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By *inkyDom96 OP   Man
over a year ago

Yarmouth

Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unsure. Don’t think it’s assumed that about younger women though. Men seem to think I’m even kinkier, due to being so young and a swinger.

But if this is in regards to your previous post, I would take the advice given on that.

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By *ammers43Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom "

Says who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it assumed? Or have you come to that conclusion on the back of your other thread where some said being a dom was probably not a role someone your age would be experienced in ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom "

When they message saying they love older women & they want to be "shown the ropes" kind of gives it away & kills it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because in general they don't. They in their turn make assumptions about older women and assume what one woman wants they ALL want. They get stage fright and can't perform in front of others or the woman's husband etc etc.

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By *ammers43Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Is it assumed? Or have you come to that conclusion on the back of your other thread where some said being a dom was probably not a role someone your age would be experienced in ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's an assumption i'd make if the profile sounds immature and inexperienced, not on the age in itself.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I've had a few young guys who knew very well

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"it's an assumption i'd make if the profile sounds immature and inexperienced, not on the age in itself."

Yes, I absolutely agree with you on this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met younger guys who definitely know what they’re doing. The best MFF I’ve had was with a younger man. He kept us both very well occupied.

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By *inkyDom96 OP   Man
over a year ago

Yarmouth


"Is it assumed? Or have you come to that conclusion on the back of your other thread where some said being a dom was probably not a role someone your age would be experienced in ?"
partly yes, but also messaging people before the post have said similar things, I know I look innocent but that doesn’t mean I don’t like to tie up females, whip them

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Is it assumed? Or have you come to that conclusion on the back of your other thread where some said being a dom was probably not a role someone your age would be experienced in ? partly yes, but also messaging people before the post have said similar things, I know I look innocent but that doesn’t mean I don’t like to tie up females, whip them "

That doesn’t make you Dom though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All peoples opinions are different .My experience on fab is my age and older were best at sex . Better sex is when confident and do what they say ,not just all talk like most are on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's assuming that?! You're assuming that we're assuming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it assumed? Or have you come to that conclusion on the back of your other thread where some said being a dom was probably not a role someone your age would be experienced in ? partly yes, but also messaging people before the post have said similar things, I know I look innocent but that doesn’t mean I don’t like to tie up females, whip them "

As Topsy said, that doesn't make you a dom. Takes a huge amount of trust for a woman on here to allow someone to dom them. I would say that you are probably dominant, but not necessarily a dom, especially if you are happy to switch as you say in your profile. Trouble with your age on here is many couples and single women have kids your age, it would seem quite rightly, a bit weird to meet guys of that age for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who's assuming that?! You're assuming that we're assuming "

We're all at it, or are we, I'm confused ?!

To assume makes an ass out of u and me as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it assumed? Or have you come to that conclusion on the back of your other thread where some said being a dom was probably not a role someone your age would be experienced in ? partly yes, but also messaging people before the post have said similar things, I know I look innocent but that doesn’t mean I don’t like to tie up females, whip them

As Topsy said, that doesn't make you a dom. Takes a huge amount of trust for a woman on here to allow someone to dom them. I would say that you are probably dominant, but not necessarily a dom, especially if you are happy to switch as you say in your profile. Trouble with your age on here is many couples and single women have kids your age, it would seem quite rightly, a bit weird to meet guys of that age for some."

And just because you like tying women up and whipping them, it doesn’t mean you’re experienced either

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it assumed? Or have you come to that conclusion on the back of your other thread where some said being a dom was probably not a role someone your age would be experienced in ? partly yes, but also messaging people before the post have said similar things, I know I look innocent but that doesn’t mean I don’t like to tie up females, whip them "

I would say stop concerning yourself with how others see you and enjoy your journey on the road to establishing your sexuality. Every single one of us started out somewhere and I think that I, at 61 have had experiences that you haven't.

Enjoy being young, gaining experience, learning things. The biggest bar to progress and learning is assuming that you already know it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did all my basic kinky fuckery in my youth. After that I just refined it and got selective.....

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

Instead of being a wannabe Mr Grey go down to wherever the youth of Great Yarmouth gather to party. Learn to chat up girls, learn seduction, learn how to take rejection.

There is one thing you can't learn and that's experience. Your youth may mean you have the stamina to go like the privy door when the plague is in town but you'll find a lot of the women on here would be thinking ' is that all hes got'

As for the dom bit then a lot of it is about the mind and even older experienced people have trouble mastering it.

Youth counts for very little on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do assume that younger guys don’t have sufficient of the kind of sexual or life experiences, or maturity of mind, that makes it work for me. One of the reasons I assume that, is because I remember when I was that that age and the type of sex I have with men who were then my age. And we all thought we were so mature and sexually experienced. I’m sure that there will be the odd one who can prove me wrong, but that’s not my problem.

Mrs

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

A young bull and an old bull are at the top of a hill.

There are hund_eds of cows grazing below. The young bull says, "Let's run down there and fuck a cow!"

The old bull says, "No, let's walk down and fuck them all."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos you call yourself a kinky Dom and I’d guess you’ve watched 50 shades of shit and think you can do that whereas in reality it’s a complicated deal not just smacking a ladies bum

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom

When they message saying they love older women & they want to be "shown the ropes" kind of gives it away & kills it for me "

You can tell the guys matu_ed when he just wants to know where you keep the ropes hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's an assumption i'd make if the profile sounds immature and inexperienced, not on the age in itself.

Yes, I absolutely agree with you on this one "
ooops

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

To be honest I rarely look at age, Ive met 19 years old who are far more worldly wise and mature than many a 40 year old.

What I do judge on here is the profile text and pictures and how the individual conducts themself in an open forum. Those are the impressions an individual leaves a for all to see and, without meeting face to face, the only thing we have to base our opinions on.

You asked for advice earlier, people were honest with you and gave advice... Take it.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"A young bull and an old bull are at the top of a hill.

There are hund_eds of cows grazing below. The young bull says, "Let's run down there and fuck a cow!"

The old bull says, "No, let's walk down and fuck them all.""

Brilliant!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom

When they message saying they love older women & they want to be "shown the ropes" kind of gives it away & kills it for me "

Why i dont meet younger

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Age ain't nothing but a number"

Having said that, many variables are used to calculate a persons true age. You NEVER get a second chance to make a first impression! IMHO, these two threads would not have been started by someone who knows the score.

If you google the phrase I mentioned in the other thread, I guarantee that you will be one step closer to (x).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Age ain't nothing but a number"

Having said that, many variables are used to calculate a persons true age. You NEVER get a second chance to make a first impression! IMHO, these two threads would not have been started by someone who knows the score.

If you google the phrase I mentioned in the other thread, I guarantee that you will be one step closer to (x)."

I want (y) thou

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


""Age ain't nothing but a number"

Having said that, many variables are used to calculate a persons true age. You NEVER get a second chance to make a first impression! IMHO, these two threads would not have been started by someone who knows the score.

If you google the phrase I mentioned in the other thread, I guarantee that you will be one step closer to (x).

I want (y) thou "

Typical. Always asking (for) y.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a look at your profile. OP if you are wondering why people think you are inexperienced, then despite your age you kinda told us that! You actually say in your profile that you are new to this.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience, the younger guys may have all the talk, but they lack the walk. They want to be all porn stars with god knows how long a cock, and able to keep pounding at a woman for hours. Thank you very much, sex is more than just pounding relentlessly at one hole or another. Sex is about connection, it's more in the brain than you'd actually think. Also, it's so not just about the cock. Or the pounding. There is touching, kissing, teasing, licking, until the woman is begging to be fucked. Or not- as I love what a lot of people consider just foreplay.

And now to the dom bit- again, it's not about tying a person down and cracking a whip. It's getting in their heads, teasing, noticing how their bodies react to things, finding places that sends them wild and exploring them when they can't stop you. It's pushing soft boundaries too, finding out how far you can go before your sub stops you. However, it is also about respecting hard boundaries they may have.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wouldn't be able to take a 21 year old dom seriously I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Trouble with your age on here is many couples and single women have kids your age, it would seem quite rightly, a bit weird to meet guys of that age for some."

^^^^ THIS..

Theres no way I would contemplate playing with someone that young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be able to take a 21 year old dom seriously I'm afraid."

Is it the skinny jeans or the hipster beard and man bun?........

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I wouldn't be able to take a 21 year old dom seriously I'm afraid."

Neither could I

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Had a look at your profile. OP if you are wondering why people think you are inexperienced, then despite your age you kinda told us that! You actually say in your profile that you are new to this.

Mrs"

The silly filters (now removed) certainly didn't give the profile the impression of maturity. The fact they were on there at all, tells me all I would need to know.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of lack of experience.

It's not exclusive to bedroom skills it's life in general.

Plenty of younger girls on here though that will meet you so don't worry about it

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom "

There's a very very simple answer.

Firstly, you have to recognise that we have ALL been young. We've ALL been your age. And we can all remember what it was like.

Also, we all (or at least most of us) recognise that sex just gets better and better with age and experience.

You should consider this good news, because it'll get better and better for you as well.

Certainly don't think you've reached the pinnacle of sexual prowess at your tender age. God how depressing that would be. Imagine reaching 40 and saying "Well, to be honest, sex never really improved over all those years."

Also, speaking as a bloke, I remember sex as being heavily driven by hormones at your age. That hormonal drive backs off to be replaced by pure desire. And trust me, it's better when it does.

So don't be disheartened. Be heartened that it just gets better and better. If it got worse this site would be awash with 20somethings and all us 'oldies' would bd watching Midsomer Murders instead.

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant put an old head on young shoulders. Some things just have to be lived and absorbed over many years. Thats what experience is, it cant be rushed.

We're all full of enthusiasm when were young and think we know it all. Just enjoy the journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You cant put an old head on young shoulders. Some things just have to be lived and absorbed over many years. Thats what experience is, it cant be rushed.

We're all full of enthusiasm when were young and think we know it all. Just enjoy the journey "

You say that but some of the older men on here make me question this 'life experience' .

I don't think it unnecessarily comes with age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You cant put an old head on young shoulders. Some things just have to be lived and absorbed over many years. Thats what experience is, it cant be rushed.

We're all full of enthusiasm when were young and think we know it all. Just enjoy the journey

You say that but some of the older men on here make me question this 'life experience' .

I don't think it unnecessarily comes with age"

Some people arent open to learning thats for sure

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"You cant put an old head on young shoulders. Some things just have to be lived and absorbed over many years. Thats what experience is, it cant be rushed.

We're all full of enthusiasm when were young and think we know it all. Just enjoy the journey

You say that but some of the older men on here make me question this 'life experience' .

I don't think it unnecessarily comes with age"

I agree xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You cant put an old head on young shoulders. Some things just have to be lived and absorbed over many years. Thats what experience is, it cant be rushed.

We're all full of enthusiasm when were young and think we know it all. Just enjoy the journey

You say that but some of the older men on here make me question this 'life experience' .

I don't think it unnecessarily comes with age

Some people arent open to learning thats for sure "

Hence a young mind can sometimes burn brighter and be wiser than an old one. It's less influenced by experience and more open to new ideas and possibilities.

But everyone is different regardless of age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure they're not all useless but I've genuinely yet to find anyone under 30 who's made me cum.. one guy didn't even touch my clit. Saddest day ever haha

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom

When they message saying they love older women & they want to be "shown the ropes" kind of gives it away & kills it for me "

Yep me too. Altho one of my best meets was a 28year old. He never implied he needed shown the ropes and certainly didnt. Having sd that met a 48 year old that thot he was out to this world and thats where i wished i was!!! Age us just a number depends on the individual x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once made the mistake of having a meet with a 26 yr old...an ex squaddie too so I thought he would be good on stamina...

pfft… I almost broke him! never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You cant put an old head on young shoulders. Some things just have to be lived and absorbed over many years. Thats what experience is, it cant be rushed.

We're all full of enthusiasm when were young and think we know it all. Just enjoy the journey

You say that but some of the older men on here make me question this 'life experience' .

I don't think it unnecessarily comes with age

Some people arent open to learning thats for sure

Hence a young mind can sometimes burn brighter and be wiser than an old one. It's less influenced by experience and more open to new ideas and possibilities.

But everyone is different regardless of age "

Absolutely a lot of young minds are wonderful things. But does wisdom come from experience. And experience is in the years.

(I think 25 classes as old in my book anyway )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure they're not all useless but I've genuinely yet to find anyone under 30 who's made me cum.. one guy didn't even touch my clit. Saddest day ever haha "
maybe i could change that check my veri's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some old men haven't a clue. I take each person on their own merit.

I met a 22 yr old from here a few years ago who was a natural. He wasn't trying to be dominant and didn't call himself a Dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It probably a logical assumption though ? I.e. You've had less time to experience stuff.

I'm not sure it's a negative for most though

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"I once made the mistake of having a meet with a 26 yr old...an ex squaddie too so I thought he would be good on stamina...

pfft… I almost broke him! never again "

I met a young man who didn't know what a clit was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Old men tend to think they know it all and know my body better than I do. Younger men, I've found, are more likely to listen to me and take note of my reactions to what they are doing.

A 20 yr old had the best penetration technique I've experienced only once since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a rare breed hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You cant put an old head on young shoulders. Some things just have to be lived and absorbed over many years. Thats what experience is, it cant be rushed.

We're all full of enthusiasm when were young and think we know it all. Just enjoy the journey

You say that but some of the older men on here make me question this 'life experience' .

I don't think it unnecessarily comes with age

Some people arent open to learning thats for sure

Hence a young mind can sometimes burn brighter and be wiser than an old one. It's less influenced by experience and more open to new ideas and possibilities.

But everyone is different regardless of age

Absolutely a lot of young minds are wonderful things. But does wisdom come from experience. And experience is in the years.

(I think 25 classes as old in my book anyway ) "

Experience is in the adventure. Some people may live shelte_ed lives and be far from experienced while others spend their time exploring.

Well in that case I'm still young

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"Old men tend to think they know it all and know my body better than I do. Younger men, I've found, are more likely to listen to me and take note of my reactions to what they are doing.

A 20 yr old had the best penetration technique I've experienced only once since. "

Really? As an 'older' man I tend to observe the reactions to what I do as opposed to run through some routine - everyone is is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're a rare breed hahaha"
maybe you won't know till you try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Old men tend to think they know it all and know my body better than I do. Younger men, I've found, are more likely to listen to me and take note of my reactions to what they are doing.

A 20 yr old had the best penetration technique I've experienced only once since. "

Agreed. My only 2 bad meets have been with 40+ guys

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom "

Why are you assuming that's what we are assuming?

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By *exyajmalMan
over a year ago

oxford

Well I don't think so

When you really comfortable with the person then you don't feel any pressure, everything will be natural

So don't assume

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Age is no indication of skill or experience

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom

Why are you assuming that's what we are assuming? "

this... I have never assumed this however now and again it can be fun corrupting a young man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it assumed that a young guy doesn’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom

Why are you assuming that's what we are assuming?

this... I have never assumed this however now and again it can be fun corrupting a young man "
what happens if i am all ready corrupted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cos you call yourself a kinky Dom and I’d guess you’ve watched 50 shades of shit and think you can do that whereas in reality it’s a complicated deal not just smacking a ladies bum"

Wait it’s not

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"...what happens if i am all ready corrupted "

Dunno ask a chick near you willing to use you for her pleasure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told at times that I'm too young...ffs I've been listening to this since I was 14..now I'm fucking 28..how old do you want lol

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"...now I'm fucking 28..how old do you want lol "

perfect age for me just totally wrong location!

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"No. Age is no indication of skill or experience "

As the sergeant-major at Sandhurst once said - 'there is one thing you can't learn and that's experience '

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