FabSwingers.com forum: Best First Message approach

By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Your profile will almost certainly be read prior to a message being opened. You’ve not asked for profile advice so I won’t comment except to say it’s confusing at best - straight but had sexual encounters with men? Ummmm. Come down on one side of the fence and stick to it

First messages are tricky but read profiles all the way through and find something to comment on in your message - don’t just look at the photos and go for a ‘hi’ - be yourself. Bring your personality to the table. Good luck

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a couple's perspective, if you've clearly read our profile, and make more than a passing hello, then there's a good chance I'll reply. We put it on our profile when we're looking for single guys, but that's not to say I won't talk to a single guy if his approach is one of genuine interest. Too many guys go straight in with a message to Jane, when our profile clearly states who manages the account and who will be messaging, it tells me they haven't bothered to read What has been written in our profile. Our profile is there for a reason and anyone that can read and wants to get in touch will have all the information they need to craft the right approach. Bar messaging ourselves on behalf of the single guys, we've done all the work for you

If I were a single guy I'd never send a dick pic unless it was specifically asked for in a profile, but it doesn't stop many men sending one to us, so it's an instant delete when they do.

I know it must be hard for single guys to get anywhere with couples and women on here, but your first message is going to tell someone all they want to know. Stay away from the cut and past shotgun approach too, it stands out a mile, I've had essays sent to us that say nothing about us or our profile, it's lazy. I can forgive bad grammar and spelling mistakes if someone has clearly read our profile, and most people don't like text speak, so I'd steer clear from that too.

Good luck getting somewhere

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I see you came down on the straight side of the fence...

I hope your messages inject more personality

I had many more meets with women as bisexual than I did as straight. Go figure.