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By *heeky Wiggles OP   Man
over a year ago

Hayling

If you message people amd they read ..dont reply but dont delete.

Is that the equivelant of a compmany saying

"Yeah we will keep your CV on file and call you next time we have a job"

Knowing they almost certainly wont

Just trying to guage the likely hood of something happening.

You know where you stand with a good old

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This new read not replied Not deleted.

carries a curious hopeful position most unusual for fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read, don’t reply then press the bulk delete button.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you err on the positive well yes youre being kept as a maybe - if youre a negative well - theyve glanced and passed by and would have replied if interested - stay positive life is more fun that way

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By *heeky Wiggles OP   Man
over a year ago

Hayling


"I read, don’t reply then press the bulk delete button....."

Ahh well i can imagine from Reading your profile ...before i looked at your pics! that that is a volume control measure

Jeez your hot x

Anyway.. yeah i see what you mean

So its like a message abertoir

Heard them all in then extinguish

Very efficient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they were interested they'd reply

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I read, don’t reply then press the bulk delete button....."

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By *heeky Wiggles OP   Man
over a year ago

Hayling


"if you err on the positive well yes youre being kept as a maybe - if youre a negative well - theyve glanced and passed by and would have replied if interested - stay positive life is more fun that way "

Im always positve whining depressive people are bloody exhausting.

Life to short not to enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this but wait for fab to delete them I'm lazy!

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By *heeky Wiggles OP   Man
over a year ago

Hayling


"I do this but wait for fab to delete them I'm lazy! "

I didnt know fab did that !

I only have an 8 inch cock

And im although im not ugly but i dont look like channing tatum.

So i dont get enough messages for auto deletion to kick in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do this but wait for fab to delete them I'm lazy!

I didnt know fab did that !

I only have an 8 inch cock

And im although im not ugly but i dont look like channing tatum.

So i dont get enough messages for auto deletion to kick in.

"

They just drop off the end of the page funnily enough I don't look like channing Tatum either

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

It is always me (Babydoll) that reads the messages first but some are kept for the hubby to read so they will be there for a while read and no action taken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it, a “read” is a win... some people receive so many messages they don’t all get read.

If I receive a reply, even a no, it’s a win. But if a conversation breaks out, that’s fantastic.

Don’t dwell, chill out, and eventually things will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete your sent folder and you won't have to ponder.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Works different ways for us, sometimes one of us will read and leave it for the other person to check . Sometimes there might be a photo attached we might want to show each other. Or sometimes we may feel bad reading and deleting so leave it for a week and delete it then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I read a message I like I will either reply or mark it unread to reply later.

I often leave them read for a while as I tend to bulk delete read messages every so often, I rarely do them one at a time.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I’m constantly loosing messages. I open them, read them then have to log out for something and when I come back they’ve moved so far down I either forget they’re there or they’ve dropped off until I delete some newer ones. Having said that, when I do find them again lots of the senders have gone ULOS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I open all of my messages, if I’m not interested I don’t reply. I don’t delete them, because I like to see what they have previously messaged me, if they message again.

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By *heeky Wiggles OP   Man
over a year ago

Hayling


"Nope. I open all of my messages, if I’m not interested I don’t reply. I don’t delete them, because I like to see what they have previously messaged me, if they message again. "

If you havent replied why would they message again ?..that seems like either begging or harrasment

I wouldnt do either of those

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By *heeky Wiggles OP   Man
over a year ago

Hayling


"I do this but wait for fab to delete them I'm lazy!

I didnt know fab did that !

I only have an 8 inch cock

And im although im not ugly but i dont look like channing tatum.

So i dont get enough messages for auto deletion to kick in.

They just drop off the end of the page funnily enough I don't look like channing Tatum either "

No you have a cute ass though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. I open all of my messages, if I’m not interested I don’t reply. I don’t delete them, because I like to see what they have previously messaged me, if they message again.

If you havent replied why would they message again ?..that seems like either begging or harrasment

I wouldnt do either of those"

You may well not do that, but plenty of people do.

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By *heeky Wiggles OP   Man
over a year ago

Hayling


"Nope. I open all of my messages, if I’m not interested I don’t reply. I don’t delete them, because I like to see what they have previously messaged me, if they message again.

If you havent replied why would they message again ?..that seems like either begging or harrasment

I wouldnt do either of those

You may well not do that, but plenty of people do. "

Wow no wonder single guys get a bad rep on here !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many sexy ladies on here and thousands of men you can imagine that these ladies get hundreds of messages so they glance there look at us and decide who they want to have fun with, all we can do is hope they like what they see and start chatting lol iv been on and off here for years and iv only ever met ,3 ladies had a fantastic time with all 3 so just keep looking buddie lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delete your sent folder and you won't have to ponder."

You should do this, then you have no dilemma

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By *heeky Wiggles OP   Man
over a year ago

Hayling


"Works different ways for us, sometimes one of us will read and leave it for the other person to check . Sometimes there might be a photo attached we might want to show each other. Or sometimes we may feel bad reading and deleting so leave it for a week and delete it then "

The first 2 points i totally get

But feeling bad for deleting i wouldnt feel bad ..i see this as a place to add a little extra excitement if you dont think someone is gonna do that for what ever reason ..just delete

I ofcourse add excitement to any situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing you can do is send message and then forget about it.

There’s plenty of reasons why people don’t reply straight away....they are busy, they have enough guys atm, they are meeting someone that week so they are consumed by them...,

If you don’t think about it, you will never worry.

Just be grateful whenever it shows a message in your inbox

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

If a message I've sent is deleted straight away, I take it for what it is, and move on...

....but when it's read but not deleted, I hope that means there's some interest, and that they might get back to me at some point...

....if they subsequently do, that's great - but more often it sits there for weeks or even months and they don't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best thing you can do is send message and then forget about it.

There’s plenty of reasons why people don’t reply straight away....they are busy, they have enough guys atm, they are meeting someone that week so they are consumed by them...,

If you don’t think about it, you will never worry.

Just be grateful whenever it shows a message in your inbox "

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By *elrose57Couple
over a year ago

reading

it is also what the message is, we get lots from guys with one line,ie hows you, or WOW, and most are under our age range, so why should we reply to them, and we are not on our own here, couples and single woman get inundated with messages, if they sat at there computer replying to everyone, then they would not be shagging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you message people amd they read ..dont reply but dont delete.

Is that the equivelant of a compmany saying

"Yeah we will keep your CV on file and call you next time we have a job"

Knowing they almost certainly wont

Just trying to guage the likely hood of something happening.

You know where you stand with a good old

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This new read not replied Not deleted.

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well the women get hundreds of mail so they cannot reply to all.. anyway all mine get deleted most times since joining

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Good lordy... Step away from the sent mail box! Send and forget about it! The sent mail box would be the first thing i got rid of if i ran this site.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It's not worth worrying about it. Read and no reply is the same as unread delete. Until you get a reply take it as a not interested.

Everybody treats there inbox differently. We for example read and reply instantly or will mark it up as unread until ready to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously you are saying the same old thing they have heard many times before, be more imaginative with your messages, I usually get a response when I find someone I like....gift of the gab I suppose lol

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Trev is on here a lot more than me. He usually reads the messages and then leaves them for me to decide who to reply to or delete.

This actually works well for us as it's actually stated in our profile so when we get a repeat message a shortly after its been read ( normally a why haven't you replied) I know who's read and who hasn't bothered......a great filter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you get a reply something happened.

If you don't get a reply why would it matter how others manage their messages. You are not going to change what others decide to do.

First world problem?

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If you message people amd they read ..dont reply but dont delete.

Is that the equivelant of a compmany saying

"Yeah we will keep your CV on file and call you next time we have a job"

Knowing they almost certainly "

For us, this part's pretty much it. Usually being saved till both of us have had a read.

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