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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West

Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, thus difficult to please everyone. I've done both ~ replied with a polite 'your not for us' if someone has gone to a bit of effort with their message, and just deleted the one liners. I've also been on the receiving end of both.

I'm sure different people refer different responses to messages, it's impossible to judge how to react if you don't know the sender.

Try not to take it personally, it's unlikely to be meant that way.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase..."

Surely that’s better than not replying at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s my standard reply when some one messages me, I hate just ignoring or deleting messsges, so thanks but no thanks seems better than nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be nice to even get a message all mine are usually deleted even though there polite and if a criteria is stated and I match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has taken the time to compose a message I might say thank you for the message but not what I'm looking for sorry.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't you know if you message someone and they read it, they're contractually obligated to fuck you within 7 days?

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Didn't you know if you message someone and they read it, they're contractually obligated to fuck you within 7 days?"

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable "

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase..."

I've sent and received "thanks bit no thanks" messages.

Don't see the problem tbh. It's polite enough.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Can't win on here !! Either way women are seen as rude now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladys never rude..its there choice if the meet or reply to txts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase..."

We have single guys blocked, I look out for guys when we're in the mood, but I seem to have missed you

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase..."

I usually send 'thx but no thx' because I was told once too often that 'no thanks enjoy the site' was patronising/sarcastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no but if i do get a reply they say there someone out there for everyone that all i get when they do reply which is 1 in a million

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never received one but that is one of my preferred knock backs, or sorry not for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse"

I've had much worse than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I have had an actual no thanks message it's always been polite.....mostly though I just got deleted...

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

I've had much worse than that "

Eff of you ugly fat “see you next Tuesday” but with the proper words lol. I’ve had it all lol

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West

OK fair enough - interesting reading people's views. I guess it's subjective. FOR ME, ideally I massively prefer a deletion...(I must confess I'm not a huge fan of blocks which again I've just had) or as one of the comments above shows a less cliched and more more friendly rejection...I personally find thanks but no thanks somewhat passive aggressive.

I just got a request for meet and I just ignored and will delete when I do a tidy up. Haven't wasted anyones time.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message” "

Should hear some of the abuse we get, if we reply with a polite "no thanks" x

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message”

Should hear some of the abuse we get, if we reply with a polite "no thanks" x"

I can imagine. No need for anyone to get abuse (unless they get weird and just won’t leave you alone lol)

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message” "

You should see the abuse us women get for declining. We go from "Hiya gorgeous" to "you fat ugly bitch" instantly.

Oh, that dented male ego...

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West

well that's not right. Like I say I just don't respond and delete. I would not dream of rejecting someone with words.

I've been off fab for a bit and on the normal world, interacting with girls in more regular environments and bars/clubs etc so I guess the whole Fab world and its aspects has just taken me aback a little ha ha.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

That's all i get lately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d much prefer a delete or non response....I send a message and forget about it.

So if I see an email, I don’t want it to be a thanks, but no thanks...as I’ve already moved on anyway

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message”

You should see the abuse us women get for declining. We go from "Hiya gorgeous" to "you fat ugly bitch" instantly.

Oh, that dented male ego..."

Maybe it’s just me but I really don’t understand them. Annoys the hell out of me when I hear of people doing. Just no need.

I was once browsing profiles (on fabguys I think it was) and viewed a profile that was actually a couple. Read it and could clearly tell I wasn’t “up to their standards” so closed it down and carried on. Few mins later received a message from them saying something along the lines of “don’t you ever f**king look at our profile again you fat, micro penised freak hahaha”

Oh how i cried myself to sleep that night (after viewing the profile anyone 10+ times) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

I've had much worse than that

Eff of you ugly fat “see you next Tuesday” but with the proper words lol. I’ve had it all lol

"

Men tend to dislike 'no thx' type of messages a lot more than women/couples do! Being bi I message men, women and couples without a doubt men reply more frequently with the most abusive messages .........

'You fat slag I've just had a better look and your pics and wish I hadn't bothered messaging now!'

That was a reply I got because I said 'no thx enjoy the site'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d much prefer a delete or non response....I send a message and forget about it.

So if I see an email, I don’t want it to be a thanks, but no thanks...as I’ve already moved on anyway "

so why send one in the first place... and what if someone is interested

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've sent a thanks but no thanks before but I do usually make a bit more effort than that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s my standard reply when some one messages me, I hate just ignoring or deleting messsges, so thanks but no thanks seems better than nothing "

This

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

I've had much worse than that

Eff of you ugly fat “see you next Tuesday” but with the proper words lol. I’ve had it all lol

Men tend to dislike 'no thx' type of messages a lot more than women/couples do! Being bi I message men, women and couples without a doubt men reply more frequently with the most abusive messages .........

'You fat slag I've just had a better look and your pics and wish I hadn't bothered messaging now!'

That was a reply I got because I said 'no thx enjoy the site' "

Some proper arseholes out there. Don’t see the need. Some men just can’t accept that anyone doesn’t want them. Crazy really. You look fine from what I’ve seen on your profile tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message” "

Report abusive messages.

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

If we are not interested its a "thanks but no thanks" followed by a block to prevent any back lash.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message”

Report abusive messages."

Usually do. It’s not just this site though. It’s all internet dating type sites in general that I’ve used in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we're not interested we block/delete. Yeah, seems rude, but we learned a long time ago that trying to be polite results in shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the thanks but no thanks message.

I've also had the sorry not my type i don't like beards message.

It is actually nice to get some sort of reply instead of the normal delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes op daily occurrence for me in one form or another u get chatting then that dreaded question do u have a face pic so u send and they either block or send sorry not for me/us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we are not interested its a "thanks but no thanks" followed by a block to prevent any back lash.

"

why not just block then …

sometimes (and I know this is rare) they message back to say thanks for letting me know...imagine them doing that to find they are blocked

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"If we are not interested its a "thanks but no thanks" followed by a block to prevent any back lash.

why not just block then …

sometimes (and I know this is rare) they message back to say thanks for letting me know...imagine them doing that to find they are blocked "

Happened to me several times. At first I got upset and thought “what the hell have I done to get blocked?” but now it’s like water off a ducks back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK fair enough - interesting reading people's views. I guess it's subjective. FOR ME, ideally I massively prefer a deletion...(I must confess I'm not a huge fan of blocks which again I've just had) or as one of the comments above shows a less cliched and more more friendly rejection...I personally find thanks but no thanks somewhat passive aggressive.

I just got a request for meet and I just ignored and will delete when I do a tidy up. Haven't wasted anyones time."

I find it passive aggressive too. Sounds snooty to me.

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By *agicmatt79Man
over a year ago

northants

It's the whole wahey I've got a message elation to the dang back t the drawing board feeling I guess that upsets some guys.

Me i set my expectations low and just feel grateful that someone's read digested and responded even if it's not positive. Not like I can control any of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK fair enough - interesting reading people's views. I guess it's subjective. FOR ME, ideally I massively prefer a deletion...(I must confess I'm not a huge fan of blocks which again I've just had) or as one of the comments above shows a less cliched and more more friendly rejection...I personally find thanks but no thanks somewhat passive aggressive.

I just got a request for meet and I just ignored and will delete when I do a tidy up. Haven't wasted anyones time.

I find it passive aggressive too. Sounds snooty to me. "
but it's still better than a delete without even looking at the message sent

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse"

That's out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I replied "thanks but sorry not my type" I got a "frigid bitch" in return... 'Bitch' I can take but 'frigid'... Get T fuck!

Seriously the issue is a single males one... Have had a load of both way polite 'thx but no thx' from Cpls, Fe's or TS's without any issue but maybe 50% of guys go mental...

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

That's out of order."

I’m first to admit that I know the realities that a person of my “stature” isn’t going to appeal to huge amount of people, but just no need for it. Oh well. Good job my skin is thick as well as my waist line haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

I've had much worse than that

Eff of you ugly fat “see you next Tuesday” but with the proper words lol. I’ve had it all lol

Men tend to dislike 'no thx' type of messages a lot more than women/couples do! Being bi I message men, women and couples without a doubt men reply more frequently with the most abusive messages .........

'You fat slag I've just had a better look and your pics and wish I hadn't bothered messaging now!'

That was a reply I got because I said 'no thx enjoy the site' "

Trust me, these kinda guys probably handle rejection from a woman a heck of a lot better than a tgirl... I get one raging idiot a day at least x

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"It's the whole wahey I've got a message elation to the dang back t the drawing board feeling I guess that upsets some guys."

That's a fair point. I hadn't thought of it like that.

If you're not getting many responses you're probably going to get excited when your Messages button is lit up, only to be disappointed when you read it.

You've helped to confirm the strategy of simply deleting messages as it seems the kindest option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last time I replied "thanks but sorry not my type" I got a "frigid bitch" in return... 'Bitch' I can take but 'frigid'... Get T fuck!

Seriously the issue is a single males one... Have had a load of both way polite 'thx but no thx' from Cpls, Fe's or TS's without any issue but maybe 50% of guys go mental..."
Not just guys lots of women can't take a no sorry u r not my type they think they should be able to fuck who ever they like just like some guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

That's out of order.

I’m first to admit that I know the realities that a person of my “stature” isn’t going to appeal to huge amount of people, but just no need for it. Oh well. Good job my skin is thick as well as my waist line haha "

For me it's the beard/hair... This ain't a waist issue

#joke x

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

I've had much worse than that

Eff of you ugly fat “see you next Tuesday” but with the proper words lol. I’ve had it all lol

Men tend to dislike 'no thx' type of messages a lot more than women/couples do! Being bi I message men, women and couples without a doubt men reply more frequently with the most abusive messages .........

'You fat slag I've just had a better look and your pics and wish I hadn't bothered messaging now!'

That was a reply I got because I said 'no thx enjoy the site'

Trust me, these kinda guys probably handle rejection from a woman a heck of a lot better than a tgirl... I get one raging idiot a day at least x"

Think it must be bedtime as I completely misread “raging idiot” as “raging hardon” and got excited lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last time I replied "thanks but sorry not my type" I got a "frigid bitch" in return... 'Bitch' I can take but 'frigid'... Get T fuck!

Seriously the issue is a single males one... Have had a load of both way polite 'thx but no thx' from Cpls, Fe's or TS's without any issue but maybe 50% of guys go mental... Not just guys lots of women can't take a no sorry u r not my type they think they should be able to fuck who ever they like just like some guys on here"

You sure they ain't guys pretending to be women?

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

That's out of order.

I’m first to admit that I know the realities that a person of my “stature” isn’t going to appeal to huge amount of people, but just no need for it. Oh well. Good job my skin is thick as well as my waist line haha

For me it's the beard/hair... This ain't a waist issue

#joke x"

Oh the cheek!!!! I like it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

I've had much worse than that

Eff of you ugly fat “see you next Tuesday” but with the proper words lol. I’ve had it all lol

Men tend to dislike 'no thx' type of messages a lot more than women/couples do! Being bi I message men, women and couples without a doubt men reply more frequently with the most abusive messages .........

'You fat slag I've just had a better look and your pics and wish I hadn't bothered messaging now!'

That was a reply I got because I said 'no thx enjoy the site'

Trust me, these kinda guys probably handle rejection from a woman a heck of a lot better than a tgirl... I get one raging idiot a day at least x

Think it must be bedtime as I completely misread “raging idiot” as “raging hardon” and got excited lol "

Well that too if it helps you sleep better x

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase..."

My favourite words !

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I’ve even had a “ewwwwww no way” before and even worse

I've had much worse than that

Eff of you ugly fat “see you next Tuesday” but with the proper words lol. I’ve had it all lol

Men tend to dislike 'no thx' type of messages a lot more than women/couples do! Being bi I message men, women and couples without a doubt men reply more frequently with the most abusive messages .........

'You fat slag I've just had a better look and your pics and wish I hadn't bothered messaging now!'

That was a reply I got because I said 'no thx enjoy the site'

Trust me, these kinda guys probably handle rejection from a woman a heck of a lot better than a tgirl... I get one raging idiot a day at least x

Think it must be bedtime as I completely misread “raging idiot” as “raging hardon” and got excited lol

Well that too if it helps you sleep better x"

Not often I can sleep if I have a raging hardon to play with lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last time I replied "thanks but sorry not my type" I got a "frigid bitch" in return... 'Bitch' I can take but 'frigid'... Get T fuck!

Seriously the issue is a single males one... Have had a load of both way polite 'thx but no thx' from Cpls, Fe's or TS's without any issue but maybe 50% of guys go mental... Not just guys lots of women can't take a no sorry u r not my type they think they should be able to fuck who ever they like just like some guys on here

You sure they ain't guys pretending to be women? "
that would make them tgirls wouldn't itlol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last time I replied "thanks but sorry not my type" I got a "frigid bitch" in return... 'Bitch' I can take but 'frigid'... Get T fuck!

Seriously the issue is a single males one... Have had a load of both way polite 'thx but no thx' from Cpls, Fe's or TS's without any issue but maybe 50% of guys go mental... Not just guys lots of women can't take a no sorry u r not my type they think they should be able to fuck who ever they like just like some guys on here

You sure they ain't guys pretending to be women? that would make them tgirls wouldn't itlol "

Oh the political can of worms is flung open lol...

For me, no... I'm a Tgirl... I don't want to be a woman or indeed be referred to as 'convincing' as that's a) a bag of crap with my man hands and b) not what I try to achieve.

Touché though... It was a fine one liner bi-bunny x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look so similar to my cousin's bf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Touché though... It was a fine one liner bi-bunny x"

Ignore the bi-bunny... I just saw your lady bottom profile pic and jumped to.conclusions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Told I have a nice bum shame about the face

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By *kbloke_11Man
over a year ago

Hockley

I had a message and photos "fabbed" by a couple and when I replied and thanked them for the fabs, I received a curt "NOT INTERESTED" exactly as that, in caps and I was then blocked, what the ......?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get your photos are fake a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get your photos are fake a lot. "

I'd hope for better lighting on 1-3 if that was the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had deletions and thanks but no thanks, I prefer the latter as it’s a more grown up way of responding in an ideal world, however I also get how many messages girls on here get!!!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, we’ve had a couple. It’s the same as any other rejection, you accept it and move on.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We delete without reply due to the follow up questions we've had I the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had "Err..thanks but no thanks" from a female XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d much prefer a delete or non response....I send a message and forget about it.

So if I see an email, I don’t want it to be a thanks, but no thanks...as I’ve already moved on anyway

so why send one in the first place... and what if someone is interested

I mean I send one out because I find them aesthetically pleasing but I don’t worry about whether they’ve read it, deleted it, parked it.

If they are interested they will reply and when I go to my inbox - voila, reply.

Us single blokes don’t get a lot of messages, so I’d rsther they be nice messsges, rsther than rejection messages.

"

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message”

You should see the abuse us women get for declining. We go from "Hiya gorgeous" to "you fat ugly bitch" instantly.

Oh, that dented male ego...

Maybe it’s just me but I really don’t understand them. Annoys the hell out of me when I hear of people doing. Just no need.

I was once browsing profiles (on fabguys I think it was) and viewed a profile that was actually a couple. Read it and could clearly tell I wasn’t “up to their standards” so closed it down and carried on. Few mins later received a message from them saying something along the lines of “don’t you ever f**king look at our profile again you fat, micro penised freak hahaha”

Oh how i cried myself to sleep that night (after viewing the profile anyone 10+ times) lol "

That's totally unnecessary and uncalled for. Any point in reporting these people? Like to think fab wouldn't allow this, but not sure if they'd be able to keep up x

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable

I find it perfectly acceptable, but not the abuse I’ve had in the past for “daring to message”

You should see the abuse us women get for declining. We go from "Hiya gorgeous" to "you fat ugly bitch" instantly.

Oh, that dented male ego...

Maybe it’s just me but I really don’t understand them. Annoys the hell out of me when I hear of people doing. Just no need.

I was once browsing profiles (on fabguys I think it was) and viewed a profile that was actually a couple. Read it and could clearly tell I wasn’t “up to their standards” so closed it down and carried on. Few mins later received a message from them saying something along the lines of “don’t you ever f**king look at our profile again you fat, micro penised freak hahaha”

Oh how i cried myself to sleep that night (after viewing the profile anyone 10+ times) lol

That's totally unnecessary and uncalled for. Any point in reporting these people? Like to think fab wouldn't allow this, but not sure if they'd be able to keep up x"

I did report it but never heard anything back so no idea if anything was actually done. Was quite a while ago now mind. Luckily not everyone is like it lol

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've actually being told we're a fake profile and told that we are going to be reported just for saying "no thanks".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But why tho? Why can't I say thanks but no thanks?

But why oh why? Please respond so I can make a lame attempt at keeping the innate drivel going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had messages accusing us of being fake through to 'go fuck yourselves' after rejecting single men.

Can you blame us for deleting and blocking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its a well thought out message and i will reply as they took the time to read my profile

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We've had messages accusing us of being fake through to 'go fuck yourselves' after rejecting single men.

Can you blame us for deleting and blocking?"

Look at it this way. At least you can fuck yourselves, whereas the abuser has to sit alone and have a furious angry wank!

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Ive had abuse back after saying "thanks for mail but no thanks" and "not for me sorry " it happens sometimes but most are polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've sent a thanks but no thanks before but I do usually make a bit more effort than that!!"

I suppose its a definite rejection maybe that's what the op cannot handle

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

We have single guys blocked, I look out for guys when we're in the mood, but I seem to have missed you

Mrs x"

When I receive messages from couples who have single guys blocked unless I’ve met them I just block them myself as do most of the quality guys I know “single guys we ll find you when we’re looking”. Yes sure

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By *rikki1967ukMan
over a year ago

peterborough

Polite no thank you is always appreciated. Shows good manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

We have single guys blocked, I look out for guys when we're in the mood, but I seem to have missed you

Mrs x

When I receive messages from couples who have single guys blocked unless I’ve met them I just block them myself as do most of the quality guys I know “single guys we ll find you when we’re looking”. Yes sure"

They are using the site tools and blocking men from mailing them so they don't get inundated with messages. They found a man they liked the look of - you - so you block them?! Why would you do that?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I've received;

"Thanks but no"

"Not my type sorry"

and my favourite;

"I'm not instantly attracted to you"

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

I have - I think he's missing out on something great but there you go

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

We have single guys blocked, I look out for guys when we're in the mood, but I seem to have missed you

Mrs x

When I receive messages from couples who have single guys blocked unless I’ve met them I just block them myself as do most of the quality guys I know “single guys we ll find you when we’re looking”. Yes sure

They are using the site tools and blocking men from mailing them so they don't get inundated with messages. They found a man they liked the look of - you - so you block them?! Why would you do that?"

I just don’t feel I’ll connect very well with someone who presumes I’m at their beck and call after they’ve completed their selection process.Its not just me I’ve met quite a few ladies that feel the same

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I would assume I have but can't recall.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

We have single guys blocked, I look out for guys when we're in the mood, but I seem to have missed you

Mrs x

When I receive messages from couples who have single guys blocked unless I’ve met them I just block them myself as do most of the quality guys I know “single guys we ll find you when we’re looking”. Yes sure"

When you say ‘most of the quality guys you know...’

How many do you know vs the amount on Fab?

Also what are you using to equate quality ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, we’ve had a couple. It’s the same as any other rejection, you accept it and move on."

I find that surprising going by your profile..

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"[Removed by poster at 19/03/18 16:15:53]"
I must confess I know only a small amount of single guys maybe a half dozen but I would term them as quality due to the following.The people they play with and the connections they have.The manner in which they conduct themeselves be it at a social club or party and the way they behave when introduced to a friend or play partner.Most of them get the scene rather than just wishing to get laid and none to my knowledge would be seen dead complaining in the forums that they can’t get a meet.

I hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

We have single guys blocked, I look out for guys when we're in the mood, but I seem to have missed you

Mrs x

When I receive messages from couples who have single guys blocked unless I’ve met them I just block them myself as do most of the quality guys I know “single guys we ll find you when we’re looking”. Yes sure

They are using the site tools and blocking men from mailing them so they don't get inundated with messages. They found a man they liked the look of - you - so you block them?! Why would you do that?

I just don’t feel I’ll connect very well with someone who presumes I’m at their beck and call after they’ve completed their selection process.Its not just me I’ve met quite a few ladies that feel the same"

Is that the same for men that go looking for women and couples?

Do men assume the women and couples will be at their beck and call after they've completed their selection process?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

We have single guys blocked, I look out for guys when we're in the mood, but I seem to have missed you

Mrs x

When I receive messages from couples who have single guys blocked unless I’ve met them I just block them myself as do most of the quality guys I know “single guys we ll find you when we’re looking”. Yes sure

They are using the site tools and blocking men from mailing them so they don't get inundated with messages. They found a man they liked the look of - you - so you block them?! Why would you do that?

I just don’t feel I’ll connect very well with someone who presumes I’m at their beck and call after they’ve completed their selection process.Its not just me I’ve met quite a few ladies that feel the same

Is that the same for men that go looking for women and couples?

Do men assume the women and couples will be at their beck and call after they've completed their selection process?"

No. Well I don't and assume most guys think similar.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I use it all the time - I'm very fussy; if I'm going to take a risk by being on here, then I'm going to take my time to find what I'm looking.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

We have single guys blocked, I look out for guys when we're in the mood, but I seem to have missed you

Mrs x

When I receive messages from couples who have single guys blocked unless I’ve met them I just block them myself as do most of the quality guys I know “single guys we ll find you when we’re looking”. Yes sure

They are using the site tools and blocking men from mailing them so they don't get inundated with messages. They found a man they liked the look of - you - so you block them?! Why would you do that?

I just don’t feel I’ll connect very well with someone who presumes I’m at their beck and call after they’ve completed their selection process.Its not just me I’ve met quite a few ladies that feel the same

Is that the same for men that go looking for women and couples?

Do men assume the women and couples will be at their beck and call after they've completed their selection process?"
Some may but I’ve never assumed anything on here.To me there is a difference between couples who lift their filters occasionally to cater purely for themeselves and those who enjoy and understand properly the hotwife scenario which may lead to something on a longer term basis.Its my preference to block the “single men we will find you brigade” as it is also for few guys and indeed ladies I know

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"Jeez,if you don't reply your called rude,now it's not acceptable to say thanks but no thanks?

Unbelievable "

I never said that was rude? No reply isn’t rude at all. It’s completely neutral, not offensive and not patronising.

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"I use it all the time - I'm very fussy; if I'm going to take a risk by being on here, then I'm going to take my time to find what I'm looking."

Ha ha ha whatever you say sir! It must be a tough job dealing with the constant requests by women on her to play with you lol.

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"[Removed by poster at 19/03/18 16:15:53]I must confess I know only a small amount of single guys maybe a half dozen but I would term them as quality due to the following.The people they play with and the connections they have.The manner in which they conduct themeselves be it at a social club or party and the way they behave when introduced to a friend or play partner.Most of them get the scene rather than just wishing to get laid and none to my knowledge would be seen dead complaining in the forums that they can’t get a meet.

I hope this helps "

Erm no it doesn’t help. I don’t know what you’re one about? Who is complaining that they can’t get a meet? Please clarify?

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"I've received;

"Thanks but no"

"Not my type sorry"

and my favourite;

"I'm not instantly attracted to you"

I think they’re ok to be fair

"

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"I've sent a thanks but no thanks before but I do usually make a bit more effort than that!!

I suppose its a definite rejection maybe that's what the op cannot handle "

Nope I “handle rejection” on a constant basis on this and in other areas. Like I said, I just think the “thanks but no thanks” is a cliched and patronising phrase.

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"We've had messages accusing us of being fake through to 'go fuck yourselves' after rejecting single men.

Can you blame us for deleting and blocking?"

Erm no? Who’s saying you shouldn’t do that?

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase..."

Don't let it both you mate I have had a few it's what people's tastes are I know am not everyone's cup of tea but I am some people's cup of tea

Just have fun

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I haven’t had a thanks but no thanks message yet.....the night is still young though

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I use it all the time - I'm very fussy; if I'm going to take a risk by being on here, then I'm going to take my time to find what I'm looking.

Ha ha ha whatever you say sir! It must be a tough job dealing with the constant requests by women on her to play with you lol. "

How do you know he doesn't OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to get a "thanks but no thanks" reply instead of being ignored and getting deleted.

If someone has kindly composed a message then it's polite to reply back i feel anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s easier for women not to reply, if they say no thanks, then the bloke will say why not ? Etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to get a "thanks but no thanks" reply instead of being ignored and getting deleted.

If someone has kindly composed a message then it's polite to reply back i feel anyway"

Oh don't dwell on the sent messages. Explore and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had messages accusing us of being fake through to 'go fuck yourselves' after rejecting single men.

Can you blame us for deleting and blocking?"

I'm with you on the delete and block, it's easy and saves the nasty messages!

Recently when I rejoined, I again tried doing the whole "sorry not interested, enjoy the site" type message and 1 of the first replies I got was "you must be a man or a dog rough bitch"

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford


"If someone has taken the time to compose a message I might say thank you for the message but not what I'm looking for sorry. "

This is what we do. Thought it was only polite to do so. But now I’m thinking ‘why bother?’ Maybe should just delete then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I appreciate any polite reply even if it's thanks but no thanks..

Especially as lots of women deem to get 100s of new messages daily which must be hard to manage

I occasionally get messages from men so politely say im straight but thanks for msg...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get a mo not for us I politely say thanks for the reply hope u do find what u want and then get on with trying to find people who might like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kelly just ignore anyone that gets nasty

U look amazing as do pretty much every woman on here

I hate when anyone gets abusive for no reason..some of us appreciate polite meltdowns.. I do..

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We've had messages accusing us of being fake through to 'go fuck yourselves' after rejecting single men.

Can you blame us for deleting and blocking?

I'm with you on the delete and block, it's easy and saves the nasty messages!

Recently when I rejoined, I again tried doing the whole "sorry not interested, enjoy the site" type message and 1 of the first replies I got was "you must be a man or a dog rough bitch"

"

Simply attempting to repair his damaged ego.

You look amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had thousands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People (men it seems) are very rude hiding behind a computer screen

They should picture themselves at a party and asking a lady for a dance and she says no thankyou .... would the reply be rude ?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"I've sent a thanks but no thanks before but I do usually make a bit more effort than that!!

I suppose its a definite rejection maybe that's what the op cannot handle

Nope I “handle rejection” on a constant basis on this and in other areas. Like I said, I just think the “thanks but no thanks” is a cliched and patronising phrase. "

It's also short, sweet and would probably put the recipient off messaging again!!

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West

Gosh lots of disappointed men...

Shame about the hotel ):

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By *berman OP   Man
over a year ago

The North West


"People (men it seems) are very rude hiding behind a computer screen

They should picture themselves at a party and asking a lady for a dance and she says no thankyou .... would the reply be rude ?"

No it wouldn’t. “Thanks but no thanks” would be IMO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People (men it seems) are very rude hiding behind a computer screen

They should picture themselves at a party and asking a lady for a dance and she says no thankyou .... would the reply be rude ?

No it wouldn’t. “Thanks but no thanks” would be IMO."

I meant would the guy give a rude reply being declined for a dance .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've sent a thanks but no thanks before but I do usually make a bit more effort than that!!

I suppose its a definite rejection maybe that's what the op cannot handle

Nope I “handle rejection” on a constant basis on this and in other areas. Like I said, I just think the “thanks but no thanks” is a cliched and patronising phrase. "

I agree with you. I too think it’s patronising. I will either give a personalised rejection or none at all. But I will not say ‘thanks but no thanks’. I’m shocked that so many guys would prefer that to being ignored. Not that I’m defending the rude guys, but I guess it does jarr with them perhaps in a way that a less personal ignore doesn’t. I do wonder what happen if men had to deal with inboxes full of ‘thanks but no thank’ messages. Would the complaint be flipped around and men say ‘why are women so blunt with their rejections? Can’t they just quietly delete instead of rub the rejection in our face?’

Mrs

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase..."

I've just received one, life's to short to worry about it and at least she replied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes had a few and appreciate the time they took to at least say so . The ones i find extremely annoying are the ones who are verified many times yes, so you go ok they have asked for face pics you send and they dont even bother saying sorry guys not for us , its just rude.We have always said attraction matters and if its not there fine we say so and would appreciate it if others did the same instead of total blank .

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"[Removed by poster at 19/03/18 16:15:53]I must confess I know only a small amount of single guys maybe a half dozen but I would term them as quality due to the following.The people they play with and the connections they have.The manner in which they conduct themeselves be it at a social club or party and the way they behave when introduced to a friend or play partner.Most of them get the scene rather than just wishing to get laid and none to my knowledge would be seen dead complaining in the forums that they can’t get a meet.

I hope this helps

Erm no it doesn’t help. I don’t know what you’re one about? Who is complaining that they can’t get a meet? Please clarify? "
My mistake I didn’t use reply and quote I was asked earlier in the thread “what equates to a quality single guy” and asked how many I knew

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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase..."

Only use if people persist after a polite rejection, but would rather not resort to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there should be a "thanks but no thanks" button and the fact that it has been sent should somehow be recorded on the guy's profile so that he doesn't bother the F or MF again..

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"I think there should be a "thanks but no thanks" button and the fact that it has been sent should somehow be recorded on the guy's profile so that he doesn't bother the F or MF again..

"

Great idea

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"I use it all the time - I'm very fussy; if I'm going to take a risk by being on here, then I'm going to take my time to find what I'm looking.

Ha ha ha whatever you say sir! It must be a tough job dealing with the constant requests by women on her to play with you lol.

How do you know he doesn't OP?"

Stating that I use it all the time, isn't an indication of quantity of messages received; if I was to only 2 messages in a year and replied "thanks but no thanks" to both, that's all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever actually received literally "a thanks but no thanks"? First time I've ever got one - I've had more positive ones, like have fun etc, or more usually just deletions - which I much prefer, but grrr to use that cliched phrase...

Surely that’s better than not replying at all? "

Totally agree

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over a year ago

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