FabSwingers.com forum: Cheating

By *IZZLERS OP Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

I'm sure this is going to be controversial and may have been asked before?

Two questions, Do any guys get turned on and excited at the thought of their wife cheating on them?

And to the women who have cheated....Is most of the excitement the sneaking around and the thought of what your doing is being naughty? Or is it purely the sex???

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

I used to see a couple and he slowly went off the idea,she wanted to carry it on,so we did,until one day we met in a pub and I arrived early than arranged and they were both there and admitted it turned him in that I his friend would carry on with his wife behind his back.

Whatever rocks your boat is what I say.

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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes I have with my ex and I done it coz he was a shit shag and didn't give me what I needed x Lucy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of think for it to be a turn on and sexual. It's an agreement.

So a scenario, or a dynamic between you both.

I don't think that finding out someone has cheated could ever be a turn on. Unless it was agreed and it had been talked about.

Suppose it's something that I've only experienced as the person who has been cheated on. So for me it was life shattering.

However if in a couple, where fantasies were talked about and scenarios and that was the direction of the relationship that's something different. If both couples find it a turn on then go for it.

I think there always has to be am underlying agreement

Anyone who says otherwise I couldn't understand

But as I have said. I've not had that or been in that position.

I've just been cheated on and felt the heartache and break up of a marriage and now a child between two homes.

I mean some people have the view point that couples swapping is cheating.

Each to their own. As long as both parties are happy then I think it's a great thing to share a fantasy and be able to live it out and share it together.

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By *ustme6Man
over a year ago

tamworth

"I'm sure this is going to be controversial and may have been asked before?

Two questions, Do any guys get turned on and excited at the thought of their wife cheating on them?

And to the women who have cheated....Is most of the excitement the sneaking around and the thought of what your doing is being naughty? Or is it purely the sex??? "
equal question to women reversed i think...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a turn on, can't explain it much. I just love the idea of it & hope that she would. Not on an emotional level obviously, but on a sexual level - adore the idea of her having complete sexual freedom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just a turn on, can't explain it much. I just love the idea of it & hope that she would. Not on an emotional level obviously, but on a sexual level - adore the idea of her having complete sexual freedom."

I agree that it is a sexy idea and you used the words "I hope that she would"

So it is an agreement

I doubt you'd love to find out she was having an affair behind your back.

It's different knowing shes going out for sex. Coming back with wet knickers and having sex with you afterwards knowing what a naughty minx she has been . Maybe even taking about it.

It can be as erotic as you want it to be.

However it's a fantasy or an agreed scenario.

It's fully sexual.

Not emotional like a real affair would be.

Is that right ? Or am I not getting it. I prob a bit confused as it's not one of my sexy fantasies. Of which a I have a few

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By *asyukMan
over a year ago

West London

For me, the act of cheating is not a turn on.

Meeting someone new and finding out what turns them on is.

Recreational and mutually fun rather than an affair that is filling an emotional gap in a relationship.

Everyone has their own reasons for everything they do and quite frequently don't consciously realise what they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife confessed to cheating on me and it turned me on so much that she’s often meeting up with other men and then she tells me all about it when she gets home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife confessed to cheating on me and it turned me on so much that she’s often meeting up with other men and then she tells me all about it when she gets home "

This was the thing I was trying to pin point.

You liking it. Agreeing and her coming home and telling you about it. It's a shared fantasy. It has to be an agreement.

Rather than finding out you have been working full time looking after kids and house to find out your husband has bee having an affair using joint bank to pay for dinner and hotels and emotions involved.

Two completely different things

Agreed fantasy and scenario

As opposed to emotionally and sexually cheating and breaking your family apart

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By *asyukMan
over a year ago

West London

"My wife confessed to cheating on me and it turned me on so much that she’s often meeting up with other men and then she tells me all about it when she gets home

This was the thing I was trying to pin point.

You liking it. Agreeing and her coming home and telling you about it. It's a shared fantasy. It has to be an agreement.

Two completely different things

Agreed fantasy and scenario

As opposed to emotionally and sexually cheating and breaking your family apart "

That's down to knowing what your motivation for actually cheating is.

For some people it may well be a subconscious way to end a relationship or leave their family.

For others it most certainly is not.

If both people in the relationship know then it isn't cheating anyway. It's adultery but that's only a problem for some religions which would probably not countenance swinging anyway...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife confessed to cheating on me and it turned me on so much that she’s often meeting up with other men and then she tells me all about it when she gets home

This was the thing I was trying to pin point.

You liking it. Agreeing and her coming home and telling you about it. It's a shared fantasy. It has to be an agreement.

Two completely different things

Agreed fantasy and scenario

As opposed to emotionally and sexually cheating and breaking your family apart

That's down to knowing what your motivation for actually cheating is.

For some people it may well be a subconscious way to end a relationship or leave their family.

For others it most certainly is not.

If both people in the relationship know then it isn't cheating anyway. It's adultery but that's only a problem for some religions which would probably not countenance swinging anyway..."

Yes agreed

Motivation is different for everyone. So to group together would be difficult and would never work.

I think to cheat knowing your husband is turned on. There is an agreement.

Nobody wants to be cheated on unknowingly.

If they do then i hold my hands up and apologise by sweeping you into that statement.

My opinion (just mine) is the wife going out and cheating. Is an agreed scenario that turns both parties on. And good !!

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By *asyukMan
over a year ago

West London

"My wife confessed to cheating on me and it turned me on so much that she’s often meeting up with other men and then she tells me all about it when she gets home

This was the thing I was trying to pin point.

You liking it. Agreeing and her coming home and telling you about it. It's a shared fantasy. It has to be an agreement.

Two completely different things

Agreed fantasy and scenario

As opposed to emotionally and sexually cheating and breaking your family apart

That's down to knowing what your motivation for actually cheating is.

For some people it may well be a subconscious way to end a relationship or leave their family.

For others it most certainly is not.

If both people in the relationship know then it isn't cheating anyway. It's adultery but that's only a problem for some religions which would probably not countenance swinging anyway...

Yes agreed

Motivation is different for everyone. So to group together would be difficult and would never work.

I think to cheat knowing your husband is turned on. There is an agreement.

Nobody wants to be cheated on unknowingly.

If they do then i hold my hands up and apologise by sweeping you into that statement.

My opinion (just mine) is the wife going out and cheating. Is an agreed scenario that turns both parties on. And good !! "

This is in terrible danger if becoming a rational discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to see a couple and he slowly went off the idea,she wanted to carry it on,so we did,until one day we met in a pub and I arrived early than arranged and they were both there and admitted it turned him in that I his friend would carry on with his wife behind his back.

Whatever rocks your boat is what I say."

How is it behind his back when it was his idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this is going to be controversial and may have been asked before?

Two questions, Do any guys get turned on and excited at the thought of their wife cheating on them?

And to the women who have cheated....Is most of the excitement the sneaking around and the thought of what your doing is being naughty? Or is it purely the sex??? "
cheating is a terrible thing and karma always comes around! Rather be single than cheat there's no need just leave if your unhappy

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By *appywarkscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlans

Depends on how you define cheating - if you mean having sex with other people with your knowledge or approval (whether you are there or not) then yes it’s a huge turn on

If you mean doing it without approval then no, it’s a pretty awful thing to do and would probably be one of the biggest tests of any relationship.

The physical act of sex per se is rarely a problem for swingers - the act of deceit surely is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have with my ex and I done it coz he was a shit shag and didn't give me what I needed x Lucy "

It takes 2 for sex to be shit. So by your own admission you're a snide ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s our ‘kink’ hence my username. Fab is a way for me to safely play out that fantasy and let him have an insight that helps to build his enjoyment of whatever scenario we go ahead with.

I guess it’s a twist on the hot wife dynamic

I have also found my username to be a great way to filter horrible people (which was not part of the design but certainly a bonus)

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

Sorry I wasn't clear enough,it's what used to fantasise about,but then started to meet as a couple,he then wanted to break it up but she didn't and would not stop,when he found out he made so it was going behind his back.

I suppose it was the second best thing to what he originally wanted.

Whatever rocks your boat is what I say.

How is it behind his back when it was his idea?"

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

"Depends on how you define cheating - if you mean having sex with other people with your knowledge or approval (whether you are there or not) then yes it’s a huge turn on

If you mean doing it without approval then no, it’s a pretty awful thing to do and would probably be one of the biggest tests of any relationship.

The physical act of sex per se is rarely a problem for swingers - the act of deceit surely is?"

In most cases I would imagine you're right,but lots of different things are wanted by lots of different people on here,the problem is even though most people are really open-minded and adventurous on here,some still have that reluctance to say so they may or may not 'cheat'

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By *icegentglosMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

"For me, the act of cheating is not a turn on.

Meeting someone new and finding out what turns them on is.

Recreational and mutually fun rather than an affair that is filling an emotional gap in a relationship.

This

Everyone has their own reasons for everything they do and quite frequently don't consciously realise what they are."

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By *ailburkeMan
over a year ago

near you

"Yes I have with my ex and I done it coz he was a shit shag and didn't give me what I needed x Lucy "

Note to phil

Give lucy what she needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have with my ex and I done it coz he was a shit shag and didn't give me what I needed x Lucy

It takes 2 for sex to be shit. So by your own admission you're a snide ride

Probably the best response I've seen on here! Pow that's karma. #LucyTheSnideRide

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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Yes I have with my ex and I done it coz he was a shit shag and didn't give me what I needed x Lucy

It takes 2 for sex to be shit. So by your own admission you're a snide ride

Probably the best response I've seen on here! Pow that's karma. #LucyTheSnideRide"

I need a dick to ride and when someone's dick is only 3" that's bearly something to ride and my karma was him shaking my 6week old baby pow as you say

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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Yes I have with my ex and I done it coz he was a shit shag and didn't give me what I needed x Lucy

Note to phil

Give lucy what she needs

He does completely satisfied and sex is amazing

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By *ajorwetMan
over a year ago

poole

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

Male here I’ve thought about this a lot and for some strange reason wife cheating on me turns me on if I’m honest. We are on here as wife confest she needs more than one cock at the same time to satisfy her high sex drive and cravings . She has her own account with full permission to meet whenever she needs and does. Always tells me about her meets as far as I know . But still love the idea she may meets a guy or guys and I wouldn’t find out. Strange but it gets me horny thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you sound amazing! we have a lot in common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do any guys get turned on and excited at the thought of their wife cheating on them? "

Never married, but a long term partner (now ex) cheated on me with several men and I found out and lost my shit - I only thought it was one at first.

However, once I processed the reasons I found myself sexualising the whole thing.

Truth is though, I always sexualised and fantasised about it, but allowed my male ego to get in the way.

It's one of those "careful what you wish for" things that I utterly want even though it terrifies me at the same time.

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By *oapysubmarineMan
over a year ago

rotherham

I wouldn’t class it as cheating if it’s pre agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a wife sneaking about behind her husbands back is kinda hot and exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex wife cheated on me for a year, it was incredibly destructive, ultimately though it gave me the impetus to wave her goodbye, and that created many more problems than it solved! I was married for a long time and it was built on trust and monogamy, an affair was anathema.

Fast forward a few years and swinging is incredibly liberating, and Jane telling me about her exploits is not only great fun, but ultimately rewarding because I made that possible in many ways, it has been truly life changing for Jane's confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a wife sneaking about behind her husbands back is kinda hot and exciting "

Brave man

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I think a wife sneaking about behind her husbands back is kinda hot and exciting "

Still as hot if it was your Mrs doing it to you? Or is it only hot when you’re the one meeting the cheating woman?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

We all know it’s not right and that in a perfect world etc. Lots of people seem to forget that it’s been going on forever and always will. Humans ?

There is an incredible buzz from illicit sex. For men and women.

I hate the term ‘cheating’, it certainly never feels like that at the time. Mind you, it fucking does when you get found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all know it’s not right and that in a perfect world etc. Lots of people seem to forget that it’s been going on forever and always will. Humans ?

There is an incredible buzz from illicit sex. For men and women.

I hate the term ‘cheating’, it certainly never feels like that at the time. Mind you, it fucking does when you get found out."

I'm not sure what the relevance of time is, or for that matter those that had denied the existence of infidelity as being as old as the concept of monogamy? You may hate the term cheating, but it pretty much sums up what's happening, cheating your spouse out of the belief they are in a monogamous relationship. It's incredibly painful to be on the receiving end, that said, I'm not condemning anyone for their lifestyle choice, after all Jane and I aren't monogamous, and that's very much a lifestyle choice deemed unsuitable by many.

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By *33cpleCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I wish my wife would play ( not cheat) more on her own. She knows she has an open invitation to play as long as she tells me. I find it a massive turn on tbh. Maybe this isn't the right thing to say in this topic

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