FabSwingers.com forum: Where am I going wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all I'd like to know where I am going wrong xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok can you look at my profile see where I could be going wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok can you look at my profile see where I could be going wrong "

Let’s start with hidden pics and no profile avatar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming you mean you're not getting any interest, you could start by putting up a collection of pics on public view, and add a profile pic. You won't get far without them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok can you look at my profile see where I could be going wrong "

Apart from no pics and no avatar its ok..

Could it be the messages you send?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do I put an avatar pic up and go have pics gonna change to friends only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only say what appeals or doesn't appeal to me.

I can't see anything at all of you.

Kinky fun doesn't appeal to me.

You live in Wales.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very limited sexual interests

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

You’ve only been here 2 weeks? That’s not that long really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It was late when I done profile and was half asleep changed it now

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Still no public or profile pictures, you’ll struggle without them.

You’ve only been here two weeks. It takes time.

Are you sending messages, or waiting for someone to message you? Because that could be a long wait.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sending messages and got found out by mates over the weekend that's the reason for no profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was late when I done profile and was half asleep changed it now "

You won't get far with no pics..

Doesnt have to be a face pic, just stick anything up..

No one will respond to messages let alone request pics if you have a silhouette for an avatar

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

How did you get found out?

Do you think anyone else in this thread could be easily identified by their mates, from the profile pictures you can see?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't know how I got found out nut my mate mentioned Chams and about how I should go so I panicked

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Right, so maybe you did, maybe you didn’t.

One thing I would say is, no offence, but if you put the same effort into your messages as you do your forum posts, you won’t get far. It’s like pulling teeth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok put a profile pic up I'm gonna go to Chams darlaston on 27th are there any cheaper options for single males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why dont you check the advice given on the same subject that you posted last week?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

It may just be that you think you have joined Instashag like many others that join thinking that as it's a Swingers site you will be guaranteed some action.

If you know how it works then success will come or if not you may go UNLOS like many before you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can't find it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No don't think I'm guaranteed action been here before didn't have much luck then either done ok as a couple but nothing as a single bloke

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Can't find it "

If you press the green arrow next to your name on your forum posts, you will see your previous posts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Ok thanks "

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm off to Chams darlaston on 27th as stopping in Birmingham on route to hull

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

"It was late when I done profile and was half asleep changed it now

You won't get far with no pics..

Doesnt have to be a face pic, just stick anything up..

No one will respond to messages let alone request pics if you have a silhouette for an avatar "
really? Why is that? What if you always send a face pic with messages you send, but continue to not have a public pic of any sort on your profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cause I don't want friends knowing I'm on here

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Cause I don't want friends knowing I'm on here "
He was responding to someone else. Not you. Although, as has been pointed out, if you’re worried about being recognised, your profile picture doesn’t have to be a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ah ok all my pics on here are of my favs though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i would say make your profile more appealing and interesting for other to know what your looking for. where i seemed to failed

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Ah ok all my pics on here are of my favs though xx"

And that's fine, but what if your friends have a profile on here and thus recognize you? They don't have to be active, but could have set up a profile with no pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Didn't think of that' I'll put some body shots up now xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Didn't think of that' I'll put some body shots up now xx"

You could have your face pics in friends only and then you can decide who you show them to.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Didn't think of that' I'll put some body shots up now xx"

Remember, you don’t /have/ to be holding a beer...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can see your face but that's it. Entice the women in with some teasing shots

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

"Didn't think of that' I'll put some body shots up now xx

Remember, you don’t /have/ to be holding a beer..."

Yeah, mix it up and try holding a cider.

Seriously though, just checking you are aware you have to be a member of Chams to get in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you checked with Chams that you can get in as a single male or are you going with someone. Im only mentioning it as it would be awful to turn up and not get in.

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By *antasticMrFucksMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Better pics !! it looks like your after Facebook likes not on a swinging site. For every 20 messages you send as a single bloke you might be lucky to get 1 reply, you have to stand out a bit. Read the profile make sure you are what they want not just them being what you want, has to match both ways otherwise it's pointless... Be patient and go to clubs and meets even if it's just so people know you... its tough being a single bloke in the swinging scene but be patient and polite and it's well worth it.. but if it's just a shag you want try POF lol good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers I'll try and get some better pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn't think of that' I'll put some body shots up now xx

Remember, you don’t /have/ to be holding a beer...

Yeah, mix it up and try holding a cider.

Seriously though, just checking you are aware you have to be a member of Chams to get in?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I'm well aware you have to be a member thabks though

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Hi all I'd like to know where I am going wrong xx"

Your obsession with plaid shirts ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I haven't checked yet I'll ring Day before I go

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By *ooliganMan
over a year ago

Preston

What you need to do is start a thread asking where you're going wrong... It always works... Always!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't checked yet I'll ring Day before I go "

I think there's a waiting list for men to join? Id ring now and find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't checked yet I'll ring Day before I go "

If this is in answer to my comment then i suggest you contact them more than a day in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't checked yet I'll ring Day before I go

I think there's a waiting list for men to join? Id ring now and find out "

Snap lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok I'll ring week before

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hi all I'd like to know where I am going wrong xx"

Jack the lad type pics...not likely to get female juices flowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I'll ring week before "

If i was you i would ring asap.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"Ok I'll ring week before "

More like a few months!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How are they gonna know whose gonna be going in a few month time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How is having a pic taken with a pint in my hand bring a jack the lad

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"How are they gonna know whose gonna be going in a few month time "

That's the wait to actually become a member for single guys

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"How are they gonna know whose gonna be going in a few month time "
I’m going to go out on a limb, and guess that they keep a list of people who’ve phoned to serve a spot. ‘Guests’, if you will. Who knows what they’d call such a list, though...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess I'll join In Newport as I've spoke to them already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are they gonna know whose gonna be going in a few month time "

I frequently hear staff ask guys for an email with full body pic and info about them for their boss to see. They usually advise guys to send this as much in advance of visit as possible. They tell them they will not automatically be given membership anyway so best to sort it out asap.

Obviously its up to you what you do. However i have seen guys turned away on the day when they havnt sorted out membership in advance. Also i have seen guys refused membership.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may just be that you think you have joined Instashag like many others that join thinking that as it's a Swingers site you will be guaranteed some action.

If you know how it works then success will come or if not you may go UNLOS like many before you."

This totally agree lots of males just assume they can join this site and say hi fancy a fuck and you will open your legs like they are a sex God here to command you and they don't understand the swinging lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may just be that you think you have joined Instashag like many others that join thinking that as it's a Swingers site you will be guaranteed some action.

If you know how it works then success will come or if not you may go UNLOS like many before you.

What is this "swinging lifestyle" in your opinion.

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