FabSwingers.com forum: Dilemma

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

You meet, there is major chemistry, the kissing is amazin, the forplay is sooooo good but the sex is meh. Like it’s not so quick you would call it premature - but it’s over in a few mins and you’re left giving it WTF!

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If all the rest is good I'd say give him a chance. Might be nerves and you can try to train him up ...

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was enough you wouldn't have posted this. It clearly isn't enough. So move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give him a beer and see if that slows him down and chills him out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

You meet, there is major chemistry, the kissing is amazin, the forplay is sooooo good but the sex is meh. Lik e it’s not so quick you would call it premature - but it’s over in a few mins and you’re left giving it WTF!

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT "

3) invite an extra man to tag team and continue the good work of the first one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about seconds? most guys can last longer the second time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would give him a few more chances, if the majority of it feels right, then the other things can be worked on. Maybe he needs to relax more, could be a few reasons. Honesty and communication between you both is the key.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Have a chat with him. I hope he doesn't read the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

change him for me

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Keep your options open. Continue meeting him but look for other friends to

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"What about seconds? most guys can last longer the second time"

This is what I was going to say. If its once and done then I'd say that's a deal breaker unfortunately

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

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"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT "

I'd say some of the fault lies with you.

If you've met 4 times and he still isn't ringing your bell, then you should have steered him in the right direction.

If you haven't, then I don't think its going to get any better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a chat with him. I hope he doesn't read the forum

I hope he does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a chat with him. I hope he doesn't read the forum

I hope he does

Some say he posted on this very thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rest and repeat?

Suggest a cock ring, say 'you'd' like to try something new.

Delay spray.

Thicker condoms.

Does he let you know when he's close or can you tell? At that point change position, a few seconds rest while maneuvering might delay it a bit.

In any case, use sensitivity. Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a chat with him. I hope he doesn't read the forum

I hope he does

Some say he posted on this very thread

Hahahaha

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT "

it sounds like the problem is with you , a lady who is competent at sex would not have this problem !

I suggest as he is on fab you message him and invite him to read this forum , he will feel so much better knowing he is involved with a lady who values discretion x

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

Aw give him a chance, or maybe 2 blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aw give him a chance, or maybe 2 blokes

Brilliant! Just find a bloke who's good at sex but shite at everything else, they can tag each other out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right.. from experience I had a similar situation. I met the most amazing girl in 2015. We hit it off like a house on fire and kissing, intimacy and foreplay were amazing... from us both. I was so nervous when it came to it I struggled to perform to the best of my ability. It wasn’t that I wasn’t turned on I was just nervous. She was understanding and encouraged me to play. If I had still had an issue after round 4 it might have been different but because of her reassurance and encouragement to play and go for stop start. All I can say is best sex i’ve ever had and been like that since!

So my advice is within reason, give it a chance but be positively open and see how you can both work it out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT

it sounds like the problem is with you , a lady who is competent at sex would not have this problem !

I suggest as he is on fab you message him and invite him to read this forum , he will feel so much better knowing he is involved with a lady who values discretion x

Well in the interests of fixing the problem because I enjoy so much of him and the fun, how do I become more competent in a way that helps him last longer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT

it sounds like the problem is with you , a lady who is competent at sex would not have this problem !

I suggest as he is on fab you message him and invite him to read this forum , he will feel so much better knowing he is involved with a lady who values discretion x

Well in the interests of fixing the problem because I enjoy so much of him and the fun, how do I become more competent in a way that helps him last longer?"

Have you tried edging with him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT

it sounds like the problem is with you , a lady who is competent at sex would not have this problem !

I suggest as he is on fab you message him and invite him to read this forum , he will feel so much better knowing he is involved with a lady who values discretion x

Well in the interests of fixing the problem because I enjoy so much of him and the fun, how do I become more competent in a way that helps him last longer?"

Not sure if he will see it the same way though, especially if you haven't talked abt it with him beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting read ... how are ladies responsible for guys cumming to soon?

(Now thinking I can throw off any responsibility for my sexual performance all together and make it all the fault, or conversely aptitude, of any female I’m with and I have no part in what happens ... tell me more please)

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT

it sounds like the problem is with you , a lady who is competent at sex would not have this problem !

I suggest as he is on fab you message him and invite him to read this forum , he will feel so much better knowing he is involved with a lady who values discretion x

Well in the interests of fixing the problem because I enjoy so much of him and the fun, how do I become more competent in a way that helps him last longer?"

well firstly there is no formula it is about experience and empathy

and secondly try talking to him and not about him on a public forum , how would you feel if he wrote a topic about you telling the whole world YOU CAN'T satisfy him ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Interesting read ... how are ladies responsible for guys cumming to soon?

The responsibility lies with both (or all) people in a sexual encounter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope ditch him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slow it down yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT "

Go back to your husband and don't cheat? Just a suggestion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without knowing exactly what goes on when you have sex (please don't), it's difficult to give advice as to how to slow things down.

When two people have different paces you have to even it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're married, it's not a relationship! No matter what you think it's sex, you go home afterwards. Unless you're planning on leaving your hubby for him?

So move on if it's not what you're looking for. I don't think it's appropriate to discuss on a forum like this, I wouldn't like it if it was me in question.

But it's not! Try me! I'm in Scotland!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT "

Depends what % Your husband gives you? Are you at 100% between them both? Or you could start a similar thread belittling him too and maybe you will get enough advice to fix one of them!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT

Depends what % Your husband gives you? Are you at 100% between them both? Or you could start a similar thread belittling him too and maybe you will get enough advice to fix one of them! "

Ooof and here's some water for that burn!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"So, you meet a guy from Fab who ticks all your boxes. Tall, hot AF and great banter (can get you wet without being in the room).

You meet, there is major chemistry, the kissing is amazin, the forplay is sooooo good but the sex is meh. Lik e it’s not so quick you would call it premature - but it’s over in a few mins and you’re left giving it WTF!

Met 4 times and it’s the same each time.

So would you

1) keep meeting 80% of it is spot on

2) not meet again that 20% is IMPORTANT

3) invite an extra man to tag team and continue the good work of the first one.

That's a good answer!

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