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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

laying odds all your answers will be go to a club ...................

im not into clubs .........i like private /intimate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a shame you are so far away. Having read your profile I would love to put things right for you in terms of your poor experiences of single guys.

I wish you both luck in your continuing search.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"laying odds all your answers will be go to a club ...................

im not into clubs .........i like private /intimate"

We tried a club once .. didn’t like it .. felt like a cheap brothel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely go to a club. Saves a wasted social, you can chat to lots of different people, have a giggle and a proper night out with the added bonus of filth xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after .. "

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"laying odds all your answers will be go to a club ...................

im not into clubs .........i like private /intimate

We tried a club once .. didn’t like it .. felt like a cheap brothel "

i agree ,i would much rather arrange a nice hotel, put some drinks on ice in the room before you arrive .

id be sitting in the bar of the hotel on my own , id watch you two arrive and discreetly eye yasmin up as you were at the bar ordering drinks .

id watch you walk to your seats ..id give yasmin the occassional wink,get excited and nervous as i lip read her telling you , then id take the plunge and introduce myself and offer you both a drink ..

id join you making sure im sitting opposite jasmin , her fine legs on display and she is purposely teasing me by slowly crossing and un crossing her legs ,

to hear the rest just tell me a hotel near you so i can book it please.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky."

Why is it cheeky ? I do all the work on the meet , I don’t just lie back and let two guys spoil me .. that’s not how it works for us ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky."

i always book the hotel , it proves im going to turn up .

a hotel isnt much dearer than a single guy entry to a club if you book it right .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit it's a puzzler why this site is quite as awful as it is. It's common parlance to blame it on the people on it but I'm coming to the sneaking conclusion that the whole idea itself must be an utterly unrealistic fantasy and those few of us who are on here in a genuine capacity are naive fools. Just because a website exists promising free trips to Mars doesn't mean, if you join it, you're ever going to see a free trip even to the end of your road

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest. I think most on are all talk the talk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"laying odds all your answers will be go to a club ...................

im not into clubs .........i like private /intimate

We tried a club once .. didn’t like it .. felt like a cheap brothel

i agree ,i would much rather arrange a nice hotel, put some drinks on ice in the room before you arrive .

id be sitting in the bar of the hotel on my own , id watch you two arrive and discreetly eye yasmin up as you were at the bar ordering drinks .

id watch you walk to your seats ..id give yasmin the occassional wink,get excited and nervous as i lip read her telling you , then id take the plunge and introduce myself and offer you both a drink ..

id join you making sure im sitting opposite jasmin , her fine legs on display and she is purposely teasing me by slowly crossing and un crossing her legs ,

to hear the rest just tell me a hotel near you so i can book it please..... "

You might wanna start by getting the lady's name right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably because you have asked them to book a hotel because getting a single guy to show up for an mmf is a piece of piss. I agree with couples tho...they are hard work x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit it's a puzzler why this site is quite as awful as it is. It's common parlance to blame it on the people on it but I'm coming to the sneaking conclusion that the whole idea itself must be an utterly unrealistic fantasy and those few of us who are on here in a genuine capacity are naive fools. Just because a website exists promising free trips to Mars doesn't mean, if you join it, you're ever going to see a free trip even to the end of your road "

the site dosent promise anything

you get out of it what you put in .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit it's a puzzler why this site is quite as awful as it is. It's common parlance to blame it on the people on it but I'm coming to the sneaking conclusion that the whole idea itself must be an utterly unrealistic fantasy and those few of us who are on here in a genuine capacity are naive fools. Just because a website exists promising free trips to Mars doesn't mean, if you join it, you're ever going to see a free trip even to the end of your road

the site dosent promise anything

you get out of it what you put in ....."

Yip. If you start demanding I don't blame guys telling them to bolt x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"laying odds all your answers will be go to a club ...................

im not into clubs .........i like private /intimate

We tried a club once .. didn’t like it .. felt like a cheap brothel

i agree ,i would much rather arrange a nice hotel, put some drinks on ice in the room before you arrive .

id be sitting in the bar of the hotel on my own , id watch you two arrive and discreetly eye yasmin up as you were at the bar ordering drinks .

id watch you walk to your seats ..id give yasmin the occassional wink,get excited and nervous as i lip read her telling you , then id take the plunge and introduce myself and offer you both a drink ..

id join you making sure im sitting opposite jasmin , her fine legs on display and she is purposely teasing me by slowly crossing and un crossing her legs ,

to hear the rest just tell me a hotel near you so i can book it please.....

You might wanna start by getting the lady's name right"

she like yasmin or jasmin, i checked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"laying odds all your answers will be go to a club ...................

im not into clubs .........i like private /intimate

We tried a club once .. didn’t like it .. felt like a cheap brothel

i agree ,i would much rather arrange a nice hotel, put some drinks on ice in the room before you arrive .

id be sitting in the bar of the hotel on my own , id watch you two arrive and discreetly eye yasmin up as you were at the bar ordering drinks .

id watch you walk to your seats ..id give yasmin the occassional wink,get excited and nervous as i lip read her telling you , then id take the plunge and introduce myself and offer you both a drink ..

id join you making sure im sitting opposite jasmin , her fine legs on display and she is purposely teasing me by slowly crossing and un crossing her legs ,

to hear the rest just tell me a hotel near you so i can book it please.....

You might wanna start by getting the lady's name right"

I didn't want to be mean but since you started lol ...it is a bit boring too. I mean if that's the summation of effort he expects to put into a message to bowl someone over enough to meet him?!? But then again... maybe I just find the idea of hotel meets, wine on ice, blah blah blah a bit trite anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think getting your chosen guy to book the hotel is a deal breaker. I’m a reliable chap and had many great adventures on here but I would no way book a hotel hoping that someone I’d never met before turn up.

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

Try and get a party invite in your area. We find them the best of both worlds. Not as seedy as clubs, more fun, no anticipation or requirement to play.

It’s a real Shame we have to travel so far to go to them or we would do more.

D&K

X

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky.

Why is it cheeky ? I do all the work on the meet , I don’t just lie back and let two guys spoil me .. that’s not how it works for us .. "

I think the problem might be the suggestion that sex is "work" for you which they should pay for by booking a hotel.

Most guys won't like that idea. Those that aren't bothered may as well pay the same money for a sex worker and get a one to one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys seem to have this reputation on hete of being vermin desperate for any bit of attention that is thrown there way.

You want to meet a single guy that's great but telling him to go and book a hotel for you is very cheeky.

There's 2 of you and 1 of him so why should he be the one for foot the bill?

Single guys are on here for their own kicks as much as single girls and couples are, maybe that's why you're having difficulty meeting any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit it's a puzzler why this site is quite as awful as it is. It's common parlance to blame it on the people on it but I'm coming to the sneaking conclusion that the whole idea itself must be an utterly unrealistic fantasy and those few of us who are on here in a genuine capacity are naive fools. Just because a website exists promising free trips to Mars doesn't mean, if you join it, you're ever going to see a free trip even to the end of your road

the site dosent promise anything

you get out of it what you put in ....."

That's just a meme. It's really only about getting lucky. About writing something that someone actually spots in the long pile of rubbish they've been sent and which resonates with them because they're actually feeling a bit horny there and then, and on top of all that they like the look of you. Like so much of life it's about being in the right place at the right time. The only reason why it pays to waste tonnes of time and effort on Fab is because, in doing so, you increase the odds of you chancing across that.

That's why the harder you work at Fab the more frustrating it is. Because you don't gain anything more from your effort. Instead you've got to develop a more nonchalant attitude, figure nothing will probably ever come from being on here, be patient, give it a try from time to time, and, in the meantime, get on with seeking out your fantasies using other channels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Patience is the key lol"

No paying 60 quid to pump the Mrs it seems to be. Bargain tho she does all the work x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a bit much expecting someone to book a hotel who you have not met before. Everyone gets stood up on this website. We have been let down last minute more than once by people we have met. I am sure guys get led enough that I can see why this a deal breaker.

And saying you put in all the work is not enough to justify this. You get our what you put in and I think you still want guy to put effort in I am sure your not expecting them to just lay there whilst you spoil him?

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I've met and played with couples but would definitely be put off by being asked to book a hotel.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

U need to get off ur high horse! No wonder u cannot get a meet!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Whatever happened to going dutch on hotel rooms?

We've never insisted a guy books a room, but I don't see the issue. Whoever books it is irrelevant, especially if the other party is going to stump up their half if asked or if they offer.

Having said that, we've done the paying previously and have never asked for half. It didn't occur to us. Bloody annoying when we got stood up one time (the dreaded 'family emergency' excuse).

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Why is it cheeky ? I do all the work on the meet , I don’t just lie back and let two guys spoil me .. that’s not how it works for us .."

“WE have a hotel scenario WE want to do.” So, you’re looking for some single lad to fulfill your fantasy, be your plaything, and pay for the ‘privelege’? Aye, okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get up to Lancaster much anymore... pity as I always have a really nice hotel room xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think getting your chosen guy to book the hotel is a deal breaker. I’m a reliable chap and had many great adventures on here but I would no way book a hotel hoping that someone I’d never met before turn up."

Agreed. If a couple is stood up they've at least still got each other for sex, if a single is stood up they're stuck on their own.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"I think getting your chosen guy to book the hotel is a deal breaker. I’m a reliable chap and had many great adventures on here but I would no way book a hotel hoping that someone I’d never met before turn up.

Agreed. If a couple is stood up they've at least still got each other for sex, if a single is stood up they're stuck on their own. "

You're forgetting the free coffee and tiny buscuits in the room. So not all's lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think getting your chosen guy to book the hotel is a deal breaker. I’m a reliable chap and had many great adventures on here but I would no way book a hotel hoping that someone I’d never met before turn up.

Agreed. If a couple is stood up they've at least still got each other for sex, if a single is stood up they're stuck on their own.

You're forgetting the free coffee and tiny buscuits in the room. So not all's lost"

How many packets of biscuits? that could be the deal breaker

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky.

Why is it cheeky ? I do all the work on the meet , I don’t just lie back and let two guys spoil me .. that’s not how it works for us .. "

It feels that way to me. If that's how it works for you that's fine but you're asking why it's difficult to get meets I was just pointing out one of the reasons you might be finding it so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"U need to get off ur high horse! No wonder u cannot get a meet! "

We can get meets !! We are not interested in just anyone , we are here for us no one else .. we don’t need to be doing this it’s something we choose .

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky.

Why is it cheeky ? I do all the work on the meet , I don’t just lie back and let two guys spoil me .. that’s not how it works for us .. "

So because you turn up and have sex, you expect a guy to shell out for your fun? Not only that you expect a guy to tick all the boxes you want and to play out the scenario you want. Then you leave - him with the bill.

It sounds very one sided. If a bloke was asking this of women the reaction would be wholly different. He'd be getting laughed at! Imagine it: I want to do xyz to a woman, she has to pay for the hotel but I'll be great in bed I guarantee, but I wont stay all night as I have commitments.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

*she has to look like xyz too and do xyz things during the meet.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after .. "

I find all the good sexy ones are always to far away from me. I don’t know why but it’s always the way.

I would love to meet you and see if I am what your looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky."

Classic attitude of the average couples on here. Men are just here to please you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after .. "

If you're asking the single guy to book the hotel for your fantasy role play then best of luck.

I no longer meet in a hotEl after having to fork out for either no show or other person not offering to pay halves. I now will only meet those who can accommodate as a result unless it's with a regular whom I know well.

To answer your other issues.... with the rules you have in place about you ace epping or not accepting who places with your partner, I can see why it's proving hard with your dom approach. If she likes then maybe you may need to relinquish ur control a little and actually reward her by allowing someone you may not like but she does. After all as a dom you should be rewarding your sub and take great pleasure in seeing her enjoying a situation too. Just my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

If you're asking the single guy to book the hotel for your fantasy role play then best of luck.

I no longer meet in a hotEl after having to fork out for either no show or other person not offering to pay halves. I now will only meet those who can accommodate as a result unless it's with a regular whom I know well.

To answer your other issues.... with the rules you have in place about you ace epping or not accepting who places with your partner, I can see why it's proving hard with your dom approach. If she likes then maybe you may need to relinquish ur control a little and actually reward her by allowing someone you may not like but she does. After all as a dom you should be rewarding your sub and take great pleasure in seeing her enjoying a situation too. Just my thoughts."

This is Yasmin !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U need to get off ur high horse! No wonder u cannot get a meet!

We can get meets !! We are not interested in just anyone , we are here for us no one else .. we don’t need to be doing this it’s something we choose . "

None of us 'need' to be doing it darling, but we do expect the pleasure to be mutual and for our needs to be taken into consideration. And if you're 'bored' of the same old MFM perhaps YOU need to think about what you want, rather than demanding that the other party perks up your jaded appetites. None of us singletons are trick ponies waiting to be summoned to perform for your pleasure, whether we are male or female.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

I would say it depends on the situation, we tend to have weekends away if we meet with a couple or single guy we pay as we are staying at the hotel anyway.

If it's purely that neither party can accommodate and your not staying the night in the hotel and just there for a few hours of sex then I think the cost should be split, everybody wants sex, why should one couple pay for the other couple/single guy, well not unless they are really really hot then just pay it (joking)!!

How does it work with singles? Female pays?? Or Guy pays?? Or they split it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U need to get off ur high horse! No wonder u cannot get a meet!

We can get meets !! We are not interested in just anyone , we are here for us no one else .. we don’t need to be doing this it’s something we choose .

None of us 'need' to be doing it darling, but we do expect the pleasure to be mutual and for our needs to be taken into consideration. And if you're 'bored' of the same old MFM perhaps YOU need to think about what you want, rather than demanding that the other party perks up your jaded appetites. None of us singletons are trick ponies waiting to be summoned to perform for your pleasure, whether we are male or female."

What a breath of fresh air!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our private meets usually follow this pattern:

1. We book two hotel rooms for consecutive Saturdays, 2 to 3 weeks in advance.

2. Go hunting on Fab for a playmate, and once found ask if they would like to meet on one of the dates. Assuming yes....

3. Cancel the room we don't need

4. On the day, check with our new friend they can still make it (well before noon, in case we need to cancel this room)

5. Meet them in the bar for a social drink and chat, and if everyone's happy adjourn to the room

6. Enjoy sex

Oh, and we pay for the room.

That's it. Nothing clever, but it has always worked.

Of course now it's down in writing it's bound to go tits up next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky.

Classic attitude of the average couples on here. Men are just here to please you. "

You said women on here cant expect respect

Remember?

But you obviously expect it

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


" we are here for us no one else .. "

Then don't whinge that others aren't there to give you what you want when you want it.

Gotta call it - you're sounding super selfish.

Appreciate you want what you want, as most do, but the couldn't give a fuck about anyone else attitude stinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

You've answered your own question. Also asking a single guy to book a hotel is a bit cheeky.

Why is it cheeky ? I do all the work on the meet , I don’t just lie back and let two guys spoil me .. that’s not how it works for us .. "

They’re probably wary and wondering how genuine you are. Who wants to book a hotel and be let down and out of pocket?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"

How does it work with singles? Female pays?? Or Guy pays?? Or they split it? "

For singles it's usually split, same with couples as they rarely stay overnight either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" we are here for us no one else ..

Then don't whinge that others aren't there to give you what you want when you want it.

Gotta call it - you're sounding super selfish.

Appreciate you want what you want, as most do, but the couldn't give a fuck about anyone else attitude stinks.

Who are you here for ???

"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Posts removed. If you quoted them your post will be gone too.

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

We don't use it anymore for meets. We know reliable guys and we know a single girl who likes to meet. That and the odd club.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


" we are here for us no one else ..

Then don't whinge that others aren't there to give you what you want when you want it.

Gotta call it - you're sounding super selfish.

Appreciate you want what you want, as most do, but the couldn't give a fuck about anyone else attitude stinks.

Who are you here for ???

"

I'm here for myself AND those I choose to spend time with. Mutual. Respect. Consideration. I may be one of the rare ones, but I DO give a fuck about people. Maybe that's why my meets turn into genuine friendships too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

If you're asking the single guy to book the hotel for your fantasy role play then best of luck.

I no longer meet in a hotEl after having to fork out for either no show or other person not offering to pay halves. I now will only meet those who can accommodate as a result unless it's with a regular whom I know well.

To answer your other issues.... with the rules you have in place about you ace epping or not accepting who places with your partner, I can see why it's proving hard with your dom approach. If she likes then maybe you may need to relinquish ur control a little and actually reward her by allowing someone you may not like but she does. After all as a dom you should be rewarding your sub and take great pleasure in seeing her enjoying a situation too. Just my thoughts.

This is Yasmin !! "

I apologise. I did misread it as your partner sorry. My first comment still stands about expecting a single guy to book the room for your fantasy though. Aint gonna happen. Too many no shows happen on here. I've never had a no show since not meeting anywhere except at theirs. I've had a few genuine cancellations but then a new date has be arranged.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


" we are here for us no one else ..

Then don't whinge that others aren't there to give you what you want when you want it.

Gotta call it - you're sounding super selfish.

Appreciate you want what you want, as most do, but the couldn't give a fuck about anyone else attitude stinks.

Who are you here for ???

I'm here for myself AND those I choose to spend time with. Mutual. Respect. Consideration. I may be one of the rare ones, but I DO give a fuck about people. Maybe that's why my meets turn into genuine friendships too."

You are rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the site dosent promise anything

you get out of it what you put in .....

That's just a meme. It's really only about getting lucky."

And no sooner had I written that than an absolutely stunning woman *wrote to me* (I know. I'm still in shock too ) Today is looking up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no experience with meeting couples privately so can’t comment on that. With regards single men, we personally don’t find it particularly difficult. I do though think it will be impossible to get a single guy you don’t know to book a hotel room. I would suggest you have a social with a guy and if you are all on the same wavelength then maybe book a room yourself and agree with him to pay a third, which any decent guy will if the room is purely for sex. Alternatively book a room for the night and simply invite a guy to join you. If it’s your room and you've paid for it, then he can leave when the fun has finished. Again a decent guy will do something like pick up the bar bill if you’ve arranged the room. The other alternative will be to look for a guy who already has a hotel room, and that can be found on the meet section.

Mrs

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t find it difficult meeting people on here. It’s a few messages and see what you can arrange. The whole set up is designed to be straightforward.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It's your fantasy, why the hell are you asking the single guy to pay? Out of order in my opinion!

Might be one of the reasons you're finding it hard, as they are thinking 'fuck off with that request'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's your fantasy, why the hell are you asking the single guy to pay? Out of order in my opinion!

Might be one of the reasons you're finding it hard, as they are thinking 'fuck off with that request' "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" we are here for us no one else ..

Then don't whinge that others aren't there to give you what you want when you want it.

Gotta call it - you're sounding super selfish.

Appreciate you want what you want, as most do, but the couldn't give a fuck about anyone else attitude stinks.

Who are you here for ???

I'm here for myself AND those I choose to spend time with. Mutual. Respect. Consideration. I may be one of the rare ones, but I DO give a fuck about people. Maybe that's why my meets turn into genuine friendships too."

dont they just - yet to do the sex thing but we will xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit though the hotel scenario is appealing.

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By *ammers43Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Hmmmm you say you went to a club and it was like " a cheap brothel " but you want a guy to pay for your company

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


" we are here for us no one else ..

Then don't whinge that others aren't there to give you what you want when you want it.

Gotta call it - you're sounding super selfish.

Appreciate you want what you want, as most do, but the couldn't give a fuck about anyone else attitude stinks.

Who are you here for ???

I'm here for myself AND those I choose to spend time with. Mutual. Respect. Consideration. I may be one of the rare ones, but I DO give a fuck about people. Maybe that's why my meets turn into genuine friendships too.

dont they just - yet to do the sex thing but we will xx "

Mwah mwah mwah we will indeed

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By *ug247Man
over a year ago

Near You


"It's your fantasy, why the hell are you asking the single guy to pay? Out of order in my opinion!

Might be one of the reasons you're finding it hard, as they are thinking 'fuck off with that request' "

You might be on to something here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit it's a puzzler why this site is quite as awful as it is. It's common parlance to blame it on the people on it but I'm coming to the sneaking conclusion that the whole idea itself must be an utterly unrealistic fantasy and those few of us who are on here in a genuine capacity are naive fools. Just because a website exists promising free trips to Mars doesn't mean, if you join it, you're ever going to see a free trip even to the end of your road "

It's because it's free. There isn't any down side or pain opening an account and time wasting.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after .. "

Put on your status when you are free to meet a guy in a local hotel . He will have already got a room so that sorts that one out . We’ve done this a few times and it works out really well .

Being overly fussy will always make life more difficult , but obviously you want to maintain your standards . Look at it this way , if the people you are looking to meet are clean , respectful and pretty good looking then that should be enough . After all you have each other for the rest don’t you ?

Hope this is helpful

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

You have to accept that your never going to get a meet, I have. Women just aren't interested in meeting, no matter how much you change your profile, photos, messages to them.

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By *SPrincessWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere near you


"You have to accept that your never going to get a meet, I have. Women just aren't interested in meeting, no matter how much you change your profile, photos, messages to them. "

But you've had a meet!

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"You have to accept that your never going to get a meet, I have. Women just aren't interested in meeting, no matter how much you change your profile, photos, messages to them.

But you've had a meet! "
yeh,but was near 4 years ago.nothing doing since then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This went well lol!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To get a meet from here ? We started off meeting couples but to find a couple where you all fancy each other is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,I ( Yasmin) cannot play with a lady if I don’t like the look of her. . Then we started to look at single guys but they are just as difficult .. they talk the talk but usually no action that’s if they turn up .. we like last min meets but the excuses they come up with when it’s time for the meet is unreal .. we have a hotel scenario we want to do but finding the right guy and asking him to book the hotel so we can play it out is impossible ! .. May I add we are quite fussy but that’s the way it should be we want a great meet not a regret the day after ..

Put on your status when you are free to meet a guy in a local hotel . He will have already got a room so that sorts that one out . We’ve done this a few times and it works out really well .

Being overly fussy will always make life more difficult , but obviously you want to maintain your standards . Look at it this way , if the people you are looking to meet are clean , respectful and pretty good looking then that should be enough . After all you have each other for the rest don’t you ?

Hope this is helpful "

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