FabSwingers.com forum: Swingers site or not???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure weather I should post here or on the support message board!!

I was on here as single bloke, and when I say single, I mean, 100% single, circumstances have changed and was wondering if I should still be on this site?

I have been swinging since my mid twenties, on my own, then as a couple, then back as a single.

Where as in the past, I was intersted in anyone that shared the same interests etc, now situations have altered, I (we) are really only looking for one person/couple, I suppose more of a special friend kind of situation, is a swingers site the correct place, or should we broaden or search to other avenues?

Any advice appreciated, as since profile update, a brick wall has appeared!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why not make a couple profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We did consider a couples profile, but the female will not be meeting for the forseeable future!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

As in exclusive friend with benefits?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We did consider a couples profile, but the female will not be meeting for the forseeable future!!

So your still a single male then, not a swinging couple!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, a friend with bennifits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am a single yes, but with full knowledge and agreement with partner, long story, happy to explain privatly but not on forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that may be the case, but most wont want to get involved incase there are complications.

but i do admire your honesty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats why I wondered if we should look somewhere different??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah follow you now, but not sure where else you could look

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, or do we keep looking here, and hope our look changes???

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"ah follow you now, but not sure where else you could look"

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

As you are playing alone then your profile is how it should be.

I would say if people are looking for a couple this way, then they would only have to call you both up and confirm it is both of you....everyone else can pass your profile by.

I am sure you are in the right place to find someone for fun, and I am also sure there are people who want a regular thing, but if it is exclusive, thats where it might fall down.

Hopefully someone will be along who can tell you wether there are specialist sites looking for exclusive 3 ways...I think someone has mentioned there are some before now.

Good luck.

PS, so everyone knows who you are answering, click on the reply and quoute button

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I missing something with the last symbol and number???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you

"As you are playing alone then your profile is how it should be.

I would say if people are looking for a couple this way, then they would only have to call you both up and confirm it is both of you....everyone else can pass your profile by.

I am sure you are in the right place to find someone for fun, and I am also sure there are people who want a regular thing, but if it is exclusive, thats where it might fall down.

Hopefully someone will be along who can tell you wether there are specialist sites looking for exclusive 3 ways...I think someone has mentioned there are some before now.

Good luck.

PS, so everyone knows who you are answering, click on the reply and quoute button

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Am I missing something with the last symbol and number???"

It was a smiley....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I ment from another response!!!

Only been on the forum a couple of times to be honest, was not sure how it worked, I ment +1??

"Am I missing something with the last symbol and number???

It was a smiley....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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ah lol They were just agreeing with the post they quoted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see, everday is a school day!!!

"ah lol They were just agreeing with the post they quoted"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm bit hard to advise on this one as I don't use or know other sites. If you're looking for a regular arrangement with a couple or female then you may find that on here. If you're wanting them or her to be exclusive to you then thats a big ask. Your situation sounds a bit complex if I'm honest and it may put people off. There are plenty of single guys on here without any complications so lots of choice. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for reply.

I am no way looking for just one person, or couple, to be exclusive to, however that would be great, but the profile can be off putting, but only for being honest, just we seem to be at a dead end, or is it a cross roads???

"Hmmm bit hard to advise on this one as I don't use or know other sites. If you're looking for a regular arrangement with a couple or female then you may find that on here. If you're wanting them or her to be exclusive to you then thats a big ask. Your situation sounds a bit complex if I'm honest and it may put people off. There are plenty of single guys on here without any complications so lots of choice. Good luck whatever you decide to do."

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Oh, in that case it is different....I thought you meant exclusive by your comments and it was something your lady would only do so why she wasn't playing now.

My advice now would be, once your lady decides she wants to play as a couple looking for a regular threeseome, then get yourself a couples profile.

Until she wants to play together then your profile may as well stay as a single profile with no mention on it of a female as I can't see anyone wanting to play with someone who isn't really into it yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah I was confused too!! I agree with rugby's advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I/we, are looking for just one person(s), we are more than happy for that person(s), to play with whoever they wish. If I fail to mention when chatting to potentioal friends, I am in a relationship, would that not also put people off??!!

"Oh, in that case it is different....I thought you meant exclusive by your comments and it was something your lady would only do so why she wasn't playing now.

My advice now would be, once your lady decides she wants to play as a couple looking for a regular threeseome, then get yourself a couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you looking for this person or persons now for the future or are you looking for meets just for yourself in the meantime?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As in exclusive friend with benefits?"
yes i think that would be lovely ..could not have put that better myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am hoping that we will both end up playing in the future, but I am looking for meets for myself at present.

"Are you looking for this person or persons now for the future or are you looking for meets just for yourself in the meantime?"

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Tbh your profile is just a complicated version of that old standby of single males...drop me a line to find out more.It is all about what you want and nothing about what yo can offer.

Why would i want to find out more...what is in it for me?

Additionally very few people are looking for exclusivity in swinging...they are kind of mutally exclusive.If you have a girlfriend,why dont you pursue monogomy with her?

My advice would be consider why you want this,why you cant explain yourself on the profile and consider what you are offering.If you are too have any luck at all you need to straighten things out a bit.

i wonder if you may be looking for something more poly than swinging...google polymory and see if that is more your thing.It doesnt mean you wont find what you are looking for here,i fond my Master on a swinging site,and have been in several poly relationships,but if you present what you want more clearly,people will be more likely to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am hoping that we will both end up playing in the future, but I am looking for meets for myself at present.

Are you looking for this person or persons now for the future or are you looking for meets just for yourself in the meantime?"

In that case you could either do as rugby advised or state on your profile that you're in a relationship, you're playing with your partners permission and she can be contacted to verify this. When your partner is ready to play, set up a couples profile at that point. I'd keep it simple

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