FabSwingers.com forum: The copy and paste introduction

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, my pet hate:

Hello I am xxxx and I have hand penned this response after browsing your beautiful photographs etc etc...

You read paragraphs of slushy, non personalised and open ended statements with a slight sense of deja-vu only to get to the end of the message to note the exact same message was sent 6 weeks previously...

Anyone else get these, anyone actually like them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get them sometimes but they don't bother me. Most people delete messages without replying so I can't see why anyone would waste time writing a personalised message.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I get them occasionally and to be honest many of them are sooong and soooboring I just reply thank you and that’s it. You can tell the precomposed messages a mile off

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By *relanddirectMan
over a year ago

cheshire

It is really difficult though to try to remain interesting but different, courteous and polite and still make your introduction stand out from the recipients probably 00’s of messages

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"I get them sometimes but they don't bother me. Most people delete messages without replying so I can't see why anyone would waste time writing a personalised message."

The *only* messages I've ever replied to - with a view to continuing the conversation (as opposed to a no thanks) have been personalised ones. Those which show they've actually read my profile and are genuinely trying to engage with *me* (instead of any old female).

There's no chance I'll ever reply to an obvious cut and paste job so they're surely far more likely to be a waste of time?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a bloke out there who clearly has 2 pre-typed messages; one tailored to a couple that says in a very generic way that he loved reading their profile and had lovely pics and would they be interested in meeting for a chat, all the usual stuff with none of the exciting juicy seductive text that is often enjoyable. The other is clearly tailored to a single female and says the same, but with a list of his interests like it's a dating site, also stressing his loyalty and that he abhors cheating in any form...

Except he sent us the wrong one by mistake! Given our profile, yes, we chuckled...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one yesterday and same one five weeks ago after saying not what we are looking for and says clearly we are a couple. No you havnt read my profile and no I dnt meet alone. But some guys thibk it works so leave them to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always write a personalised message.

If you haven’t got time or can’t be bothered sending a message that is personal, then how can you expect someone to want to respond to you.

So what if some get deleted...it’s minutes of my time but could lead to hours of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind getting them and I don't blame any man for doing it. Most women delete without reading or replying so they are wasting their time writing a personalised message to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they’re going for the scattergun fishing approach then I can see why someone would copy paste, they’d lose the will to live writing individual messages for them to be left unread / deleted.

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By *evilsTongueMan
over a year ago

dunfermline

Messages like that make me laugh, I mean come on guys be original read the woman’s profile, have a coffee while your sat there thinking the best way to answer questions they may have asked on there page, it’s not hard.

But put some effort in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind them, its the ridiculous over sycophantic slushy ones i cant stand! So fake sentiments!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just received one but saying as if I'm a couple's profile lol I'm clearly not I'm a single fem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK we are new here and can only say what we think as we aren't in the forum clique.

Personally I (Jen) would hate to be a single male on this site. They get vilified on the forums so no wonder they just drop a pebble and hope a ripple comes their way. Some of the look at me posters are constantly attacking single males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys always use the excuse it’s because it’s just deleted so no point putting effort in but if it is personalised I always respond even if it’s a no thank you. I would never reply to a copy and pasted message, I like to meet guys who want to meet me because they’ve seen something interesting in my profile not just playing the numbers game.

I’ve had dozens of profiles over the years and see the repeated offenders over and over, funny thing is when I tell them that and they try to make out it’s personlised, I’m not thick you know!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

I get them often, but it's the small copy and pasted I hate even more,

Hello, how are you both?

Im like dude theres only one of me! Just plain laziness.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We've had a few messages from one profile that was just their entire bio copied and pasted as a message. It felt almost like receiving political party spam

They sent it to us three times over the course of a year before we blocked them.

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By *eedsandyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

These threads seem to crop up regularly.

The point is this as a single guy:

You can type lots and get no reply.

You can type a little, and get no reply.

You can type a personalised message and get no reply.

You can send a cut and paste and get no reply.

So you can see why people don't go to the trouble of typing out a personalised message, because it gets them nowhere, and what they type will be 99% the same as the cut and paste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never copied and pasted a message. But I have to admit when I have spent a good 20 mins typing out a well thought out message, Only for them to not even bother look at it and just delete it is a bit soul destroying. but I know I am 1 of 100,000 guys on this site trying to grab attention. So if my quirky message title doesn't catch their eye then I just need to move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get them often, but it's the small copy and pasted I hate even more,

Hello, how are you both?

Im like dude theres only one of me! Just plain laziness."

yes, these are funny! i had one yesterday 'hey guys'...i wasn't that suprised as the status said 'happy xmas'..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones that say you have great pics and I loved your profile when I’ve removed all the information are the best. I often reply with what did you find most interesting then I either get blocked or they try to talk their way out of it, but I never give a second chance to someone who sends pasted messages as I feel they are just looking for a shag and not a serious swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get them sometimes but they don't bother me. Most people delete messages without replying so I can't see why anyone would waste time writing a personalised message.

There's no chance I'll ever reply to an obvious cut and paste job so they're surely far more likely to be a waste of time?!"

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

As soon as we see "love your profile photo's" (plural) we delete and block. Why? We only have one on display...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd much rather get a copy paste than 'hi' or 'nice cock' for the 1000th time, copy paste at least takes a tiny amount of effort haha

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I got one a few weeks ago & called him out for sending copy & paste messages. He responded with outrage that I could possibly think it was C&P and how he never does that.

About 3 weeks later I got exactly the same message from him. It showed below in my messages, along with his assertion that he never does it. I screenshot it & sent it back to him as a direct photo.

Funnily enough, not heard from him since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got one a few weeks ago & called him out for sending copy & paste messages. He responded with outrage that I could possibly think it was C&P and how he never does that.

About 3 weeks later I got exactly the same message from him. It showed below in my messages, along with his assertion that he never does it. I screenshot it & sent it back to him as a direct photo.

Funnily enough, not heard from him since

I had someone do this! Every week for about six weeks. I ignored him to begin with but eventually just replied with a screenshot of his constant messaging. Eventually he told me I should be flattered someone like him would even be interested in someone as fat and ugly as me, so I blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet another sweeping generalisation leading to forumites really kicking the single male.

Really don't know why you don't set your filters and use the block option as opposed to bringing it to forum.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Yet another sweeping generalisation leading to forumites really kicking the single male.

Really don't know why you don't set your filters and use the block option as opposed to bringing it to forum. "

Because it’s a handful that do it - why block every guy when it’s only the idiots we want to avoid.

And no one is kicking the single male

They are kicking the single males who think it’s ok to copy & paste a generic message in the hopes of getting an easy shag

So if you don’t C&P messages, then this is in defence of the guys like you!

And if you do C&P messages ... don’t!!

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I got one a few weeks ago & called him out for sending copy & paste messages. He responded with outrage that I could possibly think it was C&P and how he never does that.

About 3 weeks later I got exactly the same message from him. It showed below in my messages, along with his assertion that he never does it. I screenshot it & sent it back to him as a direct photo.

Funnily enough, not heard from him since

I love when they do that - it’s comedy gold

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Yet another sweeping generalisation leading to forumites really kicking the single male.

Really don't know why you don't set your filters and use the block option as opposed to bringing it to forum. "

And maybe by bringing it to the forum some of the offenders will see it and realise what a pointless exercise it is and change their ways?

As a male with a single profile I didn't see this thread as male bashing at all more a discussion on a recurrent experience that people have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet another sweeping generalisation leading to forumites really kicking the single male.

Really don't know why you don't set your filters and use the block option as opposed to bringing it to forum.

And maybe by bringing it to the forum some of the offenders will see it and realise what a pointless exercise it is and change their ways?

As a male with a single profile I didn't see this thread as male bashing at all more a discussion on a recurrent experience that people have

So you think the C&P brigade who can't be arsed reading a profile or composing an individual message are going to sit and read through this thread? I doubt it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Yet another sweeping generalisation leading to forumites really kicking the single male.

Really don't know why you don't set your filters and use the block option as opposed to bringing it to forum.

And maybe by bringing it to the forum some of the offenders will see it and realise what a pointless exercise it is and change their ways?

As a male with a single profile I didn't see this thread as male bashing at all more a discussion on a recurrent experience that people have

So you think the C&P brigade who can't be arsed reading a profile or composing an individual message are going to sit and read through this thread? I doubt it. "

I doubt it too - but if just one of them changes their ways as a result it will have been worth it surely?

The point is it's an open forum and people are entitled to post what they want, within site rules, and this was by no means a "man bashing" thread as you suggested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha"

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum. "

because its useful for people who maybe haven't really thought about it before and might help them have better chances of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet another sweeping generalisation leading to forumites really kicking the single male.

Really don't know why you don't set your filters and use the block option as opposed to bringing it to forum.

And maybe by bringing it to the forum some of the offenders will see it and realise what a pointless exercise it is and change their ways?

As a male with a single profile I didn't see this thread as male bashing at all more a discussion on a recurrent experience that people have

So you think the C&P brigade who can't be arsed reading a profile or composing an individual message are going to sit and read through this thread? I doubt it.

I doubt it too - but if just one of them changes their ways as a result it will have been worth it surely?

The point is it's an open forum and people are entitled to post what they want, within site rules, and this was by no means a "man bashing" thread as you suggested

Yes. And I posted my opinion and possible solution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum.

because its useful for people who maybe haven't really thought about it before and might help them have better chances of meeting."

Those very people will not be reading this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always put an effort into sending a message, and it's always tailored to the individual or couple, I expect the same. I don't scatter gun to anyone and it takes so little to read a profile and address the people personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum.

because its useful for people who maybe haven't really thought about it before and might help them have better chances of meeting.

Those very people will not be reading this thread. "

probably not many will, but you can say that about any post at all on here, it's still useful for people to be able to gauge responses to messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK we are new here and can only say what we think as we aren't in the forum clique.

Are you suggesting that the "forum clique" don't say what they think?

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum. "

Why not do both?

The forum is a place for open discussions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum.

Why not do both?

The forum is a place for open discussions."

OK. I give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup hands up ! I do this

BUT I do read all profiles I’ll use the “add this to you message word” and I’ll try to add in details like something they are into or comment on the picture “cute princess plug”

Is this it acceptable as a ice breaker ???

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK we are new here and can only say what we think as we aren't in the forum clique.

Are you suggesting that the "forum clique" don't say what they think?"

No. I have seen your robust defence of your opinions on many forum posts. I am alluding to certain profiles putting up a post about, usually, single males with a slightly different heading every few days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum.

because its useful for people who maybe haven't really thought about it before and might help them have better chances of meeting.

Those very people will not be reading this thread.

probably not many will, but you can say that about any post at all on here, it's still useful for people to be able to gauge responses to messages"

I have had the same message off one guy about 30 times (different accounts), I even responded and told him despite the message it’s the distance. Anyway he’s just contacted me through this thread so some obviously do read the forums. I don’t block unless they really piss me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess we all want to feel special and not just a convenient hole. A message with no effort behind it isn't going to help with that.

But at the end of the day men aren't here to fall in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess we all want to feel special and not just a convenient hole. A message with no effort behind it isn't going to help with that.

But at the end of the day men aren't here to fall in love."

This sums it up pretty well. I think most people don't mind the copy paste itself, it's the reaction from the guys when you turn them down because of the lack of effort, which isn't really a massive turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess we all want to feel special and not just a convenient hole. A message with no effort behind it isn't going to help with that.

But at the end of the day men aren't here to fall in love.

You've just contradicted yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess we all want to feel special and not just a convenient hole. A message with no effort behind it isn't going to help with that.

But at the end of the day men aren't here to fall in love."

But you are ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess we all want to feel special and not just a convenient hole. A message with no effort behind it isn't going to help with that.

But at the end of the day men aren't here to fall in love.

But you are ? "

Her profile does actually say looking for a relationship though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess we all want to feel special and not just a convenient hole. A message with no effort behind it isn't going to help with that.

But at the end of the day men aren't here to fall in love.

But you are ? "

Not from here. But I think a lot of women here want to be fallen in love with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum. "

500 isn't a lot you know pal.

Once you reach the limit they fall out the bottom. There's a limit to your casual repeated comment of 'just block them'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum.

500 isn't a lot you know pal.

Once you reach the limit they fall out the bottom. There's a limit to your casual repeated comment of 'just block them'.

500 what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum.

500 isn't a lot you know pal.

Once you reach the limit they fall out the bottom. There's a limit to your casual repeated comment of 'just block them'.

500 what? "

A limit to how many people can be blocked and that's 500.

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By *abswimmersMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I got one a few weeks ago & called him out for sending copy & paste messages. He responded with outrage that I could possibly think it was C&P and how he never does that.

About 3 weeks later I got exactly the same message from him. It showed below in my messages, along with his assertion that he never does it. I screenshot it & sent it back to him as a direct photo.

Funnily enough, not heard from him since

That's terrible if your fat and ugly I have a cock bigger than Ron Jeremy's,

Having said that some guy's unfortunately don't take a no very well, I have a friend and a few years ago she got quite a nice message from a guy who was 10 years older than what she was looking for, she simply replied with

" thanks for your message but unfortunately your quite a bit older than the age that I'm looking for so I won't be interested in meeting with you"

She got a response back from the guy saying thanks for the message But you're quite a bit fatter than girl's that I normally go for so if I can lower my standard why can't you!

Needless to say the block button followed very quickly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yup hands up ! I do this

BUT I do read all profiles I’ll use the “add this to you message word” and I’ll try to add in details like something they are into or comment on the picture “cute princess plug”

Is this it acceptable as a ice breaker ???

S x"

I like the fact you admit it... And actually a bit of personalisation is a good thing, I think that removes my gripe in the main.

For me it's all about Being relevant, original, insightful... I guess that's what I look for in a message and a one size fits all framework just isn't going to cut it. I do also hate it when people deny it's a c&p even though its in your inbox from a few weeks ago etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello I am Kevin and I have hand penned this response after browsing your beautiful photographs, how do you find the website ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"These threads seem to crop up regularly.

The point is this as a single guy:

You can type lots and get no reply.

You can type a little, and get no reply.

You can type a personalised message and get no reply.

You can send a cut and paste and get no reply.

So you can see why people don't go to the trouble of typing out a personalised message, because it gets them nowhere, and what they type will be 99% the same as the cut and paste."

I really don't rate that argument...

Effectively I am a single guy, in fact as a tgirl I reckon there's fewer people on fab searching for me compared to single guys... So lets call me an unpopular single guy.

For me: if you read and relate to profiles, communicate in a non weird thoughtful manner then 9/10 times you get a decent reply at least x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone getting offended by being called out for Copy Pasting is probably taking this all a bit too seriously. If you're offended maybe that's a sign you should stop haha

Nobody on the thread is offended. My point is why not just block them as opposed to putting it to the forum.

500 isn't a lot you know pal.

Once you reach the limit they fall out the bottom. There's a limit to your casual repeated comment of 'just block them'.

500 what?

A limit to how many people can be blocked and that's 500."

So I can casually advise you to block unwanted message senders another 496 times then.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

The ones that confuse me slightly is when they C&P their profile as a message.

WTF is that about, because we all know, women read the profile before the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup hands up ! I do this

BUT I do read all profiles I’ll use the “add this to you message word” and I’ll try to add in details like something they are into or comment on the picture “cute princess plug”

Is this it acceptable as a ice breaker ???

S x

I like the fact you admit it... And actually a bit of personalisation is a good thing, I think that removes my gripe in the main.

writing this down!

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Do you know how many messages guys have to send out, messages that aren't even read?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you know how many messages guys have to send out, messages that aren't even read?"

Yup... the good ones send very few x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oddly enough I got a c&p message today. I replied and we chatted. He's a nice guy.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Do you know how many messages guys have to send out, messages that aren't even read?"

Well I've sent precisely 6 unsolicited messages, based purely on seeing a profile I liked, in my 18 months with this profile and received replies from 5 of them - so yes I do know

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do you know how many messages guys have to send out, messages that aren't even read?"

Maybe because the part that's readable before opening the message screams C&P?

Like we said earlier, when a message begins "love your photo's" we know full well it's a C&P and they've not looked at our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you know how many messages guys have to send out, messages that aren't even read?

Well I've sent precisely 6 unsolicited messages, based purely on seeing a profile I liked, in my 18 months with this profile and received replies from 5 of them - so yes I do know

As I said... the good ones

It’s all about relevance, and common ground

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over a year ago

Totally agree

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over a year ago

"I get them sometimes but they don't bother me. Most people delete messages without replying so I can't see why anyone would waste time writing a personalised message.

There's no chance I'll ever reply to an obvious cut and paste job so they're surely far more likely to be a waste of time?!"

That’s assuming that there is something on profiles to engage with lol

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over a year ago

"I don't mind getting them and I don't blame any man for doing it. Most women delete without reading or replying so they are wasting their time writing a personalised message to everyone. "

Fabulous

Thank you

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