FabSwingers.com forum: Should looks really matter?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm asking this in a purely anthropological way but if you're not having sex to reproduce and instead merely for the fun of it then wouldn't it be how good the person you were with and not what they looked like that mannered?

Not just my wife but other people on here have talked about the fantasy of being blindfolded and being offered cock. Is it a case of if you can't see who it was does it matter in that scenario?

Answers on a postcard lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but yeah, but no but erm confuselled!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but yeah, but no but erm confuselled!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but yeah, but no but erm confuselled!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol confused you that much you had to say it 3 times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm asking this in a purely anthropological way but if you're not having sex to reproduce and instead merely for the fun of it then wouldn't it be how good the person you were with and not what they looked like that mannered?

Not just my wife but other people on here have talked about the fantasy of being blindfolded and being offered cock. Is it a case of if you can't see who it was does it matter in that scenario?

Answers on a postcard lol."

that is the fantasy in a nut shell.. of not knowing who it was, ever.

so no looks wouldn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think that looks didnt matter. When i first started meeting men for sex. In my experience the nicer looking more younger men have been much nicer people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say definitely say looks matter,as surely there has to be a connection between you for really great sex to happen..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unless fulfilling a particular fantasy, such as the one you mention- looks are very important.

i would not sleep with someone i didn't find attractive, and hope those i have been with are the same.

attraction can sway either side of the spectrum once you get to know someone ofcourse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will only sleep with people I fancy regardless of whether it's for fun or in a long term relationship

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

We(homosapiens)may have sex for pleasure, but subconsciously it is still sexual selection. Looks(physical attraction) do matter.

Blindfolding heightens our other senses,making fantasies more vivid.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Looks matter a lot.

You can tell just by looking at how someone moves, the way they signal, survey and conduct themselves generally if they are going to be sexually sensual. Equally you can summise whether they will be all teeth n take your bloody lips off first snog.....

Looks aren't all about aesthetics ..... it's like taking your chances blindfold and hoping someone uses the feather and not the ratchet blade.......

Imagine being blindfolded....feeling hot breath approaching and then 32 stones of blubber undulating like a burst water bed over your tits.... no no no .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol confused you that much you had to say it 3 times

PC just playing up lol

Had to reboot sorry folks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks matter a lot.

Looks aren't all about aesthetics ..... it's like taking your chances blindfold and hoping someone uses the feather and not the ratchet blade.......

Imagine being blindfolded....feeling hot breath approaching and then 32 stones of blubber undulating like a burst water bed over your tits.... no no no ..... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"unless fulfilling a particular fantasy, such as the one you mention- looks are very important.

i would not sleep with someone i didn't find attractive, and hope those i have been with are the same.

attraction can sway either side of the spectrum once you get to know someone ofcourse. "

*Nods in agreement*

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By *IG_BLACK_ONEMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Not just my wife but other people on here have talked about the fantasy of being blindfolded and being offered cock. Is it a case of if you can't see who it was does it matter in that scenario?

Answers on a postcard lol."

I think for a huge majority of people who are having sex just for fun (with out the aim of procreation) then the way a person looks adds to that fun. I would have thought that was obvious, right? You may be the best fucker in town but if prospective partner isn't attracted physically to you then it may pose a problem.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Looks dont matter that much to me. I couldnt sleep with someone i was unattracted to but. I prefer a cerybal connection over good looking any day

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh and i have done quite a few blindfolded gangbangs and they have always been good fun

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By *DSRMan
over a year ago

leicester

Although ironically attraction is fickle and possibly self delussioned... You can find someone not attractive at first then they grow on you, you can learn to love the things you hate, you can see someone once hate, second look love, you can teach yourself to see nice things in features you didn't like before, you can control what's attractive to you and often you do control it without even noticing.. Like when you might say, i never noticed how nice you look before... it can be mood set, it can be attmosphere set, it can be brain connection set... that hides the negative feature you might otherwise focus on

or they could just be ugly, it's hard to tell in this light!

ps.. yes i made all this stuff up and yes i don't believe in any of it... or maybe it holds a slight section of truth somewhere in the message, but mostly crap

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Looks rank way down on my list and well below the cerebral attraction. I like confident, self-assured intelligent men and yeah... even if blind-folded... i would sense whether a guy meets the criteria;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although ironically attraction is fickle and possibly self delussioned... You can find someone not attractive at first then they grow on you, you can learn to love the things you hate, you can see someone once hate, second look love, you can teach yourself to see nice things in features you didn't like before, you can control what's attractive to you and often you do control it without even noticing.. Like when you might say, i never noticed how nice you look before... it can be mood set, it can be attmosphere set, it can be brain connection set... that hides the negative feature you might otherwise focus on

or they could just be ugly, it's hard to tell in this light!

ps.. yes i made all this stuff up and yes i don't believe in any of it... or maybe it holds a slight section of truth somewhere in the message, but mostly crap

Joking aside, I think you made some good points x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

or they could just be ugly, it's hard to tell in this light!

ps.. yes i made all this stuff up and yes i don't believe in any of it... or maybe it holds a slight section of truth somewhere in the message, but mostly crap

I love you. I never noticed how beautiful you are before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I MUST find someone attractive to want to have sex with them.

I learnt my lesson in my early days in the swinging world... I had sex with a bloke I wasn't attracted to in the slightest and ended up losing my libido

....I can't entertain the thought of wearing a blindfold not knowing who was having sex with me but I understand it works for some.

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By *DSRMan
over a year ago

leicester

or they could just be ugly, it's hard to tell in this light!

ps.. yes i made all this stuff up and yes i don't believe in any of it... or maybe it holds a slight section of truth somewhere in the message, but mostly crap

Joking aside, I think you made some good points x"

Lol and to think i was considerting deleting it because i didn't think it was worth reading, it's a common thing with me... deleting stuff x

thanks for the complement

xxxxx

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By *sMinxyWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

A while back I lived out the giving BJ while blindfolded fantasy at a club, but my play partner was there, and watched over me... the best bit of it for me was going back down to bar - and not actually knowing who the men had been...

looks really are just on the outside.. and its who we are inside that really counts

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"I would say definitely say looks matter,as surely there has to be a connection between you for really great sex to happen.."

ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....I can't entertain the thought of wearing a blindfold not knowing who was having sex with me "

**Shudders**...nor me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No , only hope ugly fuckers like me get a chance to meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont know really, i've always considered myself bad looking even though people think im gorgeous/handsome.

im usually attracted to small things in women like if they wear glasses :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all guided by the laws of attraction, as they say we eat with our eyes first.

The blindfold on the other hand has nothing to do with attraction, that is a tool which helps fulfil a seperate and distinct role and fantasy xxxx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Depends on my mood...cockslut mode,no,i want sex at its most basic.Quite often i cant see who is fucking me,so it matters little what i look like.

i am far fussier with women,and need to feel a physical attraction.

However i find those people most attractive on here who mentally arouse me.My Master is the most gorgeous man imaginable...in my opinion.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

*what they look like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesn't matter a bit for me... sexiness is a bit more than skindeep for us, more something that mmmmm exudes...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gentle combination of both ,looks for the initial attraction.Personality to systane..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See with both of us there has got to be some kind of attraction. They don't have to be drop dead gorgeous just average joes and joannas (well they can have other names we're not that particular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here- it makes a difference- I need to have an attraction physically or I can't be bothered, so looks do count. In the real world..... totally different, various people I've dated in a vanilla sense have been nothing like what I want from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and the OH have satisfied a few fantasies of blindfold sex and it was really exciting.

I have been taken on a meet blindfold and not taken the blindfold off until I got back home again. I was taken somewhere, a stranger and my OH undressed me and played and then my OH took me home. I still dont know to this day what the guy looked like. He was instructed not to speak to me either.

I have also been tied up to a tree and my partner touching me, to me eventually wondering why my OH had suddenly grown two extra hands.

Whilst I did not know who the guys were, the meets were planned with precision by my OH. He met both guys beforehand, inspected the factory (which was the venue of the first blindfold meet) and walked in the woods with the second guy to tell him where we would be (that still makes me laugh, the thought of two men going into the woods together). The guys we played with were guys off our friends list, so in a way I have already vetted and liked them myself, but I hadnt met them and I still dont know which guys they are.

I have also had a grope of guys in the dark room at Abfabs. It was completely black so again i dont know what they looked like. Its amazing how your other senses come to the forefront. All I need to know was that the guy smelt clean, his breath was fresh and his body felt nice. He could have been a guy I dont usually go for, but in my head he was George Clooney.

I wouldnt have full penetrative sex in a darkroom as I would worry that the condom may be taken off and the thought would stress me, but Im ok when my OH is there and he can see because I know im safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must find someone attractive ................ as soon as possible ... feeling horny.

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