet on here atall x

Be nice,funny and non pushy ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meanwhile us genuine folk can't even get a look in.

I don’t believe that ..

Not hard to meet on here atall x

Be nice,funny and non pushy .."

Says you. Hate to break it to you, but you're the aberration here.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

"Meanwhile us genuine folk can't even get a look in.

I don’t believe that ..

Not hard to meet on here atall x

Be nice,funny and non pushy ..

Says you. Hate to break it to you, but you're the aberration here."

Im an aberration??

Why is that ?

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I think a lot of guys are attached. They like the idea of a crafty one then the fear of being caught or a conscience creeps in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I arrange to meet, I turn up.

It's not rocket science.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meanwhile us genuine folk can't even get a look in.

I don’t believe that ..

Not hard to meet on here atall x

Be nice,funny and non pushy ..

Says you. Hate to break it to you, but you're the aberration here.

Im an aberration??

Why is that ? "

You don't find it hard to meet here. That makes you unusual.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs"

If you give them wank fodder that all they want. Dont do sex chat if that's what you are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes people lead complicated double lives and sometimes they have to cry off although they originally intended to meet. happened to me lots of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I say I'm going to meet I do. I have never let any one down, if i organise a meet I'm there on time.

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By *arry_UkMan
over a year ago

birmingham/

I always meet if I have said so... but quite a few on here recently who like to play games ... shame for the genuine ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Struggling to understand why

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Socks are the answer.

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By *oeandjanCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We have had loads that talk the talk

Even had one that we travelled out to got within a couple of miles from him then he just cancelled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe what's just happened. I was ment to go for drink with a couple. I got to pub walked in and message sorry can't meet. Now there profile has gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens so often it's become a bore hence club meets only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been stood up a few times just social meets tho

Hey ho just go shopping instead

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this guy has messaged sooo many couple and had a few good chats but like you mentioned soon as it comes close to arranging they bail or disapear.. hell whys it so hard!! Really frustrating!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this guy has messaged sooo many couple and had a few good chats but like you mentioned soon as it comes close to arranging they bail or disapear.. hell whys it so hard!! Really frustrating!!"

I know what u mean. I have meet lots of nice people on here. But it's getting worce for time wasters and pic hunters

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"I think a lot of guys are attached. They like the idea of a crafty one then the fear of being caught or a conscience creeps in."

Yes, well put.

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By *kbloke_11Man
over a year ago

Hockley

Period of intense teasing probably = wank chat so that's the issue "

More than likely

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By *ikely ladMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

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some are just dreamers, they're are good behind a keyboard with the sparing but when it comes to the main event their bottle goes! It's hard enough getting a meet on here as it is, let alone having on a plate then wasting people's time. I was lucky enough to get invited by a couple, I took my opportunity with both hands and I loved every minute of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never have sex chat in any form with someone I intended in meeting. That sort of chat is 10 a penny. It's no wonder people lose respect and don't show x

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
over a year ago

caterham

I think some single are married and can't make meets , others the build up is too much for them and newbys may have come in there pants before they have left there home ,but what bugs me the most is when you have been chatting for the week even talked on the phone exchanged pics sets the boundary and they cancel 10 mins before the meet having got ready etc and then in the mood at which time it's too late to do anything else . We tend to stick now to guys we have met and got on with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some single are married and can't make meets , others the build up is too much for them and newbys may have come in there pants before they have left there home ,but what bugs me the most is when you have been chatting for the week even talked on the phone exchanged pics sets the boundary and they cancel 10 mins before the meet having got ready etc and then in the mood at which time it's too late to do anything else . We tend to stick now to guys we have met and got on with "

At least they cancelled. My last attempt at a meet, the woman just didn't turn up.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

You could always fuck each other

When I get let down its just Pam and her 5 sisters left

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Me too! Sealskin socks, riggerboots and winter cycling boots are a life saver for me!

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By *oodyshere2011Man
over a year ago

Midlands

I think it should be why do people let you down. A lot of people let each other down on this site for lots of genuine and non genuine reasons

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I used to give a couple of chances, if I decide I want to meet then it's one time only now, regardless of the reason. I no longer allow other people's lives to impact on mine. It may sound harsh, but they aren't my problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get cold feet when i don't wear socks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even get a meet so no chance of cold feet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's absolutely the same for women and couples. The problem with a site like this is it's easy to set up meets but never any gaurentee at all even with Veris.

Plus there are people on here that actually get something from setting people up. It happens too often to be called "Cold Feet".

Unfortunately it's all genders, regardless of the background work that you do before any meet. It's still a lottery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe it I never get much luck getting meets but if I do I always turn up and seem to be enjoyed! Any women an couple's in North of England that don't want another no show arrange a visit from me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our theory (from years of experience) is that a sizeable chunk of the "single" guys that lurk in and around the swinger world, and we don't just mean this site, are married guys.

They will make plans to meet, go to a club, or whatever, on the basis that they can think up a good enough excuse to sneak away from the Mrs for a few hours.

When they can't think of one, or the one they do try gets a knock back from the Mrs, then they either cancel at the last minute or just don't turn up."

That is exactly it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine a lot of men don't walk the talk for sure .

But from my experience women and couples too but I guess it's down to individual scenarios..

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By *unkey_DuckCouple
over a year ago

Kingslynn

Because its Winter and its pretty nippy outside. I just puts some of me thermal socks on. Keeps ya tootsies nice an warm they do.

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By *oeandjanCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We have had lots

So have given up now

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Their wives disapprove.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I got stood up by a guy with lots of good verifications. The very day of the meeting he confirmed, then just a no show. No message, no apology....

I didn't have a problem as I went in to club anyway and has a super time and came away with new contacts and friends

Same thing happened last Friday... A few hours before..."I'm sick I'm not coming".

No problems, I went anyway and again had a great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wear socks ...

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By *orksCouple25Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

It’s the same reason that very few men are any good in Porn . When the pressure is on and they are expected to perform to order they just can’t and they can’t stand the thought of the potential humiliation so just don’t turn up.

It’s the same reason so many couples will only meet in Clubs ie the pressure performing in a two couple meeting in a house or Hotel is just too much for the male so he avoids it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New here. Thinking a lot of profiles and messages are based on escapism. Anyone agree?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would strongly suspect in 99% of cases of men cancelling (and I suspect it happens far less often than any other group) is due to them not in fact being single/permitted to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love a meet as a older single man there is not a bat in hells chance of that

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

My feet are hotter than a river of flowing lava, will always turn up

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By *andy cane321Couple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Is this the reason why they leave their socks on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the reason why they leave their socks on?"

No that’s a black guy thing lol

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

"Is this the reason why they leave their socks on?"

Such an unsexy look, take them off guys

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Is this the reason why they leave their socks on?

No that’s a black guy thing lol"

Lol. Now i think about it.....

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By *oodyshere2011Man
over a year ago

Midlands

I would personally say that single guys are bearing the brunt of you, I would say that this happens a lot with men, women and couples just as much.

It’s just a part of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We thought it just happened to us, we think we have found a good one, the chat seems to go well, and boom, as soon as we mention arranging a meet they either go quiet or they decide something has come up on the day we arrange the meet for, its happened a few times, sick of giving guys a chance and being let down, and bo we sont want loads of private messages from guys saying they wont let us down (just a heads up)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, same here. I've have several meets lined up, gotten myself ready for them, then they've either cancelled an hour b4, or just never messaged at all. So kind of giving up with them.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

I’ve had it the other way a few times where arranged with women or couples who cancel at the last minute - or the age old one where the couple was actually a single guy. It’s weird though that so many men say they struggle for a meet but the so many pull out or don’t show. I don’t get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea OP but it explains why men wear socks when they have sex ...

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yep I've been let down by single men, with good verifications. No message, no explanation or excuse, just don't show up.

Thankfully I only meet at clubs, so I just go in anyway and have a good time with someone else;);)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like cats and dogs. When dogs chase cats, if the cat stops and stares at the dog, the dog stops and doesn't know what to do... so just walks off. Thrill of the chase and all that.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

men, women, couples, T-Girls, I've known them all having to go into work last minute on a Saturday night

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By *omewhat_kinkyCouple
over a year ago

reigate

We looked long and hard at this problem, having been let down enough times. even to the extent you ping pong messages back n forth for weeks, as soon as you suggest suitable dates for a meet.... you get ghosted.

there could be a couple of reasons, individually or combined, for people getting cold feet.

1 expectation of performance, we all get it at some point.

2 dopermine rush at validation, we all get a rush when things start panning out, maybe these people get enough of a rush it negates the act you are planning.

3 playing away from home and all the minefeild of crap that entails.

4 genuine reasons,

combine any or all of these and they ghost or dont turn up,

it is unfortunately the nature of the game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?

She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.

Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row

Had you spoken to her on the phone or met her before? If not "she" was probably a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We looked long and hard at this problem, having been let down enough times. even to the extent you ping pong messages back n forth for weeks, as soon as you suggest suitable dates for a meet.... you get ghosted.

there could be a couple of reasons, individually or combined, for people getting cold feet.

1 expectation of performance, we all get it at some point.

2 dopermine rush at validation, we all get a rush when things start panning out, maybe these people get enough of a rush it negates the act you are planning.

3 playing away from home and all the minefeild of crap that entails.

4 genuine reasons,

combine any or all of these and they ghost or dont turn up,

it is unfortunately the nature of the game."

It certainly does happen and it’s a nuisance. We have a promising meeting booked this week so fingers crossed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think for one second it's a single male thing as you're suggesting. Its across-the-board as other have shared their experiences of couples and singles ladies letting them down.

If you consider that there's more than 100x single male profiles (genuine or not), then in an equal world I'd expect 100 X more let downs.

You'll also get hundreds more messages to start to choose from than single guys, now that's more in your hands who you decide to pursue and who not and you may then start to correspond with the wrong choice who'll not come through.

For me I've had quite a few no shows (not talking about those who phone an hr or so in advance to say can't meet for whatever reason as thats legit and not a no show) before I decided No longer to initiate the first message. That means I only get messages in response to forum posts I'm in and discuss our ideas privately but I may only get an initial message of interest once a month at best. I'll apply my filtering on that one person the same as you apply to the hundreds daily, though the chances of not coming through with my odds are probably much greatly reduced due to natural selection that's already happened. I only look for 'repeat meeters', so they may fall at the first hurdle too if I suspect otherwise after viewing their profile and fab activities.

I do ok apparently too I'm told by friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?

She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.

Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row

Had you spoken to her on the phone or met her before? If not "she" was probably a man"

I'd genuinely like to know these stats. That a very very BiG brush used there implying single ladies don't do no shows and it's the single men that do it. My experience tells me otherwise and the number of veris or length of time on fab has little bearing with not turning up in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?

She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.

Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row

Had you spoken to her on the phone or met her before? If not "she" was probably a man

I'm not suggesting that women can't also be flaky, but discussions with men from here (who I have met in real life)! have taught me that a lot of "women" they were speaking to turned out to be men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice we been stood up after we got hotel, with not even a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?

She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.

Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row

Had you spoken to her on the phone or met her before? If not "she" was probably a man

I'm not suggesting that women can't also be flaky, but discussions with men from here (who I have met in real life)! have taught me that a lot of "women" they were speaking to turned out to be men"

Ok. I've never had that happen to my knowledge. So all these female profiles are actually men? Wonder how they found out or more speculative or immotive conclusions?

Not sure what could ever be achieved by that in all honesty. A Sex change and cosmetics would cost a bloody fortune just for a coffee meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice we been stood up after we got hotel, with not even a message"

I had that happen a couple times too years ago and stopped hotel meets unless she booked it first, few will do that so that's why I'll only consider meeting those who can accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

La Passionista:

I'm not looking argument, I'm just amazed given the much smaller number of female profiles there are compared to male ones.

I guess I filter out all newbies and just very careful and selective when I do move forward so haven't come across that issue. I've been her over 5 years on and off too.

(Predictive text changed your name)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"La Passionista:

I'm not looking argument, I'm just amazed given the much smaller number of female profiles there are compared to male ones.

I guess I filter out all newbies and just very careful and selective when I do move forward so haven't come across that issue. I've been her over 5 years on and off too.

(Predictive text changed your name)"

Being careful and selective is all any of us can do on here to try to avoid timewasters

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"La Passionista:

I'm not looking argument, I'm just amazed given the much smaller number of female profiles there are compared to male ones.

I guess I filter out all newbies and just very careful and selective when I do move forward so haven't come across that issue. I've been her over 5 years on and off too.

(Predictive text changed your name)

Being careful and selective is all any of us can do on here to try to avoid timewasters "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dreamers most of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two days before would be great, it's usually on the day, but you can spot the signs after a while, when they are vague about the address, or change the day. A social meet first sorts the dreamers from the dooers

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Two days before would be great, it's usually on the day, but you can spot the signs after a while, when they are vague about the address, or change the day. A social meet first sorts the dreamers from the dooers"

Exactly, unless I've had contact on the day prior to leaving I don't go. I've now started to meet when I'm planning to do something in town etc as well. That way it's never a wasted journey either.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Have on occasion had to cancel but very rare and always with at least a couple of days notice. Not turning up on the day is unacceptable in my view.

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

We find it a lot and can only out it down to many having the fantasy of an MMF and/or fit older lady, then when that finally comes to actually meeting it's to real and they haven't got the guts to go though with it. Some may well be attached guys too who think being on fab and chatting to someone isn't cheating in their mind, until that real life meet becomes about to happen.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"We find it a lot and can only out it down to many having the fantasy of an MMF and/or fit older lady, then when that finally comes to actually meeting it's to real and they haven't got the guts to go though with it. Some may well be attached guys too who think being on fab and chatting to someone isn't cheating in their mind, until that real life meet becomes about to happen."
I suspect this captures nearly all of it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any fun couples in the northwest area / Cumbria want a +1 come say hi

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

Yes one this week after chatting for a while and finding out his availability, we offered him a confirmed meet and he suddenly says he was “waiting for a friend to confirm whether they were doing something which had been pencilled in.”

We didn’t hear after three more days so blocked/move on.

Nice to be second choice entertainment if nothing better comes up isn’t it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's as much cold feet as either being a fantasist with no intention of meeting in the first place, or being easily distracted by someone more readily available who they perceive as "better"

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By *igh Tower69Man
over a year ago

Luton

Im personally finding the cold feet is from the female section of Fab. Anyone else agree

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I don't think it's as much cold feet as either being a fantasist with no intention of meeting in the first place, or being easily distracted by someone more readily available who they perceive as "better" "

This

I’ve only recently cancelled two meets because I made the decision to switch from my solo to just our couple meets because of men leading me on. Before that I’ve never cancelled or gotten cold feet.

If you’re arranging to meet someone and life happens then fine but there does seem to be a higher influx of time wasters lately.

We’re requesting video calls with everyone now before a meet even a social so it helps to stop that kind of thing.

Nancy

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

If I ever get to meet never get cold cold feet

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Yes one this week after chatting for a while and finding out his availability, we offered him a confirmed meet and he suddenly says he was “waiting for a friend to confirm whether they were doing something which had been pencilled in.”

We didn’t hear after three more days so blocked/move on.

Nice to be second choice entertainment if nothing better comes up isn’t it ?"

My favourite answer to are you free on...

I think so, I should be etc. when followed by radio silence.

And its lesser known cousin - are you still ok for... as far as I know, I should be etc...

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By *he CaptainMan
over a year ago

Cadihead

I had one woman duck out four times with various excuses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.

It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site."

What makes them time wasters? Some find it difficult and so will meet anyone offering others have filters and stick to them. Some filters are personal ones fab doesn't have and maybe after a few messages they don't want to waste any more time.

There could be many reasons not to continue chatting. Sometimes the initial fizz just goes too.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.

It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site.

There could be many reasons not to continue chatting. Sometimes the initial fizz just goes too. "

For me, a timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't turn up.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Some ppl just get off on the prospect of meeting for sex but have no intention of ever meeting

Had lots of experience on here

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By *inknhornyMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Could be bad circulation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.

It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site.

There could be many reasons not to continue chatting. Sometimes the initial fizz just goes too.

For me, a timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't turn up. "

Life happens and I don't think telling someone the day or two before as in the OPs case is being a time waster for whatever reason they change their mind. If they do it an hr before without demonstrating their reason as being true then yes I'd say time waster and report.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could be bad circulation "

i was thinking maybe they need thicker socks when i saw the headline!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t speak for anyone else but I have had no joy in getting anyone to meet. A few couples show interest then hey what do you know, they want lots of cock pics and then they disappear. Can’t be arsed with folk like that. I know there are many many genuine couples on here, used to be part of one myself but as usual on both sides it’s a few that spoil it for the majority

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.

It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site.

There could be many reasons not to continue chatting. Sometimes the initial fizz just goes too.

For me, a timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't turn up.

I completely agree, telling someone you can't make it isn't time-wasting, that's simply changing their mind or something coming up. If, however, they just don't turn up and go silent, that's a timewaster in my opinion.

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By *aling69Man
over a year ago

London

We didn’t hear after three more days so blocked/move on.

Nice to be second choice entertainment if nothing better comes up isn’t it ?"

How annoying and a waste of time, if a nice couple like you offer a meet, then it would be madness to not turn up. All men are not like this I can assure you. If I agree to meet, then I meet as it's not fair to waste people's time unless it's a genuine reason.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I was in a chat room the other day, one guy said he wasn't going to bother going to am arranged meet that day as he "couldn't be arsed" and "was still hanging from last night". Just about says it all, and they wonder why they struggle. I do hope the lady in question has blocked and reported him as being a no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you’ve taken the time to arrange a meet then the gentlemanly thing is to show up at least.....or don’t waste peoples time!

I have very limited spare time and having it wasted is that made me leave this place!

Any how you grow older and wiser and more astute in who are the real people and who you just avoid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often wonder this....I like the build up and then often get the excuses after weeks of chatting and arranging a meet, even from verified people. I think its a lot different these days to 20 years ago. It can be frustrating but just part of it I guess, even regular meets seem to do it these days.... hey ho, I always give one chance but if messed around again I just knock them on the head and move on!

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

We sleep alone a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug

Whaaaat ???

You must’ve really been into her xx

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I’m sure they are proper reasons though like we all have real life’s that come first"

More like they are married or attached and on an ego trip to see how far they can go before they have to “bail out”.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I think a lot of guys are attached. They like the idea of a crafty one then the fear of being caught or a conscience creeps in."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can.

They reel you in. ...loose their bottle, then block you .

Yes, you! You know who you are .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women get cold feet too - all very frustrating - but you have to simply move on and put it down to experience, sigh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even well verified members.

Yeah it's same shit different day

There in lies the problem

NO LONGER ON SITE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You must be picking the wrong men as plenty of us guys on here meet as promised .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they have a wank and aren’t horny anymore... until next time

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Ambition exceeding ability perhaps ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they can.

They reel you in. ...loose their bottle, then block you .

Yes, you! You know who you are ."

Fab fishing

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Oh well, another one bites the dust here, told me he was free this week, said I would meet him for coffee, poof! He's gone lol! What a surprise, something I said??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we did experience that this week too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug

We've all been there at some point. One chance only is now my rule , regardless of what story they tell. Might be a bit harsh but that's life sometimes

Us to

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Because they have a wank and aren’t horny anymore... until next time

I don't buy the 'cold feet' excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me you should look if the guy has got verifications and read them because if he has experienced having fun with other couples then he would not have cold feet meeting you. But there is guys that cannot perform when it comes to meeting couples I have seen that in the clubs and they say to me how can you do it in front of so many people, I just say it’s a big turn on for me to have others watching, but again I love watching others too

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