FabSwingers.com forum: People letting folks down

By *astMidsLE6 OP Couple
over a year ago

leicester

We (yes we are a genuine couple) are fed up with folks on here letting others down and getting away with it.

We feel there should be a way of name and shaming those that make the plans but have no intention of turning up.

We have limited playtime available due to family and work, and when these pricks wreck what little time we have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you were let down, but naming and shaming won't work because people lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens... whether it be nerves or whatever reason it happens. Its annoying & damn right rude if notice isnt given but you just have to ride with it and carry on. Ive luckily never had a cancel apart from a couples meet her 'husband' wasnt there although i suspect she said she had a husband as a safety thing i dont think she was partnered let alone married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We (yes we are a genuine couple) are fed up with folks on here letting others down and getting away with it.

We feel there should be a way of name and shaming those that make the plans but have no intention of turning up.

We have limited playtime available due to family and work, and when these pricks wreck what little time we have"

Hang on, you were due to meet us but didn’t show up, or tell us! ......... Flaw in your plan OP

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

People would abuse a name and shame system ,ie to bully others so I don't agree there.

If they are agreeing a meet and not showing up,I agree that's time wasting so report them to admin.

Miss

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

"People would abuse a name and shame system ,ie to bully others so I don't agree there.

If they are agreeing a meet and not showing up,I agree that's time wasting so report them to admin.

Miss"
does anybody know if telling admin actually does anything? On another site 4 years ago, I arranged a meet with a girl in Perth on my way to Glasgow. Arrived at the house she said to go to and a guy answered the door. I had to hastily come up with some rubbish along the lines of it was the wrong area I was in. When I got home, I contacted her and my messages, though read, were ignored. I reported her to administrative, but sod all was done and she remained on the site for a good while after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With all the reporting its one word against another surely . Who should be believed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We (yes we are a genuine couple) are fed up with folks on here letting others down and getting away with it.

We feel there should be a way of name and shaming those that make the plans but have no intention of turning up.

We have limited playtime available due to family and work, and when these pricks wreck what little time we have

Hang on, you were due to meet us but didn’t show up, or tell us! ......... Flaw in your plan OP"

This made me

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been let down again, it's annoying as fuck but nothing can do about it. Just tell myself it's their loss

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By *ongueNcheek33Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

People let people down everyday in this world and not just on here it's called shit happens.

Yes we understand it's annoying and yes we ourselves have been let down by others but we never dwell on it life is to short for that crap just onwards and upwards x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many cunts on here who would lie to get people banned, or a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We (yes we are a genuine couple) are fed up with folks on here letting others down and getting away with it.

We feel there should be a way of name and shaming those that make the plans but have no intention of turning up.

We have limited playtime available due to family and work, and when these pricks wreck what little time we have

Hang on, you were due to meet us but didn’t show up, or tell us! ......... Flaw in your plan OP"

And me. I bought biscuits too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We (yes we are a genuine couple) are fed up with folks on here letting others down and getting away with it.

We feel there should be a way of name and shaming those that make the plans but have no intention of turning up.

We have limited playtime available due to family and work, and when these pricks wreck what little time we have

Hang on, you were due to meet us but didn’t show up, or tell us! ......... Flaw in your plan OP

And me. I bought biscuits too."

Jammy Dodgers?

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

At least if you get let down you have each other to play with.

As a single , getting ready , going to a hotel for a meet and them not showing up is what is really a pain in the arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They shouldn't get away with it !

Have you contacted the great Fab Jury ?

They can deal with them

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"They shouldn't get away with it !

Have you contacted the great Fab Jury ?

They can deal with them "

There's a huge back log atm from all the April fools pranks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They shouldn't get away with it !

Have you contacted the great Fab Jury ?

They can deal with them

There's a huge back log atm from all the April fools pranks

Go have a name search then

GreatFabJury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling it sucks nothing but time wasters we’ve had :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know the feeling it sucks nothing but time wasters we’ve had :/ "

In your whole 4 weeks on the site

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes timewasters are a pain, but if all you are meeting are time wasters then maybe you need to look at your selection process.

I've only been messed around a handful of times but if I'm honest with myself I should have gone with my gut on all of them.

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Naming and Shaming is nothing but a strategy that only works if the accused care for their actions and if they don’t, what next?

What if the individual(s) had a valid reason? Are people so wrapped up in their own self importance that they have result to public strategies for self preservation?

Nobody likes the luxury of time being wasted but we have ability to exercise other options when things don’t go according to plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No naming and shaming is a bad idea.

People can back out of sex at any time, even in the bed. Yes time wasters are a pain in the bum but if people chat then decide not to meet that's fair enough. Chatting is to see if you want to meet the persons for sex or not. X

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By *ike4exciteMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We (yes we are a genuine couple) are fed up with folks on here letting others down and getting away with it.

We feel there should be a way of name and shaming those that make the plans but have no intention of turning up.

We have limited playtime available due to family and work, and when these pricks wreck what little time we have

Hang on, you were due to meet us but didn’t show up, or tell us! ......... Flaw in your plan OP"

Is this a tru story?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sites like these are always full of both people who actually want to meet and fantasists who get off on chatting but run away at the reality of meeting . We were let down for today after chatting privately away from site with a fem she was horny sexy really into meeting then just started ignoring our messages yesterday and no word from her despite being in and off line several times here . we will have fun regardless still but it does annoy me when people get my hopes up and I share intimate chats with them only to be ignored when time of meeting arrives I’d rather at least a message to say sorry but they changed their mind ... no point reporting people for time wasting though because nobody is obliged to meet regardless of how much or intimately they’ve chatted everyone has the right to not meet if they don’t want .. Mrs xx

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By *ike4exciteMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I am new and think many do try and just waste time almost a s hobby but not sure what the site should do, we should all be friends and treat everyone as a friend just politeness helps if you cant make it tell the person usually with a good reason shit happens

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By *onguentasticMan
over a year ago

Ballymoney

Can i just say i would meet all of you sexy people and not let you down boo to those that didn't take the chance to play with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been let down again, it's annoying as fuck but nothing can do about it. Just tell myself it's their loss "

From your profile if you are let down by a man, it 100% is there loss!

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"People would abuse a name and shame system ,ie to bully others so I don't agree there.

If they are agreeing a meet and not showing up,I agree that's time wasting so report them to admin.

Missdoes anybody know if telling admin actually does anything? On another site 4 years ago, I arranged a meet with a girl in Perth on my way to Glasgow. Arrived at the house she said to go to and a guy answered the door. I had to hastily come up with some rubbish along the lines of it was the wrong area I was in. When I got home, I contacted her and my messages, though read, were ignored. I reported her to administrative, but sod all was done and she remained on the site for a good while after. "

I've reported people for sending abusive messages before now and then found they were no longer on the site. Assume they were kicked off but maybe they left voluntarily.

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By *amagustaMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"We (yes we are a genuine couple) are fed up with folks on here letting others down and getting away with it.

We feel there should be a way of name and shaming those that make the plans but have no intention of turning up.

We have limited playtime available due to family and work, and when these pricks wreck what little time we have"

No worries, many people are being let down on here.

Just keep calm and carry on fabbing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately naming and shaming would be difficult as there will always be people willing to exploit the idea.

I'm consider myself fairly reasonable but finding it harder and harder to tolerate no shows or last minute cancellations as I'm yet to have one.

I always show up early and once when running late was frantically trying to let the other person know.

I don't understand why people think it's OK to not show. Now I just block. Not interested in excuses. Also ignoring anyone with not enough veris.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been let down again, it's annoying as fuck but nothing can do about it. Just tell myself it's their loss "

Who's letting you down?

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've just been let down this morning 10 minutes before the meet time following a dozen messages after responding to a meets page I set up.... I was given the address to go to and confirmed the porches door would be open and would come to window

So 10 mins before the meet and I had set off.. Got a message "She was going into town as had to do some errands???"

Wtf??... Can you name and shame?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I really do wish there was a way to reduce the timewasters who let people down on here .

I honestly can’t think of a fail proof method , but reporting to admin seems the only option .

It’s all very well saying there may be a genuine reason to not turn up for an arranged meet , but it takes seconds to msg and cancel . So there really aren’t any genuine reasons to not let people know . And those who just enjoy wasting other people’s time and money are not worth another thought , but it wouldn’t be nice if there was something other than karma dealing with them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should be able to name and shame. I showed up to meet a guy the other day for a quick coffee on my way from the swimming pool. When I got there he went in a rant because I wasn't wearing makeup or dressed up for him. I explained that I was just on the way home and only met him to verify him as he had asked. He basically abused me and then had the cheek to message me on fab and ask if I'd verify him.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

I’m sure it happens to all of all of us at some stage almost like an initiation ceremony.

About 3 years ago when I was a complete newbie I arranged a meet with a couple at the old Isis club.After paying entrance membership etc I was met by the supposed male half of the couple who told me his other half had been held up at work and was on her way etc.After about 20 minutes small talk and him telling me how attractive his wife would find me he went outside to apparently meet her taxi and I never saw him again.Sometime later in the club I got talking to a couple and they told me exactly the same had happened to one of their male friends with who they had to be the same guy.Although I felt let down and frustrated I’d always ask who really was the sad person and since then I’d like to think that I’ve had lots more fun on here through being reliable and trustworthy.Indeed all you can do in those situations is tell yourself you’re the better person

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

That's why we don't set up meets on here anymore

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"That's why we don't set up meets on here anymore "

And this is why something should be done .

As I said , I’m not sure what , but something significant .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should be able to name and shame. I showed up to meet a guy the other day for a quick coffee on my way from the swimming pool. When I got there he went in a rant because I wasn't wearing makeup or dressed up for him. I explained that I was just on the way home and only met him to verify him as he had asked. He basically abused me and then had the cheek to message me on fab and ask if I'd verify him. "

I hope you told him where to go

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

One couple from a few years back let me down 3 times. This over a couple of years. First time after chatting for a few months. Arranged to meet at mine. Did not get confirmation etc day before and then no contact for few months. Reason then given the wifes father had heart attack. Then second time again. Meet at mine. Chatted prior to them leaving. Then message. Sorry parents turned up. The third was again months later. Started chatting again. Then just wife to visit. This over bank holiday weekend. I also had possible meet aswell that weekend . So after a lot of chat cancelled other meet as wife wanted to stay all weekend. Told leaving and would be there in couple hours. Waited and messaged husband as after 3 hours no show. Informed stuck in traffic accident . Did not show. So reported both. Just after that gone from site. I had chatted to both over phone. So new were couple. I think now they were doing this to others and so got banned. How to get around this problem , i have no idea.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It happens all the time. It’s the norm rather than the exemption. It’s the reason why until I’m actually in the room meeting someone I dobt get exited anymore for fear of being messed about and let down.

This is a real shame because it was the butterfly’s on the lead up to a meet which was a great deal of the fun for me.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"One couple from a few years back let me down 3 times. This over a couple of years. First time after chatting for a few months. Arranged to meet at mine. Did not get confirmation etc day before and then no contact for few months. Reason then given the wifes father had heart attack. Then second time again. Meet at mine. Chatted prior to them leaving. Then message. Sorry parents turned up. The third was again months later. Started chatting again. Then just wife to visit. This over bank holiday weekend. I also had possible meet aswell that weekend . So after a lot of chat cancelled other meet as wife wanted to stay all weekend. Told leaving and would be there in couple hours. Waited and messaged husband as after 3 hours no show. Informed stuck in traffic accident . Did not show. So reported both. Just after that gone from site. I had chatted to both over phone. So new were couple. I think now they were doing this to others and so got banned. How to get around this problem , i have no idea. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow the old proverb: Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

Follow the old proverb: Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me."

Yes i do agree now. At the time , i did not have any messages from them or see online when normally on. Must admit now perhaps a bit wary when messaged erc. I check profile . Still from what others have said, even if veried cannot be certain turn up. It is just annoying that people seem to enjoy doing this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow the old proverb: Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

It's a bummer for sure. Sorry it happened to you.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"That's why we don't set up meets on here anymore "

If you’d bothered to read my profile before posting you’d know neither do I but I hope I conveyed my message without appearing smug

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