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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too?" I dont stipulate that people send me pics with their message so if they do, and they look half decent then i see that as a bonus so i will respond in kind.. its how i get my meets.. Its not blind date is it  | |||
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"They save you a lot of time when you choose not to pander to such demands. " "Just keep moving on to a friendlier profile  "Oh, trust me, I do. I just wonder if they realise what they’re doing. "Can you dance?" Like Napoleon Dynamite on steroids. "Its not blind date is it "Well, no. Although I’ve encountered some with a remarkably relaxed attitude to that. However, given that discretion is king in this game, I think many are more comfortable getting at least a couple of messages before making a judgement about sharing face pics. | |||
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"They save you a lot of time when you choose not to pander to such demands. Just keep moving on to a friendlier profile Oh, trust me, I do. I just wonder if they realise what they’re doing.
Can you dance?
Like Napoleon Dynamite on steroids.
Its not blind date is it Well, no. Although I’ve encountered some with a remarkably relaxed attitude to that. However, given that discretion is king in this game, I think many are more comfortable getting at least a couple of messages before making a judgement about sharing face pics."You have an eye photo in public - you could send them little bits of your face in photos but by bit, you know, an eye here, an ear there, a hint of mouth. Rather like a reverse demand. “Keep talking and I’ll show you” | |||
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"They save you a lot of time when you choose not to pander to such demands. Just keep moving on to a friendlier profile Oh, trust me, I do. I just wonder if they realise what they’re doing.
Can you dance?
Like Napoleon Dynamite on steroids.
Its not blind date is it Well, no. Although I’ve encountered some with a remarkably relaxed attitude to that. However, given that discretion is king in this game, I think many are more comfortable getting at least a couple of messages before making a judgement about sharing face pics."How bizarre that you c&p'd bits from 3 different messages.. Talk about cherry picking | |||
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"How bizarre that you c&p'd bits from 3 different messages.. Talk about cherry picking "I’m not sure what the problem is. There were a few things I wanted to respond to. I haven’t quoted anybody out of context. I know some people get annoyed having to scroll past loads of quoted text they’ve already read. | |||
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We ask only for what we ourselves are offering which like many other profiles is a selection of various ridiculous poses of stomach sucked in and arse stuck out....
OP...I've just nearly pee'd myself laughing at your profile. I used to like oatcakes!!! | |||
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"You have an eye photo in public - you could send them little bits of your face in photos but by bit, you know, an eye here, an ear there, a hint of mouth. Rather like a reverse demand. “Keep talking and I’ll show you”" love it! | |||
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"OP...I've just nearly pee'd myself laughing at your profile. I used to like oatcakes!!!" Saw this ... thought I’d have a little look ... yep fabulously funny profile  | |||
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" That's probably the best profile I've read on here. My personal favourites are guys that send random face pics when I haven't asked for any pics then take the huff when they don't get one back. But it would be a dull site if we were all the same and you'd have fuck all to moan about Oatcake." It is isn’t it!
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"How bizarre that you c&p'd bits from 3 different messages.. Talk about cherry picking
I’m not sure what the problem is. There were a few things I wanted to respond to. I haven’t quoted anybody out of context. I know some people get annoyed having to scroll past loads of quoted text they’ve already read."I've never seen it on here before.. just seems a bit weird | |||
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As for over demanding profiles either bow down or move past | |||
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"Our reason being there is no stigma for a single guy to be looking for sex..." It’s not that simple, btw. | |||
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"I've never seen it on here before.. just seems a bit weird " From my point of view, it’s just a bit of courtesy. It’s standard practice on every other forum I’ve ever been on. Hey ho. | |||
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"Our reason being there is no stigma for a single guy to be looking for sex... It’s not that simple, btw." Well that's another filter to be honest, were not looking for complicated | |||
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"Guessing you're talking about Pedestal Princesses. Site's full of them mate, just keep on clicking elsewhere" Couples, too. And, yeah, I do. | |||
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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too?" It's their profile and they can write it how they want surely ! | |||
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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too?" Whoever's profile this is sounds like utter bellends!! I'm surprised they didn't do the " we never send face pics due to our jobs " line !!! | |||
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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too? It's their profile and they can write it how they want surely !" True, and people can get pissed off with It, if they want. | |||
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"Could someone explain the difference between a request for a face pic and a demand for a face pic. When does a request get interpreted as a demand? Mrs" There's a few profiles I've came across where face pictures attached to messages have been demanded, not requested such as: You MUST attach a face picture, so we/I can see you, it isn't blind date/I need to know if there is a physical attraction/etc., If there isn't one, your message will go unread/will be deleted/won't be entertained... There's a lot of people who seem to put a lot in expectations of men being open books, but not reciprocate it. I, personally, don't demand or ask for a face picture unless the person in question is comfortable and attaches it unasked. I don't need to see a face to know if there is going to be a level of attraction because personality alters that for me. If someone has a really nice/funny personality, it adds to the person as a whole, rather than making an assumption solely on their face. Also, face pictures aren't always representative of what someone ACTUALLY looks like (favourable light, filters and what have you) But yea, that's how I see the difference between politely asking and demanding. | |||
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"Could someone explain the difference between a request for a face pic and a demand for a face pic. When does a request get interpreted as a demand? Mrs There's a few profiles I've came across where face pictures attached to messages have been demanded, not requested such as: You MUST attach a face picture, so we/I can see you, it isn't blind date/I need to know if there is a physical attraction/etc., If there isn't one, your message will go unread/will be deleted/won't be entertained... There's a lot of people who seem to put a lot in expectations of men being open books, but not reciprocate it. I, personally, don't demand or ask for a face picture unless the person in question is comfortable and attaches it unasked. I don't need to see a face to know if there is going to be a level of attraction because personality alters that for me. If someone has a really nice/funny personality, it adds to the person as a whole, rather than making an assumption solely on their face. Also, face pictures aren't always representative of what someone ACTUALLY looks like (favourable light, filters and what have you) But yea, that's how I see the difference between politely asking and demanding." Yes that’s true, using the word ‘must’ does turn a request into a demand, ie they have to do it, they have no freedom of choice. I don’t think its demanding though to inform people others that a message will be deleted in certain circumstances. All that does is advise people not to waste their time messaging if sending a face pic does not work for them. Everybody will put a different value on the importance of face pics, and it’s probably best to be honest a profile as to what ones personal position is so that others don’t waste time messaging when there is likely to be a clash. | |||
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"Could someone explain the difference between a request for a face pic and a demand for a face pic. When does a request get interpreted as a demand? Mrs There's a few profiles I've came across where face pictures attached to messages have been demanded, not requested such as: You MUST attach a face picture, so we/I can see you, it isn't blind date/I need to know if there is a physical attraction/etc., If there isn't one, your message will go unread/will be deleted/won't be entertained... There's a lot of people who seem to put a lot in expectations of men being open books, but not reciprocate it. I, personally, don't demand or ask for a face picture unless the person in question is comfortable and attaches it unasked. I don't need to see a face to know if there is going to be a level of attraction because personality alters that for me. If someone has a really nice/funny personality, it adds to the person as a whole, rather than making an assumption solely on their face. Also, face pictures aren't always representative of what someone ACTUALLY looks like (favourable light, filters and what have you) But yea, that's how I see the difference between politely asking and demanding." A demand can still be ignored though. If the men don’t want to send they still have the choice not to message. I agree about the personality but I’m greedy I want attraction and personality. I’ve not met some gorgeous guys because they come across as dicks and I’ve met some guys that I wouldn’t automatically be attracted to but their personality makes it for me. | |||
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"Saw a woman on here yesterday, profile stated in her late 50’s, text was all the usual “don’t come to me if you want a skinny woman. I’m no oil painting” Blah blah... not a single photo and she had the nerve to put her status as “if you don’t send me a face and body photo in the first message you will be deleted” It’s the fab effect. Inflates some women’s ego’s" Would it be better for those who might message her if she didn’t let them know of her position in this matter? Sounds like she’s put plenty of information about herself and her personal face pic policy, which gives others the ability to make an informed choice as to whether it’s worth their while messaging her. If she didn’t say on her profile that she will delete messages without a face pic, then there will be people who don’t want to include one potentially wasting their time. Mrs | |||
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"Saw a woman on here yesterday, profile stated in her late 50’s, text was all the usual “don’t come to me if you want a skinny woman. I’m no oil painting” Blah blah... not a single photo and she had the nerve to put her status as “if you don’t send me a face and body photo in the first message you will be deleted” It’s the fab effect. Inflates some women’s ego’s Would it be better for those who might message her if she didn’t let them know of her position in this matter? Sounds like she’s put plenty of information about herself and her personal face pic policy, which gives others the ability to make an informed choice as to whether it’s worth their while messaging her. If she didn’t say on her profile that she will delete messages without a face pic, then there will be people who don’t want to include one potentially wasting their time. Mrs" Exactly
For me it’s just another filter. This morning I’ve had about 100 messages. I don’t have time to chat to all of the to find out who’s got a good personality so I delete any without pics or live too far away, then go through the remaining one to see who has a nice face, message and profile, any with all three go to the top of the class and I reply with my pic and take it from there. | |||
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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too?" | |||
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"For me it’s just another filter. This morning I’ve had about 100 messages. I don’t have time to chat to all of the to find out who’s got a good personality so I delete any without pics or live too far away, then go through the remaining one to see who has a nice face, message and profile, any with all three go to the top of the class and I reply with my pic and take it from there." Looking at your profile, I can see why you’ve reacted to this thread the way you have. You’ve got no pictures whatsoever, no real description of what you’re like, either personality or looks. Just a list of your demands (which does give a bit of insight into your personality, but maybe not in a way you’d like). So, the guys who message you know absolutely nothing about you, they’re just so desperate for sex, they’ll send pictures out to absolutely anybody. Rich pickings there. | |||
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"For me it’s just another filter. This morning I’ve had about 100 messages. I don’t have time to chat to all of the to find out who’s got a good personality so I delete any without pics or live too far away, then go through the remaining one to see who has a nice face, message and profile, any with all three go to the top of the class and I reply with my pic and take it from there. Looking at your profile, I can see why you’ve reacted to this thread the way you have. You’ve got no pictures whatsoever, no real description of what you’re like, either personality or looks. Just a list of your demands (which does give a bit of insight into your personality, but maybe not in a way you’d like). So, the guys who message you know absolutely nothing about you, they’re just so desperate for sex, they’ll send pictures out to absolutely anybody. Rich pickings there." But she hasn’t made any demands in her profile. All she’s done is describe and explained various things in her profile that she doesn’t want or doesn’t work for her. Mrs | |||
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"But she hasn’t made any demands in her profile. All she’s done is describe and explained various things in her profile that she doesn’t want or doesn’t work for her. Mrs" When you read profiles, taking each little aspect on its own could be taken as ‘just a request’. When it’s just one thing after another, when everything has to be on one person’s terms, there’s no mutual respect, it reads in a demanding way. I mean, it ends saying that if you ask for a meet, you’ll probably be blocked. Precious, much? | |||
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"But she hasn’t made any demands in her profile. All she’s done is describe and explained various things in her profile that she doesn’t want or doesn’t work for her. Mrs When you read profiles, taking each little aspect on its own could be taken as ‘just a request’. When it’s just one thing after another, when everything has to be on one person’s terms, there’s no mutual respect, it reads in a demanding way. I mean, it ends saying that if you ask for a meet, you’ll probably be blocked. Precious, much?" I quite agree, but I thought her preferences were expressed respectfully, not as a list of demands. She’s not saying you must do this and must do that. I guess that our list at the top of our profile, designed to reduce messages and reduce time wasting, would also be considered a list of demands. But I don’t know any other way to reduce messages we don’t want, and I’m guessing that the other lady is doing the same thing. | |||
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"But she hasn’t made any demands in her profile. All she’s done is describe and explained various things in her profile that she doesn’t want or doesn’t work for her. Mrs When you read profiles, taking each little aspect on its own could be taken as ‘just a request’. When it’s just one thing after another, when everything has to be on one person’s terms, there’s no mutual respect, it reads in a demanding way. I mean, it ends saying that if you ask for a meet, you’ll probably be blocked. Precious, much? I quite agree, but I thought her preferences were expressed respectfully, not as a list of demands. She’s not saying you must do this and must do that. I guess that our list at the top of our profile, designed to reduce messages and reduce time wasting, would also be considered a list of demands. But I don’t know any other way to reduce messages we don’t want, and I’m guessing that the other lady is doing the same thing. " As ever and leaving aside the cant, women can have a whole list of demands, reasonable and unreasonable and still get loads of messages, whereas men have to take what they can get. That's inevitable when there are about 17 men chasing every woman. | |||
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"I guess that our list at the top of our profile, designed to reduce messages and reduce time wasting, would also be considered a list of demands." Out of interest, do you find it works? Has it eliminated the dick pics? Regarding your second request. I see you’ve got quite a lot of your face on show in your public pics, so it’s obviously not a concern for you. Do you understand why some of us don’t have that luxury? | |||
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"Can you dance? We clearly stupulate that people who message must be able to dance. If they can't it's an instant block and a retraction of chocolate rations." Would love to do a little dance for you xxxx | |||
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"I guess that our list at the top of our profile, designed to reduce messages and reduce time wasting, would also be considered a list of demands. Out of interest, do you find it works? Has it eliminated the dick pics? Regarding your second request. I see you’ve got quite a lot of your face on show in your public pics, so it’s obviously not a concern for you. Do you understand why some of us don’t have that luxury?" Yes it has definitely reduced the dick pics. Also reduced the requests from guys looking for an easy lay. We don’t believe we are substantially putting off quality guys, but of course we can’t be sure of that. But we get what we want from the swing scene, so I think we’re ok. We only have our full face pics in ‘friends only’. The ones in public we don’t believe make us recognisable. Yes I understand that some people need or want more discretion than us, and that has to be weighed up against our need or preference to not waste time in messaging. | |||
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"Personally I find the men that moan about it are the desperate ones..." I see what you did there. | |||
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"...just go to yourself yeah whatever luv, have a little chuckle to yourself and move on to the next one." As I’ve already said, I do. That doesn’t preclude it being worthy of discussion, does it? | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs" Perhaps there’s a difference in tone. I’m not saying there’s an issue with everyone asking for pictures, just that there’s a fundamental hypocrisy in the way many people approach it. | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs" I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. " Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs Perhaps there’s a difference in tone. I’m not saying there’s an issue with everyone asking for pictures, just that there’s a fundamental hypocrisy in the way many people approach it." Yes that’s true. It irritates me when people don’t play fair. We once sent our face pics to a guy we had starting chatting to and there mutual interest. He thanked us and complimented me and showed he was interested, but did not send any in return. It would have been better if he’d said in his profile that he had an issue with sharing pics too soon, because then we would have known where we stood before we started communicating. | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable "Profile is boss now! | |||
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"Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable "Thats actually very funny. Kudos. | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable
Profile is boss now! "Thanks, do you want my next available date?! xx | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable
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Thanks, do you want my next available date?! xx"Do you want a pic?? | |||
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"Guessing you're talking about Pedestal Princesses. Site's full of them mate, just keep on clicking elsewhere" ‘Pedestal princesses’ love that | |||
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"...just go to yourself yeah whatever luv, have a little chuckle to yourself and move on to the next one. As I’ve already said, I do. That doesn’t preclude it being worthy of discussion, does it?" No. Not at all. If I thought that I wouldn't have replied | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable "Brilliant!!  | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable
Profile is boss now!
Thanks, do you want my next available date?! xx
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You've even got the classic "Treat this one with respect" veri.
Awesome! "Hate I? Classic!! I’ve hid it today because apparently I’m a man because he’s hidden his profile | |||
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"But if wanting a face pic with first message is a demand, equally wanting to chat first prior sending a face pic is arguably just as much a demand. The reality is that 2 people want to do things differently, but neither are actually making a demand on anyone, they are just preserving how they like to do things. Mrs I think the difference is that many people see asking for a face pic as more intrusive than chatting to someone, hence the "demanding" trope. Personally, I think there's no point chatting to someone if there is not going to be any attraction, so best to exchange face pics soonest. Exactly this, although personality is more important to me than looks there has to be some attraction. I don’t want to think wow this guy is perfect, get a pic and throw up in my mouth!! How do I tell them then?! Changed my profile now hope it’s more suitable
Profile is boss now!
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Do you want a pic??
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Have I? Classic!! I’ve hid it today because apparently I’m a man because he’s hidden his profile "Sorry have not hate  | |||
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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too? It's their profile and they can write it how they want surely ! True, and people can get pissed off with It, if they want. " Indeed. Many people do. | |||
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"Saw a woman on here yesterday, profile stated in her late 50’s, text was all the usual “don’t come to me if you want a skinny woman. I’m no oil painting” Blah blah... not a single photo and she had the nerve to put her status as “if you don’t send me a face and body photo in the first message you will be deleted” It’s the fab effect. Inflates some women’s ego’s" Iv also seen the same written on mens and couples profiles. | |||
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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too? It's their profile and they can write it how they want surely ! True, and people can get pissed off with It, if they want. Indeed. Many people do. " Why though? If I see something I don’t like I just keep looking, I’ve never found myself messaging them with abuse. | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response "And that’s your prerogative | |||
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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too? It's their profile and they can write it how they want surely ! True, and people can get pissed off with It, if they want. Indeed. Many people do. Why though? If I see something I don’t like I just keep looking, I’ve never found myself messaging them with abuse." Iv no idea. I just pass it by. | |||
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"I always dread the can I/we get a face pic question as I know 9/10 will not reciprocate and either say sorry not for us air just ignore u or block" But is that not better than a blind date and they run a mile when they see you? | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response "But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? | |||
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"I always dread the can I/we get a face pic question as I know 9/10 will not reciprocate and either say sorry not for us air just ignore u or block But is that not better than a blind date and they run a mile when they see you? "have u been on another thread where I posted about this happening lol | |||
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"I always dread the can I/we get a face pic question as I know 9/10 will not reciprocate and either say sorry not for us air just ignore u or block But is that not better than a blind date and they run a mile when they see you? have u been on another thread where I posted about this happening lol" | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? "I was thinking he’s doing exactly the same, wanting to see one first, but At least he’s going to those who have them in public anyway. I hate it when I get messages and they ask me to send first and I think to myself why even message me when I specifically say I won’t send first?!? | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? "Now do you see the problem with a totally photo-less profile insisting that they receive a photo before they’ll deign to respond? It’s a mutual respect thing. | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first?
Now do you see the problem with a totally photo-less profile insisting that they receive a photo before they’ll deign to respond?
It’s a mutual respect thing."Well someone has to send one first. If we make the first communication then we’ll be the ones that send ours first. If they message us first, I see why we should be the ones to have to break the ice and send a photo. If the profile is totally photoless the situation is irrelevant anyway as we probably wouldn’t be interested in a photoless profile Mrs | |||
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"I ask for face pics because mine are on show It’s that simple with me " your one of the good ones I know that as I'm privileged to know you x | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? "nope I said if they have one in there profile I will send one nothing else | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first?
Now do you see the problem with a totally photo-less profile insisting that they receive a photo before they’ll deign to respond?
It’s a mutual respect thing.
Well someone has to send one first. If we make the first communication then we’ll be the ones that send ours first. If they message us first, I see why we should be the ones to have to break the ice and send a photo. If the profile is totally photoless the situation is irrelevant anyway as we probably wouldn’t be interested in a photoless profile
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? nope I said if they have one in there profile I will send one nothing else "I have one in my profile, but you can't see it. | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? nope I said if they have one in there profile I will send one nothing else "You said you will only message with a face pic if there is one in their profile. Would you send one if there was not one in their profile? Ie if you haven’t seen theirs first? | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first?
Now do you see the problem with a totally photo-less profile insisting that they receive a photo before they’ll deign to respond?
It’s a mutual respect thing.
Well someone has to send one first. If we make the first communication then we’ll be the ones that send ours first. If they message us first, I see why we should be the ones to have to break the ice and send a photo. If the profile is totally photoless the situation is irrelevant anyway as we probably wouldn’t be interested in a photoless profile
Mrs nope I said if they have one in there profile I will send mine if they don't have one I won't send one "I don’t think a privately sent photo attached to a privately sent message is comparable to having a picture on the profile. Normally photos are exchanged private, not as a result of viewing someone’s profile gallery. | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? nope I said if they have one in there profile I will send one nothing else
You said you will only message with a face pic if there is one in their profile. Would you send one if there was not one in their profile? Ie if you haven’t seen theirs first?"lime I said if there's one in there profile I will send one if not I won't message that profile as I lime many others like to see who I'm talking with | |||
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"Well someone has to send one first. I never said otherwise." That’s true you didn’t say that. But with those who delay sending photos, it always seems to be us that have to break the ice, hence it’s not really a 2 way process. | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? nope I said if they have one in there profile I will send one nothing else
You said you will only message with a face pic if there is one in their profile. Would you send one if there was not one in their profile? Ie if you haven’t seen theirs first?lime I said if there's one in there profile I will send one if not I won't message that profile as I lime many others like to see who I'm talking with "So you won’t share a private face pic unless they have a public face pic on their profile. That’s the the same hypocrisy that the OP is complaining about. Surely we should have the same rules for others that we have for ourselves? | |||
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"They save you a lot of time when you choose not to pander to such demands. Just keep moving on to a friendlier profile Oh, trust me, I do. I just wonder if they realise what they’re doing.
Can you dance?
Like Napoleon Dynamite on steroids.
Its not blind date is it Well, no. Although I’ve encountered some with a remarkably relaxed attitude to that. However, given that discretion is king in this game, I think many are more comfortable getting at least a couple of messages before making a judgement about sharing face pics.
You have an eye photo in public - you could send them little bits of your face in photos but by bit, you know, an eye here, an ear there, a hint of mouth. Rather like a reverse demand. “Keep talking and I’ll show you”"Love this reply! | |||
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"The issue I have is with local men knowing what I look like before I see them. If I recognised them I would say not what I'm looking for sorry, and block. They may not do that and they might follow me home (again). So, I play it safe and wait to see if they send a pic first. I'm also wary that a refusal, after they have my photo, could lead to some harassment. I know I would never do anything untoward with a person's details; I don't know if they would. "
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"Funny that the OP has none on show!! "No, it’s not. If you think that, you fundamentally misunderstood the point I am making. This isn’t rocket science. | |||
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"I ask for face pics when messaging, which often falls on deaf ears, but as mines on show I don't think its unreasonable. My main reason for asking is for recognising who's sending me messages, as the names are so generic that they blend into one indistinct ' bigdick69' profile" Thank you for sharing them...fabbed my fave | |||
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"People that moan about this really piss me off. I ask for a pic on my profile, I do not demand, everyone has the right to pass me by. They may also choose to message and not send me a pic, and I can choose to ignore (I have responded to a few with no face pics if there profile and message is good but it’s rare). So all I am asking for is guys who are willing to send a pic to message me and those that aren’t keep searching as I obviously don’t fit what they’re looking for. If they send and I like I reply with mine, simple! "Umm pretty rich from someone with zero pics on your profile. Why do you presume that someone who you have 'accepted' would find you attractive, it's a 2way street ! | |||
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"I just read yet another profile demanding that anyone messaging must send a face pic, or the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Followed shortly thereafter by the instruction not to ask for a pic, as they will send when they’re ready, and if someone does ask the message will be deleted and the sender will be blocked. Now, I know that physical attraction is important, but if we have to attach face pics to every message we send, we'd be as well making them public. Add to that the arrogance of demanding others send face pics and not reciprocating? It’s as though there’s an assumption of attraction. My personal favourites are the ones demanding pics, with no public pics of their own, at all. Aye, okay, I’ll get right on it. Would you like me to do a wee dance for you, too?" The demands some profiles make are surprising but act as a very good filter. People with self respect are less likely to jump through unreasonable hoops, so these types of profiles are possibly counter productive for their owners. | |||
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"as stated in my profile if I contact you I will attach face pic and if you are interested l would like one in return, likewise if you make the first move I'd expect one, OP you seem to be posting on every thread regardless if it's of personal interest or not? it's like you just want controversy? just my humble opinion!" I’d tend to agree with you in regards to the OP, he seems to have to disagree with everyone on every issue in some way | |||
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"OP you seem to be posting on every thread regardless if it's of personal interest or not? it's like you just want controversy? just my humble opinion!" I look at a very small number of threads, and post in even fewer. I certainly don’t look at threads of no interest to me, and no, I don’t want controversy. I just post my opinion. From my perspective, I post a lot less (and a lot less shite) than many others. But thanks for the feedback. | |||
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"I believe communication is a 2 way thing I will only message with a face pic if I can see one in there pics there is alot that ask demand or whatever you wanna call it for one or no reply ok see you later that's my response
But you’re only prepared to send a face pic if they send one first? nope I said if they have one in there profile I will send one nothing else
You said you will only message with a face pic if there is one in their profile. Would you send one if there was not one in their profile? Ie if you haven’t seen theirs first?lime I said if there's one in there profile I will send one if not I won't message that profile as I lime many others like to see who I'm talking with "and now unlos because his wife found his profile lol | |||
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