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"I never message the same person twice if I don't get a reply and I don't message again until I get a reply.. Apart from once about 2 weeks ago. She ignored me and I decided to give it another go.. And it's going pretty well!! " A man that has manners  | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." 50 messages! They get one from me and if they're not interested then I accept that as a polite no thank you and leave it there - I'm here to have fun, not type endless messages. | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . 50 messages! They get one from me and if they're not interested then I accept that as a polite no thank you and leave it there - I'm here to have fun, not type endless messages." Agreed. I find it best anyway to send fewer and actually try to make the ones I send interesting. Can be frustrating when people don't even read it, but you get used to it. There are a lot of men here so it's to be expected. | |||
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" Also when they message the second you show online!! Annoying...." OMG  ^this when I had a single profile!
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"But girls never reply u can send 100 messiges but still won't get a reply I must be to ugly for this site LOL" Just need to make an effort. Don't just message every one, only message people you like the look of and read their profile properly. Send a properly structured message that is interesting and you'll have more luck. If somebody has a very short profile I don't bother because chances are they're shallow, and their profile really gives me nothing to work with so it would just be a generic message anyway. | |||
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"But girls never reply u can send 100 messiges but still won't get a reply I must be to ugly for this site LOL" Not sure what messages you are sending out if you never get a reply | |||
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" Also when they message the second you show online!! Annoying.... OMG ^this when I had a single profile!
Often just to ask me how I am! " | |||
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"But girls never reply u can send 100 messiges but still won't get a reply I must be to ugly for this site LOL" | |||
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"I've had begging pleading making threats crying sob story's And that's just today.The desperados on here really do know how to make themselfs look sad x" And you can tell straight away that they didn't read your profile... | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." Why not just block ? | |||
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"I've had begging pleading making threats crying sob story's And that's just today.The desperados on here really do know how to make themselfs look sad x And you can tell straight away that they didn't read your profile... " People never read profiles here and when they do they think that a few boring chat up lines can change your mind x | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . Why not just block ?"
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." Totally agree with this. The things guys say for a meet. | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." I see what you’re saying, and I’ve only sent an extra message once, but it seems that men out number women 1000/1 on here and messages get lost in a pile of many. I’m not saying suggesting that sending multiple messages is the answer, but maybe a 1 on 1 chat, like what’s app, could be implemented on the forum? You are pretty damn sexy, so maybe that’s your problem also   | |||
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"I've had begging pleading making threats crying sob story's And that's just today.The desperados on here really do know how to make themselfs look sad x" No way? | |||
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"Genraliy just one message is Enough "Manners and honesty from people don’t go a miss either...... | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." Ok princess | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . Why not just block ?" | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . Ok princess "No need to be rude! | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . Ok princess
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. " Desperate for attention maybe? | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe?" | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . I see what you’re saying, and I’ve only sent an extra message once, but it seems that men out number women 1000/1 on here and messages get lost in a pile of many. I’m not saying suggesting that sending multiple messages is the answer, but maybe a 1 on 1 chat, like what’s app, could be implemented on the forum? You are pretty damn sexy, so maybe that’s your problem also "Thank you | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe?" Not quite.... | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe?" I think it’s because a thought came into her head and she thought, hey I’ll start a thread! Don’t see why it has to be any more complicated than that. If you think it’s a nonsense thread why post | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? I think it’s because a thought came into her head and she thought, hey I’ll start a thread! Don’t see why it has to be any more complicated than that. If you think it’s a nonsense thread why post "I simply said why not use filters and block. I never mentioned the desperate for attention bit. But obviously it has got the OP some profile views and a nice comment above, | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? I think it’s because a thought came into her head and she thought, hey I’ll start a thread! Don’t see why it has to be any more complicated than that. If you think it’s a nonsense thread why post " | |||
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"But girls never reply u can send 100 messiges but still won't get a reply I must be to ugly for this site LOL" There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages! It's not rude not to reply. Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe?" She is voicing an opinion, surely this is what the forums are for? | |||
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"Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I was merely posting to gain insight. Not for attention and I'm certainly not desperate. Thank you all for your posts. " Very welcome, that's what the forums are intended for xx | |||
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"Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I was merely posting to gain insight. Not for attention and I'm certainly not desperate. Thank you all for your posts. Very welcome, that's what the forums are intended for xx "Well unless it's a single guy asking for profile advice, then he gets told to do a forum search. I'm pretty sure most things said in this thread has been covered before on numerous threads | |||
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"Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I was merely posting to gain insight. Not for attention and I'm certainly not desperate. Thank you all for your posts. Very welcome, that's what the forums are intended for xx
Well unless it's a single guy asking for profile advice, then he gets told to do a forum search. I'm pretty sure most things said in this thread has been covered before on numerous threads "Most threads get a good mix of attention. Good, bad and indifferent. | |||
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"Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I was merely posting to gain insight. Not for attention and I'm certainly not desperate. Thank you all for your posts. Very welcome, that's what the forums are intended for xx
Well unless it's a single guy asking for profile advice, then he gets told to do a forum search. I'm pretty sure most things said in this thread has been covered before on numerous threads
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? She is voicing an opinion, surely this is what the forums are for? " Yes. And I voiced mine. Filter and block as opposed to having the issue in the first place. | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? She is voicing an opinion, surely this is what the forums are for? Yes. And I voiced mine. Filter and block as opposed to having the issue in the first place. " If profiles were read before messaging filters would not have to be used lol. | |||
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"I never message the same person twice if I don't get a reply and I don't message again until I get a reply.. Apart from once about 2 weeks ago. She ignored me and I decided to give it another go.. And it's going pretty well!! " So the your first sentence is bollcks then? Ha ha | |||
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"Really can’t see the justification in any single lady on here not having single guys blocked, you moan about the quantity and quality of messages, not reading your profile etc etc, block them, then do the searching yourself, if you don’t is it because..... A You are insecure that you need chasing? B secretly you thrive on the attention? So ladies why not Block single guys, look for guys yourself, Fab will then be far more productive for you "
A & B all over the forums lately. | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? I think it’s because a thought came into her head and she thought, hey I’ll start a thread! Don’t see why it has to be any more complicated than that. If you think it’s a nonsense thread why post "I didn't say it was nonsense, or that there's anything wrong with wanting attention. | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." Exactly this | |||
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"I'm flabbergasted as to why anyone would allow someone to send 50 messages. That's an awful lot of messages to ignore. " It's an awful lot of time to spend on something that's proving to be the definition of an idiot Try it - it didn't work. Try it again - it didn't work. Try it again - it didn't work Repeat... | |||
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"I'm flabbergasted as to why anyone would allow someone to send 50 messages. That's an awful lot of messages to ignore. " | |||
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"I'm flabbergasted as to why anyone would allow someone to send 50 messages. That's an awful lot of messages to ignore. " I have a theory! 
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"I'm flabbergasted as to why anyone would allow someone to send 50 messages. That's an awful lot of messages to ignore. I have a theory!
"Perhaps you'd like to share it then. | |||
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"I'm flabbergasted as to why anyone would allow someone to send 50 messages. That's an awful lot of messages to ignore. I have a theory!
"Care to share? | |||
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"I'm flabbergasted as to why anyone would allow someone to send 50 messages. That's an awful lot of messages to ignore. " Its probably exaggerated. When you say a spider is a foot long x | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. " Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. " You allow something to happen; don't then complain about it. Calling someone/men desperate because they messaged her isn't just a random thought. It's based on her receiving lots of messages that she could have dealt with much sooner. Not let it get so bad that she had to complain on a thread. | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison " Nothing wrong with having a whinge we all need to do it sometimes. | |||
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"I'm flabbergasted as to why anyone would allow someone to send 50 messages. That's an awful lot of messages to ignore. It's an awful lot of time to spend on something that's proving to be the definition of an idiot Try it - it didn't work. Try it again - it didn't work. Try it again - it didn't work Repeat... " Try it again-oh, I'm blocked. End of drama. | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. You allow something to happen; don't then complain about it. Calling someone/men desperate because they messaged her isn't just a random thought. It's based on her receiving lots of messages that she could have dealt with much sooner. Not let it get so bad that she had to complain on a thread. " Like I previously stated her profile, her way, she's just letting off steam. We all need to do that sometimes. | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison Nothing wrong with having a whinge we all need to do it sometimes. "A lot of women do seem to whinge about men on the forums. | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. You allow something to happen; don't then complain about it. Calling someone/men desperate because they messaged her isn't just a random thought. It's based on her receiving lots of messages that she could have dealt with much sooner. Not let it get so bad that she had to complain on a thread. Like I previously stated her profile, her way, she's just letting off steam. We all need to do that sometimes. " In public seems a bit desperate for attention. The very thing she's accusing the men of being. | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison Nothing wrong with having a whinge we all need to do it sometimes.
A lot of women do seem to whinge about men on the forums. "As do men and couples. It's not gender specific. | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison " | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison Nothing wrong with having a whinge we all need to do it sometimes.
A lot of women do seem to whinge about men on the forums.
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison "
Men have the piss taken out of them all the time and nothing is said. | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison
Men have the piss taken out of them all the time and nothing is said. "Rubbish. | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison
Men have the piss taken out of them all the time and nothing is said. "They get really butthurt on the Scottish forum when that happens! | |||
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private "lol very true x | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private "She'll get 50 messages before she tells them to piss off x | |||
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"The OP is expressing an opinion. How she chooses to run her account is her business. She may not want to block single men if she is looking for them and doesn't need to be vilified on here for it. Tbf...she's having a whinge. Guys that do that get ripped apart. I'd say she escaped lightly in comparison
Men have the piss taken out of them all the time and nothing is said.
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private lol very true x"Well then good for her if she finds someone nice then | |||
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private lol very true x
Well then good for her if she finds someone nice then "People just dont understand why not block them if they are a pain xx | |||
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private
She'll get 50 messages before she tells them to piss off x"Maybe she'll let the good guys get to 51 | |||
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"I've had begging pleading making threats crying sob story's And that's just today.The desperados on here really do know how to make themselfs look sad x" I’m still waiting to hear more about these people. Surely somone can’t be that desperate, to act like this, on the internet, to a stranger....??  | |||
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private lol very true x
Well then good for her if she finds someone nice then People just dont understand why not block them if they are a pain xx"Because she may be looking to meet them | |||
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private
She'll get 50 messages before she tells them to piss off x
Maybe she'll let the good guys get to 51"and maybe she won't. | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." Ok ok we'll stop sending them | |||
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private
She'll get 50 messages before she tells them to piss off x
Maybe she'll let the good guys get to 51and maybe she won't. "I hope she comes back to tell us...I don't like suspense! | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? I think it’s because a thought came into her head and she thought, hey I’ll start a thread! Don’t see why it has to be any more complicated than that. If you think it’s a nonsense thread why post " | |||
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"I'm flabbergasted as to why anyone would allow someone to send 50 messages. That's an awful lot of messages to ignore. Its probably exaggerated. When you say a spider is a foot long x" I thought it was quite clear there was a slight exaggeration, obviously not | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? She is voicing an opinion, surely this is what the forums are for? Yes. And I voiced mine. Filter and block as opposed to having the issue in the first place. If profiles were read before messaging filters would not have to be used lol. " And because profiles are not read before messaging, that's why filters must be used. This site has the tools to deal with issues like this - make use of them rather than whinge unnecessarily. | |||
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"Some do get a bit needy pushy at times though. I think be cool is good advice" I prefer it when they're pushy on messages as they're easier to avoid. Not good to meet a needy pushy man in person. | |||
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"All the nice respectful guys will be consoling her in private lol very true x
Well then good for her if she finds someone nice then People just dont understand why not block them if they are a pain xx
Because she may be looking to meet them"I understand that why not just block the ones that are a pain xx | |||
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"Some do get a bit needy pushy at times though. I think be cool is good advice I prefer it when they're pushy on messages as they're easier to avoid. Not good to meet a needy pushy man in person. " That is actually very true at least you are warned. See silver linings | |||
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"Christ, the unwritten rules of Fab?? Yes, I agree it’s totally bad form to pester a desired fellow fabber but cut guys some slack. It’s dog eat dog out there. If one guy you like comes across as “desperate” maybe he isn’t, maybe he’s “chatty”?! I know, so many guys are desperate and go about it the wrong way! " At which point does chatty become desperate? 6,7,20 messages later? | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? She is voicing an opinion, surely this is what the forums are for? Yes. And I voiced mine. Filter and block as opposed to having the issue in the first place. If profiles were read before messaging filters would not have to be used lol. And because profiles are not read before messaging, that's why filters must be used. This site has the tools to deal with issues like this - make use of them rather than whinge unnecessarily. New people I'd forgive for being overwhelmed, before getting to know how to use the site tools for their benefit. As previously stated, she may be looking for men and doesn't want to block them. If they read her profile properly before me it wouldn't be an issue would it? She can still be looking for men; but.... still block them and do the search herself. That way she can still find men, but save herself from all this agro she gets from messages sent to her. Block and do the search yourself - can't see why something so simple looks so complicated for some. Do you block single women?" No I don't block single women, but I'm not complaining about them pestering me with messages I'm I? | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? She is voicing an opinion, surely this is what the forums are for? Yes. And I voiced mine. Filter and block as opposed to having the issue in the first place. If profiles were read before messaging filters would not have to be used lol. And because profiles are not read before messaging, that's why filters must be used. This site has the tools to deal with issues like this - make use of them rather than whinge unnecessarily. New people I'd forgive for being overwhelmed, before getting to know how to use the site tools for their benefit. As previously stated, she may be looking for men and doesn't want to block them. If they read her profile properly before me it wouldn't be an issue would it? She can still be looking for men; but.... still block them and do the search herself. That way she can still find men, but save herself from all this agro she gets from messages sent to her. Block and do the search yourself - can't see why something so simple looks so complicated for some." To be fair I think the OP's issue was with the type of men that bombard her with multiple mails, not all men. Easy enough to block one person though. | |||
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"I’m a send a message and the following occurs: 1. Get a reply carry on chatting. 2. Get a no thank you. I move on. 3. They delete it straight off. I block them as they aren’t interested. 4. They read it and do nothing. I take that as a they are busy with the hundreds of other messages they must get from other men. " This guy's got the right approach, if every single guy (and some cpls!!) on here followed these 4 rules life would be much easier. I've just spent a couple of hours checking back through this weekend's messages (well over 200 of 'em). Some I deleted (350 miles away etc), some I left marked "unread" - I want to give these more thought or show my partner, I blocked one or two - probably due to a tone I don't like that I picked up from their message and I've replied to a dozen or so that interested me. Guys need to understand that fems and cpls get a lot of messages and if we spent all our time replying there'd be none left for playing! Trish x | |||
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"I’m a send a message and the following occurs: 1. Get a reply carry on chatting. 2. Get a no thank you. I move on. 3. They delete it straight off. I block them as they aren’t interested. 4. They read it and do nothing. I take that as a they are busy with the hundreds of other messages they must get from other men. This guy's got the right approach, if every single guy (and some cpls!!) on here followed these 4 rules life would be much easier. I've just spent a couple of hours checking back through this weekend's messages (well over 200 of 'em). Some I deleted (350 miles away etc), some I left marked "unread" - I want to give these more thought or show my partner, I blocked one or two - probably due to a tone I don't like that I picked up from their message and I've replied to a dozen or so that interested me. Guys need to understand that fems and cpls get a lot of messages and if we spent all our time replying there'd be none left for playing! Trish x" He definitely does have the right approach. X | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? She is voicing an opinion, surely this is what the forums are for? Yes. And I voiced mine. Filter and block as opposed to having the issue in the first place. If profiles were read before messaging filters would not have to be used lol. And because profiles are not read before messaging, that's why filters must be used. This site has the tools to deal with issues like this - make use of them rather than whinge unnecessarily. New people I'd forgive for being overwhelmed, before getting to know how to use the site tools for their benefit. As previously stated, she may be looking for men and doesn't want to block them. If they read her profile properly before me it wouldn't be an issue would it? She can still be looking for men; but.... still block them and do the search herself. That way she can still find men, but save herself from all this agro she gets from messages sent to her. Block and do the search yourself - can't see why something so simple looks so complicated for some." That doesn’t necessarily work. I can’t comment on the OPs rationale, but we tried that a few times because we got tired of getting messages. But it also blocks single guys from showing on ‘who’s looked at me’ page. Not only that it even stops men on our friends list showing on that page. So that was a deal breaker for us. We want to know when our Male friends look at us, but we also use the ‘who’s looked at me’ page as one of our tools for searching. Take that away and that removes one of our search tools. The main reason we are site supporters is for that function. Mrs | |||
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"Isn't that what your filters and block option is for? I don't get why you need to put this out to forum when you can easily address the issue yourself. Desperate for attention maybe? She is voicing an opinion, surely this is what the forums are for? Yes. And I voiced mine. Filter and block as opposed to having the issue in the first place. If profiles were read before messaging filters would not have to be used lol. And because profiles are not read before messaging, that's why filters must be used. This site has the tools to deal with issues like this - make use of them rather than whinge unnecessarily. New people I'd forgive for being overwhelmed, before getting to know how to use the site tools for their benefit. As previously stated, she may be looking for men and doesn't want to block them. If they read her profile properly before me it wouldn't be an issue would it? She can still be looking for men; but.... still block them and do the search herself. That way she can still find men, but save herself from all this agro she gets from messages sent to her. Block and do the search yourself - can't see why something so simple looks so complicated for some. That doesn’t necessarily work. I can’t comment on the OPs rationale, but we tried that a few times because we got tired of getting messages. But it also blocks single guys from showing on ‘who’s looked at me’ page. Not only that it even stops men on our friends list showing on that page. So that was a deal breaker for us. We want to know when our Male friends look at us, but we also use the ‘who’s looked at me’ page as one of our tools for searching. Take that away and that removes one of our search tools. The main reason we are site supporters is for that function. Mrs" Goid points made here, I'd forgotten that if you block guys they don't show there | |||
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"Use the green arrow. OP started a very similar thread three weeks ago. Only she will know why she does this. " And your point is what? There are hundreds of threads every week repeating the same question. Not to mention the sycophantic suck up thread's, the white Knights and the forum clique all jumping on anyone and everything. In this circumstance it happens to be my wife that is getting the shitte show this time. So let's clear a few things up shall we kid's. Firstly. When it was said 50 messages it was not litterly 50 it's an exaggerated example!! Second. It was is not a bid for attention but if it was what's it to you? After all isn't that the reason why we are here to get attention to attract playmate's? Perhaps you should read the other thread posted by the op regards caring more about women's opinions. This thread is a perfect example of the sort of thing that bothers her. If you are lucky enough to ever meet my Mrs you will find she is a quiet lady who hates upsetting people and usually to polite to block people,it's usually myself who advises her to do so. Unfortunately she likes to try and chat however briefly with people who message her. Now the whole point of this thread which some people seem to be missing. Is, a form of advice to guy's who seem to be constantly asking why can't I get a meet? So the advice offered is , don't be so needy/pushy/desperate however you word it. Just a pause for thought when sending that six message in two months. Do I need to send this? They haven't answered yet,why? Perhaps they are busy, perhaps they have decided that your not their type after all? As already mentioned a similar thread recently. Point being that if your message has been read and not replied to chances are you are not their type. Or as said the recipient could be busy. I never really understand why people feel the need to comment on other people's thread's if all they are trying to do is start an argument? I understand different opinion,that's cool but why the need for bitchy remarks? Jealousy maybe
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"Use the green arrow. OP started a very similar thread three weeks ago. Only she will know why she does this. And your point is what? There are hundreds of threads every week repeating the same question. Not to mention the sycophantic suck up thread's, the white Knights and the forum clique all jumping on anyone and everything. In this circumstance it happens to be my wife that is getting the shitte show this time. So let's clear a few things up shall we kid's. Firstly. When it was said 50 messages it was not litterly 50 it's an exaggerated example!! Second. It was is not a bid for attention but if it was what's it to you? After all isn't that the reason why we are here to get attention to attract playmate's? Perhaps you should read the other thread posted by the op regards caring more about women's opinions. This thread is a perfect example of the sort of thing that bothers her. If you are lucky enough to ever meet my Mrs you will find she is a quiet lady who hates upsetting people and usually to polite to block people,it's usually myself who advises her to do so. Unfortunately she likes to try and chat however briefly with people who message her. Now the whole point of this thread which some people seem to be missing. Is, a form of advice to guy's who seem to be constantly asking why can't I get a meet? So the advice offered is , don't be so needy/pushy/desperate however you word it. Just a pause for thought when sending that six message in two months. Do I need to send this? They haven't answered yet,why? Perhaps they are busy, perhaps they have decided that your not their type after all? As already mentioned a similar thread recently. Point being that if your message has been read and not replied to chances are you are not their type. Or as said the recipient could be busy. I never really understand why people feel the need to comment on other people's thread's if all they are trying to do is start an argument? I understand different opinion,that's cool but why the need for bitchy remarks? Jealousy maybe
Mrs is big enough and smart enough to defend herself she doesn't need me.
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Perhaps she should apply for clique membership and stuff like this wouldn't happen.
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"Use the green arrow. OP started a very similar thread three weeks ago. Only she will know why she does this. And your point is what? There are hundreds of threads every week repeating the same question. Not to mention the sycophantic suck up thread's, the white Knights and the forum clique all jumping on anyone and everything. In this circumstance it happens to be my wife that is getting the shitte show this time. So let's clear a few things up shall we kid's. Firstly. When it was said 50 messages it was not litterly 50 it's an exaggerated example!! Second. It was is not a bid for attention but if it was what's it to you? After all isn't that the reason why we are here to get attention to attract playmate's? Perhaps you should read the other thread posted by the op regards caring more about women's opinions. This thread is a perfect example of the sort of thing that bothers her. If you are lucky enough to ever meet my Mrs you will find she is a quiet lady who hates upsetting people and usually to polite to block people,it's usually myself who advises her to do so. Unfortunately she likes to try and chat however briefly with people who message her. Now the whole point of this thread which some people seem to be missing. Is, a form of advice to guy's who seem to be constantly asking why can't I get a meet? So the advice offered is , don't be so needy/pushy/desperate however you word it. Just a pause for thought when sending that six message in two months. Do I need to send this? They haven't answered yet,why? Perhaps they are busy, perhaps they have decided that your not their type after all? As already mentioned a similar thread recently. Point being that if your message has been read and not replied to chances are you are not their type. Or as said the recipient could be busy. I never really understand why people feel the need to comment on other people's thread's if all they are trying to do is start an argument? I understand different opinion,that's cool but why the need for bitchy remarks? Jealousy maybe
Mrs is big enough and smart enough to defend herself she doesn't need me.
But I am not going to sit idly by and have people making personal comments aimed at her.
Perhaps she should apply for clique membership and stuff like this wouldn't happen.
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"Use the green arrow. OP started a very similar thread three weeks ago. Only she will know why she does this. And your point is what? There are hundreds of threads every week repeating the same question. Not to mention the sycophantic suck up thread's, the white Knights and the forum clique all jumping on anyone and everything. In this circumstance it happens to be my wife that is getting the shitte show this time. So let's clear a few things up shall we kid's. Firstly. When it was said 50 messages it was not litterly 50 it's an exaggerated example!! Second. It was is not a bid for attention but if it was what's it to you? After all isn't that the reason why we are here to get attention to attract playmate's? Perhaps you should read the other thread posted by the op regards caring more about women's opinions. This thread is a perfect example of the sort of thing that bothers her. If you are lucky enough to ever meet my Mrs you will find she is a quiet lady who hates upsetting people and usually to polite to block people,it's usually myself who advises her to do so. Unfortunately she likes to try and chat however briefly with people who message her. Now the whole point of this thread which some people seem to be missing. Is, a form of advice to guy's who seem to be constantly asking why can't I get a meet? So the advice offered is , don't be so needy/pushy/desperate however you word it. Just a pause for thought when sending that six message in two months. Do I need to send this? They haven't answered yet,why? Perhaps they are busy, perhaps they have decided that your not their type after all? As already mentioned a similar thread recently. Point being that if your message has been read and not replied to chances are you are not their type. Or as said the recipient could be busy. I never really understand why people feel the need to comment on other people's thread's if all they are trying to do is start an argument? I understand different opinion,that's cool but why the need for bitchy remarks? Jealousy maybe
Mrs is big enough and smart enough to defend herself she doesn't need me.
But I am not going to sit idly by and have people making personal comments aimed at her.
Perhaps she should apply for clique membership and stuff like this wouldn't happen.
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"Use the green arrow. OP started a very similar thread three weeks ago. Only she will know why she does this. And your point is what? There are hundreds of threads every week repeating the same question. Not to mention the sycophantic suck up thread's, the white Knights and the forum clique all jumping on anyone and everything. In this circumstance it happens to be my wife that is getting the shitte show this time. So let's clear a few things up shall we kid's. Firstly. When it was said 50 messages it was not litterly 50 it's an exaggerated example!! Second. It was is not a bid for attention but if it was what's it to you? After all isn't that the reason why we are here to get attention to attract playmate's? Perhaps you should read the other thread posted by the op regards caring more about women's opinions. This thread is a perfect example of the sort of thing that bothers her. If you are lucky enough to ever meet my Mrs you will find she is a quiet lady who hates upsetting people and usually to polite to block people,it's usually myself who advises her to do so. Unfortunately she likes to try and chat however briefly with people who message her. Now the whole point of this thread which some people seem to be missing. Is, a form of advice to guy's who seem to be constantly asking why can't I get a meet? So the advice offered is , don't be so needy/pushy/desperate however you word it. Just a pause for thought when sending that six message in two months. Do I need to send this? They haven't answered yet,why? Perhaps they are busy, perhaps they have decided that your not their type after all? As already mentioned a similar thread recently. Point being that if your message has been read and not replied to chances are you are not their type. Or as said the recipient could be busy. I never really understand why people feel the need to comment on other people's thread's if all they are trying to do is start an argument? I understand different opinion,that's cool but why the need for bitchy remarks? Jealousy maybe
Mrs is big enough and smart enough to defend herself she doesn't need me.
But I am not going to sit idly by and have people making personal comments aimed at her.
Perhaps she should apply for clique membership and stuff like this wouldn't happen.
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Mrs is big enough and smart enough to defend herself she doesn't need me.
But I am not going to sit idly by and have people making personal comments aimed at her.
Perhaps she should apply for clique membership and stuff like this wouldn't happen.
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Very well put, no need for nasty or sly comments.
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." Hey, it was only 49..... | |||
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"Christ, the unwritten rules of Fab?? Yes, I agree it’s totally bad form to pester a desired fellow fabber but cut guys some slack. It’s dog eat dog out there. If one guy you like comes across as “desperate” maybe he isn’t, maybe he’s “chatty”?! I know, so many guys are desperate and go about it the wrong way! At which point does chatty become desperate? 6,7,20 messages later? " But listen, women have their pick on here, it’s totally disproportionate to normal society. As a guy you have a couple of options; you “lower” your usual standards because what you’re looking for is hook ups and even then you find rejection to be the most ready course of action, you chat to somebody you like and realise they are desirable so try and keep them chatting to engage with them and hook their mind, or you back yourself to be you and not worry about the endless rejection and you don’t let it effect your (typically fragile) male ego. The final option is most difficult and would be for even women. If this was a site where it was 5-6 women per man you would understand the challenges faced by guys on here every day. I know, we let ourselves down thousands of times every day through moronic and lazy messaging, but we’re not all like that! | |||
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"Moral of the story: Don't have a dig at men and call them desperate, when they are trying to be friendly. A man sending 50 messages - or repeated messages - is a bit stalkerish not really friendly though. " That is some what creepy...... I only send 30-40 before I get a restrained order. | |||
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"Use the green arrow. OP started a very similar thread three weeks ago. Only she will know why she does this. And your point is what? There are hundreds of threads every week repeating the same question. Not to mention the sycophantic suck up thread's, the white Knights and the forum clique all jumping on anyone and everything. In this circumstance it happens to be my wife that is getting the shitte show this time. So let's clear a few things up shall we kid's. Firstly. When it was said 50 messages it was not litterly 50 it's an exaggerated example!! Second. It was is not a bid for attention but if it was what's it to you? After all isn't that the reason why we are here to get attention to attract playmate's? Perhaps you should read the other thread posted by the op regards caring more about women's opinions. This thread is a perfect example of the sort of thing that bothers her. If you are lucky enough to ever meet my Mrs you will find she is a quiet lady who hates upsetting people and usually to polite to block people,it's usually myself who advises her to do so. Unfortunately she likes to try and chat however briefly with people who message her. Now the whole point of this thread which some people seem to be missing. Is, a form of advice to guy's who seem to be constantly asking why can't I get a meet? So the advice offered is , don't be so needy/pushy/desperate however you word it. Just a pause for thought when sending that six message in two months. Do I need to send this? They haven't answered yet,why? Perhaps they are busy, perhaps they have decided that your not their type after all? As already mentioned a similar thread recently. Point being that if your message has been read and not replied to chances are you are not their type. Or as said the recipient could be busy. I never really understand why people feel the need to comment on other people's thread's if all they are trying to do is start an argument? I understand different opinion,that's cool but why the need for bitchy remarks? Jealousy maybe
Mrs is big enough and smart enough to defend herself she doesn't need me.
But I am not going to sit idly by and have people making personal comments aimed at her.
Perhaps she should apply for clique membership and stuff like this wouldn't happen.
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"Couldn't agree more. I told someone who I quite liked not to bother messaging me again because of that. Also when they message the second you show online!! Annoying...." i agree | |||
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"I personally have exchanged messages with the OP on several occasions She has always replied and been a pleasure to talk with Thank you xxxx I would also like to add I have also spoken with this lady whilst she has been on cam and to be honest the desperation from some men with there repetition cut and paste “get your tits out” Is the same desperate issue Shame a lot of keyboard warrior guys ruin it for us genuine males If you're in a directing room that's what you should expect to happen. If it's in a non-directing room they will be banned for directing. I'm not saying the OP is a terrible person; I do think she should know the score by now and do something about it instead of being condescending to men and calling them desperate. " But some men do behave in a desperate manner and possibly are desperate. What’s wrong with having a forum discussion about it? | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's ." This is a statement not a question. It’s here for discussion and not for the OP to be ridiculed on She has clearly written her experience , not a general one and as far as I can see some are taking it way out of context. As the OP said “Play it cool guys” | |||
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"I personally have exchanged messages with the OP on several occasions She has always replied and been a pleasure to talk with Thank you xxxx I would also like to add I have also spoken with this lady whilst she has been on cam and to be honest the desperation from some men with there repetition cut and paste “get your tits out” Is the same desperate issue Shame a lot of keyboard warrior guys ruin it for us genuine males If you're in a directing room that's what you should expect to happen. If it's in a non-directing room they will be banned for directing. I'm not saying the OP is a terrible person; I do think she should know the score by now and do something about it instead of being condescending to men and calling them desperate. But some men do behave in a desperate manner and possibly are desperate. What’s wrong with having a forum discussion about it?" Nothing. I'm part of the discussion, putting my views across. They won't be the same views as others, which is what makes it a debate. | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . This is a statement not a question. It’s here for discussion and not for the OP to be ridiculed on She has clearly written her experience , not a general one and as far as I can see some are taking it way out of context. As the OP said “Play it cool guys”" Calling men desperate in her thread title made it a debate for me. She isn't a newbie and knows exactly why these men keep messaging. Should we have all said "Here,here" and patted her on the back? | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . This is a statement not a question. It’s here for discussion and not for the OP to be ridiculed on She has clearly written her experience , not a general one and as far as I can see some are taking it way out of context. As the OP said “Play it cool guys” Calling men desperate in her thread title made it a debate for me. She isn't a newbie and knows exactly why these men keep messaging. Should we have all said "Here,here" and patted her on the back? " She hasn't said it was a debate. It's merely a statement. Would you like me to look up the definition of that for you? | |||
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"Ok,so for a woman it's easy to be critical. However one of my biggest turn offs,is guy's who are just too desperate and begging for a meet,ultra needy and sending 50messages to my one. Play it cool guy's . This is a statement not a question. It’s here for discussion and not for the OP to be ridiculed on She has clearly written her experience , not a general one and as far as I can see some are taking it way out of context. As the OP said “Play it cool guys” Calling men desperate in her thread title made it a debate for me. She isn't a newbie and knows exactly why these men keep messaging. Should we have all said "Here,here" and patted her on the back? She hasn't said it was a debate. It's merely a statement. Would you like me to look up the definition of that for you? " I know what a statement is. By posting it on a thread on here she opened it up to debate. Do you understand that or should I be condescending also, and offer a simpler explanation? | |||
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Yes, which is why I'm putting my views across. She's fed up with desperate men sending her multiple messages. I'm fed up with women complaining about getting messages when they can do something about it. "If your fed up with women complaining, why bother commenting in the first place then? That's a question by the way, not a statement. | |||
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"I personally have exchanged messages with the OP on several occasions She has always replied and been a pleasure to talk with Thank you xxxx I would also like to add I have also spoken with this lady whilst she has been on cam and to be honest the desperation from some men with there repetition cut and paste “get your tits out” Is the same desperate issue Shame a lot of keyboard warrior guys ruin it for us genuine males If you're in a directing room that's what you should expect to happen. If it's in a non-directing room they will be banned for directing. I'm not saying the OP is a terrible person; I do think she should know the score by now and do something about it instead of being condescending to men and calling them desperate. But some men do behave in a desperate manner and possibly are desperate. What’s wrong with having a forum discussion about it? Nothing. I'm part of the discussion, putting my views across. They won't be the same views as others, which is what makes it a debate. I’m not sure if it was you or someone else, but she was criticised for starting the thread. A balanced view would be to say for example, ‘I don’t agree that there are desperate men on Fab’, or ‘have you considered blocking men and searching yourself?’. But to say she is attention seeking comes across to me as an inflammatory comment and not relevant to the discussion about desperate men. " It's not relevant at all. | |||
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"I personally have exchanged messages with the OP on several occasions She has always replied and been a pleasure to talk with Thank you xxxx I would also like to add I have also spoken with this lady whilst she has been on cam and to be honest the desperation from some men with there repetition cut and paste “get your tits out” Is the same desperate issue Shame a lot of keyboard warrior guys ruin it for us genuine males If you're in a directing room that's what you should expect to happen. If it's in a non-directing room they will be banned for directing. I'm not saying the OP is a terrible person; I do think she should know the score by now and do something about it instead of being condescending to men and calling them desperate. But some men do behave in a desperate manner and possibly are desperate. What’s wrong with having a forum discussion about it? Nothing. I'm part of the discussion, putting my views across. They won't be the same views as others, which is what makes it a debate. I’m not sure if it was you or someone else, but she was criticised for starting the thread. A balanced view would be to say for example, ‘I don’t agree that there are desperate men on Fab’, or ‘have you considered blocking men and searching yourself?’. But to say she is attention seeking comes across to me as an inflammatory comment and not relevant to the discussion about desperate men. " I believe I did counter her calling them desperate, somewhere up there. I also extended the discussion by bringing in a point about her remedying her problem, instead of telling them to stop doing it; which is pissing in the wind. | |||
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