FabSwingers.com forum: Any hidden swinging rules I should know about??

By *ral_isthenewblack OP Man
over a year ago

london

I recently got a message from the make half of a couple accusing me of not being a man because while he came back from the bathroom he saw me and his wife at it. He accused me of breaking a rule of fucking his wife while he wasn't there. First of all the wife never told me to wait.infact she asked me to and actually guided me in etc. We were about 4 on the bed and the mood just kept going and we didn't notice the husband wasn't there.i mean who looks up in the mood to see if everyone was around. Me and the wife just kept in going and even when the husband came back he just kept watching us and wanking and never said nothing to me about being wrong until I got a message this morning accusing me of breaking the rule. I tried to explain I never forced the wife and she was ok wit it etc. So what I wanna know is are there some hidden rules in swinging I don't know about and did i break a rule there?

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I recently got a message from the make half of a couple accusing me of not being a man because while he came back from the bathroom he saw me and his wife at it. He accused me of breaking a rule of fucking his wife while he wasn't there. First of all the wife never told me to wait.infact she asked me to and actually guided me in etc. We were about 4 on the bed and the mood just kept going and we didn't notice the husband wasn't there.i mean who looks up in the mood to see if everyone was around. Me and the wife just kept in going and even when the husband came back he just kept watching us and wanking and never said nothing to me about being wrong until I got a message this morning accusing me of breaking the rule. I tried to explain I never forced the wife and she was ok wit it etc. So what I wanna know is are there some hidden rules in swinging I don't know about and did i break a rule there?"

Sounds like drama. I try to avoid that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah he should be aware of the rule that you make your personal rules clear before play starts

Don't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was her that broke their rule, not you. It's her he needs to talk to about it

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

"It was her that broke their rule, not you. It's her he needs to talk to about it"

I agree

I had a woman rant at me for playing with her partner once,apparently I was supposed to ask her permission

This occasion he forgot to mention his partner was his girlfriend and he obviously didn't know that rule, I thought he was single/had played with this other lady, but I was made out to be the bad person

We all learn, if aware there a couple then approach them together, acknowledge and chat to him too

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By *ral_isthenewblack OP Man
over a year ago

london

Thanks guys as this really baffled me but guess it's all drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my first mmf with my former FWB, he went for a piss before we all started playing, we started without him. It was the other blokes house, so I thought it would be rude to make him wait for FWB to toilet himself.

I wouldn't worry too much about the grumpy husband, sounds like he enjoyed at the time then got jealous later.

There's no hidden rules, everyone is going to have different ideas of the etiquette. XXX

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Social first makes so much easier and gives you a feel if in together or if one sided...

If one sided......run....run fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was her that broke their rule, not you. It's her he needs to talk to about it"

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

OP, you have done nothing wrong. The boundaries are set between the couple, so she shouldn't have been encouraging what happened. Unless he specifically said something to you about boundaries then, you have done nothing wrong

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

There’s no hidden rule mate , just some odd people who don’t get it . If he didn’t want it to carry on in his absence , he should have said so before he left . And the fact that she went ahead in his absence and guided you in would have been a green light for you . It’s them that are fucked up , not you .

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"There’s no hidden rule mate , just some odd people who don’t get it . If he didn’t want it to carry on in his absence , he should have said so before he left . And the fact that she went ahead in his absence and guided you in would have been a green light for you . It’s them that are fucked up , not you ."

This

We've come across this with couples in the past and it can be very uncomfortable. People should stick with the boundaries they make between them

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By *he incognito twoCouple
over a year ago

near you

we think some of the previous answers say it all....we are lucky we dont have any rules at all anything goes.....the only and most important rule is ~NO Means NO.......but its worth definitely talking to all parties before hand just to make sure there are no cross wires..........the one we hate and avoid early in the day is the ones who say no kissing....not for us.

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By *urSurveySaysMan
over a year ago

London/Chichester

The fact that he didn't say anything to your face and messaged instead says all you need to know. He's an idiot. I'd avoid.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"The fact that he didn't say anything to your face and messaged instead says all you need to know. He's an idiot. I'd avoid. "

Totally this. It’s his issue & a communication gap for them. Ignore it & move on OP!

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By *xkinkycouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

As a couple, we have rules, well more guidelines between us and the rules/limits/dos and donts are known to whoever we plan to meet. But him to come in and to let it continue and wank over it means he wasnt bothered at the time really, just probley thinking about it he wishes he was there when it all started, but that was the womens guideline broke as even if you tried it with her whilst he wasnt there, if that was in there rules then she should have said NO but to her to start either she clearly didnt know or didnt care. Yet again for him not saying NO either well thats there problem, we all know NO means NO so leave that there and move on and keep fabbing

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're aunt had balls she would be your uncle

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