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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems you're being messed about a bit. Is he worth it? I met one guy and we arranged to meet again but he kept making crap excuses and then got verified by other people. If people don't want to meet me again then that's fine but would rather they were honest about it! I hit the block button x

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I'd be pissed to sod him and find someone else to go out with.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It's only a drama if you let it become one. From the sound of it it's not the first time he's let you down in this way, but if you repeatedly allow him to do so he's going to keep doing it. It appears you're not that important to him, find someone who treats you better!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seems you're being messed about a bit. Is he worth it? I met one guy and we arranged to meet again but he kept making crap excuses and then got verified by other people. If people don't want to meet me again then that's fine but would rather they were honest about it! I hit the block button x"

Phew so I'm not psycho

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By *ive_Have_FunMan
over a year ago

cork

Sounds like he's ended up in a relationship and isn't quite sure about it.

Then gets the guilt trip when he arranges a meet...

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Sounds like he's ended up in a relationship and isn't quite sure about it.

Then gets the guilt trip when he arranges a meet..."

Yes! That or he messaged wrong person.

He sounds like you’re better off without either way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run for the hills he’s playing games and has no respect for the effort you’ve put in to be free to meet you ! Seen and heard it too many times off here hence I’ve stopoed meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I concur with all above. He is messing you about.. draw the line..search out new fun.

Mistress Amelia x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good to know my gut feeling is still working!

Thanks fabbers x

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By *ive_Have_FunMan
over a year ago

cork

"Good to know my gut feeling is still working!

Thanks fabbers x"

Shame really, but I believe there is 4-1 ratio here so it shouldn't be too much of a problem to find a guy.

Best of luck with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mizzminis always trust your instincts as you will always be right ! don’t let them get into your head or it’s game over you will stop trusting the nice guys too which I’ve learnt the hard way x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I would arrange to go to the club with somebody else. Im sure you wont have trouble finding a partnet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good to know my gut feeling is still working!

Thanks fabbers x

Shame really, but I believe there is 4-1 ratio here so it shouldn't be too much of a problem to find a guy.

Best of luck with it

It's finding something that suits and appeals that's the not so easy task tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be pissed to sod him and find someone else to go out with.

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mizzminis always trust your instincts as you will always be right ! don’t let them get into your head or it’s game over you will stop trusting the nice guys too which I’ve learnt the hard way x"

I fear the game has already caused damage

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would arrange to go to the club with somebody else. Im sure you wont have trouble finding a partnet."

Massive trust thing tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd dump him and not jump if he deigns to contact you again. Bloody cheek! I'd be furious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of him, you're on here for fun and that's not what he's providing. Just send a polite message explaining you're calling it a day, then block and move on XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of the good few thousand guys you could meet and chat to. Don't pick this one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew so I'm not psycho

I'm thinking you sound a bit psycho ish... curt one liners... arranging a sitter on the back of that message. Enough to do a whole forum post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd dump him and not jump if he deigns to contact you again. Bloody cheek! I'd be furious "

Trying to keep the devil inside and not look as scorned as I feel

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"I would arrange to go to the club with somebody else. Im sure you wont have trouble finding a partnet.

Massive trust thing tho

Doesn't have to be a man.

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By *ive_Have_FunMan
over a year ago

cork

It's finding something that suits and appeals that's the not so easy task tho x"

Being a man here I feel your pain....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Phew so I'm not psycho

I'm thinking you sound a bit psycho ish... curt one liners... arranging a sitter on the back of that message. Enough to do a whole forum post."

Ok maybe I'm on a 9/10 psycho but that 1 always counts

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Sounds like he is messing you about, if his mates are more important than meeting you once he has made an offer to meet then would suggest he is not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew so I'm not psycho

I'm thinking you sound a bit psycho ish... curt one liners... arranging a sitter on the back of that message. Enough to do a whole forum post."

Ahh you think she should just let him mess her around then. Until she's had enough then suddenly she's a psycho. Bollocks. What happened to mutual respect? Seems he is showing her none at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely give him a wide birth, he is clearly messing you around. Not worth your time or effort, I am sure there are plenty of other nice genuine guys on here who would be more than interested in spending quality time with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd dump him and not jump if he deigns to contact you again. Bloody cheek! I'd be furious

Trying to keep the devil inside and not look as scorned as I feel

Definitely! Just cut off all contact and focus on those worth your time

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

If it's just a fuck buddy, messaging every day is way over the top IMO, sounds too much strings too me. Maybe he feels the same but can't/won't express it. I'd certainly move on as the signs are pretty clear that he's not interested in a regular arrangement or confront him but I'd say the result is the same.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

yeah sack him off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd dump him and not jump if he deigns to contact you again. Bloody cheek! I'd be furious

Trying to keep the devil inside and not look as scorned as I feel

Don't show how sad you are. Best 'revenge' is to show him how happy you are and how much fun you're having without him. Show him what he's missing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sacked deleted and blocked

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd dump him and not jump if he deigns to contact you again. Bloody cheek! I'd be furious

Trying to keep the devil inside and not look as scorned as I feel

Don't show how sad you are. Best 'revenge' is to show him how happy you are and how much fun you're having without him. Show him what he's missing.

just feel stupid for playing his game for so long but by all accounts he ain’t missing owt.... onwards and upwards

Thanks for listening to a moan x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely give him a wide birth, he is clearly messing you around. Not worth your time or effort, I am sure there are plenty of other nice genuine guys on here who would be more than interested in spending quality time with you. "

Just remember these immortal words if you ever find yourself doing the same to someone or them to you x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Player!!!!!

When it's not fun anymore and he does things that annoy you, it's time to walk way.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Show him the exit sign .... not worth the hassle..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd dump him and not jump if he deigns to contact you again. Bloody cheek! I'd be furious

Trying to keep the devil inside and not look as scorned as I feel

Don't show how sad you are. Best 'revenge' is to show him how happy you are and how much fun you're having without him. Show him what he's missing.

just feel stupid for playing his game for so long but by all accounts he ain’t missing owt.... onwards and upwards

Thanks for listening to a moan x "

If it makes you feel better, I've done the same. It's not a bad thing to trust someone and give them the benefit of the doubt. Hope you feel better. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sacked deleted and blocked

Hooray!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sacked deleted and blocked

Finally well done girl he is a twat now find some1 genuine and decent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's just a fuck buddy, messaging every day is way over the top IMO, sounds too much strings too me. Maybe he feels the same but can't/won't express it. I'd certainly move on as the signs are pretty clear that he's not interested in a regular arrangement or confront him but I'd say the result is the same. "

Yeah everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to staying in touch, but if he is unable or unwilling to just say so, does he have the emotional maturity to be swinging? If that is someones issue and they just say so, chances are the other person will 'take the hint' a lot quicker and either reign it in or move on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont bother with him not worth the hassle .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have done the right thing walking away. I let a guy (was slightly different as we were in a relationship) play me over and over again. He would decide he couldn't live with out me then he wouldn't want me until he saw I was moving on then he would want me again. Played over and over. When it's no longer enjoyable it's time to move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab should be a fun thing, not a headache. I don't take bullshit. And we can afford to be really picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab should be a fun thing, not a headache. I don't take bullshit. And we can afford to be really picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

Fuck him off x

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

"
. I think he is messing you about.It's probably taken you time and perhaps money to organise babysitters.The reason my mates have come round will see what happens is crap unless it is something to do with family I am turning up at the club with you or meeting you there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with your gut; in your position, my twunt radar would be pinging wildly.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

"
Sounds like lots of people have answered your question for you, but my take on this (mr) is that deserve better.

Anybody worthy of anothers time, having organised time out faced with the mates coming round, really need to say to their pals, thanks but no thanks, I've arranged something later. This should signal to the pals that they can't expect to just turn up and expect the person to drop everything. That's what phones are for.

To me, it sounds like they are to chicken shit scared to tell you that they've gone off you, it happens, but have decided that you maybe are worthy of being a plan "c" incase nothing better turns up.

TBH, you are better than that, make plans for a future away from them and start afresh, wiser and better for having free time for somebody more deserving of your time and not play you for a mug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

He's gaming you. Keeping you in play for a fuck, but probably holding out for someone he perceives as better.

Best medicine is don't even reply to texts,delete number and ghost him. Totally reverse his upper hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

He's gaming you. Keeping you in play for a fuck, but probably holding out for someone he perceives as better.

Best medicine is don't even reply to texts,delete number and ghost him. Totally reverse his upper hand."

"perceives" being the operative word!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just block as it seems he is making an idiot out of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

He's gaming you. Keeping you in play for a fuck, but probably holding out for someone he perceives as better.

Best medicine is don't even reply to texts,delete number and ghost him. Totally reverse his upper hand.

"perceives" being the operative word!"

Absolutely

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

Move on, he's not worth the effort - Fi xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my favourite phrases. Fook that shit! Find someone else to go with. To me regular would suggest 2-3times a month. If he's not been willing to move stuff about like you then I'd be saying NEXT!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all I have deleted and blocked and for what it’s worth I’m greatful for the confidence boost xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

Gotta feeling he's married, ltr, or partner living with him...

Unless you've ever been to his!

Weird behaviour from some people on here though with messaging and their fantasy fab world!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good to know my gut feeling is still working!

Thanks fabbers x"

Trust it more

And

You'll act quicker!

Self respect is worth loads!

Stick him on your block list hunny x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't be a drama to me. He would have been deleted by now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am I making a drama out of nothing ?

Regular fuck (well not so recent or regular ) haven't actually managed a meet since back in Feb!

We're seeing each regular from Sept til just after new year.

Messages everyday normal vanilla convo, on many occasion since Feb has suggested meeting up then when it's gets to nitty gritty has decided actually life has got in the way and he can't.

I've backed off to the point of only answering daily message with curt one liners .

What perplexed me is he messages this am 'fancy a club tonight ? '

I'm taken aback so reply with 'wow out of the blue but yeah need some excitement '

Off I goes to arrange sitter for kids.

Messaged to say sitter sorted which club ?

He replies 'hadnt thought too hard and now my mates popped by so will have to see what happens x'

Am I making a drama out of nothing or does this seem weird to normal folk ?

Gotta feeling he's married, ltr, or partner living with him...

Unless you've ever been to his!

Weird behaviour from some people on here though with messaging and their fantasy fab world! "

I had been to his.... well I had been to a property that he propetedly lived at lol

It looked lived in and he knew where to find the cups

for a cuppa

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By *othicslaveCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I concur with all above. He is messing you about.. draw the line..search out new fun.

Mistress Amelia x "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Whatever the reason behind the behaviour it is disrespectful to say the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get rid of him, you're on here for fun and that's not what he's providing. Just send a polite message explaining you're calling it a day, then block and move on XXX"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever the reason behind the behaviour it is disrespectful to say the least."

too many seem to think nsa means allowed to use the other person with no respect or consideration for their feelings.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Think he's taking the p a bit. And not taking your feelings into consideration. He may be busy with "life " but even so his actions speak volumes

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